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ibo man of today dislikes polygamy, and he has his immediate family (parents and siblings) at heart, and if you want to win his heart, don’t play with his immediate family. the yoruba culture that you are asked, the yoruba tribe of nigeria has a very beautiful and friendly culture that has been embraced by so many western nations like united kingdom, etc. didn't really want to go to nigeria in many ways as he thought the safest way would be for me to marry him in spain but i was determined we should do it legally, no overstayer probs etc and encouraged the sister route so hed arrived here legally. 2 years ago hi all have read all your comments am very interested , ok i have been in a relationship with a nigerian ibo man for a year im from australia he lives and works in qatar i have visited him and we are engaged now . 4 years ago from l island@weary, one thing we the nigerian men have learned from history is the fact that when we (nigerians) marry foreign (white) ladies with all our heart in the hope of staying with them forever, they have a different plan all together. you need to win your husband back…even though you made a great mistake marrying a man older than you by 18 years with kids…plus racial and cultural differences. there is a very common pattern when it comes to the internet dating and nigerian scammers, maybe that’s why other girls are silent for now..i wish you guys a long lasting, happy marital life- such good news are what i enjoy reading than sad news of how a nigerian guy maltreated or dumped a white lady after she helped him. the ones that are good treat there woman like queens. and for the man, he is not happy having a depressed wife. while in college, i met a young man who was serving in the military at the time, and he was the perfect gentleman.. i have many good nigerians friends around me but unfortunately i found a bad one but that will never stop me from liking another african man again or any man. we broke up and he get married with some girl from his country right away. 4 years ago i live in australia and i'm engaged to a nigerian man. the truth is, there are so many inter-tribal children more than a lot of nigerian realise, especially between yorubas and ibos, so we need to stop this south west, east and north divide and begin to embrace ourselves. anyone else who is aa married to a ghana, please reply. thanks to google, i searched his name and discovered the he was happily married with 4 children in africa. yoruba man: i noticed that you had a lot to write about the ibos and not as much to write about the hausas and yorubas. man has chased me since 2009 stalking me then,i would not talk to him for yrs so finally in 2011 i decide to answer him and at first i didn't even know he was the same man from another web site until he asked me if i remember him, i said yea from this site and he told me no. there are some good african men out there; however, poverty has had an indelible impact and drives many african men to do and act in ways which are treacherous, conniving and selfish. however, this is simply a dream for us as the cost of living demands a two income family. we have been married for five years now and have got two boys we got engaged when i was pregnant with my first son. african men it’s true i’m married to an african man for only 4 months it’s hell on earth always sneaking off taking calls show a text from another woman he was replying bro her text baby i’m at work it never stops i can feel it it’s always something i sware if you want to date a african man date first look for signs it’s the worse relationship in my life the husband from hell seriously i’m ready for a divorce. 19 months ago a friend of mind found an nigerian man online he told her to come so they can get married in the palace she believed him and went not herd anything from her since is this normal the guy in in is 30 and she is in 50 could this be real she would be the queen please help. actually, in that video clip i blamed the nigerian guy because he cheated on his foreign wife..Mary 3 years ago i live in scotland i am from zambia (southern african) i met a yoruba man via a dating site for two months he called me non stop he visited me twice i felt bad because he complained that i never visited him we live in seperate cities i could tell he was upset by me not visiting him so i decided to visit him for the day he was so sweet telling me he wanted to meet my mother etc. you want to marry him just because you want to get married? god will heal your heart and send the right man your way soonest..for the past few months, i have been blaming myself for everything, i am never one to judge, i am not racist coz i wouldn't have dated a nigerian or any other race for that matter, i truly loved him and i did absolutely everything in my power to make him happy, he very well knew that i would have moved to his current country to be closer to him and even would have moved back home to nigeria with him, when he decided to go back at a later stage, bcoz that's how much i truly loved him..Concerned sis 11 months ago my sister is in love with a yoruba man, she is 49 and he is 37. he’s not controlling, he’s not verbally, nor physically abusive, he cooked for me a lot in ghana, he’s just a good god sent, god fearing man. another quote by me: "no man exist without a spiritual image; which maybe positive or negative spirit". think before yes, they used to go back home to get married not anymore. you are getting married to a nigerian man as a foreign lady read thisupdated on november 04, 2014. if a nigerian guy truly wants to go on a future-bound affair with you, he will most unlikely not try to buy your emotion over with money or gift. so when you meet a nigerian man, find out his tribe. we have talked about our past lives and relationships and what we expect for our marage we have both been married i have older children and he has a young son who we plan to bring to australia when we marry , we have planed to travel to nigeria when ever we can and to make a loving caring home for both our children he knows he will not have anymore and is content with that . so many signs, red lights cropped up along the way. he’s a gentle loving man, but i really feel he is seeing other women. hes not really affectionate and romantic but he works hard, hes extremely intelligent and he gives me everything i want. i am married with yoruba man and he has 3 sisters. was marry to a german girl for over 12 years now. victory 17 months ago after reading this article, i think i should of found it before 3 years of wasting my money on a man who was millions miles away from me. yoruba man: i noticed that you had a lot to write about the ibos and not as much to write about the hausas and yorubas. is a tragedy to the world that by clandestine means they got married. don’t pressure him to love you or to continue with you like before…allow your character, your real life personality and qualities to attract the best man to you. after their fellow white men have taken their glory and they become old, and maybe overweight and unattractive, they now turn to black guys; the nigerian guys for love, knowing too well that they are no longer attractive and not doing anything to look attractive, and hence, they resort to using money and favours to win these nigerian guys into marrying them.'m a british nigerian married to a british indian (oh. i am in my 20s and married to a nigeria for 7 years with 3 children. he is a beautiful loving man who has always treated me with respect and great love . 3 years ago hi accofranco, i'm so glad to say that i'm dating a nigerian gentleman, i am so in love with him, we meet early last year in may via social network, yes! a nigerian man that finally made the harsh decision to leave his homeland to migrate to a foreign nation without legal travel and resident permits will do anything beyond his comfort to remain in that foreign nation because he knows that home is not the best for him. day this korean wife were quarreling with her black in-laws sisters and guess what she called her in-laws, '' black monkeys'' immediate her nigerian igbo husband came back from work, of course his sisters told their brother what the korean wife called them '' black moneys'' guess what this igbo husband did to his korean wife, i do not support domestic violence. 2 years ago hello accofranco,i read some of your message and i am very disappointed with your comment here and how you are degrading black women especially nigerian girls back home. are indeed a good woman with a heart of gold, remain richly blessed, and thanks for stopping by., enjoy that wonderful nigerian man because it could be true love. i love my brown-skinned men so i began dating a west african man from sierra leone. the word ''nigger'' started from slavery, just in case if you have forgotten your roots, black man, yes, you accofranco. there are many reasons for these unhappy events, but majority of these relationships began as a genuine, honest, true relationships that grew in to marriages, which then, at some point, took unfortunate paths and sadly came to an end. you know, nigerians hate divorce…it is the western culture that is brainwashing the nigerian women of today into thinking towards divorce like their foreign women counterparts…. will send you a video clip of a racist comment made by your foreign lady to her nigerian husband. she couldn’t very well show up with her married sugar daddy. we nigerians love our motherland no matter where we maybe living presently; no nigerian (the igbo tribes to be more specific) would want to live abroad forever and also his children and grandchildren, no no. even being a beautiful woman does not a marriage make! in the more economically prosperous nations of africa like kenya, men in the cities adopt christianity and western mannerisms and ways of speaking to seem like they no longer follow the ‘african’ way of doing marriage. i am currently married to and so much in love with my nigerian husband. after 40 days of tears and pain for this man, he finally phoned me and told me everything about him..nigerian women are the ones pushing nigerian men into all manners of crime. i am married with yoruba man and he has 3 sisters. is not just a practice common to nigerian men alone, americans, english, canadians, germans, russians, chinese, malaysians, indians, etc practice this in different degrees and for different purposes which usually revolve around financial wealth, fame, success, political power, career growth and the likes. for all those western women with attitudes before you bash nigerian men expecting them to be prince charming forever please look at yourself what have you offer your man for him to give up all the beautiful, submissive, obedient women in their own country. 3 years ago my friend met a nigerian guy age 24 in malaysia two years ago, she’s 40 years old, asian and had recently gone through a bad divorced . we as nigerians need to start seeing each other in a more positive light as unity overcomes a lot. some ladies are just close minded and they think no he isn't like all these other bad nigerians, maybe not, but half of the comments i've read so far since the last time i was on here show me different. williams sued by woman claiming he was a cheap, violent boss. it’s so funny because i’ve met so many african men and i can honesty say i know obelisk marry one. and if you are a nigerian guy reading this article, please, do not feel bad, i am only trying to assist people (particularly innocent foreign ladies) to enjoy a happy loving relationship built on true love. express that "ibos are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy". actually being married to an african man, i have to disagree with the stereotypical ideas stated. a real man is not threatened by an educated loving woman. if you truly want to go far with him and possibly think about marriage or serious commitment with a nigerian guy, please avoid demanding money or unnecessary gifts from him else, he will see you as a gold digger or a wayward girl out for money. i have the most wonderful man i have ever known in my life. one day i found suddenly some documents at home that he has illegal child i mean non marriage child, he didn't tell me anything, hided from me, now i don't trust him at all whatever he says, he had plenty relationship, used to live with different kind of nigerian women, after he disappointed from them, cause they always asks money money and he doesn't like to get marry to them, that's why he was looking for white women as me. because he will see the woman that he always wanted in me. even if there is a problem with many men there, i cannot believe every single one of them is trouble, any more than i can believe that every single wife is slim—plenty of those women are plump! menhow to know if a man truly loves youby accofranco368. i am marrie ied to nigerian for 5yrs now and we have one beautiful daughter. i am an independent woman who loves my husband but im not needy. i was dating a south african man that cheated on me with his son’s mom who is white. isn't feeling man enough to come back to the states to live with you when he has nothing tangible earning him good steady income. they had me a engagement ceremony here, and we got married over there. from the island and my husband is from nigeria we're happily married,the funny thing all his nigerians friends are married to foreigners..z yes this is just my experience but let me tell you in lagos i am surrounded by married couples, older ones, who literally look like they hate the sight of each other. at first, he was sweet, caring and friendly; open and romantic. i met my yoruba man online and have met his family and friends via skype. 2 years ago hi accofranco,as you know i'm not racist, i have dated a nigerian man, the topic is about helping these women to realize these men are scammers, they will move heaven and earth to gain what they want. recently, i think i may have forced him to really think about what it means to be an american woman. he is the type of man that gives all nigerians a bad name. 3 years ago i have not dated a nigerian man but a white south africa. he had a different woman every time he traveled to a different city or country. oil rich yes but the country infrastructure is dire, roads chaos, healthcare system dire for many and poverty pervades in every corner. so i believed him, i became the other woman, he would bring me over when she left for work. bross i never surpport your message to the world about the nigeria man. i have a lot of emotions invested in this man, but i don't want to waste my time and end up heartbroken if he is just going to marry as his family wishes, without them even meeting me and learning what my values are and the kind of wife and mother i would be. 2 years ago hi accofranco, notactix & everyone@accfranco i'm not mad at all with what you said, your blog was about helping and still helping forgein ladies to make the right decision when dating a nigerian man. my husband and i still have our own cultural differences, but i'm very lucky because my husband is doing things that nigerians will never do with their nigerian wives such as washing clothes, cooking, bathing our kid etc, even when his family asks him why is he doing all this as a man, he explains to his family and tells them they should give me space for being a foreign lady and he is doing these things because of his love for me. and there husbands brought them back to england, not like most nigeria men that will marry a nigerian girls and keep them back home as a second option just in case the white wives disappoints them. we as nigerians need to start seeing each other in a more positive light as unity overcomes a lot. how many marriages do you plan to quit and maybe re-marry? 3 years ago fact is most foriegn women that complain about nigerian men never deserved them. no matter what they say, don’t marry an african man. sometimes i do believe in nigerian culture so many different types of ethnics. am an african-american woman from brooklyn, married to a nigerian man from lagos. this ghanain man sounds like he is on his way out of the door. i have tried approaching this as a nigerian who grew up in a diverse nigerian-uk community where we were all happy as children and now as adults relating in love and kiinship. i am happy with my life met my husband who is a nigerian while still a teenager and together we have stayed got married two beautiful girls and he has inspired me to levels that we both now have a doctorate. all are bad…be positive…don’t let what people say about nigerian men make you dislike or form hatred for all nigerian men, including your husband…. but your nagging and jealousy, snitching up and down shows that a woman has no self esteem to be with us. had been married for a while and things were ok, i was in love with her, she was crazy about me, but later on everything changed and by complicated exterior circumstances which did not have to do with us, we decided to pause for a while, but still remain friends. entire time matt and kenya were together, he said she texted her nigerian lover. his mother pressures him and gets upset with him for not being married yet. the yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc. the yoruba culture that you are asked, the yoruba tribe of nigeria has a very beautiful and friendly culture that has been embraced by so many western nations like united kingdom, etc.@soulfulmindsmedia, you need this book i am about to release…the book will guide you…it will open your eyes on so many things you never knew…and you will be grateful you had it and will surely recommend it to your close friends…you know, i can sense that you wrote this comment out of anger…and because of that, i couldn’t get your message clearly even though he shouldn’t have said something like that…but still, i don’t have enough information to conclude on what he is up to…. you are warning other ladies for real not to fall for this asswipe of a man like you did, then, how about if you reveal his real name or alias, age, location, friends names, you said you met his family too? scott 2 years ago from hanover park, illinoisi'm currently friends with an ibo man and he told me all about his life he's christian has strong faith we both have prayer sessions and bible study all on the phone cause he lives in ghana we met on a christian friend chat sight and he kets me into his life hes let me talk on the phone to his friends and tells me about his family but were both attracted to each other we both know it but at the same time he says attraction is common between a man and a woman he always tells me how he feels i just need to know if its real but i don't want to just be rude and ask are you just talking to me for money or sex or something like that because that's not cool plus i really believe he's a good guy i just don't know what safety questions to ask any help?’m a ghanaian man who is in a similar situation as your husband. he is big businessman, and his friends are mostly educated wealthy people, bankers, lawyers, commanders, politics, doctors etc. of knowing that he was with many other women at the same time doing the same thing, you still love him? everything a woman does in this life is meant to satisfy you and when the woman has an opinion or her own dreams, she is not being submissive. i am convinced many are learning because i do get positive mails..something was wrong)it sadness me that why would african man sell his body for money? ibo man originated from the ibo tribe, found in the south-eastern region of nigeria. 3 years ago hi, i'm in need of help, i'm talking with a nigerian man. the yoruba man loves peace a lot, and he is ready to part away with his money to make peace.'s why, when an igbo man joins occult in the olden days, they first demand is his mothers life cos they know is hard for him to give away. am an african man and will say it’s quite sad to hear from my fellow african sisters on this wonderful forum as of how stupid and carlos some of our own african brothers have been or have treated some of them the ladies/women.@berare, from your comment, i can boldly tell you that the guy comes from a rich nigerian family…with parents that believe so much in the african marriage.

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so, to make a long story short, i want to just talk and sit down with his mother about everything so that hopefully she will see me as not being a culturally different foreign but as a true, human being who cares about her son with no intension on changing his culture. when i have asked him he has said that he and his wife are still married but living separate lives and have done so for the past 7 years. it is difficult for any west african man to be in harms way with a very skinny woman, the west african man is physically stronger, taller and weighs more than the woman. there have been too many broken relationships due to tribalism yet you will find some of these tribalist accepting a non-nigerian due to tribal prejudice. the truth is, there are so many inter-tribal children more than a lot of nigerian realise, especially between yorubas and ibos, so we need to stop this south west, east and north divide and begin to embrace ourselves.. citizens they always tell the african man go get an “akata women and marry” akata referred to african americans people. because of that belief, and because of the high rate of divorce amongst white couples, especially in america, well to do nigerians hardly allow their sons to marry foreign women for fear of divorce. on another note i don't know anyone who has called a black man - black monkey are you serious? i am 20 years old and dating a african man who was born in the u.. i have many good nigerians friends around me but unfortunately i found a bad one but that will never stop me from liking another african man again or any man. are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy. i was in a relationship with a nigerian man who i shared two beautiful children with. bottom line, though… too many of my african female friends (and now me) have been abused by african men and going through this experience reminded me how lucky i am to be an american. so if you are white woman in love, you have to respect yourself and don't think being in your country, you can do anything you like cos that will make us start thinking of going home to the ones we know. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow, ''my reply to you, accofranco, is below -the message that worries me most is that you said '' the reason why nigerian men end up going back home to marry another wife is in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow''. there is a very common pattern when it comes to the internet dating and nigerian scammers, maybe that’s why other girls are silent for now. it is actually within the standards of society of the average woman frowned upon. a nigerian who will prefer to get married to a responsible white/asian woman not for anything(i mean anything else) but love. there are very good nigerian men out there, who are responsible, faithful, hardworking and would love to treat their wives like queens, yet they are also the ones who complain there are no good women available. the reality is that many white men come from cultures that do not necessarily subject women to forced female genital mutilation, pay bride-price for them (or buy) them from their fathers, rip them open on the wedding night, make demands that the wife give birth to the odd three or four sons, and beat them up whenever they burn food, iron shirts the wrong way, do not till the land well, serve supper late, refuse sex because they are sick or pregnant again, etc. i'm a traditional italian woman, i do not believe in divorce, and i've always wanted the traditional marriage dynamic: woman takes care of the household and children, man provides for the family, and he is the king of his castle. i used to date another man from sierra leone, but that relationship didn’t work out. love hearing and reading good testimonies like thise about love, romance, marriage, interracial dating and marriage because interracial marriage remains one of the ways the world can unite as one, thanks for sharing.@gina, nigerian men don't like being pressured by a lady into marriage. luck everyone, may god be with you all and if your still not certain about your nigerian man please read my comments & notactix comments.'s yoruba, lives in nigeria, we met online, i'm puerto rican-american, and was married once before. i ask him to figure out which parts of his nigerian culture would be most important to hand down to his children and he said he would think about that. you know, most well to do nigerians don’t like their children marrying foreign women because it is a general belief that white women don’t take their marriage too serious- they go for divorce even when it is something the two families can come together and settle. then african man marries african americans woman get his green card and run the fuck off. the man i know, had a father that married only one woman, and he treated her kindly. it is callous of you as a nigerian to write such an article..i will keep working to ensure more and more foreign women are safeguarded from the hands of evil men who are robbing vulnerable women off via emotional manipulations. 3 years ago from l islandhello @justawomanwhodon'twanttomentionhername, remember i am a nigerian guy myself? 13 months ago from l islandhello gizmo, i wrote this article and my book out of honesty just to help honest and innocent foreign women seeking for love in nigeria to find the right man to love without falling victim of romance scam, so i am going to be honest with you, so read carefully. anyway, he wants to get married and i’m willing to.@confused07 it saddens me to say that a good number of nigerians in sa are into illegal activities and will never be a true representation of nigerians.@accofrancoregardless about how this whole mess story is going to end, my interest in nigeria and the nigerians has been raised, so i would be much interested in getting in contact with nigerians of all kind (no interest in a love relationship or marriage, but in exchange and "friendship" if that would arise from a contact). remember, marriage in nigeria is a union of two families- the man’s and the woman’s family, and as such the families would step in if things are getting out of hand and they would do whatever they can to settle the matter amicably within the family level. they made some of these guys to flee from nigeria to many nations in search of greener pastures and doing humane and inhumane things just to make it in life. they were never wired to get married in the first place. again, thanks for stopping by to contribute, wishing you a blissful marital life with your nigerian husband. i don't like heard negative stories what happened between foreign ladies with nigerian men but i know few good nigerian men are very lucky. yes, nigerian men have quite a reputation but most people are quicker to complain than to praise so negative stories are going to be more prevalent and easier to find. then all of a sudden i heard he was either married or engaged. know for sure that numerous good nigerian men exist, and the goal of this article is to assist ladies spot those good men and flee from the few bad nigerian men tarnishing the entire image of nigerian men. for instance, when a typical nigerian couple is going through marital crises, they would hardly ever throw in the towel like it is generally done in the western countries. was suspicious to where he was going to that day (last week)so i had to look into it more and found what he does to these girls heartlessly don't know whether i should let the white girls know what he is up to or just leave it as its)people out there it's not only online meeting but even face to face some guys from your country give you guys a bad name,i live in europe am black too but i would prefer nigerians guys because of their confidence,charm and warm nature sometimes (i believe there is few good ones out there still) and similar culture background i can provide him with similar culture but i find most times they are just all about money especially if they know you have more than them,in this latest case the guy i dumped earn more than the white girl he is scamming money from how heartless and cruel is that? absolutely agree with you, i’m married to a ghanaian, as long as you keep god 1st in everything you do, you’re covered. for me personally i haven't been scammed i have just sought to highlight the massive cultural gaps in how nigerian men think and how western women think.'m an igbo girl, thank god i'm married to an igbo man and i'm proud of him. is bulshit as an ibo man, if that what she desire all the time and don't think how will make good life. we've spoken openly to each other about our past relationships he had an ex gf in nigeria whose married now i was engaged five years ago but didn't work out he's married now he is 5 years older then me i've been with nigerians before in australia which didn't work out i've dated a range of different ethnicities congo, sengalese, ghana, maori, european, samoan, tongan, and now nigerian he is not my first so i know what im getting myself in to my family know i love this guy and i know he loves me too. i personally would never have any desire to date an american black man from all the lies hurt and cheating they put me through. not all nigerian men are users there are some good ones it just takes time to find them dont rush in to things. first son is even worse, is a must that they married from home. if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. this boost the ego of some nigerian men, especially those that didn’t have a formal education. when you get married the same will be true, especially when you start meeting you in-laws and they lavish you with love and kindness, which was my experience. feel intimidated when they are married to a highly educated woman, so they use all tactics they know to overshadow her and make her submit to their leadership. as a ibo man, i can never believe a woman can make me wealthy, or pay my bills. 20 months ago i have been talking with a yoruba man for a couple of months via skype n phone. am tired of white girls asking me, once they notice my friend is nigerian, why my friends don't want to marry, as if as a nigeria, you must marry abroad or go interracial, no, some don't wish it. my stupid cousin who later became citizen, married twice ( 2 senegalese men) that gave her kids and abandoned her the moment they received their green card, hell they didn’t even wait around for the citizenship lol. you think it’s true or false that porsha’s dating this married african billionaire? you go into any other relationship or marriage with a nigerian man, please try to get a copy of this book and read it from beginning to end. 23 months ago i am a eastern european lady married to good, god fearing igbo man for 19 years. youths are not ready to fight another war…and nigerians have really integrated so much that it will be impossible for us to have another civil war. so when dealing with an ibo man, make sure you don’t play with his wallet; therefore, if you guard his wallet for him, you will always be his best friend..There are awesome nigerian men that can turn your life around for good, find them and stop going after bad guys spoiling the good image of nigerian people. he was telling me that i need to be more free, that he likes to have sex with bunch of girls and that one day when he gets married, his wife will need to accept all these things. i am enjoying my marriage to a nigerian male we are happy and occasionally visit. i left him in november and moved back home… abuse… too many lies… and then the side chick. having been brought up in a community of nigerians consisting of all three major nigerian tribes and other minority tribes, i must say that your depiction of men from the three tribes either exaggerates some characteristics or just fails to promote some more obvious endearing characters they all possess. marriage with anyone is difficult but i have found from experience, and from listening to other wives, that nigerian men are like lone rangers. if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. you can play with an ibo man’s life, but don’t play with his money! 4 years ago i live in australia and i'm engaged to a nigerian man. before you go ahead with any man; be it nigerian or american or german or chinese, etc, make sure he has no dark side. when we all thought porsha williams was dating nigerian billionaire teodoro nguema obiang mangue? doesn't have a "tertiary" education and he didn't have papers before we got married. i was married to a zambian who jilted me some years ago (immigration-wise). i have some british and american men here, i mean white guys married happily to nigerian women. i’m married into a very,very,very strong christian valued family, including the husband. assure him that because the fear that most white women who marry a nigerian man will most definitely return back to their home country in future or carry their kids back to their home country after the nigerian becomes old or dies, always scare many nigerian men married to foreign women, and this is one major reason they marry another wife, a nigerian woman back at home as a backup in future. young nigerians have mastered their profession, they are all sweet talkers, they know how to approach and exactly what to say to that particular type of western woman they targeting. i am married to one but my head is on he will never get that green card from me. i know how you feel, and please i didn't write this to destroy nigerians' image, i wrote it because i care a lot about nigerians, and because i am a nigerian..i am sure women too wouldn't want a desperate man. if his parents are against their son’s relationship with your daughter, try and reassure them that there won’t be divorce in future…and tell your daughter to read books about nigerian culture and how nigerian men behave and act in marriage…the role of a wife in the nigerian family setting, etc…she really need my upcoming book…it will help her a lot…try and get a copy for her as a gift and she will never forget you in life. eventually a nigerian man will want and need a nigerian woman to massage his ego, let him be the head of the household and know her place. he taught me what love really felt like, what a woman should be treated like and any man that comes after that will be held to my dearly departed’s standards!'m a british nigerian married to a british indian (oh. when i came to church and meet lots of nigerian people look friendly and very respect. if you share those thought with us, we might call you a bitch one day, even if you are married already. we broke many of the rules listed in this article (not recommended if you cannot easily see through bull***t, lol).'ve proved that it is not impossible to find a good nigerian man., i can see that so many foreign ladies are interested in nigerian guys, so to help them out, i will be willing to assist foreign ladies looking for real nigerian men with love to offer.’m married to a ghanaian, i traveled abroad with my mother in law to marry him in ghana. know for sure that numerous good nigerian men exist, and the goal of this article is to assist ladies spot those good men and flee from the few bad nigerian men tarnishing the entire image of nigerian men. 2 years ago i am a foreign white woman married to a nigerian so let me give you some insight into my own personal experience..and this is a huge turn off for most nigerian men. he doesn’t speak his language, ibo fluently but when he talks on the phone i always wonder if hes talking to another woman. be honest, i'm so disappointed in some of your comments on how you are comparing nigerian girls to your foreign women. and gender equality are good practices, but dear single and married ladies, please don't let that man-made laws and policies destroy your life's happiness because not all man-made laws bring happiness when you follow them. there are way too many people on the continent of africa to call them all bad. he did admit to me that he was married in nigeria for a little bit and got divorced., let me use this opportunity to point out here that i am a nigerian guy myself, born and raised in nigeria, and still living in nigeria. he has started learning german and achieved a pretty good level, given the fact that he only started this 5 months ago and tries to teach me yoruba (my progress is much less convincing). though i am not trying to imply that non-educated people are not-marriageable, of course i will be a liar to say that because many highly educated couples today are filing for divorce on daily basis all over the world. me, i have heard so many stories about the name callings, black moneys this, black moneys that, or the word '' niggers' when they are quarreling with there husbands or in-laws.'s yoruba, lives in nigeria, we met online, i'm puerto rican-american, and was married once before. enjoy your life and be smart about the choices you make if you decide to pursue a relationship with any man not just men from nigeria be wise and most importantly try avoid from the internetaswell, just go out with your friends and meet people. i’m married into a very,very christian valued family. when i've met him, he seems to me very pleasant and he is a gentleman. holla on that girlfriend i am married to a east african who is the love of my life ! i don't wanna get marry any more unless ill find a good man. call him to order, not in a harsh manner, but sit him down and talk sense into his head.@superwoman, i am sorry to tell you that it is not real.'m an igbo girl, thank god i'm married to an igbo man and i'm proud of him. he found a new nigerian girl of his tribe kicked and asked his sister to look after our kids as he needed to ensure that his girlfriend was not disturbed. in this very write-up, i am not going to answer those questions, but i will indirectly give clues on how to manage such situations, meanwhile, if you truly want to learn more or find answers to the above questions, then you must find time to go through some of my relationship articles, by navigating through my profile. there are cases of desperate nigerian guys who left the shores of nigeria to some asian countries in search of greener pastures at all cost. i know a lot of you think ghanaians like going back home to get married but that is very uncommon with this generation as it is too expensive and risky. is one of the most important things every nigerian man desire in marriage, so i don't think he's being honest that he doesn't care if she has child for him or not. pure oscar performance master-act in order to obtain material goods from their victims or western country visa! it was a nigerian women that raised you up when your father wasn't always around. am british and i have been married to a ghanian man for 40 years 4 years ago he retired took his pension money and built a house for him and his family left me my 3 children and 5 grand children if you would like to know more i will tell you. said you showed your husband this article and he laughed that all i said or wrote is only applicable to uneducated nigerian family or so. if my husband's heart so ached for permanent residency in nigeria, then that is where we must be, together. universe and will get kicked to the side for a fat, old, ugly german woman..and this is one major problem most home-based nigerian guys do have with nigerian girls- demand for money. however, if we as humans invest so much studying, running and managing a business. wont say much but my advice is that if a nigerian man really loves you and wants to be with you. if you marry a good nigerian man, you will forever be thankful to god. i think i need a good lawyer who can advice me about juridical things with nigerian laws. many marriages are now “white weddings” and not traditional weddings. please lady open our eyes no one can leave a black woman to a white woman even white men knows that our men are happy with us. 3 years ago hi accofranco, i recently met a nigerian man (he actually work as marine) and i have some questions.

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and for that, i will keep enlightening as many foreigners as i can on how to run away from bad nigerians. i have to add nigerians take their family very seriously, and they really love you wholeheartedly if you love and respect their culture.? prior to us getting married i asked him if he took prolonged trips to nigeria bc he has a family member that left his wife (who is not nigerian) in american for 2 yrs. i have written so many books, though yet to be published, about this issue. i would like to make it known that divorce is not lucrative for 'western' woman. i understand many reasons about ladies fell in trap of love brought painful of experience. ladies used to be very virtuous, but nowadays, many have copied the western lifestyle so wrongly such that it is now affecting their way of life so negatively. we have been married for five years now and have got two boys we got engaged when i was pregnant with my first son. after we got married we applied for spouses visa it got refused the first time and so i had to go back to nigeria to fight for my husband to come back, after two years he applied for leave to remain which he got straight away and then after about a year and a half he started to apply for his british passport but was trying to do it secretly and when i asked him why he didn't tell he we would say it was none of my business, we also had another child by now. if you are not an islam, it might be impossible for a hausa man to marry you. there is more hearth broken in nigeria than western country from nigerians. i grew up around a strong igbo community in the uk and i have so many ibo friends who are more like sisters and brothers to me; even with this i have to be fair and say the the big yoruba community were not just about partying. if you are foreign lady - european, american, australian and you are 10+ yrs older than your nigerian boyfriend and if on top of that you're unlucky finding a right date or making a relationship with someone within your community, also, if you are moderately/considerably overweight. he is constantly asking me if i am seeing other men, but yet i sense that he is seeing another woman. and it makes me angry that someone like her posts about how she found her nigerian man online, and knew about me and other women. we nigerians love our motherland no matter where we maybe living presently; no nigerian (the igbo tribes to be more specific) would want to live abroad forever and also his children and grandchildren, no no. am glad you are having a memorable relationship with a nigerian man.’ve been married to my husband from west africa for 5 years and he treats me and my kids like royalty. find it and write me indicating you are kittycat from hubpages dating a nigerian, then give me a brief of the story to help me remember. she was only one of many used by this scumbag for money. i can’t really comment directly to her, my comment was addressed to anonymous as a perfect example of many, my comment was an attempt to wake up other daydreaming ladies who are just falling deeper and deeper in to something that will only leave a deep scar on their hearts for life.@anonymous, all what you have said aren't just perculiar to nigerian men alone- men from other nationalities do same, so pray and be the best to also meet the best men; nigerian or not. i am a nigerian from the igbo tribe, i also live in the u. i have learned my lesson: never date an african man and all african men are cheaters! some nigerian men will argue that they are not ewondo men,, but caneroon and nigeria , were one country in the past, these countries share a common boundary. 3 years ago from l islandhello @justawomanwhodon'twanttomentionhername, remember i am a nigerian guy myself? met a 32 yo edo man online, we chatted offline quickly (my choice) i felt an ease & chemistry between us that came naturally. am tired of white girls asking me, once they notice my friend is nigerian, why my friends don't want to marry, as if as a nigeria, you must marry abroad or go interracial, no, some don't wish it. and i hope you, franc and myself can inspire other women out there, to really think twice before dating, marrying or getting involved with a nigerian or any other nationality. may god send that man that will make you forget your past soon your way. 2 years ago i'm australian and met my nigerian (igbo) through a friend so we started chatting over the phone then chatting online he lives in malaysia we were getting to know each other for a year till i decided to fly over he paid half i paid half of my flight all went well we got engaged and then i flew back to australia keeping in touch with each other everyday skyping and calling everyday then i flew back again lived with him for a few months then came back due to work committments then flew back again to stay with him we are now planning our wedding we love each other and i've met all his friends in malaysia he's met my immediate family & friends via skype i believe he is a good man he's made me a better woman he is very overprotective of me and looks after me well we are both christians and want to have children together we are planning to travel to nigeria in the new year after the wedding and everything. logically, you lose trust in all man, including good ones. we as nigerians need to start seeing each other in a more positive light as unity overcomes a lot. necessarily saying that all nigerian guys are bad of course i am a good nigerian. want to remind you, that i have been where these ladies have been, when dating a nigerian man and i hope and pray that they don't fall into a trap and can't get out. i see now why it’s also important for us women to have our own, before getting married because a man can pull the rug from underneath your feet and you life will get turned upside down. first, let me start with this:nigerian civil war ended in 1969 and there can never be another civil war in nigeria, you know why? that you guys will live happily even after marrying for 20 years, that's my pray for you and your man. my family in nigeria often visit us in germany without problem..so no igbo man will be happy to adopt a child when he can father one biologically., it is sad to read such vitriol from such an educated woman against african men and to be a marriage arbiter is the height of irresponsibility on your part, as it is obvious you can never be impartial. does say he can come to me but it would take longer and all he wants to do is get married to me. if truly you want to find a honest nigerian man to love and you need my assistance, then send me a personal mail on my personal e-mail: cuteefranky @ gmail dot com.. but once i caught the same man we were both seeing, that's when i found out a lot of other things. you know, nigerians hate divorce…it is the western culture that is brainwashing the nigerian women of today into thinking towards divorce like their foreign women counterparts…. but for now, i am going to focus on assisting foreign ladies wishing or desiring to get married to a nigerian man, or best, to assist foreign ladies already in a committed relationship with a nigerian man, and are probably contemplating on settling down with him. if you exercise proper caution and utilize positive relationship behaviors (as you would in any endeavor in your life) you can significantly reduce your chance of falling prey to a scam romance and greatly increase your chances of having the relationship of your dreams. in fact most western women instead of looking for ways of resolving marital crises, prefer to threaten their man with divorce, and this is a situation a true nigerian man snares at. 3 years ago from l island@andrea, i didn't really understood your comment but from the little i grabbed, its quite a difficult situation when the mother of your man is so involved in your relationship. he was using you financially and as you know the marriage is the only way for these scums to obtain a permanent visa for your country. educated well meaning nigerian men are out there that can give you a happy life.?i told him this after i found out but he doesn't seems to care, i only knew he wanted to take advantage of me because he started saying he has used up his tax return money from last year which he was overpayed and he is required to pay from his salary for some three months to clear his debt so he will be struggling and may be lose his flat so the story became too familiar from my first experience i decided to dig deep into his affairs and realised he even left me to go see one of his women he sees for money right under my nose after reading texts from his phone,i particularly feel sorry for one the girls that he proclaimed he was seeing before me but in truth they still see because from his text he has beaten up this girls because she wasn't accepting what he wanted her to do (all these learned from going through his phone)she earn less than him yet he takes money from her every month she is a slovakian attractive white girl,to behonest it's not only older white females fall for this scammers even good looking young white females fall for this scams as well as black girls from other countries who doesn't understand nigerian culture very well,it's not only through online even face to face meeting you can meet these scammers when they get to know you better the usual storyline that they are having some sort of troubles and that you are their only options at the time. i think i need a good lawyer who can advice me about juridical things with nigerian laws.'twanttomentionhername 3 years ago too many negative things i heard, saw, and felt about nigerian. i don't know about the ibos being linked to jews but i do know that they are true nigerian men. at least that other woman celebrates her win for being chosen over you by your mutual ‘prince’, she doesn’t really care about his other ‘lovers for money’ as long as she is with him from time to time. we’re happily married now, wow a lot has changed in just 18 months. everyone has different experiences but if you do not meet a nigerian man in nigeria who wants you to live there then count your fingers lucky aboyt his motives. so nigerian women back home are now second option when it comes to our men having us as a back up plan just in case your golden white women disappoint you, wow. if you had read that book earlier, you would have been more informed and wouldn't to any nigerian man's romance or marriage scam because i revealed a lot in that book which have got me so many haters and hunters too. Williams Dating Bashorun Jide Omokore, Bashorun Jide Omokore Porsha, Bashorun Jide Omokore Porsha WilliamsReal housewives of atlanta. sometimes he looks for me as a wild bush man. is a huge continent, with over 50 countries, and filled with many tribes and types of africans; and everything from villages to big modern cities. we do better things than that in our way cos we are generous and hate when our woman lack that we can provide, not flower. & tips for women in relationshipsimportant things you need to know as a foreign lady before you marry a nigerian manby accofranco49. or will i say most of the storylines are ancient; things that happened so many years ago or things that never happened but imagined and acted to captivate the audience to make money and fame. 2 years ago from l island@dandydoo, as a nigerian guy born and brought up in nigeria, and with all due respect to my lovely country, nigeria and citizens, i want to give you a standing ovation! men irrespective of their shortcomings remains one of the best men in the whole world- nigerian men are hardworking, ambitious, intelligent, brave, strong, most handsome, lively, witty and very smart, which make them the favourite of men amongst other men in the whole world, and if not for bad government in nigeria which pushed some unworthy and selfish nigerian men into doing all sorts of illegal human activities- from drug trafficking, to romance scam, to advance fee fraud, i can guarantee you that nigerian men would have been endangered specie and most sought after men in the whole world due to their numerous excellent male qualities. if truly you want to find a honest nigerian man to love and you need my assistance, then send me a personal mail on my personal e-mail: cuteefranky @ gmail dot com. (especially coming from a nigerian man lol)) he loves me and said he wants to be with me. to our exclusive source, the chairman’s wife is a force to be reckoned with and word has gotten back to her about porsha and her husband’s relationship. you decide to marry him, don't be surprise to find out later that he had a child with another woman somewhere just to have his own biological child, especially a son (in igbo culture, male children and kind of respected more because it is believed that the male child in the one that will continue a man's lineage after the man dies. when i met my husband he was a quiet man who did not talk much at all. bvow to stay married to my nigerian husband and have for 13 years. sometimes allow him to be the wise man even if you know the truth. enjoy your life and be smart about the choices you make if you decide to pursue a relationship with any man not just men from nigeria be wise and most importantly try avoid from the internetaswell, just go out with your friends and meet people.’t marry a nigerian man you met abroad until you have known his true identity as regards to- marital status, family background, etc. let's honest i have been dating to nigerian guy for few years but off and on again. when i've met him, he seems to me very pleasant and he is a gentleman. nigerian government and multinational oil companies- shell, mobil, chevron, agip, etc destroyed the niger delta region while carrying out crude oil exploration…and also polluted their waters, such that these people didn’t have any clean water to drink…. (she apparently wants to meet me)he's said he'd love it if this sister with the kids could come to our wedding & asked but since she gave birth a couple of months ago, we aren't sure if she will manage. do i convice this man that am not a "typical" s. it is actually within the standards of society of the average woman frowned upon..if you don’t mind blindly obeying, never questioning, being belittled or even beaten occasionally for “misconduct” being humped on twice a day like a sex toy irregardless of your desire or risk hearing the teeth sucking and belittling if you ask for a break, knowing he’s sleeping with multiple women and disrespecting you by taking phone calls in another room, and having the sneaky audacity to bring another woman in your home and bed when he thinks you’re not around, if you are displeased with anything he does and bring it to his attention he throws a tantrum like a little boy, dealing with his mother and sisters jump on you about how poorly you take care of their “little boy” much like the african women jumped on the american in the vignette, knowing that rearing children is women’s work meaning that he only plays with your child when he/she is happy but shoving them in your face for a diaper change or when they cry. now we married he wants me to pay for a car and apartment in ghana..you might have a strong minority predisposed to excessive leisurely activities but it would be wrong to have your main description of a whole tribe of men as "if you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend" and "yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc". i am asking because: "chinyere" is a nigerian female name meaning: god gives. we nigerians love our motherland no matter where we maybe living presently; no nigerian (the igbo tribes to be more specific) would want to live abroad forever and also his children and grandchildren, no no. you have questions, just ask and let's debate since you are married to a nigerian man already.. i truly believe god has sent me the man of my dreams. having no problem with her sleeping with married men but they called porsha a whore ad nauseoum. i have fallen for him cause he is everything my so called man is not. i believe he married me so he could get a green card. do I find true love, how do I find the right life partner, how do I know that my boyfriend wants me for marriage, how do I know that my boyfriend truly loves me, how do I avoid being used and dumped by a man? i am currently dating a nigerian guy who is 30 and i am 31. i don't mind to grow my baby alone, better to be along than with some animal man, really. don't be fooled by the way any man treats you, some are professionals who have mastered what they do and how they achieve it., my brother, before my husband married me, he dated a white woman, of course because of citizenship, he told me everything. i am a conservative woman; i want marriage first before having sex. never said every single one of them she meant many of them.. me and my ex are in our late twenties early thirties, this woman is almost late forties early fifties. ibo man: definitely very industrious and a pride to nigeria when it comes to business..by the special grace of god, i have been assisting so many ladies and men to fix their relationships through free counselling, consulting and even sending them free e-books, and counselling articles. these are questions you should ask yourselves ladies,what are you campared to this nigerian man? we call them pussys in america and if you can't handle being more than a village boi, then u should marry a gud nigerian girl, doing the hard work as a igbo man on your own without the help of a white person before u dupe one of gods daughters. 3 years ago i am african america who has been dating a igbo man for a year i am suppose to go to nigeria next year to meet . they don't like a woman who isn't submissive or one who wants to overshadow and control her husband because in our tradition, it is a bad omen and such a man that allows his wife to control and dominate him is regarded as effeminate man. the good, the bad, and the ugly traits listed in these posts can be found in any black american man in the usa. i have fallen for him cause he is everything my so called man is not. said all that to say i am dating the most wonderful man from nigeria.- ways 4 years ago enough of all these shit about nigeria guys all the time, all these ladies complaining, don't they have men, good enough to marry them except nigerians. i have known my wife, an african-american, for 47 years, and we have been married for 45 years. are dying inside…most are living unhappy life inside their mansions and luxury cars. ibo man could be heartless sometime while yoruba man could be reasonable in his actions(am just being honest)good luck. if you are foreign lady - european, american, australian and you are 10+ yrs older than your nigerian boyfriend and if on top of that you're unlucky finding a right date or making a relationship with someone within your community, also, if you are moderately/considerably overweight. are dying inside…most are living unhappy life inside their mansions and luxury cars. 3 years ago hi accofranco, i recently met a nigerian man (he actually work as marine) and i have some questions. don’t know who’s the ignorant one…the nigerian women who take up for their lying, cheating , deceitful men, or the men themselves…., i understand how you feel emotionally because we humans are born to have feelings for people we care about. everyone has different experiences but if you do not meet a nigerian man in nigeria who wants you to live there then count your fingers lucky aboyt his motives. i really need to feel secure on this cause have heard so many horrible stories..i am african american the man i am dating is isoko. he just wasn’t romantic enough as far as flowers, and chocolate and all the dumb stuff that really didn’t matter. in my personal opinion and experience, a good nigerian man makes the most responsible and loving of partners. 4 years ago so you're saying that even if he lives here, works here, studied here to the graduate level, and has taken well to the "finer things in life" american-style, and is seeing a white american girl here, he will still go home and marry a nigerian girl? in fact the vast majority if divorced woman experience a drastic drop in their living standards. 2 years ago from l island@pondering sos, that's why i said, before you fall for a nigerian man or any foreign man, make sure you know his residency status to know if he just want you for papers or for keeps.'m also a firm believer in love before race and find all this issues about nigerian men stereotypical to say the least,how about looking at each individual as a human first,and all humans regardless or race or tribe are full of bad and good people. it will be nice to ask questions about ” dui convictions, “, it will serve as a primary focus of the officers assessment,In a nut shell, these west african men , have to be removed from the homes even if they made the call, they are very familiar with the system and will destroy the woman by lies, manufacturing of stories , self inflicting of wounds, destruction of property to make beleive he is in harms way. not every man including the muslims wants more than one wife, especially the responsible ones, because it is a lot of responsibility to take care of one wife + kids alone already! and if you did read the article well, you will find out that it didn't just talk ill about igbo or nigerians as a whole, but it did tried to enlighten the western women on what to do and what not to do when dating a nigerian, and of course how to get the best out of a nigerian man. me say i do not see my husband as a bad man at all. is bulshit as an ibo man, if that what she desire all the time and don't think how will make good life. note this, any shop, business, etc owned by a nigerian in your country, go and find out, it is owned or founded by an ibo man.’m a professional aa woman from nyc who has lived in south africa for three years and i don’t do the this culture is better than that culture thing, especially with the black diaspora. it comes down to common sense and being honest with yourself when analyzing that special someone's mannerisms. but then, i wrote this to help foreigners, especially ladies who sometimes fall victim to bad nigerian guys abroad. i have a lot of nigerian friends their husbands cheats a lot and they just live with it.

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.i will keep working to ensure more and more foreign women are safeguarded from the hands of evil men who are robbing vulnerable women off via emotional manipulations. 3 years ago i am sorry, as a nigerian woman i am sad to see what mr. l 3 years ago as a foreigner never marry to a nigeria man that doesn't have papers. assure you sister, there are plenty great nigerian guys looking for nice foreign women to commit wholeheartedly to for life. he is a businessman, have money, like to travel abroad. think before yes, they used to go back home to get married not anymore. my nigerian friends here tell me to be patient especially the older ones and he is 15 yrs older than me, i am grown not going to give exacts but over 25.@berare, from your comment, i can boldly tell you that the guy comes from a rich nigerian family…with parents that believe so much in the african marriage. as for my previous boyfriend was from my country ok, so plz don't judge or assume that i always go on dating sites to find a man, i never have nor will i ever will go on a dating site. as a nigerian woman, i will say to you that we are the mothers of all our men, therefore, o zu kwa lu gi! before you go ahead with any man; be it nigerian or american or german or chinese, etc, make sure he has no dark side..and if you read my book or ebook titled: "before you marry your nigerian man", you can search for it on amazon kindle store, lulu, ibook, etc, you will read where i said the same thing that some nigerian men love foreign women and would prefer to marry a foreign woman; most times, their preference is always caucasian (white). i’m tired of aa men and have also dated jamaican and haitian men, but the west african man i see now is the best. some ladies are just close minded and they think no he isn't like all these other bad nigerians, maybe not, but half of the comments i've read so far since the last time i was on here show me different., there are multifaceted difficulties and other peculiar conflicts associated with having a relationship with an african man. i love my nigerian man with my life and would not give him up for anything in this world. as a nigerian woman, i will say to you that we are the mothers of all our men, therefore, o zu kwa lu gi! if your man is good to you & treats you well, shows you respect & consideration, you have mutual understanding, and you communicate freely. 2 years ago i'd like to add that i once dated a nigerian man myself and was with him for a long time, to then i found out what he was lying to me about everything i caught him out on. am a divorcee with 3 children and he has a kid from a relationship that couldn't lead to marriage because ofinterracial issuesi don't know if i am to believe him or not cos he just sounds too gentlemanish and moving a bit too fast for my likingwhen i was in nigeria there,he looked so happy to see me,telling me i am more beautiful in real life than in photos. an ibo man loves business, trade and anything that will make him to be in constant contact with money. im in need of help, im a 23 year old us black girl and i have met a nigerian man online. a german lady we never think of marry to a german man. not only romance scam, there are lots and lots of other scamming activities, they became so professional in past few years that they even operate as a syndicate! it is easier for a lady to find the right partner than for a man. i told him if we are to be married, i will do everything traditonal and we will need to have an american wedding as well. to wrap it up, ibo man is just similar to a chinese man in terms of- money consciousness, creativity, and craftsmanship. am an african american woman who pursued moving away from dating only aa men..Rick 3 years ago i a nigerian man from yoruba tribe. before you do, try and get a copy of my book titled: “before you marry your nigerian man”. all the african men that i have met, many of them from nigeria, ethiopia and ghana have all been cheaters but so are majority of the men in america. bottom line i would say, you follow the path that pleases your heart, if you want a man to change the diapers, then i’m sure you can find this kind, on the other hand, if you want to baby a man, you then too also know where to look! it will be helpful to many people reading to face the reality of the situation. nigerians we meet out if their habitual environment are very different. necessarily that all nigerian guys are bad, please feel free with him and don't let this write-up mar your chances of connecting with a man that truly loves you. nigerians are also extremely patient people because of their environment. its unlikely in our real culture- nigerians frown at divorce and even see it as a bad omen..Cherry 20 months ago m dating a nigerian man and his yoruba. i am happy with my life met my husband who is a nigerian while still a teenager and together we have stayed got married two beautiful girls and he has inspired me to levels that we both now have a doctorate. never tell ibo man how to treat his mother, he already knows, just listen and support anything he says about his mother, even if she is dead, don't be surprise, the love will still be there. to the extent that we are planing to move permanently to nigeria.’ll try to enlighten something that may be of a great help to many, it happens on the very beginning of the ordeal. that's the only interesting topic that some whites girls can share with us, reading how many hours a nigerian guy can last and the sizes of dick in nigerian guys.@gina, nigerian men don't like being pressured by a lady into marriage., most of the aforementioned class of nigerians would rather prefer to come back home and look for a wife, you know why? one year ago the guy ask his nigerian friend to ask my friend to bail him because he was jailed because of visa and overstaying in malaysia and for him to go back to nigeria, of course my friend helped him. i don’t want to sound or be rude but i am an african woman and i am neither submissize nor docile but because you dated one african from one african nation it seems you decided that he was the prototype or leading example for all african men. truly you want a sincere nigerian man to marry or date, get one who is not living in europe/america, etc illegally, and make sure he is doing a good steady job and well educated up to tertiary level. my ex’s friends were surprised to know my ex was dating me because i am aa woman. if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. so many signs, red lights cropped up along the way. short story met a nigerian man here in the us. if things go well i will relocate for the sake of true love…to do my humanitarian duty towards child development and human rights. nigerians in general, have unquestionable respect for their parents and would listen and obey them at any point in time. i have taken so many risks for my readers and fans even though i haven't seen any. i didn't have anyone to help me, i didn't have a friend to say to me hey check this page out about nigerians or any other nationality, i have been dealing with this all on my own..you might have a strong minority predisposed to excessive leisurely activities but it would be wrong to have your main description of a whole tribe of men as "if you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend" and "yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc"..it takes two to get married and two to divorce. am german and with a nigerian man since 6 months now. we've spoken openly to each other about our past relationships he had an ex gf in nigeria whose married now i was engaged five years ago but didn't work out he's married now he is 5 years older then me i've been with nigerians before in australia which didn't work out i've dated a range of different ethnicities congo, sengalese, ghana, maori, european, samoan, tongan, and now nigerian he is not my first so i know what im getting myself in to my family know i love this guy and i know he loves me too. tyesha: a proud “african” american woman who dated a cameroonian for over a year. 3 years ago lady be careful with any african men, all african men are the some because all the african culture are all the some, an african men to stay all his rest of life with an western woman that can happen to them all always an african men need an black woman because of they way an african woman treat a man with respect and value her men, no like western women you treat our men like our slave any man need to be value, for my own experience im living with a man who is a nigeria but he has a white woman with children but always i say to me he can end up he is life with an ayibo woman even he go back to nigeria with that woman and children everyone will take that like a joke no one will value that family and always he said that with tear in his eyes now is beging me to give him a black child, all his friends, family know is me is proper wife and they respect me than his wife and if is with me is very happy than when his in his house. culture frowns at a woman providing entirely for the family, or will i say being the breadwinner. for all those western women with attitudes before you bash nigerian men expecting them to be prince charming forever please look at yourself what have you offer your man for him to give up all the beautiful, submissive, obedient women in their own country., i am an african american women who is married to a ghanian man.. i am committed with a nigerian man for four months that why id search a blog or reading about his country, and helps me to catch up easy his tradition and understand more his attitude,we're not talking offen because of our complicated schedule of work but we make a day to be together. if you marry a good nigerian man, you will forever be thankful to god. love hearing and reading good testimonies like thise about love, romance, marriage, interracial dating and marriage because interracial marriage remains one of the ways the world can unite as one, thanks for sharing. i was ignorant enough not to assert my self that the first thing nigerians in a foreign land will do is to ensure thst their immigration status is sorted before anything and trust me that they will do anything to acquire this. i cannot believe that any of you seemingly educated women did not have the foresight to be cautious with your hearts (whatever the race of man you got involved with). but recently, nigerians (especially the ladies) have adopted this western culture of not seeing men as the head and an asset, which is why you now hear and witness more divorce cases amongst nigerian couples too. we had sex a total of 5 times since i’ve met him , because i just felt bad about him still living with his woman. but then i ask, why then do you want to marry a man you cannot or do not cherish his country and want to live in his country forever with? if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. it carefully, its more like a guide on how to find a genuine man to love in nigeria. i am white and have been happily married to a nigerian for 30years. i grew up around a strong igbo community in the uk and i have so many ibo friends who are more like sisters and brothers to me; even with this i have to be fair and say the the big yoruba community were not just about partying. am a divorcee with 3 children and he has a kid from a relationship that couldn't lead to marriage because ofinterracial issuesi don't know if i am to believe him or not cos he just sounds too gentlemanish and moving a bit too fast for my likingwhen i was in nigeria there,he looked so happy to see me,telling me i am more beautiful in real life than in photos. in fact the vast majority if divorced woman experience a drastic drop in their living standards. is not just a practice common to nigerian men alone, americans, english, canadians, germans, russians, chinese, malaysians, indians, etc practice this in different degrees and for different purposes which usually revolve around financial wealth, fame, success, political power, career growth and the likes. have a few good nigerians in my country that i know, so they are not bad, but yes your right those nigerians like my ex don't make it easier for these nice nigerians out there. i don't need a woman for progress in this life, cos i know my potentials. feel as though this is real, but i have read so many stories on here! story is long at this point but basically after many fears they submitted an application. however, it does cause alot of high emostions expecially for those who have have found love in a nigerian man. i have some nigerian friends and they keep telling me, "oh he's probably searching for business".@weary, nigerian parents don't really have issue with a white daughter-in-law to be honest with you, they even love and welcome them more than our own sisters, but just that history has proven to them that white daughter-in-laws hardly stay forever, they only last for a while and they go back to their home country with their son's children, that's just the fear, if not, so many nigerians would love to marry a white lady for real, but how open are the white ladies ready to welcome nigerians and their culture wholeheartedly without reserving some stuffs. i guess by over empowerment you mean i can throw your behind in jail if you put your hands on me cuz i know it's a norm in your country and the woman keeps her mouth shut and says nothing . when fairly young nigerian man gets romantically involved with much older and not so attractive western lady, there’s a very slim chance that his love is genuine. in my experience with nigerian men in nigeria and abroad, nigerians tend to have different views on asian women and white women, i have to agree a lot of them are after white women for citizenship. doesn't have a "tertiary" education and he didn't have papers before we got married.. they think nothing of having different women, but let that woman cheat on them, they’re beaten and thrown out like a dirty rag. my friends here in germany warn me - and i agree in a lot if not all points . their attitude is most likely the reason why they are (most of the time) single, even many years after divorce. but i wasn't happy on my wedding day as we got married in nigeria and none of my family were there and i wasn't sure it was the right thing i was doing and none of my family knew i was getting married too they were upset that i had done it behind there back but i felt pressured as my husband begged me..you might have a strong minority predisposed to excessive leisurely activities but it would be wrong to have your main description of a whole tribe of men as "if you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend" and "yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc". she was only one of many used by this scumbag for money..and that was why i wrote this article from the sincerity of my heart irrespective of the fact that i am a nigerian. 3 years ago hi accofranco, i recently met a nigerian man (he actually work as marine) and i have some questions. they are extremely jealoused of a woman who is highly educated , if they cannot get her money they start manufacturing stories of mental illness , if the mental illness conspiracy does not work they victimize her by manufacturing stories, to destroy and claim what ever assets she owns in the united states or overseas . i am ghanaian man, and yes some of my brothers are not decent in their approach to life, and some are wreck-less with their treatment of women. 2 years ago @accofrancoi thought i found my nigerian man a few years back, my friend warned me to be careful of him, but i didn't listen, i meet him through a mutual friend online, we started talking online, then msgs and skype, he was telling me that he loved me and he invited me to go visit him where he is living, 6 months later i went, was i scared no! really need to get a copy of my book: “before you marry your nigerian man” it will help you fix your marriage. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign ladies leaves tomorrow, cos she most leave or refuse to go back to nigeria with the husband to live permanently like citizens.? prior to us getting married i asked him if he took prolonged trips to nigeria bc he has a family member that left his wife (who is not nigerian) in american for 2 yrs. we got married in ghana and i am so blessed to have him in my life. he is big businessman, and his friends are mostly educated wealthy people, bankers, lawyers, commanders, politics, doctors etc. i’m married to a ghanaian & if i’m not happy, he’s not happy. that's the only interesting topic that some whites girls can share with us, reading how many hours a nigerian guy can last and the sizes of dick in nigerian guys. unfortunately, the bad ones are more visible to foreign women; hence the reason many foreign women are ending up with the wrong or bad nigerian men. i ask: did you ever read where i said before you commit to a nigerian man as a foreign lady, that you should ask his educational background? as the global economy is today, many men aren't ready to marry a woman who has nothing doing and not earning money to take care of her own needs. however, the only issue is his mother who is so involved - it is like she wants to manage our relationship, making bad comments when she is not even a decent person to say so. and there's a great chance that at least one of them is nigerian, pretending to be italian or german! know at least 3 different guys who met their wives via the internet and finally they met and dated and got married and are still growing stronger in love as days roll by. a man or woman is never successful until he or she is married and his/her marriage ends up successful..if you date nigerian man online, you would find at least 8 out of 10 are scammers. i ask: did you ever read where i said before you commit to a nigerian man as a foreign lady, that you should ask his educational background? what we are going through as an auslander in germany, is hell.! i remember seeing him at the airport for the very first time, i stayed with him at his place, i meet a lot of his friends and family, before i was coming back home, we talked about our future togther and we were planning to get married and everything else, then it was my time to leave and come back home, back to everyday talking, messaging and skyping, mind you i have been with him for a long time, little did i know at the time what he was up too, but something told me to dig deeper. one thing we nigerian guys love about you foreign ladies is the fact that you ladies are selfless with your love. will be forever grateful that you took the time to help me in this manner. you know, we have wonderful nigerians, myself inclusive, but its so unfortunate that most foreigners do always come in contact with the bad nigerians, which was the reason why i wrote this article to help enlighten and educate foreigners on how to deal with nigerians for good. please tell your fellow nigerian single ladies to be nice to nigerian guys and stop being materialistic and pushing nigerian guys to do all sorts of evil things just to make money to fulfill nigerian ladies insatiable needs. opened this to help foreign women searching for true love to find that love by opening their eyes to the styels, and ways of spotting a scam nigerian man. other than that he is the best man i have ever met, we been together for two years and he has shown me way more than an american man has ever shown me. i to have been in a relationship with a nigerian man(unk tribe) will be asking that question shortly. what we are going through as an auslander in germany, is hell. guys get initiated into cult organisations in foreign countries for reasons best known to them which i cannot discuss here for many reasons. if you are not willing to be one of many wives, you need to discuss with your man early in your relationship and talk to your husband's family about this issue. started telling me where we was having conversations years ago when he was in university out of his country,when he started telling me this i remember becaues he was the only person in that country i talked to, he want to marry but i told him he is to young for me of course this upset him because i said this but i truly believe when you have a age difference you think differently about thing,i have never been married because i don't believe in divorce i have rings from others that were not faithful so i never went though with it-but i have told him that i want to live there he is against it and children as well,he want to be here in america with me -where we will marry and have a traditional wedding there b4 he come here-he is 32 and i am 48 i need it to be true all the way not for any other reasons or hidden agenda we are supposed to be married soon,plz talk to me tell me what you make of this. stand in love and ensure your love in not blind so that you're able to see what you're getting yourself into- whether with a black, white or asian man. nigerian man is for real because the fake ones will be all over you to marry them (though not in all cases). i too have been in a relationship with a nigerian man for almost 4 months (we dated for 1). so when he got sent back he asked me on the phone if we could get married i said i would think about it and i did for the reasons being i loved this man and i didn't want him to suffer or my child to be without his dad. not all nigerian men are users there are some good ones it just takes time to find them dont rush in to things..so no igbo man will be happy to adopt a child when he can father one biologically. asking about ones educational background , religious and personal belief i think is a usual question which every sensible woman asks when 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not trying to promote myself here but my experience made me know that there are some nigerian women who actually wanna be the captain of the ship as well. marriage brings out the worst in every human being- man or woman. my husband will never dream of marrying another woman with me in the house. i blame myself for not doing the research to find out who this man really was. hausa man is peace-loving without his religion (islam), he is generous, in fact, he is the most generous man amongst all nigerian tribes, he’s not so conscious of money, and he’s ready to die for his religious belief. i love my nigerian man with my life and would not give him up for anything in this world. again, i want to stress again that i am going to be as honest as possible in disclosing some useful information that would assist all foreign ladies desiring to marry a nigerian man. didn't fell for her for any other reason but for her manner. i have to add nigerians take their family very seriously, and they really love you wholeheartedly if you love and respect their culture. also to add he has a child that lives in ireland with her mother who is nigerian too my husband and herself are yoruba people an shes also carries his surname but he claims never have been married to her which i do not believe and theses reasons are why we always end up in quarrels because i do not trust him. 2 years ago i am a foreign white woman married to a nigerian so let me give you some insight into my own personal experience.'' if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. the woman looks after the day to day running of the home while the man provides for the home. will never see white men or asian men bringing there women down to low level or having a second option just in case a black woman disappoint them at the end. thing, are you now jealous of that other woman, she is still with your mutual lover and doesn’t care about your warnings - so you’re calling her desperate? my husband has lived is different countries but has held strongly to his roots and is a very peaceful, family-oriented and patient man. she was in the hospital, matt showed up, but kenya was in her room holding hands with another man. you must learn to manage and control your anger and irritation when with him., most of the aforementioned class of nigerians would rather prefer to come back home and look for a wife, you know why? it has been a year since my ghanaian husband and i got married. how do you expect a ceo to come back to her home and allow a man speak to her as though she is a doormat. when i've heard all his story, i couldn't imagine that i'm getting married to this man elder than me for 18 years. you really think someone would lear german just for scamming? i grew up around a strong igbo community in the uk and i have so many ibo friends who are more like sisters and brothers to me; even with this i have to be fair and say the the big yoruba community were not just about partying. here’s what i’ve come to learn from my experiences (and because south africa is very diverse i’ve gotten to date sas, congo,and nigerian)…. didn’t say nothing about marrying another woman, reread my post. the bottom line of it all is that a typical nigerian man with no hindrances would prefer to come back home to marry a nigerian girl, so if you are non-nigerian and in a relationship with a true nigerian man then shine your eyes well! women are unfaithful and go out having sex with any man who looks their way! my experience of the whole tribal prejudice 'thing' has been more with nigerians in nigeria, maybe it is just coincidental but that's been my observation. i am only speaking from my own experience since i am currently and newly married to an igbo man. if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. is not just a practice common to nigerian men alone, americans, english, canadians, germans, russians, chinese, malaysians, indians, etc practice this in different degrees and for different purposes which usually revolve around financial wealth, fame, success, political power, career growth and the likes. nigerian men living in south africa are known for all the bad and evil things how do i know if his the real deal? i will go on to say this, the person i am talking about i have spoken too, she will very well know who i am, and this person knew about what he does and knew that he was with not just her, but many other woman out there. met a ghanian man 2 1/2 years ago on a pen pals site. people are human beings and fall in love for many reasons. i am 45 year old indian woman with a great career n education n very much in love with my igbo 36 year old man. he always compare me with nigerian women, like that we are fighting every single day for silly things.’ve been married to a ghanaian for 4 months now, what’s up? though i am not trying to imply that non-educated people are not-marriageable, of course i will be a liar to say that because many highly educated couples today are filing for divorce on daily basis all over the world. 3 years ago i met a nigerian online months ago and i wasnt quite sure if i wanted to even have a conversation. he a permanent resident in uk, a student or just an illegal migrant? i was living in nigeria before i moved to england, one of my class mate was telling me how his brother got married to a korean woman and brought her back home so that they will live together, of course, there were cultural differences she couldn't cope with. he had been married before, when he was 20 years old, has 3 teenager children, divorced 13 years ago, still single etc. men are good guys, i’m married to a ghanaian. man has chased me since 2009 stalking me then,i would not talk to him for yrs so finally in 2011 i decide to answer him and at first i didn't even know he was the same man from another web site until he asked me if i remember him, i said yea from this site and he told me no. stephens 3 years ago hello all,i have met my nigerian man through on line dating. real name isn’t dazy, but it starts with dan…if yes, please contact me asap before you go next time to visit your nigerian man in kl malaysia.! i remember seeing him at the airport for the very first time, i stayed with him at his place, i meet a lot of his friends and family, before i was coming back home, we talked about our future togther and we were planning to get married and everything else, then it was my time to leave and come back home, back to everyday talking, messaging and skyping, mind you i have been with him for a long time, little did i know at the time what he was up too, but something told me to dig deeper. if choosing an african man to share your heart as a foreigner, explore countries like senegal or the gambia. now me in the other hand, when he do step out of line, i say my peace and we both threaten to blackmail each other by saying we will get nana involved…neither 1 of us wants nana nor grandpoppie involved…i love my ghanaian man. all living separate lives but under one roof because divorce is abhorred by many. when i've heard all his story, i couldn't imagine that i'm getting married to this man elder than me for 18 years. please understand 245 years of slavery, not even being allowed to walk on the same pavement as your fellow human being, can you fathom what that was truly like? the truth is, there are so many inter-tribal children more than a lot of nigerian realise, especially between yorubas and ibos, so we need to stop this south west, east and north divide and begin to embrace ourselves. i asked him one time why he cheated with this particular woman and he said so she would give him free rides to work. by the way my on parents have been married 35 years and we don't believe in divorce. i ask him to figure out which parts of his nigerian culture would be most important to hand down to his children and he said he would think about that. 3 years ago hi accofranco, i'm so glad to say that i'm dating a nigerian gentleman, i am so in love with him, we meet early last year in may via social network, yes! 2 years ago yes for those ladies who are looking to date or marry an african man. & tips for women in relationshipsimportant things you need to know as a foreign lady before you marry a nigerian manby accofranco49. in many ways he is industrious and has our long term future at the heart of his actions. it to your close friends because it will save them from future heartbreak and will also guide them on how to make the best choice of a nigerian man. 3 years ago from l island''attention @dazy stephens, i have been busy researching your case about planning to marry a nigerian guy you met online, and i think we really need to talk? nigerian men love their woman to be submissive to them. 3 years ago fact is most foriegn women that complain about nigerian men never deserved them.. oh so she’s not a whorer for dating a married man, but porsha was a whorer for dating one. hausa man is peace-loving without his religion (islam), he is generous, in fact, he is the most generous man amongst all nigerian tribes, he’s not so conscious of money, and he’s ready to die for his religious belief.’m with a gambia man and he is a great guy but like they say they don’t like to be in the kitchen with u they love to gave a lot of sex and calling u they expect u to answer but guess what nono not i. all, i am an aa woman married to an african male from burkina faso. how did you find out if he was married back home? after he started to invite me to nigeria as a guest, then to travel with him to germany. because such nigerians go into relationship with foreigners out of love and not for anything else like: securing permanent residence, monetary gains, etc..but you know when men fall in love with a woman, they can still hide certain truths that will hurt the woman from her. i was very much in love with my partner before we married but find married life very, very difficult. the woman always gets the short straw especially once you become a mother, then theres no going back! it carefully, its more like a guide on how to find a genuine man to love in nigeria. assure him that because the fear that most white women who marry a nigerian man will most definitely return back to their home country in future or carry their kids back to their home country after the nigerian becomes old or dies, always scare many nigerian men married to foreign women, and this is one major reason they marry another wife, a nigerian woman back at home as a backup in future. ibo man: definitely very industrious and a pride to nigeria when it comes to business. kroy bierman threatened a camera man and was rewarded with their own show. these are questions you should ask yourselves ladies,what are you campared to this nigerian man? i have written so many books, though yet to be published, about this issue. give true n honest information on the yoruba man n there culture. they made some of these guys to flee from nigeria to many nations in search of greener pastures and doing humane and inhumane things just to make it in life.@accofrancoregardless about how this whole mess story is going to end, my interest in nigeria and the nigerians has been raised, so i would be much interested in getting in contact with nigerians of all kind (no interest in a love relationship or marriage, but in exchange and "friendship" if that would arise from a contact). tears 4 years ago i am so scared of marrige and then to add a yoruba man to the equation,all the things you are saying i have said to him,about marring a lady of his own ppl which he has asured me that he has no desire for them-but i just can't believe that, that is all you have been around and out of all my sisters there is not one that you will marry? i don’t even know, he may be married to her and their his kids. wants to come to live in germany as i actually cannot go to nigeria - but as he didn't finish his studies to a master level (has a nigerian bs), he doesn't get a job here if he has not at least a ms level passed so he is back at university (at age of 35) since 2 months and tries to complete his education first. i've been through so much with this man and it's hard to let go..in fact, you just nailed the truth- just pray to meet a real nigerian guy that's genuinely interested in you and you will be a happy woman forever because divorce is like a taboo in most nigerian family setting, especially the igbo..because i know that child bearing tops the list of qualities every nigerian man seeks in a woman he wants to marry, unless your man didn't grow up in nigeria. but then i ask, why then do you want to marry a man you cannot or do not cherish his country and want to live in his country forever with? truly you want a sincere nigerian man to marry or date, get one who is not living in europe/america, etc illegally, and make sure he is doing a good steady job and well educated up to tertiary level. i would like to connect so, because it is possible we dating the same man. your own info, this article has helped uncountable foreign women to solve their relationship and marital issues with their nigerian spouses.'m an african american who has been married to my nigerian (edo) husband for 3 years (we've been 2gether for 5 years)., it is important to never beleive a west african husband , who identified himself as being victimized by his wife because in many instances , he is interested in her money, have erectile dysfunction, believes he is better than her, have several wives in west africa, very jealoused of her, , wants to be in control because of low self esteem, and have a history of alcoholism and abandonment , which is a serious mental health issue. a german lady we never think of marry to a german man. he was married previously for 5 years but it ended in divorce. 2 years ago i'd like to add that i once dated a nigerian man myself and was with him for a long time, to then i found out what he was lying to me about everything i caught him out on. women complain shit about nigerian guys, why wont he leave you, hence all you wanted in the married is sex. to be short we had a good time besides this issue but i am not an african woman and from what i read her on this site he must be an ibo. i am asking because: "chinyere" is a nigerian female name meaning: god gives. 4 years ago hi im dating a wonderful ibo nigerian guywe are in love we would love to get married he has never asked me money he has always told me to save money i feel so down becouse i would love him to join me in uk and try to look for a job for him. and if you are a nigerian guy reading this article, please, do not feel bad, i am only trying to assist people (particularly innocent foreign ladies) to enjoy a happy loving relationship built on true love..There are awesome nigerian men that can turn your life around for good, find them and stop going after bad guys spoiling the good image of nigerian people..ladies, i advice you plz take note and think of me, and any other woman out there who have been through similar stories like myself. not every man including the muslims wants more than one wife, especially the responsible ones, because it is a lot of responsibility to take care of one wife + kids alone already! recently i’ve dated a nigerian and one from burkina faso. please take a break and invest more in your own personal life and well being, the best man will soon come around okay? your own info, this article has helped uncountable foreign women to solve their relationship and marital issues with their nigerian spouses. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow, ''my reply to you, accofranco, is below -the message that worries me most is that you said '' the reason why nigerian men end up going back home to marry another wife is in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow''. if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. then one day, i found photos of him and another young woman and inquired about who she was. totally am not offended by what you said, i don't even know this woman, i only caught him out not long ago, my break up with him is newly fresh to be quiet honest with you, so forgive me for still loving someone who yes, used me, lied to me and cheated on me. this can be true of many foreign men but i know more western men get involved in this process. many of you may break up with your long distance pretend-to-be-boyfriends but something tells me that you are looking for your new love on one of the dating sites again.’t rush to marry a nigerian man without a reasonable educational background. don’t pressure him to love you or to continue with you like before…allow your character, your real life personality and qualities to attract the best man to you. you will feel a knife ct through your entire marriage as you start to realise that actually you have married someone from a cukture which is completely different from a western one. despite everything i have been dealing with, my husband has invited me to come to nigeria many times, but as previously stated our financial situation is not stable and i work and attend school full-time to help support our home, so with that much going on i wouldn't be able to be gone for more than 3 days; and with the amount of money it costs to get a ticket and travel time, it wouldn't be worth it. we call them pussys in america and if you can't handle being more than a village boi, then u should marry a gud nigerian girl, doing the hard work as a igbo man on your own without the help of a white person before u dupe one of gods daughters. scammers know that very well so they know how to manipulate you. i don't know much about other tripes, but 50% of other tripes married for real with woman that is not from their tripes., enjoy that wonderful nigerian man because it could be true love. have a few good nigerians in my country that i know, so they are not bad, but yes your right those nigerians like my ex don't make it easier for these nice nigerians out there. my experience of the whole tribal prejudice 'thing' has been more with nigerians in nigeria, maybe it is just coincidental but that's been my observation. when i have asked him he has said that he and his wife are still married but living separate lives and have done so for the past 7 years. 3 years ago from l island@nicole, nigerian people of nowadays are becoming more enlightened than before. i’ve been to the country, married into the culture…. good, honest nigerian man simply can't get chance to go through and meet someone because of so many heart breaking stories caused by bad nigerian boys. sure, a couple of them turned out to have a woman already, but i can’t say any if them mistreated or were outright bad to me. women complain shit about nigerian guys, why wont he leave you, hence all you wanted in the married is sex. luck everyone, may god be with you all and if your still not certain about your nigerian man please read my comments & notactix comments. i understand many reasons about ladies fell in trap of love brought painful of experience. its difficult to inform family that one s dating a nigerian man be coz of these dark issues. hausa man: the hausas are pleasantly simple in their ways and can still be peaceful even with their religion. nigeria comprises of so many tribes, but the major tribes or dominant tribes in nigeria are: ibo, hausa, and yoruba.

DO AFRICAN MEN MAKE BETTER HUSBANDS? PART 2 - NO

[…] from tyesha: a proud “african” american woman who dated a cameroonian for over a year…  read more […]. bross i never surpport your message to the world about the nigeria man. i didn’t know how much i was in love with him until i discovered another woman started making him happy. are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy..as for every other women out there, who is a forgeiner aboard, who are dating these young/younger nigerian men from malaysia, thailand, nigeria, arab and any other place in this world.!i am married to a british national with indian heritage (by the way i was already british before we got married) and i think she'd find your views untrue as well. autralia 3 years ago wow i did enjoyed all these stories and thanks to the person that wrote this acticle, well i'm nigerian live in autralia and married to a phillipina lady and we had a beautiful daughter, now to be sincere i love white lady to bit and i can't marry to any black woman inrespective of where she comes from include my nigerian women but the issues with white ladies is , they wanna be the head of the house however there's noway you can do that to a nigerian guy, and they always talk about egual right, sorry bro, in africa, men are the head of the house, so if you white ladies love a nigerian men, then you should learn the culture and be ready to live in nigeria also bc nigeria men love their country. dating a nigerian in your own country you simply wont feel the cultural difference so much.@weary, one thing we the nigerian men have learned from history is the fact that when we (nigerians) marry foreign (white) ladies with all our heart in the hope of staying with them forever, they have a different plan all together. sometimes it difficult judge to nigerian person and personal's background are different type of ethics group. not trying to promote myself here but my experience made me know that there are some nigerian women who actually wanna be the captain of the ship as well. we nigerians love our motherland no matter where we maybe living presently; no nigerian (the igbo tribes to be more specific) would want to live abroad forever and also his children and grandchildren, no no. observing this trend for years, i became angry and felt like rising against the scourge of romance scam that some unworthy nigerian guys engage in thereby making all nigerian men look evil in the eyes of foreigners. after their fellow white men have taken their glory and they become old, and maybe overweight and unattractive, they now turn to black guys; the nigerian guys for love, knowing too well that they are no longer attractive and not doing anything to look attractive, and hence, they resort to using money and favours to win these nigerian guys into marrying them. it is this trait that earned ibos criticisms from other nigerian tribes, because in whatever they are doing, they are always conscious of what they would gain financially. i have no problem learning to cook nigerian foods or even his language, but i only know to pass down my christian midwest values, just like his christian nigerian values. you truly want to marry or date a nigerian man living abroad, and enjoy a lasting, genuine relationship, follow the rules below:Don’t marry a nigerian man living illegally in your country or any foreign nation. i would like to make it known that divorce is not lucrative for 'western' woman. ibo man: definitely very industrious and a pride to nigeria when it comes to business. no human being doesn't like when somebody shout on them, same as me. though you may have skewed observations since you are a man afterall! didn't really want to go to nigeria in many ways as he thought the safest way would be for me to marry him in spain but i was determined we should do it legally, no overstayer probs etc and encouraged the sister route so hed arrived here legally. so, yes you are right in your observation that every race and nationality has scammers, but with very different ratio compared to nigerians. i know i am not bad…so if there is a good nigerian guy like me, then there are other good nigerian men too…. because of that belief, and because of the high rate of divorce amongst white couples, especially in america, well to do nigerians hardly allow their sons to marry foreign women for fear of divorce. my nigerians and other african country friends, colleges they keep telling me that africans are dangerous, liers, making stories, marrying lots of times, have plenty lovers etc. i don't need a woman for progress in this life, cos i know my potentials. if you so desire your country name,so much, marry a man of your coutry, who don't have issue with it3. i prefer the nigerian man because of the solid roots and no compromising. we broke many of the rules listed in this article (not recommended if you cannot easily see through bull***t, lol). and gender equality are good practices, but dear single and married ladies, please don't let that man-made laws and policies destroy your life's happiness because not all man-made laws bring happiness when you follow them. 3 years ago from l island@nicole, nigerian people of nowadays are becoming more enlightened than before. it is a stain on the woman as well as cause economic downturn as well. a man is financially buoyant and handsome, it is not always easy for him to find the right partner unlike women who only need one thing- good looks and character to find the right man. i met a nigerian man in a dating site 3 years ago. because sometime nigerian men could be clever made it look real mature and professional but they do copy another nigrian guys. i don't know about the ibos being linked to jews but i do know that they are true nigerian men. you truly have interest in nigerian men, and you want to marry or date a nigerian man, search for those living comfortably in nigeria or abroad with the above qualities (good education, good family background, legal residence, etc, etc). am an igbo guy, and am married to a white too, it doesn't matter our tribe in nigeria, cos in one way or the other, is similar. in this very write-up, i am not going to answer those questions, but i will indirectly give clues on how to manage such situations, meanwhile, if you truly want to learn more or find answers to the above questions, then you must find time to go through some of my relationship articles, by navigating through my profile. as to your question, yes i am still married and have been married to the same african-american great lady since december 5, 1970. he is the best man i have ever met in my life. don't know what to think about it for now (part of me is scared) but in he shows to be a gentleman in all he is doingi would like to add that he is 41,educated and very handsome. remember, nigerian men aren't european or american men who are feminist out to crown a woman while crying silently in pains. everyonei'm doing well thank you for asking notactix, i've read all above comments and all i can say is, is that please everyone stop making excuses for these scammers, these young men will do absolutely anything to convince you that they are 'real men' and love you, care for you, loyal, and etc, these are the things they want you too hear and to believe them, trust me it's not true, they are only with you because they think because your white and a foreginer you can provide for them, doesn't matter how old you are, how small or big of a woman you are, how attractive or not so attractive you are but they will keep telling you those lovely words you have been longing to hear, they will work on your insecurities and make you feel secure so you can trust them with their whole life and make you fall in love with them, once they have mastered that bit, that's when they start testing you, that's when they start giving you excuses, that's when they beg for money off you they will use every excuse in the book to make you want to believe them, but don't.’m married to a malian man now we’ve been together now 8 years we have two children., i had to respond… i agree with so many of your points. we broke up and he get married with some girl from his country right away. you please share your insight thoughts and everyone: you are welcome to comment and advise - as i am completely unsure, worried and confused (comments from here in germany, i have no nigerian friends and what i experience in the "relationship"). is no 'template' that a demographic in society fits into, two different nigerians from the same tribe are inherently different.@ weary and any other lady who would like a feminine take on the issue of marrying a nigerian man, please don't be so afraid of whether he can marry you. my question: is it normal for a nigerian man to dote on a woman, discuss marriage and then not have contact for months :/ but still expect marriage? was deported by immigration for over staying and we are still together trying to get married but my divorce still isn't final and i asked him to get an arranged marriage and he declined. before you give your heart to a complete stranger, try to ‘’google search’’ all emails and love letters you’re getting from him, most likely, they have been used many times before, on others. 2 years ago i am dating an ibo in south africa , he has a permit and he is running his business which is growing , for the first time i feel loved , he respects me , and treats me like a queen , he calls me obi’m or nne’m, he's proposed and wants to meet my family , he has also introduced me to his brothers this side and they also respect me , his sisters are married and living in nigeria and i also talk with them, he also wants me to visit his father in nigeria ! a ghana man it was the beginning of a horrible nightmare he cheated put me down and call me when he needed a favor i was good for that at the beginning of the relationship he was so good call all the time and go our but soon another girl come around he would pick a fight and when he was done with her then he was my friend again. all human forms need a social balance in their life to a degree and life cannot be one big party to a whole tribe of men.?Jordann scott 2 years ago from hanover park, illinoishi i'm jordann and i have a question ok so i'm american and i made friends with an ibo man and i never got any impression that he was using me or anything like that we have been friends for a few months now and he's really the best person i have in my life right now and were both attracted to each other but we want to keep it safe so he says in time god will tell us if were meant to be or not until then we can continue to be friends my question is with a guy like this what are good questions to see if he's using me for something or if he is truly interested in me.?Jordann scott 2 years ago from hanover park, illinoishi i'm jordann and i have a question ok so i'm american and i made friends with an ibo man and i never got any impression that he was using me or anything like that we have been friends for a few months now and he's really the best person i have in my life right now and were both attracted to each other but we want to keep it safe so he says in time god will tell us if were meant to be or not until then we can continue to be friends my question is with a guy like this what are good questions to see if he's using me for something or if he is truly interested in me..and this is one major problem most home-based nigerian guys do have with nigerian girls- demand for money. first, let me start with this:nigerian civil war ended in 1969 and there can never be another civil war in nigeria, you know why? run a corporate firm and because of ridiculous notions like this my hr personnel do not look at nigerian applicants more than once cuz they assume everything on that resume is a lie no matter the experience. i have never met a man so kind in my entire life. my life from childhood until date i have always wished hoped and prayed to get married to an african american and the dream hasn’t gone off yet because i believe in african women in general (black women) especially hardworking and god fearing african american women. the west african man will portray himself as being the best husband , the most caring to authorities, but , the key is asking about his history of abuse , assaults , violence , to women and children in the past. ibo man could be heartless sometime while yoruba man could be reasonable in his actions(am just being honest)good luck. my nigerian friends here tell me to be patient especially the older ones and he is 15 yrs older than me, i am grown not going to give exacts but over 25. i am just a midwest woman who loves her native men, but they never stay with me long enough for marriage…they always move on. there is more hearth broken in nigeria than western country from nigerians. because they know if they fuck with a white woman and she finds out she will blast their ass on national television and call ins on their ass. (she apparently wants to meet me)he's said he'd love it if this sister with the kids could come to our wedding & asked but since she gave birth a couple of months ago, we aren't sure if she will manage. it is easier for a lady to find the right partner than for a man. i also mentioned religion which plays vital role in the lifes of all nigerians- educated or not, belief affects every man. right now, i’m dating a congolese man…those are a handsome group of men. hausa man: the hausas are pleasantly simple in their ways and can still be peaceful even with their religion. nigerian man is for real because the fake ones will be all over you to marry them (though not in all cases). i must add, he doesn't want to marry a nigerian woman cause they are demanding in terms of money. men from other nationalities are so awesome and innocent than their nigerian counterpart, why do we have high rate of divorce and unhappy couples in the west? when fairly young nigerian man gets romantically involved with much older and not so attractive western lady, there’s a very slim chance that his love is genuine. yoruba man: i noticed that you had a lot to write about the ibos and not as much to write about the hausas and yorubas. lady has had a traumatic encounter with her man of choice. never tell ibo man how to treat his mother, he already knows, just listen and support anything he says about his mother, even if she is dead, don't be surprise, the love will still be there. thanks to google, i searched his name and discovered the he was happily married with 4 children in africa. 3 years ago hi accofranco,i like to saying appreciate for show all ladies and men read your blogs for reasons about nigerian cultures. i will go on to say this, the person i am talking about i have spoken too, she will very well know who i am, and this person knew about what he does and knew that he was with not just her, but many other woman out there. scott 2 years ago from hanover park, illinoisi'm currently friends with an ibo man and he told me all about his life he's christian has strong faith we both have prayer sessions and bible study all on the phone cause he lives in ghana we met on a christian friend chat sight and he kets me into his life hes let me talk on the phone to his friends and tells me about his family but were both attracted to each other we both know it but at the same time he says attraction is common between a man and a woman he always tells me how he feels i just need to know if its real but i don't want to just be rude and ask are you just talking to me for money or sex or something like that because that's not cool plus i really believe he's a good guy i just don't know what safety questions to ask any help?.you might have a strong minority predisposed to excessive leisurely activities but it would be wrong to have your main description of a whole tribe of men as "if you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend" and "yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc". met this nigerian almost a year ago when he came to my country as a volunteer researcher.. something is seriously wrong with her, she’s a smart and attractive woman, but no man have claimed her until matt. isn't fair and that's why as a nigerian, we all must stand for the truth and start making a difference, and start making people understand that we aren't as bad as they see us. im in need of help, im a 23 year old us black girl and i have met a nigerian man online. all married white and parades them in public like a trophy wife. may god send that man that will make you forget your past soon your way. article was not written to destroy the good image of nigerians! 3 years ago hi accofranco, i recently met a nigerian man (he actually work as marine) and i have some questions. the goal is to ruin the woman and claim every asset she owns, including her personal car, which is a source of pain for the west afticsn man. however, if we as humans invest so much studying, running and managing a business., i can see that so many foreign ladies are interested in nigerian guys, so to help them out, i will be willing to assist foreign ladies looking for real nigerian men with love to offer. let's honest i have been dating to nigerian guy for few years but off and on again. he told me because he is muslim, and also a nigerian man its either single or married. i took time to explain this in my book titled- "before you marry your nigerian man" published on amazon kindle store and on lulu. 3 years ago hi, i'm in need of help, i'm talking with a nigerian man. but one thing i want you all to understand is this: i am a nigerian guy and i wrote this article and even went as far as writing a book about it without being biased or skewed like you mentioned. when you get married the same will be true, especially when you start meeting you in-laws and they lavish you with love and kindness, which was my experience. thing is, if you do your home work well and marry a good and hard working nigerian man, you will be singing praises everyday. recently, i think i may have forced him to really think about what it means to be an american woman. in fact the vast majority if divorced woman experience a drastic drop in their living standards. we've got married in beginning of august 2013, he paid all expenses, bride price etc. met a 32 yo edo man online, we chatted offline quickly (my choice) i felt an ease & chemistry between us that came naturally. 2 years ago hello francoi have been dating an igbo man for almost a year, his loving, caring and very smart but i have noticed that he has a temper even thou his never shown me that side! and if you did read the article well, you will find out that it didn't just talk ill about igbo or nigerians as a whole, but it did tried to enlighten the western women on what to do and what not to do when dating a nigerian, and of course how to get the best out of a nigerian man. my pride and dignity wouldn’t allow me to bend that low, for no man. wrote the book after years of helping foreign ladies fix their relationships and after helping to guide foreign ladies to make the best choice when befriending nigerian men. don’t travel out of your country to any other country to see any man yet until we talk. i didn't have anyone to help me, i didn't have a friend to say to me hey check this page out about nigerians or any other nationality, i have been dealing with this all on my own. how do you expect a ceo to come back to her home and allow a man speak to her as though she is a doormat. i’ve dated a mauritanian man who was a con artist. and he told me he was not going to support me and we were married what the fuck. sometimes he looks for me as a wild bush man. or will i say most of the storylines are ancient; things that happened so many years ago or things that never happened but imagined and acted to captivate the audience to make money and fame. want to believe if these foreign ladies see their nigerian men as the head of the family and give them the due respect many marriages will work out well. 2 years ago @accofrancoi thought i found my nigerian man a few years back, my friend warned me to be careful of him, but i didn't listen, i meet him through a mutual friend online, we started talking online, then msgs and skype, he was telling me that he loved me and he invited me to go visit him where he is living, 6 months later i went, was i scared no! 2 years ago hello accofranco,i read some of your message and i am very disappointed with your comment here and how you are degrading black women especially nigerian girls back home. i am crazy about this man and he claims to love me but am not so sure, its only been a few months(2) that we started seeing each other and we haven't had sex yet even though that's seems to drive him even more, i can't sleep with him cause am not ready to go that route and he thinks i might be sleeping with some1 else. wont say much but my advice is that if a nigerian man really loves you and wants to be with you. please naija men should have some accountability for once, the woman must do xyz and b to keep them, aren't you all men. before you do, try and get a copy of my book titled: “before you marry your nigerian man”. nigerian 2 years ago dear author,i just read some of your replies, and found that you are a nigerian man. first son is even worse, is a must that they married from home. you decide to marry him, don't be surprise to find out later that he had a child with another woman somewhere just to have his own biological child, especially a son (in igbo culture, male children and kind of respected more because it is believed that the male child in the one that will continue a man's lineage after the man dies..have opened a personal blog just to enlighten foreign women, but over the years of my involvement in this issue of helping foreign women avoid scam online romance, i have also noticed that most foreign ladies who get scammed by unscrupulous nigerian guys aren't all that innocent on their own side, how? but in this situation, when we marry a foreign lady and then we start to approach the age of 60 - 70 years and want to go back home to nigeria to live probably permanently, only to be visiting foreign countries on vacations, the foreign ladies always object to this, and in most cases, they took away the children we had with them and take them back to their country, and the nigerian man ends up childless at old age with no one to bear or continue his lineage. i know his job is very demanding, and i am a very loyal person so regardless of which direction our relationship goes i don't want him to be disappointed because he's great man., porsha, kenya; have all been involved with rich african married men. it was a nigerian women that raised you up when your father wasn't always around. is not just a practice common to nigerian men alone, americans, english, canadians, germans, russians, chinese, malaysians, indians, etc practice this in different degrees and for different purposes which usually revolve around financial wealth, fame, success, political power, career growth and the likes. made this point because some nigerian men you see in your country are already married to a nigerian lady here in nigeria before they set out to travel abroad to look for a greener pasture. he wants to marry a white woman, and that would be me, since he met me and chose me over an australian woman he had also met online.

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please keep writing and shedding light on intelligence, grace and how beautiful the soul is of a well-intentioned nigerian man and the happiness the permeates from it. the same precautions you take in dating a caucasian or asian is the same you take with nigerian men. i was ignorant enough not to assert my self that the first thing nigerians in a foreign land will do is to ensure thst their immigration status is sorted before anything and trust me that they will do anything to acquire this. have the ear of many older non-nigerian women who talk of affairs, baby making and general lonliness they and others have encountered throughout their marriage. ladies used to be very virtuous, but nowadays, many have copied the western lifestyle so wrongly such that it is now affecting their way of life so negatively. youths are not ready to fight another war…and nigerians have really integrated so much that it will be impossible for us to have another civil war. isn't feeling man enough to come back to the states to live with you when he has nothing tangible earning him good steady income..first of all, i am not desperate, and never am i jealous of this woman who is twice my age and my ex's age. she’s a grown woman and can do as she pleases with her pussy. at least if he wants another woman he will marry her not multiple concubines at the same time. know at least 3 different guys who met their wives via the internet and finally they met and dated and got married and are still growing stronger in love as days roll by. want to treat you like a true queen that any real woman deserves. stand in love and ensure your love in not blind so that you're able to see what you're getting yourself into- whether with a black, white or asian man., to all ladies reading this- there are bad men everywhere- nigerian, american, english, german, italian, french, canadian, etc. had a togo africa man pretending to be in love with me wanting to get married and have children after only a few days i caught on rtf away and to him i knew what he was up to he insisted that i was wrong about him but i’m no fool ! you have interest or know a friend who needs an honest nigerian guy to date and marry, then let me know, i will get you hooked genuinely for free! they are good in taking care of their woman, but they are prone to infidelity if they are financially buoyant or rich. she doesn't care about the fact that the nigerian guy she is dating was with other woman whilst with her and yet she knew that he was dating them all at once, so to that woman who thinks he loves her, arranged tickets and hotel arrangements for her and anything else, it's all part of his job districption, to scam her aswell. 2 years ago hello francoi have been dating an igbo man for almost a year, his loving, caring and very smart but i have noticed that he has a temper even thou his never shown me that side! dating a nigerian in your own country you simply wont feel the cultural difference so much. they love for the woman to eat healthy and keep herself looking good. just come here to advertise their scam romance, others come here to attack me. are indeed a good woman with a heart of gold, remain richly blessed, and thanks for stopping by. but one thing i want you all to understand is this: i am a nigerian guy and i wrote this article and even went as far as writing a book about it without being biased or skewed like you mentioned. an ibo man loves business, trade and anything that will make him to be in constant contact with money. i cannot believe that any of you seemingly educated women did not have the foresight to be cautious with your hearts (whatever the race of man you got involved with). due to having dated a nigerian man previously, i was immediately urged to find out all that i could about him. it is this trait that earned ibos criticisms from other nigerian tribes, because in whatever they are doing, they are always conscious of what they would gain financially. so i can't live with this kind of person, who hided from me lots of secrets, still how many of them remaining only god knows., you're so naïve by saying that the best way to have a yoruba man heart is to take him to parties. matter of fact, he was fueding on ig yesterday with a woman who threw his clothes over her balcony. there have been too many broken relationships due to tribalism yet you will find some of these tribalist accepting a non-nigerian due to tribal prejudice. as a nigerians, we never deserve to be suffering like this. though you may have skewed observations since you are a man afterall! therefore, if you truly want a lasting, genuine relationship or marriage with a nigerian man abroad, make sure he is a legal resident with good means of livelihood. play on weak women emotionally i must admit i fall into single women category because i am educated,good looking enough,intelligent and smart,financially capable but i still crave strong moral correctly african man,hardworking,intelligent and confident who will respect me as woman and life partner in turn am absolutely ready to compromise and be a housewife putting the need of my partner at hands in african tradition way but i have ended up with scammers both times so i don't hold any hope at all,am in my early 30's,it's important women share these stories to warn others,am so ashamed from an african perspective these guys are all intelligent why chose a life of using their bodies to finance life in europe i have lived here worked hard to invest back home why can't they use their brain to achieve their goals,why can't they use their smartness for good use instead of scamming vurnalable women very heartless and cruel, i believe god doesn't allow these people to enjoy their life in harmony, i don't understand it like this last guy we are literally compartible in many ways but he chose to throw away a good woman whom worshipped the ground he walks in for uncessary greediness and disrespectful behaviour he has no family here in europe apart from the child whom he i don't think he cares about. but in this situation, when we marry a foreign lady and then we start to approach the age of 60 - 70 years and want to go back home to nigeria to live probably permanently, only to be visiting foreign countries on vacations, the foreign ladies always object to this, and in most cases, they took away the children we had with them and take them back to their country, and the nigerian man ends up childless at old age with no one to bear or continue his lineage. bross,just forget about nigerians man is this or that. the ibos paid less attention to western education during colonialism, but after the civil war which ended in 1969, the ibos diversified their interest to include western education, business, and for this reasons and more, they began to migrate within and across the nigerian borders, which is the single reason why in every 10 nigerians you see in a foreign nation, 4 is ibo. the same precautions you take in dating a caucasian or asian is the same you take with nigerian men. tears 4 years ago i am so scared of marrige and then to add a yoruba man to the equation,all the things you are saying i have said to him,about marring a lady of his own ppl which he has asured me that he has no desire for them-but i just can't believe that, that is all you have been around and out of all my sisters there is not one that you will marry? i am ghanaian man, and yes some of my brothers are not decent in their approach to life, and some are wreck-less with their treatment of women. when we first married he was a dream come true for me, loving and very caring.’m with the ones who stand their frowns on all that, too many sexual diseases to spread around. wants to come to live in germany as i actually cannot go to nigeria - but as he didn't finish his studies to a master level (has a nigerian bs), he doesn't get a job here if he has not at least a ms level passed so he is back at university (at age of 35) since 2 months and tries to complete his education first. 19 months ago a friend of mind found an nigerian man online he told her to come so they can get married in the palace she believed him and went not herd anything from her since is this normal the guy in in is 30 and she is in 50 could this be real she would be the queen please help. want to remind you, that i have been where these ladies have been, when dating a nigerian man and i hope and pray that they don't fall into a trap and can't get out. fact, let me tell you something about most nigerian guys, mainly the ones that grew up in nigeria before leaving for abroad, they usually believe that most women are after a man's money and financial status, so they always respect a woman who isn't so interested or nervous about money. then 12 years later, i met a man from the drc, like nigeria, he was a good deal older than me but by me being older and a little bit wiser to the game, i went in with my eyes wide open. instead of her to make sure there is hot meal waiting for him on the table with warm water in the bucket for him to take shower, most nigerian women does back home. he didn’t tell me until six months after i had his child that he had not only been married once but twice and had an additional two children from his first marriage.@weary, one thing we the nigerian men have learned from history is the fact that when we (nigerians) marry foreign (white) ladies with all our heart in the hope of staying with them forever, they have a different plan all together.'s all i have to say, nigerian men are not the only men. i had a good relationship with his sister and frtom our many lengthy conversations, i started putting things in order..have opened a personal blog just to enlighten foreign women, but over the years of my involvement in this issue of helping foreign women avoid scam online romance, i have also noticed that most foreign ladies who get scammed by unscrupulous nigerian guys aren't all that innocent on their own side, how? is important to mention to ladies -foreign or not- that you cannot base your judgements about your relationships on recommendations made on the internet as we humans are predisposed to favoritism whether intentional or not. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign ladies leaves tomorrow, cos she most leave or refuse to go back to nigeria with the husband to live permanently like citizens. necessarily that all nigerian guys are bad, please feel free with him and don't let this write-up mar your chances of connecting with a man that truly loves you. i found them sometimes more likely to open their doors to other nigerian tribes. you guys are starting to come up short on women really being interested because you are none to be extremely demanding and lazy in relationships. 20 months ago i have been talking with a yoruba man for a couple of months via skype n phone. 3 years ago my friend met a nigerian guy age 24 in malaysia two years ago, she’s 40 years old, asian and had recently gone through a bad divorced . story is long at this point but basically after many fears they submitted an application. i was living in nigeria before i moved to england, one of my class mate was telling me how his brother got married to a korean woman and brought her back home so that they will live together, of course, there were cultural differences she couldn't cope with. and it makes me angry that someone like her posts about how she found her nigerian man online, and knew about me and other women.. i am so glad and i thank god i came across this page, bcoz i finally saw this particular person on here seeking advice from you frank, and it makes me angry that she is seeking advice and help from you, when she very well knew what kind of a man he is, and she is still with him and i know this for a fact! western countries and high divorce rate, you and i don't need a suitsayer to tell us that there is absolutely high rate of divorce in the western countries like- uk, usa, australia, canada, germany, etc, and it is as a result of some government policies that over-empowered women to the detriment of traditional values that favour family stability and peace that ancient people enjoyed. i didn't write this article and the books i have written on this topic to paint nigerian men evil, of which i happen to be one of them. so when you meet a nigerian man, find out his tribe..as for every other women out there, who is a forgeiner aboard, who are dating these young/younger nigerian men from malaysia, thailand, nigeria, arab and any other place in this world. met this nigerian almost a year ago when he came to my country as a volunteer researcher. this can be true of many foreign men but i know more western men get involved in this process. if choosing an african man to share your heart as a foreigner, explore countries like senegal or the gambia. my sister's friend, her mum is white her dad an igbo man, according to her, in her own words, she said her mum is the most racist white woman she has ever seen. you really love someone and fear god ,and won’t like seeing your sister or daughter misused /treated badly,this will make you as a real man to be conscious about treating a woman badly and a fellow black woman for that matter again. only wanted to help foreign women sport the bad nigerian guys when they are coming and stay away from them. i have some british and american men here, i mean white guys married happily to nigerian women. can you tell me, typically, how nigerian parents would handle the idea of a white daughter-in-law, even if she is so completely devoted to their son, such as myself? i know how to go through life without a man, love myself and be confident and beautiful. you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend. also made some good points, but it is not entirely true that nigerian culture allows men to marry more than one wife, i think, it is more of a religious belief than cultural. they commit violent acts and project it to the woman..i am african american the man i am dating is isoko. an ibo man always carry in mind his monetary gain or benefit in whatever thing he does in life- be it business, education, relationship, etc. he is aware that i feel like two can play that game and i will see other men openly and not hide it as i am not married to anyone. i have been cinversating with both an igbo and a yoruba man. yes, our men need to embrace the changes in family and romance. knows too well that all men- american, arab, asian, australian, africa, british, indian, carribean, jamaican, filipino, jewish, german, just name it, love and wish to date and marry a physically attractive woman! in my personal opinion and experience, a good nigerian man makes the most responsible and loving of partners. why must in every foreign country, ladies old and fat thinks, nigerian guys owes them marriage, after wasting their youth, with their race that failed them. that you guys will live happily even after marrying for 20 years, that's my pray for you and your man..no matter how difficult things might be for an ibo man, he doesn't let go his pride. sometimes it difficult judge to nigerian person and personal's background are different type of ethics group. for instance, when a typical nigerian couple is going through marital crises, they would hardly ever throw in the towel like it is generally done in the western countries. i have been cinversating with both an igbo and a yoruba man. i agree with all the writer has to say about nigerian men and their cultures, their beliefs and traditions.@shelvy, yes, i know that innocent nigerians are paying the prize of the evil some bad nigerians are doing, that's life. nigeria must be rid off all manner of evil people; so if it entails telling the unimaginable truth, i will! at the time i thought this was because his friend, who is also nigerian was interested in me. if you so desire your country name,so much, marry a man of your coutry, who don't have issue with it3. 2 years ago accorfranco , i was browsing the net to search articles about nigerian culture when i stumble your blog, i desperately need advise ..It’s easy money to have a younger attractive woman on their arms. i will never date, marry, or entertain an african man , no thank you 🙂. 3 years ago am a south african woman dating a stubborn ibo man who has this idea that he is king and should be treated as 1, am very traditional and so is he and that on its on is a problem, am strong willed. because every nigerian of today is afraid of going into another war…. you want a yoruba man to have you at heart, always take him to parties, and if possible, organize parties for him often, and you’re his best friend.'m an african american who has been married to my nigerian (edo) husband for 3 years (we've been 2gether for 5 years). i prefer the nigerian man because of the solid roots and no compromising. i think igbo people are the reason why nigeria men have a bad name on non african woman.. so my advice to any other woman out there, please, please i beg of you, my story is real, please be very careful when dating a nigerian man, if he is scamming, then you know he still is, don't believe him bcoz he will charm you to make you believe that he is loyal to you, any sign of gut instinct telling you something isn't quiet right, then please listen to it, never follow your heart, bcoz even our hearts sometimes can't distinguish the two. at the time i thought this was because his friend, who is also nigerian was interested in me. however, the only issue is his mother who is so involved - it is like she wants to manage our relationship, making bad comments when she is not even a decent person to say so. 4 years ago from l islandhello @elikem, if you did read this write-up thoroughly, you ought to have noticed that i didn't say all nigerians are bad, of course i can't say such because i am also a nigerian, proud nigerian, so i see no reason to castigate my own country people. i am convinced many are learning because i do get positive mails. i gave birth to our child, he brought one oldwoman at home, he introduced her as her colleague , to find out later on that she was his girlfriend, i let it pass because he said she was just a fling. i must say that i am of african origin but i am not nigerian. thing, are you now jealous of that other woman, she is still with your mutual lover and doesn’t care about your warnings - so you’re calling her desperate? you must learn to manage and control your anger and irritation when with him. most of these romance stories begin online by meeting a handsome mid-aged white man, he is widowed or divorced and very rich. i can say is this; on behalf of all the nigerian guys that have wronged you and made you feel that we nigerian guys are evil, please for the sake of god and humanity, forgive them all. is even hard for an ibo rich woman to get married, cos we don't need her money or anything but we doubt their respect, if we get to marry them. but in this situation, when we marry a foreign lady and then we start to approach the age of 60 - 70 years and want to go back home to nigeria to live probably permanently, only to be visiting foreign countries on vacations, the foreign ladies always object to this, and in most cases, they took away the children we had with them and take them back to their country, and the nigerian man ends up childless at old age with no one to bear or continue his lineage..words have power and believe me when this nigerian men hear this. here's the situation: i'm a canadian, and i've had a long distance relationship with a yoruba man for almost a year, on and off. some unscrupulous and unworthy nigerians have gone so far in painting nigeria evil in the sight of foreigners, but i still want to assure you all that there are plenty, i mean numerous number of good nigerians out there..i wish you guys a long lasting, happy marital life- such good news are what i enjoy reading than sad news of how a nigerian guy maltreated or dumped a white lady after she helped him..yes i thank god, that i am nowhere near like that story coz i heard about that story you mentioned, poor woman and my condolences to her family, yes i thank god every single day of my life, that i didn't let it go as far as any other woman has. only wanted to help foreign women sport the bad nigerian guys when they are coming and stay away from them. express that "ibos are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy". his mom was getting on him about being single for 3 1/2 years and told him he needed to be married and settled by the time he turned 35, he then told her women are expensive and for her to choose his wife & it took her 3 weeks before coming up to me telling me about her son. 4 years ago hi im dating a wonderful ibo nigerian guywe are in love we would love to get married he has never asked me money he has always told me to save money i feel so down becouse i would love him to join me in uk and try to look for a job for him. i have tried approaching this as a nigerian who grew up in a diverse nigerian-uk community where we were all happy as children and now as adults relating in love and kiinship., let me use this opportunity to point out here that i am a nigerian guy myself, born and raised in nigeria, and still living in nigeria.@confused07 it saddens me to say that a good number of nigerians in sa are into illegal activities and will never be a true representation of nigerians. honest take is if you love him enough to marry him, then pay special attention to learning the african culture (respect, morality, family values) if you can, make nigerian friends and research as well. i married a lying, cheating african guy but not anymore. it means that nigerians who practices polygamy are the muslims, while it is not allowed in the christian regions. express that "ibos are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy".

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there are scammers all around the world, but somehow, nigerian boys just mastered it. 3 years ago i met a nigerian online months ago and i wasnt quite sure if i wanted to even have a conversation. there are loads of honest nigerian men out there doing just fine and distant themselves from the shenanigans portrayed by the hoodlums. run a corporate firm and because of ridiculous notions like this my hr personnel do not look at nigerian applicants more than once cuz they assume everything on that resume is a lie no matter the experience. hi anonymous, good to see you’re doing fine, i wish every other girl, that got tricked and sucked into this type of romance ordeal, has learned something useful by now, i also hope that your older ‘’friend’’ you mentioned here has learned her lesson too. i grew up around a strong igbo community in the uk and i have so many ibo friends who are more like sisters and brothers to me; even with this i have to be fair and say the the big yoruba community were not just about partying. i am 24 and have met a nigerian man (yarouba tribe).. we want to get married but the rules and regulations of the uk are too much for us to be able to do..he stayed with me until his visa expired he returned to nigeria so i travelled over there to get married. then all of a sudden i heard he was either married or engaged. i am talking about some nigerian men who didn’t have a formal education..ladies, i advice you plz take note and think of me, and any other woman out there who have been through similar stories like myself. i have made a list of all the appropriate questions and will be learning more about this man before the night is over. i am married to a ghanaian 11 yrs now, we have 2 kids, 1 biologically his. the acts of assault , arrest , perpetrated on the woman and the children who reside with him. i have been contact my friends who from nigerians too because i went their church and whole of nigerian people are friendly and carings. i take this very serious cuz i am a woman and this is a battle we are still fighting in the western world . stop listening to the white man who peddle this rumour that white woman are looking for black men to bed, black men only pick up ugly fat white women. but i need your cooperation…i need you to stop thinking that all nigerian men are bad…i wrote this article…and i am also a nigerian man…. thing is, if you do your home work well and marry a good and hard working nigerian man, you will be singing praises everyday. i am 45 year old indian woman with a great career n education n very much in love with my igbo 36 year old man. as an ibo man, we think about wealth and money and good family life almost round the clock and we work hard for it, sometimes, we want to be left alone to think, even though some women think, we are lossing interest or having another affair hail no. i have no problem learning to cook nigerian foods or even his language, but i only know to pass down my christian midwest values, just like his christian nigerian values. there are one million and one good and lovely nigerian men, but its quiet unfortunate that foreign women keep meeting the bad nigerian men. every single nigerian man i have ever met, worked with, seen, heard about, have all cheated on their wives and treat them like dogs..even some unworthy nigerian guys in nigeria are also engaging in romance scam just to satisfy their selfish interest to the detriment of innocent foreign women who committed their heart, body and soul to them in love. actually, in that video clip i blamed the nigerian guy because he cheated on his foreign wife..i know all african men are not the same but the majority of black woman have been taken advantage of. he has started learning german and achieved a pretty good level, given the fact that he only started this 5 months ago and tries to teach me yoruba (my progress is much less convincing). might have been frustrated in life and seeking for a way out, and just faking love to get something from you, and once he gets that, he is off and creates bad name or image that all nigerian men are evil, whereas it is not true. i’ve heard that in many african languages there is no word for love in the exact way that americans use it so they’ll say it knowing its gets us going. logically, you lose trust in all man, including good ones. chris, a lot of nigerians have done so much evil that the world now fear all nigerians (both good and bad), and it is very sad and bad, especially for the good ones, and that was why i wrote this to enlighten foreigners on how best to date or marry a nigerian. guys get initiated into cult organisations in foreign countries for reasons best known to them which i cannot discuss here for many reasons. when i was there with him in ghana after we got married his nana specifically said to him on the phone, not to shame them. i am a conservative woman; i want marriage first before having sex. as the global economy is today, many men aren't ready to marry a woman who has nothing doing and not earning money to take care of her own needs. assure you sister, there are plenty great nigerian guys looking for nice foreign women to commit wholeheartedly to for life. i am white and have been happily married to a nigerian for 30years. will be forever grateful that you took the time to help me in this manner. nigerian men start getting assurance that foreign women are ready to marry them and live/stay with them forever and not going back to their home country with the kids when the nigerian man gets old or dies, believe me, nigerian men will stop marrying a second wife back home after getting married to a foreign woman. woman, whose highly educated and very independed, and am from a good family, i travel a lot and he doesn't understand that and wants me to leave my ways and says he wants to marry me and wants me to go to nigeria!. found out he was cheating with various women here and in nigeria ( as he travelled back and forth for competitions) he ended up getting another woman pregnant and having a child with her. am so sorry to hear this a similar thing happend to me i stuck it out now he has left me gone back to his country to live i have 3 children and 5 grandchildren been married 38 yrs. but then i ask, why then do you want to marry a man you cannot or do not cherish his country and want to live in his country forever with? guys get initiated into cult organisations in foreign countries for reasons best known to them which i cannot discuss here for many reasons. while we have only been dating for a short time he says he wants to be exclusive, but yet there are some signs of possibly another woman. eye-opening book for foreign ladies dating nigerian mendear fans and readers,I want to officially announce to you guys the launch of my eye-opening book titled: "before you marry your nigerian man", which i want to advice and encourage all foreign ladies dating, in a relationship or married to a nigerian man to get a copy. necessarily saying that all nigerian guys are bad of course i am a good nigerian. most indulge in illegal businesses that most good nigerians wouldn't dare. there are very good nigerian men out there, who are responsible, faithful, hardworking and would love to treat their wives like queens, yet they are also the ones who complain there are no good women available. l 3 years ago as a forgive never marry to a nigeria man that doesn't have papers. yoruba man comes from the yoruba tribe, found in the south-western part of nigeria. before you give your heart to a complete stranger, try to ‘’google search’’ all emails and love letters you’re getting from him, most likely, they have been used many times before, on others. a few of your questions, yes, majority of nigerian men care so much about having their own children. i've been through so much with this man and it's hard to let go.. believe me if i wanted too met a man, i am not be noting myself but trust me i have a few lined up already, but i am not looking for a man. the woman always gets the short straw especially once you become a mother, then theres no going back! do i convice this man that am not a "typical" s. don’t get me wrong i know couple of good african men married to african american women and white women treat them like gold. bashorun jide omokore is married to nigerian bank executive, angella ebagua..that should also let you guys know that we still have good nigerians out there, just pray to meet them. 4 years ago from l island@angelina & weary, i am happy to hear the hilarious comments about nigerian men from foreign ladies like you two. asking about ones educational background , religious and personal belief i think is a usual question which every sensible woman asks when looking for a life partner. i would advice any woman from outside africa who would like to make a home with an african man to consider this issue very seriously. oh i forgot to mention he lied about having a green card and therefore is an illegal immigrant as well as left out the fact that he had been married twice not once as he previously told me and has two boys in addition to the one i knew he had with his wife. chris, a lot of nigerians have done so much evil that the world now fear all nigerians (both good and bad), and it is very sad and bad, especially for the good ones, and that was why i wrote this to enlighten foreigners on how best to date or marry a nigerian. when i came to church and meet lots of nigerian people look friendly and very respect. knowing he is still married but his family lives in nigeria and he had to support his kids. we even hardly married other tribes in nigeria, not to talk of inter racial. ibo man of today dislikes polygamy, and he has his immediate family (parents and siblings) at heart, and if you want to win his heart, don’t play with his immediate family..it is truly unworthy guys like him that are tarnishing the image of all nigerian men.. i have always told my friends that i would love to marry an igbo man too, but from your comment above, it seems you as an igbo man are running after foreign ladies..and i also have lots of nigerian guys married to foreign women- american, british, canadian, australian, german, swedish, switz, french, indian, malaysian, chinese, brazilian, philipino, south african, ghanaian, arabians (not many), etc, etc and they all are living happily. he always compare me with nigerian women, like that we are fighting every single day for silly things.@kolanut, there are wonderful nigerians who would make a wonderful husband or wife, but the problem remains that most foreigners chose wrongly. i was very much in love with my partner before we married but find married life very, very difficult. that is woman's work and once you become a mother this is when the cultural difference that you thought was tiny will become a huge gulf. of course one cannot attribute this just to the nigerian nationality but what i do know is that it is a man's world in nigeria..when you find a serious man that shows true concern for you, please don't take him for granted. but i wasn't happy on my wedding day as we got married in nigeria and none of my family were there and i wasn't sure it was the right thing i was doing and none of my family knew i was getting married too they were upset that i had done it behind there back but i felt pressured as my husband begged me. best get an educated african american man from stable family and a regular at the local church. if you had read that book earlier, you would have been more informed and wouldn't to any nigerian man's romance or marriage scam because i revealed a lot in that book which have got me so many haters and hunters too. history has also traced ibo tribe to have an ancestral linkage with the jews, and this can be seen in their ingenuity in so many human activities, especially in trade, craft, local technology, etc. i'm a traditional italian woman, i do not believe in divorce, and i've always wanted the traditional marriage dynamic: woman takes care of the household and children, man provides for the family, and he is the king of his castle. wise man says: ‘’the truth hurt only once, but lies hurt forever’’. yes, he did get his green card after we married & i was worried that i could’ve been a statistic too!, i am happy to read that you have been married to a nigerian man for 30 years, such stories is what i want to be reading and hearing, and not the sad ones. autralia 3 years ago wow i did enjoyed all these stories and thanks to the person that wrote this acticle, well i'm nigerian live in autralia and married to a phillipina lady and we had a beautiful daughter, now to be sincere i love white lady to bit and i can't marry to any black woman inrespective of where she comes from include my nigerian women but the issues with white ladies is , they wanna be the head of the house however there's noway you can do that to a nigerian guy, and they always talk about egual right, sorry bro, in africa, men are the head of the house, so if you white ladies love a nigerian men, then you should learn the culture and be ready to live in nigeria also bc nigeria men love their country. we even hardly married other tribes in nigeria, not to talk of inter racial. 3 years ago from l island''attention @dazy stephens, i have been busy researching your case about planning to marry a nigerian guy you met online, and i think we really need to talk? he love aa women, but when he’s on his phone speaking in his native language i become suspicious that it could be another woman. don’t travel out of your country to any other country to see any man yet until we talk. is important to mention to ladies -foreign or not- that you cannot base your judgements about your relationships on recommendations made on the internet as we humans are predisposed to favoritism whether intentional or not..something was wrong)it sadness me that why would african man sell his body for money? my experience of the whole tribal prejudice 'thing' has been more with nigerians in nigeria, maybe it is just coincidental but that's been my observation. yes, our men need to embrace the changes in family and romance. do believe in nigerian culture all different types of ethnics. i mean, it will be more apparent once you are married.: what you wrote could easily have been written by any american wife regarding an american man. are a many good guys around waiting patiently for you. so nigerian women back home are now second option when it comes to our men having us as a back up plan just in case your golden white women disappoint you, wow. of time if you are an african american woman they uses you guys for green cards and run off. hausa man: the hausas are pleasantly simple in their ways and can still be peaceful even with their religion. one day i found suddenly some documents at home that he has illegal child i mean non marriage child, he didn't tell me anything, hided from me, now i don't trust him at all whatever he says, he had plenty relationship, used to live with different kind of nigerian women, after he disappointed from them, cause they always asks money money and he doesn't like to get marry to them, that's why he was looking for white women as me..words have power and believe me when this nigerian men hear this. 2 years ago hi accofrancoam so grateful i came through your article god bless you in abundance for this it has opened my eyes also thanks to anonymous contributor and noactix,i am currently going through this literally from thursday last week i have broken up with my latest nigerian so called boyfriend who we were planning future together,it's a long story but anyway we are both from similar backgrounds religion wise and family set-up,just from different countries (both africans)am a victim of nigerian scams so far dated two of them both yorubas (tribes has nothing to do with their behaviour)luckily the second one didn't manage to scam me because i already learned my lesson with the first one so had warning signs infront of me to avaoid it(the current ex-bf i just found out he was dating two other white girls scamming them for money i have their numbers i got from his phone after stayed at his place for a couple of weeks to get to know eachother even better,he lives in vienna and i live in uk with british passport however he has a kid with austrian woman i don't understand why he hasn't got citizenship to-date since he has lived there more than 10 years (through marriage)and also found out his nigerian passport has expired so was suspicious of him and his mannerism so i decided to dig deeper i know may be i shouldn't intrude into his privacy but i had no choice since i have 2 kids too which am very protective of,and he has 1 i know of,we are both divorced for different reasons but i from much more good background than his,i was treating him like a king african style still he left me one saturday afternoon to see the white girl and to get some money (i noticed it when we were making . me and our kids ended up homeless because he kicked us out on street moved a hispanic/white woman in after i moved out. the funny part of this, is that most of these white women are married to black men or have mixed race kids with these black men they are blasting about on the internet. l 3 years ago as a foreigner never marry to a nigeria man that doesn't have papers. an african man does not respect a woman, he only sees a thing to have sex with, caring only about his needs and wants. nigerian government and multinational oil companies- shell, mobil, chevron, agip, etc destroyed the niger delta region while carrying out crude oil exploration…and also polluted their waters, such that these people didn’t have any clean water to drink…. imagine what kind of desperation would push a young and beautiful educated woman to do a thing like that! nigeria comprises of so many tribes, but the major tribes or dominant tribes in nigeria are: ibo, hausa, and yoruba. do i find true love, how do i find the right life partner, how do i know that my boyfriend wants me for marriage, how do i know that my boyfriend truly loves me, how do i avoid being used and dumped by a man? he got his green card right after we married two years ago in the states. all human forms need a social balance in their life to a degree and life cannot be one big party to a whole tribe of men.. most are older and married, but now that it’s kenya shecan do what she wants, she’s singe, porsha was single, but she was a whorer. i don't know about the ibos being linked to jews but i do know that they are true nigerian men. i don't know much about other tripes, but 50% of other tripes married for real with woman that is not from their tripes. in my experience with nigerian men in nigeria and abroad, nigerians tend to have different views on asian women and white women, i have to agree a lot of them are after white women for citizenship. i’m african woman and am married to an african. you guys are starting to come up short on women really being interested because you are none to be extremely demanding and lazy in relationships. we found out that on one of his visits back to africa he married an african woman..Elikem 4 years ago am going out with a nigerian guy in my country, and he has shown me he loves me very much. having been brought up in a community of nigerians consisting of all three major nigerian tribes and other minority tribes, i must say that your depiction of men from the three tribes either exaggerates some characteristics or just fails to promote some more obvious endearing characters they all possess. for a woman with more traditional family values like myself. also to the gentleman who commented about precieved lack of american culture…that is a very ignorant statement just because women do not submit…we have our own culture which we have assimilated and adapted to our own. please take a break and invest more in your own personal life and well being, the best man will soon come around okay? sister is married to a ghanian guy, he is a good guy…not romantic but takes care of her totally financially (she has a child from a previous relationship, he has a son in ghana, and they have 2 biological kids together) . of knowing that he was with many other women at the same time doing the same thing, you still love him? are some of my brother's friends that were single, never been married before, that were born in england, grew up in england but yet these men ended up travelling back home to look for wives and yes indeed, they married these nigerian women as a first option and these nigerian girls are well brought up. igbo ladies used to be awesome until recent times; many igbo girls now lack respect for their husband. but you have the guts in comparing nigerian women that are back home that last longer in marriages than your foreign women. wrote this article and others…plus my books not to sabotage my fellow nigerian men, but to help foreign ladies make the best choice…and to also enlighten foreign ladies on how to avoid nigerian men romance scam. (she apparently wants to meet me)he's said he'd love it if this sister with the kids could come to our wedding & asked but since she gave birth a couple of months ago, we aren't sure if she will manage. as dating progressed i find out he was not only married once but twice, had two additional kids instead of just the one he told me about and lied about having his fee card through his previous marriages. some of the european white, pretending to love nigerian and the culture to entice the man into marriage and after that, they will change and start showing how they wish the man should live forever in her country, instead planning how the can invest and visit the husband home country, even though we live in your town, we don't like everything there too, we do miss home, even if is the worst place on earth to you.

Nigerian Men and Relationships – Is it wise to date them?

however, it does cause alot of high emostions expecially for those who have have found love in a nigerian man. through the grapevine, matt found out kenya had been dating a married nigerian man. 2 years ago hi accofrancoam so grateful i came through your article god bless you in abundance for this it has opened my eyes also thanks to anonymous contributor and noactix,i am currently going through this literally from thursday last week i have broken up with my latest nigerian so called boyfriend who we were planning future together,it's a long story but anyway we are both from similar backgrounds religion wise and family set-up,just from different countries (both africans)am a victim of nigerian scams so far dated two of them both yorubas (tribes has nothing to do with their behaviour)luckily the second one didn't manage to scam me because i already learned my lesson with the first one so had warning signs infront of me to avaoid it(the current ex-bf i just found out he was dating two other white girls scamming them for money i have their numbers i got from his phone after stayed at his place for a couple of weeks to get to know eachother even better,he lives in vienna and i live in uk with british passport however he has a kid with austrian woman i don't understand why he hasn't got citizenship to-date since he has lived there more than 10 years (through marriage)and also found out his nigerian passport has expired so was suspicious of him and his mannerism so i decided to dig deeper i know may be i shouldn't intrude into his privacy but i had no choice since i have 2 kids too which am very protective of,and he has 1 i know of,we are both divorced for different reasons but i from much more good background than his,i was treating him like a king african style still he left me one saturday afternoon to see the white girl and to get some money (i noticed it when we were making . the children are removed from the country if they are younger to hurt the woman, because of a feeling of ownership, which is very dangerous. after he started to invite me to nigeria as a guest, then to travel with him to germany. cant be older,fat,uneducated and expect to snare any man be it nigerian.@shelvy, yes, i know that innocent nigerians are paying the prize of the evil some bad nigerians are doing, that's life. moorematt jordanmatt jordan accuses kenya moore of cheating with married nigerian men for moneyreal housewives of atlantarhoa. the woman are usually 50kgs heavier then the men and so fat how the man can even find their vaginal is a mystery. she says he is not married and has no children, and that he showed her documents to support it. and just recently started dating a 31year old igboman, his very religious & traditional when it comes to his believes and am a tradional xhosa woman so there will be a problem there, he claims not to be educated and yet the manner in which he speaks is all intelligence, his very possessive in a way he thinks everyman is after me! he was in a relationship with a nigerian woman, he says that's over and she is seeing another man now, yet she remains on his facebook page as in relationship status,my man wants me to go to nigeria and marry him there. he doesn't talk to the woman or daughter apart from when he decides which is like every few years.ተle axel 2 years ago having gone through all your comments n questions i would just like to droop this word of advise in nigeria almost every person(young man ) you meet is intelligent n warm its somthing natural so dont fall for d wrong ones and finaly i would encourage u all to go for physical dating rather than online ones coz it will do u alot of good.- ways 4 years ago enough of all these shit about nigeria guys all the time, all these ladies complaining, don't they have men, good enough to marry them except nigerians. why must in every foreign country, ladies old and fat thinks, nigerian guys owes them marriage, after wasting their youth, with their race that failed them. his mother pressures him and gets upset with him for not being married yet. she is a highly educated woman and retired as a school principal..Cherry 20 months ago m dating a nigerian man and his yoruba. i have the most wonderful man i have ever known in my life. (she apparently wants to meet me)he's said he'd love it if this sister with the kids could come to our wedding & asked but since she gave birth a couple of months ago, we aren't sure if she will manage. 3 years ago my daughter has been going out with a nigerian. not only romance scam, there are lots and lots of other scamming activities, they became so professional in past few years that they even operate as a syndicate! i was in a relationship with a nigerian man who i shared two beautiful children with. one year ago the guy ask his nigerian friend to ask my friend to bail him because he was jailed because of visa and overstaying in malaysia and for him to go back to nigeria, of course my friend helped him. he found a new nigerian girl of his tribe kicked and asked his sister to look after our kids as he needed to ensure that his girlfriend was not disturbed. i am crazy about this man and he claims to love me but am not so sure, its only been a few months(2) that we started seeing each other and we haven't had sex yet even though that's seems to drive him even more, i can't sleep with him cause am not ready to go that route and he thinks i might be sleeping with some1 else. 4 years ago from l island@weary, one thing we the nigerian men have learned from history is the fact that when we (nigerians) marry foreign (white) ladies with all our heart in the hope of staying with them forever, they have a different plan all together.'' if foreign ladies can start to accept this- going back to nigeria to stay permanently till old age with the nigerian men they are married to, and not desiring to go back to their country to live forever, or refusing the man from taking the children to nigeria to live like citizens, then it will be difficult and a waste of time marrying a foreign lady. please understand 245 years of slavery, not even being allowed to walk on the same pavement as your fellow human being, can you fathom what that was truly like? was marry to a german girl for over 12 years now..in fact, you just nailed the truth- just pray to meet a real nigerian guy that's genuinely interested in you and you will be a happy woman forever because divorce is like a taboo in most nigerian family setting, especially the igbo. 3 years ago i've been engaged to my man for 21 months now. i know for a fact this man had not cheated on me for the whole 2 years. the bottom line of it all is that a typical nigerian man with no hindrances would prefer to come back home to marry a nigerian girl, so if you are non-nigerian and in a relationship with a true nigerian man then shine your eyes well! really regret that i didn't read your book and this site before, im late already, even though just would like tell my story, maybe it will help other foreign women to not make any mistake with nigerians specially with igbos. we've got married in beginning of august 2013, he paid all expenses, bride price etc. now, i don't know if its different in nigerian, but in the us. in igbo culture, a man that cannot father his own child is kind of ridiculed by his mate and peers. they are good in taking care of their woman, but they are prone to infidelity if they are financially buoyant or rich. i married twice, and divorced for two entirely different reasons. are you ready to adapt with the nigerian culture and way of life?, it is good for you to visit the man or woman you wish or plan to marry if both of you are living in different countries.. me and my ex are in our late twenties early thirties, this woman is almost late forties early fifties. but you have the guts in comparing nigerian women that are back home that last longer in marriages than your foreign women. my friends here in germany warn me - and i agree in a lot if not all points . not long ago a foreign woman was killed in south africa while visiting her 20 years younger nigerian lover. anyways back to what happened, so he ended up telling me what he does for a living and that these woman are part of his living. some unscrupulous and unworthy nigerians have gone so far in painting nigeria evil in the sight of foreigners, but i still want to assure you all that there are plenty, i mean numerous number of good nigerians out there. you have interest or know a friend who needs an honest nigerian guy to date and marry, then let me know, i will get you hooked genuinely for free! hausa man: the hausas are pleasantly simple in their ways and can still be peaceful even with their religion. i guess like i said before, he is a master in his profession, he will charm and manipulate u, i was blinded and didn't see it, but then when i asked the lord to help me and guide me, that's when i really opened my eyes. jide omokore is a billionaire oil magnate and holds the position of chairman/ceo of two oil companies, atlantic energy limited and seven energy. i must say i’m married into a very,very, strong valued christian family, and i got what i asked the lord for. is important to mention to ladies -foreign or not- that you cannot base your judgements about your relationships on recommendations made on the internet as we humans are predisposed to favoritism whether intentional or not. menhow to make a man committed and propose for marriageby accofranco11. woman loves to be gentle and soft with her man, it's inherent. short story met a nigerian man here in the us. i don't know about the ibos being linked to jews but i do know that they are true nigerian men. another quote by me: "no man exist without a spiritual image; which maybe positive or negative spirit". we as nigerians need to start seeing each other in a more positive light as unity overcomes a lot. or will i say most of the storylines are ancient; things that happened so many years ago or things that never happened but imagined and acted to captivate the audience to make money and fame. please tell your fellow nigerian single ladies to be nice to nigerian guys and stop being materialistic and pushing nigerian guys to do all sorts of evil things just to make money to fulfill nigerian ladies insatiable needs. 2 years ago hi accofranco, notactix & everyone@accfranco i'm not mad at all with what you said, your blog was about helping and still helping forgein ladies to make the right decision when dating a nigerian man..it takes two to get married and two to divorce. opened this to help foreign women searching for true love to find that love by opening their eyes to the styels, and ways of spotting a scam nigerian man. if you exercise proper caution and utilize positive relationship behaviors (as you would in any endeavor in your life) you can significantly reduce your chance of falling prey to a scam romance and greatly increase your chances of having the relationship of your dreams. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow, cos she must leave or let me say she must reject the idea of going back to nigeria with the husband to live permanently like citizens. but i need your cooperation…i need you to stop thinking that all nigerian men are bad…i wrote this article…and i am also a nigerian man…. 3 years ago i've been engaged to my man for 21 months now. recently began conversing with a nigerian gentleman that i met online, and during our first conversation, he volunteers the information of not being married or having any children. well i discovered he had been talking to another woman for 2 months. 2 years ago yes for those ladies who are looking to date or marry an african man. 19 months ago hi,i met a nigerian guy through my church (i'm british) and we became friends. i'm tired really from this man and his family, it's better to be far from them, i didn't come here to be sick, nervous, i came to be happy. express that "ibos are no doubt the heart and prime movers of the nigerian economy". ibo man originated from the ibo tribe, found in the south-eastern region of nigeria..nigerian women are the ones pushing nigerian men into all manners of crime. one year ago the guy ask his nigerian friend to ask my friend to bail him because he was jailed because of visa and overstaying in malaysia and for him to go back to nigeria, of course my friend helped him. can you tell me, typically, how nigerian parents would handle the idea of a white daughter-in-law, even if she is so completely devoted to their son, such as myself? day this korean wife were quarreling with her black in-laws sisters and guess what she called her in-laws, '' black monkeys'' immediate her nigerian igbo husband came back from work, of course his sisters told their brother what the korean wife called them '' black moneys'' guess what this igbo husband did to his korean wife, i do not support domestic violence. 3 years ago in 2005 i split from a nigerian guy who got sent back home due to visa issues and i met another nigerian when at the time i was a mess drinking and living recklessly i was totally distraught and heartbroken after having two miscarriages with the guy who got sent back, at the time i was 17. 3 years ago i am african america who has been dating a igbo man for a year i am suppose to go to nigeria next year to meet .@superwoman, i am sorry to tell you that it is not real. i married an igbo man before, they are not that, bad, they know how to take care of their woman's, but 1 thing you should know, they almost never married a european or non igbo woman for real, even if you are with them for 10 years, the always go back home, to get married. 4 years ago i live in australia and i'm engaged to a nigerian man. despite everything i have been dealing with, my husband has invited me to come to nigeria many times, but as previously stated our financial situation is not stable and i work and attend school full-time to help support our home, so with that much going on i wouldn't be able to be gone for more than 3 days; and with the amount of money it costs to get a ticket and travel time, it wouldn't be worth it. many of you may break up with your long distance pretend-to-be-boyfriends but something tells me that you are looking for your new love on one of the dating sites again. we have talked about our past lives and relationships and what we expect for our marage we have both been married i have older children and he has a young son who we plan to bring to australia when we marry , we have planed to travel to nigeria when ever we can and to make a loving caring home for both our children he knows he will not have anymore and is content with that ..even some unworthy nigerian guys in nigeria are also engaging in romance scam just to satisfy their selfish interest to the detriment of innocent foreign women who committed their heart, body and soul to them in love..Suite 5 months ago i don't agree with you by saying a nigerian will prefer go home to find a wife,maybe 15 ,20 years ago not anymore..i am in love with a beautiful ghanaian man who lives in accra, he’s a footballer. give you a basic understanding of the nigerian man, i will classify them in three, based on the three major tribes- ibo, yoruba, and hausa. my nigerians and other african country friends, colleges they keep telling me that africans are dangerous, liers, making stories, marrying lots of times, have plenty lovers etc. vikki i was married 38 years to a ghanian man had 3 children and 5 grandchildren he took his redundancy this year built a house and went there to live if there is anything you want to ask email me chrisfrempong@yahoo. 2 years ago hi accofranco,as you know i'm not racist, i have dated a nigerian man, the topic is about helping these women to realize these men are scammers, they will move heaven and earth to gain what they want. he's a frank + reserved and hard working man based in qatar and i'm a talkative, college student from southern africa. our women are looking elsewhere, too many complaints from foreign women but y'all keep putting out what a woman can do to keep you. 3 years ago iam dating a nigerian guy and he wants me to visit him and meet his parents in nigeria and also as an assurance that he is not married back home. you will feel a knife ct through your entire marriage as you start to realise that actually you have married someone from a cukture which is completely different from a western one. there are one million and one good and lovely nigerian men, but its quiet unfortunate that foreign women keep meeting the bad nigerian men. i understand it can be challenging identifying those signs when dating a man who is in the relationship for a green card because they will pour on the charm. i have been contact my friends who from nigerians too because i went their church and whole of nigerian people are friendly and carings. and i hope you, franc and myself can inspire other women out there, to really think twice before dating, marrying or getting involved with a nigerian or any other nationality. they are polygamous in nature, and it is also traditional for a hausa man to marry more than one wife, if he so desires. i must add, he doesn't want to marry a nigerian woman cause they are demanding in terms of money. you want to define a nigerian man, you must first identify his tribal origin, whether he is ibo, yoruba or hausa. 3 years ago so you think that a nigerian after relationship with a non nigerian woman can come back and stay with a nigerian woman that doesnt wash hair/wig, is too laud and fat? am an african american woman who is married to a ghanaian man. for a woman with more traditional family values like myself. he is good in manipulating and charming his way through everything, he is a master in his profession, but i noticed it later on and he knew that he couldn't charm me and manipulate me anymore. my experience of the whole tribal prejudice 'thing' has been more with nigerians in nigeria, maybe it is just coincidental but that's been my observation. everytime kenya says something about anyone, it’s all the god’s honest truth but now her square ass is being accused of being a paid escort for a married man. if you are not, then you really need to think twice about it because a man's religious belief matters so much in defining who he will be in future. am glad you are having a memorable relationship with a nigerian man. i’ve dated a mauritanian man who was a con artist. it comes down to common sense and being honest with yourself when analyzing that special someone's mannerisms. i have written so many books, though yet to be published, about this issue..z yes this is just my experience but let me tell you in lagos i am surrounded by married couples, older ones, who literally look like they hate the sight of each other.. i am committed with a nigerian man for four months that why id search a blog or reading about his country, and helps me to catch up easy his tradition and understand more his attitude,we're not talking offen because of our complicated schedule of work but we make a day to be together. that is woman's work and once you become a mother this is when the cultural difference that you thought was tiny will become a huge gulf. article was not written to destroy the good image of nigerians! it's not fair and it's really heart breaking and you are the first igbo man i've heard say something of this nature. i am 24 and have met a nigerian man (yarouba tribe). honest we have been in love for long time and we've been wanted to get married for long time but still doubt about it. 2 years ago hithanks for all the advice given on this page and i would like to really commend you for sacrificing a lot to make sure everyone gets an answer to her questioni met a yoruba man a few months back and it coincidentally happened that after meeting him a few weeks online,i went to nigeria for a church conference. they don't like a woman who isn't submissive or one who wants to overshadow and control her husband because in our tradition, it is a bad omen and such a man that allows his wife to control and dominate him is regarded as effeminate man. again, thanks for stopping by to contribute, wishing you a blissful marital life with your nigerian husband. so when dealing with an ibo man, make sure you don’t play with his wallet; therefore, if you guard his wallet for him, you will always be his best friend. knows too well that all men- american, arab, asian, australian, africa, british, indian, carribean, jamaican, filipino, jewish, german, just name it, love and wish to date and marry a physically attractive woman!'s all i have to say, nigerian men are not the only men. if a man is going to cheat he’s going to cheat. i just didn’t know the man that i married was after a green card. the word ''nigger'' started from slavery, just in case if you have forgotten your roots, black man, yes, you accofranco. or will i say most of the storylines are ancient; things that happened so many years ago or things that never happened but imagined and acted to captivate the audience to make money and fame. am currently in a relationship with a african man, he is from west africa. he was using you financially and as you know the marriage is the only way for these scums to obtain a permanent visa for your country..but you know when men fall in love with a woman, they can still hide certain truths that will hurt the woman from her.

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it is not about nigerian men or igbo men, it is about the individual- his belief, his upbringing, his friends, his life experiences, his job, his business, his person. he treated me better than any other man has ever treated me. you are a woman and you are earning more than your husband, please don't let this make you to become unruly and not submissive because every man wants a submissive woman. have you asked yourself the question that if this guy decides to go back to nigeria to live permanently, are you ready to go with him? i am only speaking from my own experience since i am currently and newly married to an igbo man. there have been too many broken relationships due to tribalism yet you will find some of these tribalist accepting a non-nigerian due to tribal prejudice. menhow to know if a man truly loves youby accofranco368. every woman a cameroonian man meets, he wants to sleep with even when the woman is married with children……shame on you! the woman are usually 50kgs heavier then the men and so fat how the man can even find their vaginal is a mystery. recently began talking to a man from the gambia we are both the same age and he seems like a breath of fresh air (that country has magic) because he’s not really my type but i love his personality and his words before i got to involved i decided to look up a few things and came across a forum with hundreds of threads of women saying they are scanners manipulative using women for visas and money out of every 50 stories 1 was positive these ratios made me come to him with these things he was confused and claimed to not know men did that i began to let him know i have no desire in getting married nor am i rich i have no money to send to family members which he seemed to understand stating he had no desire to come to america or ask me for anything (he actually sends my children gifts) although i do plan on visiting him next year in may i’m in no rush to do anything until i’m 100% sure of all motives i’ve spoken with several family members am i nervous absolutely but finding love is not easy i’ve been hurt cheated on lied to and beaten all by american men so you can’t damn an entire continent because a few 100 women have been lied to think of the millions of women getting used and abused in america or europe not for a green card but for no reason at all i’d say that’s much worse you have to be wise and careful when falling for someone no matter where you meet them there are bad apples all over this world. there are many violent activities , a zoo mentality , and a dismal failure to recognize the dignity of human life. 2 years ago hi all have read all your comments am very interested , ok i have been in a relationship with a nigerian ibo man for a year im from australia he lives and works in qatar i have visited him and we are engaged now . give true n honest information on the yoruba man n there culture. i would like to make it known that divorce is not lucrative for 'western' woman. 18 months ago from l islandyes, many nigerian men given opportunity nowadays, will prefer to marry non-nigerian ladies basically because of nigerian ladies recent attitude towards money and material things; its kind of shameful though. i have several nigerian married friends who have verified these characteristics. there is no other thing in their life but their new nigerian boyfriend. also it didn’t say all africans it said specifically nigerians. be honest with you, i do not care who ever any one here are married to. it hurt me to my soul because this was my man and i can put on my life this man has never cheated in me in the 2 years we were together..I don’t believe anything this woman abuser has to say. i am currently married to and so much in love with my nigerian husband. you ain’t shit yourself, so you can’t expect to attract a quality man (see the law of attraction). it happened also to 5 or 6 of my female relatives that married the men.@weary, nigerian parents don't really have issue with a white daughter-in-law to be honest with you, they even love and welcome them more than our own sisters, but just that history has proven to them that white daughter-in-laws hardly stay forever, they only last for a while and they go back to their home country with their son's children, that's just the fear, if not, so many nigerians would love to marry a white lady for real, but how open are the white ladies ready to welcome nigerians and their culture wholeheartedly without reserving some stuffs. we do better things than that in our way cos we are generous and hate when our woman lack that we can provide, not flower. is not easy to live with a man who didn’t have a formal education. women are unfaithful and go out having sex with any man who looks their way! he is good in manipulating and charming his way through everything, he is a master in his profession, but i noticed it later on and he knew that he couldn't charm me and manipulate me anymore. from his young age he wanted to be rich businessman, i'm afraid that he even didn't go to any school. as an ibo man, we think about wealth and money and good family life almost round the clock and we work hard for it, sometimes, we want to be left alone to think, even though some women think, we are lossing interest or having another affair hail no. gone are the days men divorce their wife via verbal pronouncement: "i divorce you", nigerian judicial system; customary court and marriage welfare doesn't recognize verbal divorce. a young kenyan member of parliament declared in 2015 in parliament that “an african wife should expect to be a co-wife as soon as she is married”. also to add he has a child that lives in ireland with her mother who is nigerian too my husband and herself are yoruba people an shes also carries his surname but he claims never have been married to her which i do not believe and theses reasons are why we always end up in quarrels because i do not trust him. so when he got sent back he asked me on the phone if we could get married i said i would think about it and i did for the reasons being i loved this man and i didn't want him to suffer or my child to be without his dad. most are too materialistic, too demanding, too exorbitant, and when their man fails to meet up with most of their unnecessary demands, they most times end up cheating on the man or maybe start to deny him most of his manly rights in the house. 3 years ago i dated a nigerian man for three months. i don't like heard negative stories what happened between foreign ladies with nigerian men but i know few good nigerian men are very lucky. how many of you woman are true ladies in the old school sense? 3 years ago i have not dated a nigerian man but a white south africa. so, yes you are right in your observation that every race and nationality has scammers, but with very different ratio compared to nigerians. yes, our men need to embrace the changes in family and romance. only wanted to use this medium to assist innocent foreign women who fall prey to some unscrupulous and unworthy nigerian guys who go abroad tarnishing the image of nigerian guys in the eyes and hearts of foreign women and men.. i am so glad and i thank god i came across this page, bcoz i finally saw this particular person on here seeking advice from you frank, and it makes me angry that she is seeking advice and help from you, when she very well knew what kind of a man he is, and she is still with him and i know this for a fact! we have been married for over 9 years and it has been a very tragic union. men irrespective of their shortcomings remains one of the best men in the whole world- nigerian men are hardworking, ambitious, intelligent, brave, strong, most handsome, lively, witty and very smart, which make them the favourite of men amongst other men in the whole world, and if not for bad government in nigeria which pushed some unworthy and selfish nigerian men into doing all sorts of illegal human activities- from drug trafficking, to romance scam, to advance fee fraud, i can guarantee you that nigerian men would have been endangered specie and most sought after men in the whole world due to their numerous excellent male qualities. he doesn't talk to the woman or daughter apart from when he decides which is like every few years. there are many reasons for these unhappy events, but majority of these relationships began as a genuine, honest, true relationships that grew in to marriages, which then, at some point, took unfortunate paths and sadly came to an end. he wast romantic enough for me as far as buying me flowers, surprising me at work, buying me stuff. sometimes i do believe in nigerian culture so many different types of ethnics. but then i ask, why then do you want to marry a man you cannot or do not cherish his country and want to live in his country forever with? to the extent that we are planing to move permanently to nigeria. history has also traced ibo tribe to have an ancestral linkage with the jews, and this can be seen in their ingenuity in so many human activities, especially in trade, craft, local technology, etc. (actually, in my social circle i have yet to meet a swazi man that has not cheated..this other woman i spoke about, she is his problem, not mine, i don't know her i have only spoken to her, and like i said, i had no idea that he was a scammer ok, and when i found out about this woman i am talking about, that she knew about me and every other woman out there, if she had any brains, she would have had the balls to let us other women know that he is a scammer, like i warned her. a man is financially buoyant and handsome, it is not always easy for him to find the right partner unlike women who only need one thing- good looks and character to find the right man. he told me because he is muslim, and also a nigerian man its either single or married. therefore, if you truly want a lasting, genuine relationship or marriage with a nigerian man abroad, make sure he is a legal resident with good means of livelihood. it’s this thought that lingers in the back of my mind saying that he is still has a wife and family in africa and is trying to obtain a citizenship in order to relocate permanently to america with his african wife and family. most are too materialistic, too demanding, too exorbitant, and when their man fails to meet up with most of their unnecessary demands, they most times end up cheating on the man or maybe start to deny him most of his manly rights in the house..yes i thank god, that i am nowhere near like that story coz i heard about that story you mentioned, poor woman and my condolences to her family, yes i thank god every single day of my life, that i didn't let it go as far as any other woman has..Rick 3 years ago i a nigerian man from yoruba tribe., you're so naïve by saying that the best way to have a yoruba man heart is to take him to parties. do I find true love, how do I find the right life partner, how do I know that my boyfriend wants me for marriage, how do I know that my boyfriend truly loves me, how do I avoid being used and dumped by a man? i can say is this; on behalf of all the nigerian guys that have wronged you and made you feel that we nigerian guys are evil, please for the sake of god and humanity, forgive them all. there are scammers all around the world, but somehow, nigerian boys just mastered it. only wanted to use this medium to assist innocent foreign women who fall prey to some unscrupulous and unworthy nigerian guys who go abroad tarnishing the image of nigerian guys in the eyes and hearts of foreign women and men. the west african man always manipulates police officers in the the suburbs , but it is difficult to manipulate officials who have knowledge of the ewondu husband of west africa by virtue of dealing with similar cases.’ve been dating a nigerian man for almost a year. the yoruba man loves peace a lot, and he is ready to part away with his money to make peace. what i have observed about him is that he will apologize whenever needed; is very kind and loves animals; seems pretty honest; volunteers as a youth organizer for a non-governmental group to make the government better (he is very proud of this); is very masculine and has a sort of take charge attitude which is no doubt taught in their culture–a man takes care of a woman-type thing; he comes online every evening of his to chat with me (whether i show up or not), so it appears he isn’t with another woman there; and he says he wants to be with me forever and not marry another woman (he’s a christian raster, although some of his friends are muslims).'twanttomentionhername 3 years ago too many negative things i heard, saw, and felt about nigerian. this man showed me nothing but attention, care and love. have always been having arguments since the beginning of our relationship, when i gave birth to my second child he left to go to nigeria when he was two weeks old because he has a business out there and had to go and work and has been doing it for three years now i feel like he mentally abuses and manipulates me but he says that e loves me and i do not believe him because i do not think he treats me well he does send money and buy things but this is not what i think love is about and always have in the back of my mind that is with me for papers and i also tell him this, he says that he is just waiting for me to fuck up then he is gone. when i look back i realize how easy it is to make a african man happy. and for that, i will keep enlightening as many foreigners as i can on how to run away from bad nigerians. before you go ahead with any man; be it nigerian or american or german or chinese, etc, make sure he has no dark side.’t rush to marry a nigerian man without a reasonable educational background. 3 years ago my friend met a nigerian guy age 24 in malaysia two years ago, she’s 40 years old, asian and had recently gone through a bad divorced . 2 years ago i am dating an ibo in south africa , he has a permit and he is running his business which is growing , for the first time i feel loved , he respects me , and treats me like a queen , he calls me obi’m or nne’m, he's proposed and wants to meet my family , he has also introduced me to his brothers this side and they also respect me , his sisters are married and living in nigeria and i also talk with them, he also wants me to visit his father in nigeria !'m also a firm believer in love before race and find all this issues about nigerian men stereotypical to say the least,how about looking at each individual as a human first,and all humans regardless or race or tribe are full of bad and good people. he was in a relationship with a nigerian woman, he says that's over and she is seeing another man now, yet she remains on his facebook page as in relationship status,my man wants me to go to nigeria and marry him there.. marrying to a some foreign/white women, is sometimes more of prison than enjoyment, it doesn't go down well with an ibo man. i married an african man from mali we moved in together and he would not put me on his bank account.@soulfulmindsmedia, you need this book i am about to release…the book will guide you…it will open your eyes on so many things you never knew…and you will be grateful you had it and will surely recommend it to your close friends…you know, i can sense that you wrote this comment out of anger…and because of that, i couldn’t get your message clearly even though he shouldn’t have said something like that…but still, i don’t have enough information to conclude on what he is up to…. eventually a nigerian man will want and need a nigerian woman to massage his ego, let him be the head of the household and know her place. i am this semi thick woman who loves to cook and eat. i wrote this article to assist foreign ladies in spotting the bad nigerian guys who go about tarnishing the image of nigerian guys abroad..first of all, i am not desperate, and never am i jealous of this woman who is twice my age and my ex's age. despite the cheeriness of the locals the country is a mess in many regards. if the nigerian man is serious about you he will bring you to his mother and leave you alone with his mother! learned one or two things about the nigerian man, let’s now look at some vital facts you mustn’t ignore when deciding to date or marry a nigerian man abroad.: when a lady pressures a man about marriage, it turns the man off and make him feel the lady is desperate for a hidden agenda. he is nigerian and he us planning to visit the states in june and that’s when we will meet . i gave birth to our child, he brought one oldwoman at home, he introduced her as her colleague , to find out later on that she was his girlfriend, i let it pass because he said she was just a fling..and if you read my book or ebook titled: "before you marry your nigerian man", you can search for it on amazon kindle store, lulu, ibook, etc, you will read where i said the same thing that some nigerian men love foreign women and would prefer to marry a foreign woman; most times, their preference is always caucasian (white). this man hung in there while i doubted him, put him on never mind and he waited patiently and steadily while he wined and dined me and held strong to the fact that he cared about me and eventually professed his love..and this is a huge turn off for most nigerian men..cynthia is the only real woman on the show to me, she not messy and she doesn’t pick at sores on others. call him to order, not in a harsh manner, but sit him down and talk sense into his head. we dated for 3 years and though he was going to be the man that i would spend the rest of my life with. really regret that i didn't read your book and this site before, im late already, even though just would like tell my story, maybe it will help other foreign women to not make any mistake with nigerians specially with igbos. when he found out about her dating a woman he told her it was not a problem either. i have tried approaching this as a nigerian who grew up in a diverse nigerian-uk community where we were all happy as children and now as adults relating in love and kiinship. and for the man, he is not happy having a depressed wife. you are getting married to a nigerian man as a foreign lady read thisupdated on november 04, 2014. have been married to a ghanian for 28 years and would love to chat with you. i found them sometimes more likely to open their doors to other nigerian tribes. he was a dream come true when we got married. encourage ladies with any kind of nigerian or any other romance scam experience to come forward and warn other girls not to make the same mistake, as anonymous bravely did. me say i do not see my husband as a bad man at all. “african” american woman who dated a cameroonian for over a year. are plenty good nigerian men, just be wise and prayerful and you will find one. nigerian men living in south africa are known for all the bad and evil things how do i know if his the real deal? woman, whose highly educated and very independed, and am from a good family, i travel a lot and he doesn't understand that and wants me to leave my ways and says he wants to marry me and wants me to go to nigeria! most indulge in illegal businesses that most good nigerians wouldn't dare. 4 years ago so you're saying that even if he lives here, works here, studied here to the graduate level, and has taken well to the "finer things in life" american-style, and is seeing a white american girl here, he will still go home and marry a nigerian girl? it's not fair and it's really heart breaking and you are the first igbo man i've heard say something of this nature. am married to a man from west africa mali to be exact, we’re in the process of getting divorced because i believe he used me for his green card. don't know what to think about it for now (part of me is scared) but in he shows to be a gentleman in all he is doingi would like to add that he is 41,educated and very handsome. was left broken hearted and feeling betrayed and swore off ever dealing with an african man again.@anonymous, all what you have said aren't just perculiar to nigerian men alone- men from other nationalities do same, so pray and be the best to also meet the best men; nigerian or not..if you date nigerian man online, you would find at least 8 out of 10 are scammers. if you are not an islam, it might be impossible for a hausa man to marry you. you want to define a nigerian man, you must first identify his tribal origin, whether he is ibo, yoruba or hausa. lived with my african partner who was lovely when we dated; manipulative when we lived together. as women, we tend to overlook some things while dating and that is something we need to work on regardless of where the man is from. since i'm east asian and not white, we do have similar family traditions as nigerians, so i have no problem with that part to begin with. the yoruba man loves partying, celebrations and ceremonies, and he wouldn’t mind borrowing to celebrate a ceremony- be it burial, child-naming, birthday, marriage, memorial, etc. will never see white men or asian men bringing there women down to low level or having a second option just in case a black woman disappoint them at the end. people are human beings and fall in love for many reasons. am mauritanian man, if you have any insight or helpful tips things to look out for, please share. furthermore it looks her alleged new boo thang is married and his wife is none too happy about their romance. scammers know that very well so they know how to manipulate you. i told him if we are to be married, i will do everything traditonal and we will need to have an american wedding as well. guys get initiated into cult organisations in foreign countries for reasons best known to them which i cannot discuss here for many reasons. because every nigerian of today is afraid of going into another war…. 3 years ago hi accofranco,i like to saying appreciate for show all ladies and men read your blogs for reasons about nigerian cultures.

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in addition not meeting his family is a sign he hides aspects of his life i say this because i was in a relationship with a gambian man who did the same thing. and there husbands brought them back to england, not like most nigeria men that will marry a nigerian girls and keep them back home as a second option just in case the white wives disappoints them. mind you, this article wasn't written to destroy the image of nigerian men or to scare foreign women from marrying nigerian men, of course i am a single nigerian man myself and i can't just wake up to destroy my country's image, and i can't just come online to lie to people to protect my country's image when they are doing the wrong thing; i am here to say the truth to save people from destruction and unmerited heartbreaks, get it now? all human forms need a social balance in their life to a degree and life cannot be one big party to a whole tribe of men. my husband is such a gentle man, so respectful and loving. he was married before and ended up divorced after cheating on his ex-wife twice. i am marrie ied to nigerian for 5yrs now and we have one beautiful daughter. i’m a white american who was living in swaziland and was in a relationship with a swazi man for three years. if you date or marry another african man make sure you look before you leap. he still wants to take care of me n does what he can although i dont demand much because i understan his situation. yes, nigerian men have quite a reputation but most people are quicker to complain than to praise so negative stories are going to be more prevalent and easier to find..It’s all scandalous and every man kenya gets us on her payroll or in it for camera time. give you a basic understanding of the nigerian man, i will classify them in three, based on the three major tribes- ibo, yoruba, and hausa.’m married to a ghanaian, i traveled abroad with my mother in law to marry him there. 19 months ago hi,i met a nigerian guy through my church (i'm british) and we became friends.. they pay well to be with a young attractive woman on their arms. there is no other thing in their life but their new nigerian boyfriend. these are they same black women that carried these black men for 9 months in there tummy and yet what we are getting is, our nigerian brother having us as second option in marriage.’m a aa woman, and i’ve been dating a ghanian man for about 3 years.'m also a firm believer in love before race and find all this issues about nigerian men stereotypical to say the least,how about looking at each individual as a human first,and all humans regardless or race or tribe are full of bad and good people. observing this trend for years, i became angry and felt like rising against the scourge of romance scam that some unworthy nigerian guys engage in thereby making all nigerian men look evil in the eyes of foreigners. 3 years ago hi gal i love you you have been so helpful because i am separating from my edo man in few days time. are some of my brother's friends that were single, never been married before, that were born in england, grew up in england but yet these men ended up travelling back home to look for wives and yes indeed, they married these nigerian women as a first option and these nigerian girls are well brought up. you truly have interest in nigerian men, and you want to marry or date a nigerian man, search for those living comfortably in nigeria or abroad with the above qualities (good education, good family background, legal residence, etc, etc)..again 2 years ago hi frank,i wrote to you awhile ago about my sick nigerian husband and that i sent him money because i want him healthy besides i'm not ready to shave my head. you know, the first step to solving any human problem is recognition of the problem. need help understanding if this is real before i make another mistake by marrying the worry man.. if she did have a nigerian sugar daddy, it benefited matt’s broke ass when she paid his rent, paid for trips etc. i must say that i am of african origin but i am not nigerian.!i am married to a british national with indian heritage (by the way i was already british before we got married) and i think she'd find your views untrue as well. good, honest nigerian man simply can't get chance to go through and meet someone because of so many heart breaking stories caused by bad nigerian boys. i am an african woman with a citizenship and i will never marry or date an african man without papers. play on weak women emotionally i must admit i fall into single women category because i am educated,good looking enough,intelligent and smart,financially capable but i still crave strong moral correctly african man,hardworking,intelligent and confident who will respect me as woman and life partner in turn am absolutely ready to compromise and be a housewife putting the need of my partner at hands in african tradition way but i have ended up with scammers both times so i don't hold any hope at all,am in my early 30's,it's important women share these stories to warn others,am so ashamed from an african perspective these guys are all intelligent why chose a life of using their bodies to finance life in europe i have lived here worked hard to invest back home why can't they use their brain to achieve their goals,why can't they use their smartness for good use instead of scamming vurnalable women very heartless and cruel, i believe god doesn't allow these people to enjoy their life in harmony, i don't understand it like this last guy we are literally compartible in many ways but he chose to throw away a good woman whom worshipped the ground he walks in for uncessary greediness and disrespectful behaviour he has no family here in europe apart from the child whom he i don't think he cares about. a nigerian who will prefer to get married to a responsible white/asian woman not for anything(i mean anything else) but love..that should also let you guys know that we still have good nigerians out there, just pray to meet them. honest take is if you love him enough to marry him, then pay special attention to learning the african culture (respect, morality, family values) if you can, make nigerian friends and research as well. you go into any other relationship or marriage with a nigerian man, please try to get a copy of this book and read it from beginning to end. everything a woman does in this life is meant to satisfy you and when the woman has an opinion or her own dreams, she is not being submissive. you have helped many ladies and am thankful to god i have come acrossed it. african man try to talk to me two days ago and i kept walking. most nigerian men are searching for some kind of motility,be it financial or social(ambitious). in fact the vast majority if divorced woman experience a drastic drop in their living standards. i guess by over empowerment you mean i can throw your behind in jail if you put your hands on me cuz i know it's a norm in your country and the woman keeps her mouth shut and says nothing . do i find true love, how do i find the right life partner, how do i know that my boyfriend wants me for marriage, how do i know that my boyfriend truly loves me, how do i avoid being used and dumped by a man? i know i am not bad…so if there is a good nigerian guy like me, then there are other good nigerian men too…. in germany the only thing you we see is singles mother every where in germany. be honest with you, i do not care who ever any one here are married to. 4 years ago from l islandhello @elikem, if you did read this write-up thoroughly, you ought to have noticed that i didn't say all nigerians are bad, of course i can't say such because i am also a nigerian, proud nigerian, so i see no reason to castigate my own country people. when i've met him, he seems to me very pleasant and he is a gentleman. i broke up with him because he is emotionless, not romantic at all, lazy and wants to sleep his life away because he worked 40 hours in a week… like he’s the only one who does that. you know, most well to do nigerians don’t like their children marrying foreign women because it is a general belief that white women don’t take their marriage too serious- they go for divorce even when it is something the two families can come together and settle. their attitude is most likely the reason why they are (most of the time) single, even many years after divorce. those do not always need a woman for papers, they are rich back home and are in america for higher education. but recently, nigerians (especially the ladies) have adopted this western culture of not seeing men as the head and an asset, which is why you now hear and witness more divorce cases amongst nigerian couples too. for me personally i haven't been scammed i have just sought to highlight the massive cultural gaps in how nigerian men think and how western women think.’ll try to enlighten something that may be of a great help to many, it happens on the very beginning of the ordeal. i'm seeing and igbo man, i asked if he was expected to marry a nigerian girl, he said yes, i said so this is just a 'fun' thing then, he said no not necessarily there are just steps you take before one can even think of marriage. since i'm east asian and not white, we do have similar family traditions as nigerians, so i have no problem with that part to begin with. long time i wasn't agreed, after 5 month i've agreed and get my visas to nigeria and to germany shenghen visa. i think igbo people are the reason why nigeria men have a bad name on non african woman. it to your close friends because it will save them from future heartbreak and will also guide them on how to make the best choice of a nigerian man..again 2 years ago hi frank,i wrote to you awhile ago about my sick nigerian husband and that i sent him money because i want him healthy besides i'm not ready to shave my head. i marry her when am looking for a stay in germany. i too have been in a relationship with a nigerian man for almost 4 months (we dated for 1). it’s the weirdest thing, like to say no to a white woman is like saying no to air. they have rich family traditions and won’t tolerate any woman that curses or has baby daddy issues or ghetto mentality they will always want a woman that they can be proud to introduce to their parents who exercise reasonable controls. observe his manners, the way he interacts with his family, and his perceptions/opinions. nigerian 2 years ago dear author,why are you giving foreigners tips on how best to snare nigerian men, when there are sooo many single nigerian women keen on marrying only nigerian men? however, this is simply a dream for us as the cost of living demands a two income family. he is a beautiful loving man who has always treated me with respect and great love . oil rich yes but the country infrastructure is dire, roads chaos, healthcare system dire for many and poverty pervades in every corner. have always been having arguments since the beginning of our relationship, when i gave birth to my second child he left to go to nigeria when he was two weeks old because he has a business out there and had to go and work and has been doing it for three years now i feel like he mentally abuses and manipulates me but he says that e loves me and i do not believe him because i do not think he treats me well he does send money and buy things but this is not what i think love is about and always have in the back of my mind that is with me for papers and i also tell him this, he says that he is just waiting for me to fuck up then he is gone. rather than admit her own culpability, she now paints the african man with a broad stroke that smacks of cultural prejudice. he is from nigeria and the best husband a woman can ask for. if you are a white woman they treat them like gold and even talks bad about their african sister to the white woman. does say he can come to me but it would take longer and all he wants to do is get married to me. my message to the women dating nigerians or dating online is think longer term. my nigerian females friend keep asking why nigerian men love haitian women so much lol. 3 years ago i dated a nigerian man for three months. i am currently dating a nigerian guy who is 30 and i am 31. i found them sometimes more likely to open their doors to other nigerian tribes. lost my virginity @ 25 after my tradition party, but he doesn't believe that i've only been with a man once! i have tried approaching this as a nigerian who grew up in a diverse nigerian-uk community where we were all happy as children and now as adults relating in love and kiinship. if you are not, then you really need to think twice about it because a man's religious belief matters so much in defining who he will be in future. he is very good looking tall went to uni is now a manager with papers and a lovely home. is no 'template' that a demographic in society fits into, two different nigerians from the same tribe are inherently different. 3 years ago i don't know who this writer is, he she demonstrated little knowledge of nigerian history. ibo man: definitely very industrious and a pride to nigeria when it comes to business. bross,just forget about nigerians man is this or that. stephens 3 years ago hello all,i have met my nigerian man through on line dating. man was cheating on you before your marriage 4 months ago. have you asked yourself the question that if this guy decides to go back to nigeria to live permanently, are you ready to go with him? he is a pastor as so many nigerians but i never got change to mix in this world., i am happy to read that you have been married to a nigerian man for 30 years, such stories is what i want to be reading and hearing, and not the sad ones. lastly if we leave in your country and married to you and you feel you wont respect or humble yourself as a woman, then that marriage, might be turned in to normal relationship, without your notices. a man or woman is never successful until he or she is married and his/her marriage ends up successful. i’m a singer / songwriter and author and want to be able to spread my humanitarian efforts into the county. 2 years ago from l island@dandydoo, as a nigerian guy born and brought up in nigeria, and with all due respect to my lovely country, nigeria and citizens, i want to give you a standing ovation!, to all ladies reading this- there are bad men everywhere- nigerian, american, english, german, italian, french, canadian, etc..Elikem 4 years ago am going out with a nigerian guy in my country, and he has shown me he loves me very much..and that was why i wrote this article from the sincerity of my heart irrespective of the fact that i am a nigerian. i have lots of nigerian friends even a child i am godmother to. as for my previous boyfriend was from my country ok, so plz don't judge or assume that i always go on dating sites to find a man, i never have nor will i ever will go on a dating site. is great that you are happily married for 30 years to your nigerian man, but things have changed a lot since then thanks predominantly to the internet and other modern ways of communication. the man is known as an astute and visionary business mogul in nigeria with strong political ties. think that there are no rich nigerian men, like they are aways talking about. this one reason is why most nigerians who marry white ladies still go back to nigeria to marry another wife, in case the foreign lady leaves tomorrow, cos she must leave or let me say she must reject the idea of going back to nigeria with the husband to live permanently like citizens. is even hard for an ibo rich woman to get married, cos we don't need her money or anything but we doubt their respect, if we get to marry them. my theory is when a man meet u his live and respect for u will allow him not to stray no matter how beautiful the other woman is. there are very good nigerian men and very bad ones as well. 3 years ago so you think that a nigerian after relationship with a non nigerian woman can come back and stay with a nigerian woman that doesnt wash hair/wig, is too laud and fat? instead of her to make sure there is hot meal waiting for him on the table with warm water in the bucket for him to take shower, most nigerian women does back home. really need to get a copy of my book: “before you marry your nigerian man” it will help you fix your marriage. the western africans especially nigerians do not trip over white women, they have their other issues like breathing lies like air. you want to marry him just because you want to get married? am an igbo guy, and am married to a white too, it doesn't matter our tribe in nigeria, cos in one way or the other, is similar.? if it was a white man in that same dynamic he would get no play by those same white women. how many marriages do you plan to quit and maybe re-marry? why would a good looking young african man choose to be with an older woman who cant give him a family? there have been too many broken relationships due to tribalism yet you will find some of these tribalist accepting a non-nigerian due to tribal prejudice. yoruba man: i noticed that you had a lot to write about the ibos and not as much to write about the hausas and yorubas. @happygirl, you seem to have mastered nigerian men more than i do. i have written so many books, though yet to be published, about this issue. a nigerian man that finally made the harsh decision to leave his homeland to migrate to a foreign nation without legal travel and resident permits will do anything beyond his comfort to remain in that foreign nation because he knows that home is not the best for him. an ibo man always carry in mind his monetary gain or benefit in whatever thing he does in life- be it business, education, relationship, etc. as woman in general with culture being a non factor we have to stop thinking a man will be perfect. this man showed me nothing but attention, care and love. she says he is not married and has no children, and that he showed her documents to support it.. believe me if i wanted too met a man, i am not be noting myself but trust me i have a few lined up already, but i am not looking for a man. if you share those thought with us, we might call you a bitch one day, even if you are married already. pure oscar performance master-act in order to obtain material goods from their victims or western country visa!, my brother, before my husband married me, he dated a white woman, of course because of citizenship, he told me everything. 23 months ago i am a eastern european lady married to good, god fearing igbo man for 19 years. my husband has lived is different countries but has held strongly to his roots and is a very peaceful, family-oriented and patient man. i also didn’t like the fact he would have conversations on the phone in his native language and like another person posted you don’t know if their talking to a woman or what. is important to mention to ladies -foreign or not- that you cannot base your judgements about your relationships on recommendations made on the internet as we humans are predisposed to favoritism whether intentional or not. he's a frank + reserved and hard working man based in qatar and i'm a talkative, college student from southern africa. another quote by me: "no man exist without a spiritual image; which maybe positive or negative spirit".

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do believe in nigerian culture all different types of ethnics. am german and with a nigerian man since 6 months now. are you ready to adapt with the nigerian culture and way of life? i wrote this article to assist foreign ladies in spotting the bad nigerian guys who go about tarnishing the image of nigerian guys abroad.. you can't sit there and say you love him when he is telling every other woman out there that he loves them too. 3 years ago i don't know who this writer is, he she demonstrated little knowledge of nigerian history.. i said having other women, while they are married and being with other women. if you truly want to go far with him and possibly think about marriage or serious commitment with a nigerian guy, please avoid demanding money or unnecessary gifts from him else, he will see you as a gold digger or a wayward girl out for money. you need to win your husband back…even though you made a great mistake marrying a man older than you by 18 years with kids…plus racial and cultural differences.  if she hadn't the accusation that "several nigerian married friends. i met a nigerian man in a dating site 3 years ago. my fear is that he may not know how willing i would be, and so may always have it in his mind that he's going to marry a nigerian girl. he is the type of man that gives all nigerians a bad name.. don't you ever say shit about an ibo man's mother. however, by her own admission, she “dated a cameroonian,” but not married to the cameroonian. anyways back to what happened, so he ended up telling me what he does for a living and that these woman are part of his living. all human forms need a social balance in their life to a degree and life cannot be one big party to a whole tribe of men. he had been married before, when he was 20 years old, has 3 teenager children, divorced 13 years ago, still single etc..Mary 3 years ago i live in scotland i am from zambia (southern african) i met a yoruba man via a dating site for two months he called me non stop he visited me twice i felt bad because he complained that i never visited him we live in seperate cities i could tell he was upset by me not visiting him so i decided to visit him for the day he was so sweet telling me he wanted to meet my mother etc. bvow to stay married to my nigerian husband and have for 13 years. to wrap it up, ibo man is just similar to a chinese man in terms of- money consciousness, creativity, and craftsmanship. but for now, i am going to focus on assisting foreign ladies wishing or desiring to get married to a nigerian man, or best, to assist foreign ladies already in a committed relationship with a nigerian man, and are probably contemplating on settling down with him. i've been burned too many times in my life, i just thank god yet again for saving me from him and more misery! submission,take time to study the kind of nigerian man you meet. 3 years ago your that post is things about nigerians what do have with them i hope u know that nigerians are not the only people out there searching for geener passture and more or better mind what you say and how u say theem. you know, the first step to solving any human problem is recognition of the problem. so i can't live with this kind of person, who hided from me lots of secrets, still how many of them remaining only god knows.. don't you ever say shit about an ibo man's mother. 3 years ago in 2005 i split from a nigerian guy who got sent back home due to visa issues and i met another nigerian when at the time i was a mess drinking and living recklessly i was totally distraught and heartbroken after having two miscarriages with the guy who got sent back, at the time i was 17. sometimes allow him to be the wise man even if you know the truth.. we want to get married but the rules and regulations of the uk are too much for us to be able to do. however, if we as humans invest so much studying, running and managing a business. find it and write me indicating you are kittycat from hubpages dating a nigerian, then give me a brief of the story to help me remember. 2 years ago from l island@pondering sos, that's why i said, before you fall for a nigerian man or any foreign man, make sure you know his residency status to know if he just want you for papers or for keeps. i blame myself for not doing the research to find out who this man really was. me, i have heard so many stories about the name callings, black moneys this, black moneys that, or the word '' niggers' when they are quarreling with there husbands or in-laws. nigerian men love their woman to be submissive to them.: when a lady pressures a man about marriage, it turns the man off and make him feel the lady is desperate for a hidden agenda. we don't have issue with sizes but be good looking and don't be 100yrs and want 18yrs nigerian boy, as a white woman, would you wish that for your child. a few of your questions, yes, majority of nigerian men care so much about having their own children. stand in love and ensure your love in not blind so that you're able to see what you're getting yourself into- whether with a black, white or asian man. to be short we had a good time besides this issue but i am not an african woman and from what i read her on this site he must be an ibo. i'm tired really from this man and his family, it's better to be far from them, i didn't come here to be sick, nervous, i came to be happy. here's the situation: i'm a canadian, and i've had a long distance relationship with a yoruba man for almost a year, on and off. but if you’re circumspect you’d fine great guys- from great families and well educated if you can manage their ego.ተle axel 2 years ago having gone through all your comments n questions i would just like to droop this word of advise in nigeria almost every person(young man ) you meet is intelligent n warm its somthing natural so dont fall for d wrong ones and finaly i would encourage u all to go for physical dating rather than online ones coz it will do u alot of good.’ve been married to a cameroonianan for 4 years and in my experience it is correct that they cheat and often. i would like to make it known that divorce is not lucrative for 'western' woman..he stayed with me until his visa expired he returned to nigeria so i travelled over there to get married. when i've met him, he seems to me very pleasant and he is a gentleman. note this, any shop, business, etc owned by a nigerian in your country, go and find out, it is owned or founded by an ibo man. submission,take time to study the kind of nigerian man you meet. i have lots of nigerian friends even a child i am godmother to. knowing he is still married but his family lives in nigeria and he had to support his kids. kind of complicated the way and manner in which you narrated it.! and aa women are known to go after african men only when they’re desperate and been rejected by whites and aa’s, so don’t expect to attract any good man (from any race) with your bitter, thirsty, can’t keep her values in check, thot ass. you have questions, just ask and let's debate since you are married to a nigerian man already. woman loves to be gentle and soft with her man, it's inherent. woman who goes for nigerian men just cause of money or they need some1 to spoil them? if you are not willing to be one of many wives, you need to discuss with your man early in your relationship and talk to your husband's family about this issue. to be honest with you, in western world, especially in england and usa over 52% of married couples are divorced. the woman looks after the day to day running of the home while the man provides for the home. yoruba man comes from the yoruba tribe, found in the south-western part of nigeria. for so many same replies, my phone was acting up. why would a good looking young african man choose to be with an older woman who cant give him a family? not sure what that’s about (i am a dark-skinned kinky hair beautiful black woman :). oh, he stayed with her to get what he can get “out of it”, but she’s the manipulator? however, this is simply a dream for us as the cost of living demands a two income family. i would have kept that attitude, the lord would not have blessed me with having met such a wonderful african man the second time around!?i told him this after i found out but he doesn't seems to care, i only knew he wanted to take advantage of me because he started saying he has used up his tax return money from last year which he was overpayed and he is required to pay from his salary for some three months to clear his debt so he will be struggling and may be lose his flat so the story became too familiar from my first experience i decided to dig deep into his affairs and realised he even left me to go see one of his women he sees for money right under my nose after reading texts from his phone,i particularly feel sorry for one the girls that he proclaimed he was seeing before me but in truth they still see because from his text he has beaten up this girls because she wasn't accepting what he wanted her to do (all these learned from going through his phone)she earn less than him yet he takes money from her every month she is a slovakian attractive white girl,to behonest it's not only older white females fall for this scammers even good looking young white females fall for this scams as well as black girls from other countries who doesn't understand nigerian culture very well,it's not only through online even face to face meeting you can meet these scammers when they get to know you better the usual storyline that they are having some sort of troubles and that you are their only options at the time. 3 years ago am a south african woman dating a stubborn ibo man who has this idea that he is king and should be treated as 1, am very traditional and so is he and that on its on is a problem, am strong willed. there are very good nigerian men and very bad ones as well. he treats me like a princess, and he loves cooking which i hear is not traditional for a man to cook in his culture. i don't mind to grow my baby alone, better to be along than with some animal man, really. by the way my on parents have been married 35 years and we don't believe in divorce. but i also want to do my part and be the voice and pick me up toward human rights and child development. the truth is, there are so many inter-tribal children more than a lot of nigerian realise, especially between yorubas and ibos, so we need to stop this south west, east and north divide and begin to embrace ourselves. my message to the women dating nigerians or dating online is think longer term. totally am not offended by what you said, i don't even know this woman, i only caught him out not long ago, my break up with him is newly fresh to be quiet honest with you, so forgive me for still loving someone who yes, used me, lied to me and cheated on me. i know how you feel, and please i didn't write this to destroy nigerians' image, i wrote it because i care a lot about nigerians, and because i am a nigerian..Suite 5 months ago i don't agree with you by saying a nigerian will prefer go home to find a wife,maybe 15 ,20 years ago not anymore. we are all fantasizing about the day when the men in our lives demand that we stop working! i know i want him too but i fear so many things. he was also married to an american woman and never pursued his citizenship while married. i have some nigerian friends and they keep telling me, "oh he's probably searching for business".'s why, when an igbo man joins occult in the olden days, they first demand is his mothers life cos they know is hard for him to give away. you are warning other ladies for real not to fall for this asswipe of a man like you did, then, how about if you reveal his real name or alias, age, location, friends names, you said you met his family too? igbo ladies used to be awesome until recent times; many igbo girls now lack respect for their husband. i respect this man on every level and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. after 40 days of tears and pain for this man, he finally phoned me and told me everything about him. luck to you, i hope you find a good man.@kolanut, there are wonderful nigerians who would make a wonderful husband or wife, but the problem remains that most foreigners chose wrongly. wrote this article and others…plus my books not to sabotage my fellow nigerian men, but to help foreign ladies make the best choice…and to also enlighten foreign ladies on how to avoid nigerian men romance scam. my fear is that he may not know how willing i would be, and so may always have it in his mind that he's going to marry a nigerian girl. their marriages are big ceremonies – well planned and expensive -they usually are too proud to ask a woman for any thing, they provide sufficiently for the family but behave like kings. we are all fantasizing about the day when the men in our lives demand that we stop working! the yoruba man is more immune to polygamy than the ibo man. poured out everything you need to know as a foreign lady before falling in love or marrying a nigerian man and every help and guide you need to build a stable, lasting, happy relationship or marriage with a nigerian man. i am a nigerian from the igbo tribe, i also live in the u. do not, and i mean do not marry or get involved with an african man. he was telling me that i need to be more free, that he likes to have sex with bunch of girls and that one day when he gets married, his wife will need to accept all these things. victory 17 months ago after reading this article, i think i should of found it before 3 years of wasting my money on a man who was millions miles away from me. they are polygamous in nature, and it is also traditional for a hausa man to marry more than one wife, if he so desires. if the nigerian man is serious about you he will bring you to his mother and leave you alone with his mother! you please share your insight thoughts and everyone: you are welcome to comment and advise - as i am completely unsure, worried and confused (comments from here in germany, i have no nigerian friends and what i experience in the "relationship")., it is good for you to visit the man or woman you wish or plan to marry if both of you are living in different countries. 3 years ago your that post is things about nigerians what do have with them i hope u know that nigerians are not the only people out there searching for geener passture and more or better mind what you say and how u say theem. he says his late father was a rasterfari who married a local woman. god will heal your heart and send the right man your way soonest. i trusted this man and gave him 3 years of my life.. found out he was cheating with various women here and in nigeria ( as he travelled back and forth for competitions) he ended up getting another woman pregnant and having a child with her. at the time i lost my job so it was hard for me to travel back and forth, once i got a job, i planned my trip again, but in the meantime i was looking and digging for information, to then i realised he has been chatting to other women, now i found out about one of them so i confronted him and asked him about this woman, he didn't know what to say coz i caught him out on it, he told me that he will tell me about her later on, but he knew i caught him out on his lies, here i was thinking that he loved me, that i was his treasure and how he thanked god for giving someone like me to him, that he made all these promises and that i am his only one. my family in nigeria often visit us in germany without problem. zolciak-biermann and brielle biermann go on expletive-filled rant over german airport security. nigerian 2 years ago dear author,why are you giving foreigners tips on how best to snare nigerian men, when there are sooo many single nigerian women keen on marrying only nigerian men? i don't wanna get marry any more unless ill find a good man. know this thread is old but are you still happily married? we all know when we have a sketchy african man, let him go….. but once i caught the same man we were both seeing, that's when i found out a lot of other things.. 70% of married nigerians men and women have cheated multiple times on their spouses. no human being doesn't like when somebody shout on them, same as me. 18 months ago from l islandyes, many nigerian men given opportunity nowadays, will prefer to marry non-nigerian ladies basically because of nigerian ladies recent attitude towards money and material things; its kind of shameful though. are plenty good nigerian men, just be wise and prayerful and you will find one., in nigerian culture, nigerian men, especially igbo men value children so much. there are cases of desperate nigerian guys who left the shores of nigeria to some asian countries in search of greener pastures at all cost..it is truly unworthy guys like him that are tarnishing the image of all nigerian men.@confused07 it saddens me to say that a good number of nigerians in sa are into illegal activities and will never be a true representation of nigerians. nigerian men start getting assurance that foreign women are ready to marry them and live/stay with them forever and not going back to their home country with the kids when the nigerian man gets old or dies, believe me, nigerian men will stop marrying a second wife back home after getting married to a foreign woman. said you showed your husband this article and he laughed that all i said or wrote is only applicable to uneducated nigerian family or so. feel as though this is real, but i have read so many stories on here! this boost the ego of some nigerian men, especially those that didn’t have a formal education. a copy of my book titled: before you marry your nigerian man, published on amazon kindle or lulu and share with your friends to enlighten on how to find a true nigerian man or any other man. 3 years ago lady be careful with any african men, all african men are the some because all the african culture are all the some, an african men to stay all his rest of life with an western woman that can happen to them all always an african men need an black woman because of they way an african woman treat a man with respect and value her men, no like western women you treat our men like our slave any man need to be value, for my own experience im living with a man who is a nigeria but he has a white woman with children but always i say to me he can end up he is life with an ayibo woman even he go back to nigeria with that woman and children everyone will take that like a joke no one will value that family and always he said that with tear in his eyes now is beging me to give him a black child, all his friends, family know is me is proper wife and they respect me than his wife and if is with me is very happy than when his in his house. before you go ahead with any man; be it nigerian or american or german or chinese, etc, make sure he has no dark side. nigerian are by far the worst liars, green card wannabees, drug dealers, needy, man-children, spolit tantrums. m tired of hearing stories that nigerian men marry for rituals. and there's a great chance that at least one of them is nigerian, pretending to be italian or german! 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i'm east asian and i'm married to a hausa man for 9 years. you know, we have wonderful nigerians, myself inclusive, but its so unfortunate that most foreigners do always come in contact with the bad nigerians, which was the reason why i wrote this article to help enlighten and educate foreigners on how to deal with nigerians for good. am a aa woman that’s been involved with a liberian man for a few years. have the ear of many older non-nigerian women who talk of affairs, baby making and general lonliness they and others have encountered throughout their marriage. nigerian 2 years ago dear author,i just read some of your replies, and found that you are a nigerian man. be honest, i'm so disappointed in some of your comments on how you are comparing nigerian girls to your foreign women..i am sure women too wouldn't want a desperate man. most of these romance stories begin online by meeting a handsome mid-aged white man, he is widowed or divorced and very rich. i’ve met quite a few who i would still consider friends if i were not married. everyonei'm doing well thank you for asking notactix, i've read all above comments and all i can say is, is that please everyone stop making excuses for these scammers, these young men will do absolutely anything to convince you that they are 'real men' and love you, care for you, loyal, and etc, these are the things they want you too hear and to believe them, trust me it's not true, they are only with you because they think because your white and a foreginer you can provide for them, doesn't matter how old you are, how small or big of a woman you are, how attractive or not so attractive you are but they will keep telling you those lovely words you have been longing to hear, they will work on your insecurities and make you feel secure so you can trust them with their whole life and make you fall in love with them, once they have mastered that bit, that's when they start testing you, that's when they start giving you excuses, that's when they beg for money off you they will use every excuse in the book to make you want to believe them, but don't. plus like someone mentioned above, polygamy is accepted in most african countries so the typical african men will cheat night and day without remorse because it is ingrained in their brains that having many women is the norm. i married an igbo man before, they are not that, bad, they know how to take care of their woman's, but 1 thing you should know, they almost never married a european or non igbo woman for real, even if you are with them for 10 years, the always go back home, to get married. i didn't write this article and the books i have written on this topic to paint nigerian men evil, of which i happen to be one of them. this happens when the man in question is truly in love with the lady and wants to know her more to avoid jumping into marriage with her to regret later. now, i don't know if its different in nigerian, but in the us. i demand respect from anybody who is in my company and african men have seemed to give it cause i expect it.'ve proved that it is not impossible to find a good nigerian man. if you’re gonna find a man in 2015 who consciously likes and prefers black women, no shade to white women, it’ll probably be an aa man. he a permanent resident in uk, a student or just an illegal migrant? he still wants to take care of me n does what he can although i dont demand much because i understan his situation. im curious because most marriages of africans i know married to americans lasted 6 years then divorced. i am in my 20s and married to a nigeria for 7 years with 3 children. i know i want him too but i fear so many things. might have been frustrated in life and seeking for a way out, and just faking love to get something from you, and once he gets that, he is off and creates bad name or image that all nigerian men are evil, whereas it is not true. he proclaimed to be a man of god but he was a wolf and sheep clothing. all living separate lives but under one roof because divorce is abhorred by many. a copy of my book titled: before you marry your nigerian man, published on amazon kindle or lulu and share with your friends to enlighten on how to find a true nigerian man or any other man. at least that other woman celebrates her win for being chosen over you by your mutual ‘prince’, she doesn’t really care about his other ‘lovers for money’ as long as she is with him from time to time. real name isn’t dazy, but it starts with dan…if yes, please contact me asap before you go next time to visit your nigerian man in kl malaysia. because sometime nigerian men could be clever made it look real mature and professional but they do copy another nigrian guys.. marrying to a some foreign/white women, is sometimes more of prison than enjoyment, it doesn't go down well with an ibo man. our women are looking elsewhere, too many complaints from foreign women but y'all keep putting out what a woman can do to keep you. some of the european white, pretending to love nigerian and the culture to entice the man into marriage and after that, they will change and start showing how they wish the man should live forever in her country, instead planning how the can invest and visit the husband home country, even though we live in your town, we don't like everything there too, we do miss home, even if is the worst place on earth to you. if you do not meet the parents within the year, that means that they are married. because his some siblings lives in international for study, work and married lives inside their country. started telling me where we was having conversations years ago when he was in university out of his country,when he started telling me this i remember becaues he was the only person in that country i talked to, he want to marry but i told him he is to young for me of course this upset him because i said this but i truly believe when you have a age difference you think differently about thing,i have never been married because i don't believe in divorce i have rings from others that were not faithful so i never went though with it-but i have told him that i want to live there he is against it and children as well,he want to be here in america with me -where we will marry and have a traditional wedding there b4 he come here-he is 32 and i am 48 i need it to be true all the way not for any other reasons or hidden agenda we are supposed to be married soon,plz talk to me tell me what you make of this. is one of the most important things every nigerian man desire in marriage, so i don't think he's being honest that he doesn't care if she has child for him or not. in igbo culture, a man that cannot father his own child is kind of ridiculed by his mate and peers. the ibos paid less attention to western education during colonialism, but after the civil war which ended in 1969, the ibos diversified their interest to include western education, business, and for this reasons and more, they began to migrate within and across the nigerian borders, which is the single reason why in every 10 nigerians you see in a foreign nation, 4 is ibo. please lady open our eyes no one can leave a black woman to a white woman even white men knows that our men are happy with us. just ask any racist white man, and he’ll tell you that every of his friend agrees that black people ain’t shit. he is very good looking tall went to uni is now a manager with papers and a lovely home. i also mentioned religion which plays vital role in the lifes of all nigerians- educated or not, belief affects every man. so, to make a long story short, i want to just talk and sit down with his mother about everything so that hopefully she will see me as not being a culturally different foreign but as a true, human being who cares about her son with no intension on changing his culture. 3 years ago iam dating a nigerian guy and he wants me to visit him and meet his parents in nigeria and also as an assurance that he is not married back home. or is it a "reap what you sow" measure for the fact that i didn't answer many of his calls in the beginning? after we got married we applied for spouses visa it got refused the first time and so i had to go back to nigeria to fight for my husband to come back, after two years he applied for leave to remain which he got straight away and then after about a year and a half he started to apply for his british passport but was trying to do it secretly and when i asked him why he didn't tell he we would say it was none of my business, we also had another child by now. he is very manipulative , but city police officials with experience always understands his tactics, it is difficult for a woman who weighs a hundred pounds to be violent against a man who is three hundred pounds and taller. culture frowns at a woman providing entirely for the family, or will i say being the breadwinner. i have a lot of emotions invested in this man, but i don't want to waste my time and end up heartbroken if he is just going to marry as his family wishes, without them even meeting me and learning what my values are and the kind of wife and mother i would be. you have helped many ladies and am thankful to god i have come acrossed it. 13 months ago from l islandhello gizmo, i wrote this article and my book out of honesty just to help honest and innocent foreign women seeking for love in nigeria to find the right man to love without falling victim of romance scam, so i am going to be honest with you, so read carefully. if his parents are against their son’s relationship with your daughter, try and reassure them that there won’t be divorce in future…and tell your daughter to read books about nigerian culture and how nigerian men behave and act in marriage…the role of a wife in the nigerian family setting, etc…she really need my upcoming book…it will help her a lot…try and get a copy for her as a gift and she will never forget you in life. i told him that i want a normal relationship, a man i can see every day., in nigerian culture, nigerian men, especially igbo men value children so much. how many of you woman are true ladies in the old school sense? closing remarks of a nigerian man preferring to marry a nigerian is also dated and lopsided. long time i wasn't agreed, after 5 month i've agreed and get my visas to nigeria and to germany shenghen visa. is not easy to live with a man who didn’t have a formal education. my husband and i still have our own cultural differences, but i'm very lucky because my husband is doing things that nigerians will never do with their nigerian wives such as washing clothes, cooking, bathing our kid etc, even when his family asks him why is he doing all this as a man, he explains to his family and tells them they should give me space for being a foreign lady and he is doing these things because of his love for me. he is the best man i’ve had in my life i’m 42 and african american he supports my children like their his own and my family loves him to pieces. (2) as an african man myself i can tell you he didn’t want to put you on his account because he thought you spend money needlessly and would run his account down( i took my afriacn american wife off my account because of that).. as a grown ass woman you should be able to be in the same room as an ex. been for a full year an african man texting have never spoken on the phone not once but yet he swears,he loves me ha ha i go along with it. lost my virginity @ 25 after my tradition party, but he doesn't believe that i've only been with a man once! i took time to explain this in my book titled- "before you marry your nigerian man" published on amazon kindle store and on lulu. 2 years ago i'm australian and met my nigerian (igbo) through a friend so we started chatting over the phone then chatting online he lives in malaysia we were getting to know each other for a year till i decided to fly over he paid half i paid half of my flight all went well we got engaged and then i flew back to australia keeping in touch with each other everyday skyping and calling everyday then i flew back again lived with him for a few months then came back due to work committments then flew back again to stay with him we are now planning our wedding we love each other and i've met all his friends in malaysia he's met my immediate family & friends via skype i believe he is a good man he's made me a better woman he is very overprotective of me and looks after me well we are both christians and want to have children together we are planning to travel to nigeria in the new year after the wedding and everything. we’ve only been married a year but we’re very very happy. marriage brings out the worst in every human being- man or woman. from the island and my husband is from nigeria we're happily married,the funny thing all his nigerians friends are married to foreigners. (especially coming from a nigerian man lol)) he loves me and said he wants to be with me. 3 years ago my friend met a nigerian guy age 24 in malaysia two years ago, she’s 40 years old, asian and had recently gone through a bad divorced . if your man is good to you & treats you well, shows you respect & consideration, you have mutual understanding, and you communicate freely. yes they are all africans but they se also, ugandans, kenyans, tanzanians, ethiopians, ghanaians, nigerians… within that. the men are essentially venting on kenyan women who wish to be married to considerate partners of whatever race, instead of improving their treatment of them in order to attract the women. if a nigerian guy truly wants to go on a future-bound affair with you, he will most unlikely not try to buy your emotion over with money or gift. its unlikely in our real culture- nigerians frown at divorce and even see it as a bad omen. also made some good points, but it is not entirely true that nigerian culture allows men to marry more than one wife, i think, it is more of a religious belief than cultural. one thing we nigerian guys love about you foreign ladies is the fact that you ladies are selfless with your love. this was said by a young man who was educated in the west and speaks like an englishman! i do think that a plus to marrying an african (in my case a cameroonian) is that they are socialized to commit which is a big struggle for tha african american man. it will be helpful to many people reading to face the reality of the situation. i was married to a zambian who jilted me some years ago (immigration-wise). i could only guess as to why, but i can’t even tell you how many times my boyfriend’s friends either tried to get with me or said “hook me up with one of your white sisters… i’ve always wanted to be with a white woman” funny, but very annoying after a while. was in a relationship with a gambian man and i’m from the us. is great that you are happily married for 30 years to your nigerian man, but things have changed a lot since then thanks predominantly to the internet and other modern ways of communication. but your nagging and jealousy, snitching up and down shows that a woman has no self esteem to be with us. 3 years ago from l island@andrea, i didn't really understood your comment but from the little i grabbed, its quite a difficult situation when the mother of your man is so involved in your relationship. we don't have issue with sizes but be good looking and don't be 100yrs and want 18yrs nigerian boy, as a white woman, would you wish that for your child. on another note i don't know anyone who has called a black man - black monkey are you serious? yes, our men need to embrace the changes in family and romance.'m also a firm believer in love before race and find all this issues about nigerian men stereotypical to say the least,how about looking at each individual as a human first,and all humans regardless or race or tribe are full of bad and good people. are a many good guys around waiting patiently for you. let me ask all of you a question – how many of you aa ladies and ladies have been back to the motherland? in germany the only thing you we see is singles mother every where in germany. i can get with a man who dates women he likes no matter the race, but i can’t get with somebody who is over infatuated to the point of blindness. let me ask all of you a question – how many of you aa ladies and ladies have been back to the motherland? wise man says: ‘’the truth hurt only once, but lies hurt forever’’.@ashley, unfortunately, most nigerians in south africa aren't the true-representative of nigerians. remember, marriage in nigeria is a union of two families- the man’s and the woman’s family, and as such the families would step in if things are getting out of hand and they would do whatever they can to settle the matter amicably within the family level. so if you are white woman in love, you have to respect yourself and don't think being in your country, you can do anything you like cos that will make us start thinking of going home to the ones we know. feel intimidated when they are married to a highly educated woman, so they use all tactics they know to overshadow her and make her submit to their leadership..when you find a serious man that shows true concern for you, please don't take him for granted. woman who goes for nigerian men just cause of money or they need some1 to spoil them? i respect this man on every level and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. from his young age he wanted to be rich businessman, i'm afraid that he even didn't go to any school. 2 years ago hithanks for all the advice given on this page and i would like to really commend you for sacrificing a lot to make sure everyone gets an answer to her questioni met a yoruba man a few months back and it coincidentally happened that after meeting him a few weeks online,i went to nigeria for a church conference. we are all fantasizing about the day when the men in our lives demand that we stop working! i am enjoying my marriage to a nigerian male we are happy and occasionally visit. however, this is simply a dream for us as the cost of living demands a two income family. i have made a list of all the appropriate questions and will be learning more about this man before the night is over. i've been burned too many times in my life, i just thank god yet again for saving me from him and more misery! it means that nigerians who practices polygamy are the muslims, while it is not allowed in the christian regions. i agree, i’m married to a ghanaian, the best day of my life, he’s everything i ask the lord for. he is a pastor as so many nigerians but i never got change to mix in this world. my nigerian females friend keep asking why nigerian men love haitian women so much lol.’t marry a nigerian man you met abroad until you have known his true identity as regards to- marital status, family background, etc. there are loads of honest nigerian men out there doing just fine and distant themselves from the shenanigans portrayed by the hoodlums. again, i want to stress again that i am going to be as honest as possible in disclosing some useful information that would assist all foreign ladies desiring to marry a nigerian man. want to believe if these foreign ladies see their nigerian men as the head of the family and give them the due respect many marriages will work out well. you are a woman and you are earning more than your husband, please don't let this make you to become unruly and not submissive because every man wants a submissive woman. made this point because some nigerian men you see in your country are already married to a nigerian lady here in nigeria before they set out to travel abroad to look for a greener pasture. need help understanding if this is real before i make another mistake by marrying the worry man. as a ibo man, i can never believe a woman can make me wealthy, or pay my bills. i sat there and watched her hold hands with another man while i sat back and watched. the funny part of this, is that most of these white women are married to black men or have mixed race kids with these black men they are blasting about on the internet., i understand how you feel emotionally because we humans are born to have feelings for people we care about. m tired of hearing stories that nigerian men marry for rituals. summary, nigeria is a very secure place for any human to live..and i also have lots of nigerian guys married to foreign women- american, british, canadian, australian, german, swedish, switz, french, indian, malaysian, chinese, brazilian, philipino, south african, ghanaian, arabians (not many), etc, etc and they all are living happily. @happygirl, you seem to have mastered nigerian men more than i do. at the time i lost my job so it was hard for me to travel back and forth, once i got a job, i planned my trip again, but in the meantime i was looking and digging for information, to then i realised he has been chatting to other women, now i found out about one of them so i confronted him and asked him about this woman, he didn't know what to say coz i caught him out on it, he told me that he will tell me about her later on, but he knew i caught him out on his lies, here i was thinking that he loved me, that i was his treasure and how he thanked god for giving someone like me to him, that he made all these promises and that i am his only one. it is callous of you as a nigerian to write such an article. the average nigerian looks at anyone with white skin like a millionaire. poured out everything you need to know as a foreign lady before falling in love or marrying a nigerian man and every help and guide you need to build a stable, lasting, happy relationship or marriage with a nigerian man. and just recently started dating a 31year old igboman, his very religious & traditional when it comes to his believes and am a tradional xhosa woman so there will be a problem there, he claims not to be educated and yet the manner in which he speaks is all intelligence, his very possessive in a way he thinks everyman is after me!.this other woman i spoke about, she is his problem, not mine, i don't know her i have only spoken to her, and like i said, i had no idea that he was a scammer ok, and when i found out about this woman i am talking about, that she knew about me and every other woman out there, if she had any brains, she would have had the balls to let us other women know that he is a scammer, like i warned her. an ibo man, wont see a future with any woman, who don't welcome his culture, who hardly show interest in it.

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he did admit to me that he was married in nigeria for a little bit and got divorced. reports:All about the tea was the first to spill the exclusive tea earlier this week that porsha williams is dating an older man that gifted her a half of a million dollar car. one year ago the guy ask his nigerian friend to ask my friend to bail him because he was jailed because of visa and overstaying in malaysia and for him to go back to nigeria, of course my friend helped him. a real man is not threatened by an educated loving woman. you truly want to marry or date a nigerian man living abroad, and enjoy a lasting, genuine relationship, follow the rules below:Don’t marry a nigerian man living illegally in your country or any foreign nation. please keep writing and shedding light on intelligence, grace and how beautiful the soul is of a well-intentioned nigerian man and the happiness the permeates from it. i am talking about some nigerian men who didn’t have a formal education.. or which many countries and cultures you have never experienced. you can play with an ibo man’s life, but don’t play with his money!. i have always told my friends that i would love to marry an igbo man too, but from your comment above, it seems you as an igbo man are running after foreign ladies. this happens when the man in question is truly in love with the lady and wants to know her more to avoid jumping into marriage with her to regret later. just come here to advertise their scam romance, others come here to attack me. these are they same black women that carried these black men for 9 months in there tummy and yet what we are getting is, our nigerian brother having us as second option in marriage. stop listening to the white man who peddle this rumour that white woman are looking for black men to bed, black men only pick up ugly fat white women. because such nigerians go into relationship with foreigners out of love and not for anything else like: securing permanent residence, monetary gains, etc. as a nigerians, we never deserve to be suffering like this. i can’t really comment directly to her, my comment was addressed to anonymous as a perfect example of many, my comment was an attempt to wake up other daydreaming ladies who are just falling deeper and deeper in to something that will only leave a deep scar on their hearts for life. bless you and prayers going up for you i am also married to an african man with conditional love for my daughter and i . am a white american and i have been married to a ghanian for two years. if my husband's heart so ached for permanent residency in nigeria, then that is where we must be, together. the yoruba man is more immune to polygamy than the ibo man. unfortunately, the bad ones are more visible to foreign women; hence the reason many foreign women are ending up with the wrong or bad nigerian men. i take this very serious cuz i am a woman and this is a battle we are still fighting in the western world . i mean, it will be more apparent once you are married..no matter how difficult things might be for an ibo man, he doesn't let go his pride. don't be fooled by the way any man treats you, some are professionals who have mastered what they do and how they achieve it. menhow to make a man committed and propose for marriageby accofranco11. lastly if we leave in your country and married to you and you feel you wont respect or humble yourself as a woman, then that marriage, might be turned in to normal relationship, without your notices. i was excited but then my excitement turned into anger in the matter of minutes because he told me that he was married to another woman from his country. i guess like i said before, he is a master in his profession, he will charm and manipulate u, i was blinded and didn't see it, but then when i asked the lord to help me and guide me, that's when i really opened my eyes. met an ghanaian man , who i have fallen in love with and plan to marry. what i don’t get is how any woman can watch her deplorable behavior & agree with it. mind you, this article wasn't written to destroy the image of nigerian men or to scare foreign women from marrying nigerian men, of course i am a single nigerian man myself and i can't just wake up to destroy my country's image, and i can't just come online to lie to people to protect my country's image when they are doing the wrong thing; i am here to say the truth to save people from destruction and unmerited heartbreaks, get it now? my sister's friend, her mum is white her dad an igbo man, according to her, in her own words, she said her mum is the most racist white woman she has ever seen. there are cases of desperate nigerian guys who left the shores of nigeria to some asian countries in search of greener pastures at all cost. didn't fell for her for any other reason but for her manner. all are bad…be positive…don’t let what people say about nigerian men make you dislike or form hatred for all nigerian men, including your husband…. in fact most western women instead of looking for ways of resolving marital crises, prefer to threaten their man with divorce, and this is a situation a true nigerian man snares at. 3 years ago my daughter has been going out with a nigerian. nigerians in general, have unquestionable respect for their parents and would listen and obey them at any point in time. am married to an african man from ghana and i feel in my heart that he is cheating on me. i do believe hes hell bent on gettin a good job & generally just being a better man with a bright future. nigerians are also extremely patient people because of their environment. but in this situation, when we marry a foreign lady and then we start to approach the age of 60 - 70 years and want to go back home to nigeria to live probably permanently, only to be visiting foreign countries on vacations, the foreign ladies always object to this, and in most cases, they took away the children we had with them and take them back to their country, and the nigerian man ends up childless at old age with no one to bear or continue his lineage. we are all fantasizing about the day when the men in our lives demand that we stop working! i have taken so many risks for my readers and fans even though i haven't seen any. closing remarks of a nigerian man preferring to marry a nigerian is also dated and lopsided. honest we have been in love for long time and we've been wanted to get married for long time but still doubt about it. 3 years ago i am sorry, as a nigerian woman i am sad to see what mr. his story seemed way too good to be true so i researched him and found out that he is married to a beautiful woman who still resides in africa. however, if we as humans invest so much studying, running and managing a business. 3 years ago hi gal i love you you have been so helpful because i am separating from my edo man in few days time. i'm east asian and i'm married to a hausa man for 9 years.@confused07 it saddens me to say that a good number of nigerians in sa are into illegal activities and will never be a true representation of nigerians.. so my advice to any other woman out there, please, please i beg of you, my story is real, please be very careful when dating a nigerian man, if he is scamming, then you know he still is, don't believe him bcoz he will charm you to make you believe that he is loyal to you, any sign of gut instinct telling you something isn't quiet right, then please listen to it, never follow your heart, bcoz even our hearts sometimes can't distinguish the two. nigerians we meet out if their habitual environment are very different. 4 years ago from l island@angelina & weary, i am happy to hear the hilarious comments about nigerian men from foreign ladies like you two. was suspicious to where he was going to that day (last week)so i had to look into it more and found what he does to these girls heartlessly don't know whether i should let the white girls know what he is up to or just leave it as its)people out there it's not only online meeting but even face to face some guys from your country give you guys a bad name,i live in europe am black too but i would prefer nigerians guys because of their confidence,charm and warm nature sometimes (i believe there is few good ones out there still) and similar culture background i can provide him with similar culture but i find most times they are just all about money especially if they know you have more than them,in this latest case the guy i dumped earn more than the white girl he is scamming money from how heartless and cruel is that? i am malawian and i have seen enough african men destroy the women they claimed to love, and i have also seen many men live up to their promises of commitment, respect and partnership. it’s this thought that lingers in the back of my mind saying that he is still has a wife and family in africa and is trying to obtain a citizenship in order to relocate permanently to america with his african wife and family. of course one cannot attribute this just to the nigerian nationality but what i do know is that it is a man's world in nigeria. cant be older,fat,uneducated and expect to snare any man be it nigerian. we dated for 2 years and have been married for 2 years. another quote by me: "no man exist without a spiritual image; which maybe positive or negative spirit". i felt numb i could not move, angry and i was heartbroken and had been deceived by this man for 2 years. was deported by immigration for over staying and we are still together trying to get married but my divorce still isn't final and i asked him to get an arranged marriage and he declined. young nigerians have mastered their profession, they are all sweet talkers, they know how to approach and exactly what to say to that particular type of western woman they targeting. when he found out about her dating a woman he told her it was not a problem either.?Gee,i wonder why there are so many single mothers here…. summary, nigeria is a very secure place for any human to live. i found them sometimes more likely to open their doors to other nigerian tribes. gone are the days men divorce their wife via verbal pronouncement: "i divorce you", nigerian judicial system; customary court and marriage welfare doesn't recognize verbal divorce. despite the cheeriness of the locals the country is a mess in many regards. my question: is it normal for a nigerian man to dote on a woman, discuss marriage and then not have contact for months :/ but still expect marriage? will send you a video clip of a racist comment made by your foreign lady to her nigerian husband. i agree with all the writer has to say about nigerian men and their cultures, their beliefs and traditions. educated well meaning nigerian men are out there that can give you a happy life. because his some siblings lives in international for study, work and married lives inside their country. i truly care for this beautiful african man, he is something so new and different to me, but i am a strong aa woman and will not put up with anything. having been brought up in a community of nigerians consisting of all three major nigerian tribes and other minority tribes, i must say that your depiction of men from the three tribes either exaggerates some characteristics or just fails to promote some more obvious endearing characters they all possess. i really need to feel secure on this cause have heard so many horrible stories. he was the best man i have been with so far and i pray his live find it’s way back to me. it is a stain on the woman as well as cause economic downturn as well.. you can't sit there and say you love him when he is telling every other woman out there that he loves them too. apply my self in some volunteer work as well as work on my music and do some shows and become an asset to the community getting involved in human rights and child development. marriage with anyone is difficult but i have found from experience, and from listening to other wives, that nigerian men are like lone rangers. he communicates with many ladies even though he is married..by the special grace of god, i have been assisting so many ladies and men to fix their relationships through free counselling, consulting and even sending them free e-books, and counselling articles. learned one or two things about the nigerian man, let’s now look at some vital facts you mustn’t ignore when deciding to date or marry a nigerian man abroad. the average nigerian looks at anyone with white skin like a millionaire. men from other nationalities are so awesome and innocent than their nigerian counterpart, why do we have high rate of divorce and unhappy couples in the west? in many ways he is industrious and has our long term future at the heart of his actions. i marry her when am looking for a stay in germany. fact, let me tell you something about most nigerian guys, mainly the ones that grew up in nigeria before leaving for abroad, they usually believe that most women are after a man's money and financial status, so they always respect a woman who isn't so interested or nervous about money. i'm seeing and igbo man, i asked if he was expected to marry a nigerian girl, he said yes, i said so this is just a 'fun' thing then, he said no not necessarily there are just steps you take before one can even think of marriage. i know his job is very demanding, and i am a very loyal person so regardless of which direction our relationship goes i don't want him to be disappointed because he's great man. l 3 years ago as a forgive never marry to a nigeria man that doesn't have papers. or is it a "reap what you sow" measure for the fact that i didn't answer many of his calls in the beginning? wrote the book after years of helping foreign ladies fix their relationships and after helping to guide foreign ladies to make the best choice when befriending nigerian men. he is a businessman, have money, like to travel abroad. to be honest with you, in western world, especially in england and usa over 52% of married couples are divorced. they, african men, will still use an american woman regardless…because their hearts are not pure. an ibo man, wont see a future with any woman, who don't welcome his culture, who hardly show interest in it.@ weary and any other lady who would like a feminine take on the issue of marrying a nigerian man, please don't be so afraid of whether he can marry you. i met my yoruba man online and have met his family and friends via skype. i told him that i want a normal relationship, a man i can see every day. hi anonymous, good to see you’re doing fine, i wish every other girl, that got tricked and sucked into this type of romance ordeal, has learned something useful by now, i also hope that your older ‘’friend’’ you mentioned here has learned her lesson too. most nigerian men are searching for some kind of motility,be it financial or social(ambitious). i have met and plan to marry a very special ghanaian man with values and loyalties. its difficult to inform family that one s dating a nigerian man be coz of these dark issues. you really think someone would lear german just for scamming?.for the past few months, i have been blaming myself for everything, i am never one to judge, i am not racist coz i wouldn't have dated a nigerian or any other race for that matter, i truly loved him and i did absolutely everything in my power to make him happy, he very well knew that i would have moved to his current country to be closer to him and even would have moved back home to nigeria with him, when he decided to go back at a later stage, bcoz that's how much i truly loved him. kind of complicated the way and manner in which you narrated it. he careful, nigerians will do whatever it takes to get away from nigeria good luck tho. there are cases of desperate nigerian guys who left the shores of nigeria to some asian countries in search of greener pastures at all cost. i do believe hes hell bent on gettin a good job & generally just being a better man with a bright future. 2 years ago accorfranco , i was browsing the net to search articles about nigerian culture when i stumble your blog, i desperately need advise . stand in love and ensure your love in not blind so that you're able to see what you're getting yourself into- whether with a black, white or asian man. she doesn't care about the fact that the nigerian guy she is dating was with other woman whilst with her and yet she knew that he was dating them all at once, so to that woman who thinks he loves her, arranged tickets and hotel arrangements for her and anything else, it's all part of his job districption, to scam her aswell. i to have been in a relationship with a nigerian man(unk tribe) will be asking that question shortly. but there are many things mentioned in these comments that are so true! remember, nigerian men aren't european or american men who are feminist out to crown a woman while crying silently in pains. not long ago a foreign woman was killed in south africa while visiting her 20 years younger nigerian lover..Concerned sis 11 months ago my sister is in love with a yoruba man, she is 49 and he is 37. nigeria must be rid off all manner of evil people; so if it entails telling the unimaginable truth, i will! western countries and high divorce rate, you and i don't need a suitsayer to tell us that there is absolutely high rate of divorce in the western countries like- uk, usa, australia, canada, germany, etc, and it is as a result of some government policies that over-empowered women to the detriment of traditional values that favour family stability and peace that ancient people enjoyed. having been brought up in a community of nigerians consisting of all three major nigerian tribes and other minority tribes, i must say that your depiction of men from the three tribes either exaggerates some characteristics or just fails to promote some more obvious endearing characters they all possess. 4 years ago i live in australia and i'm engaged to a nigerian man. encourage ladies with any kind of nigerian or any other romance scam experience to come forward and warn other girls not to make the same mistake, as anonymous bravely did. i’m married into a very,very christian valued family. but then, i wrote this to help foreigners, especially ladies who sometimes fall victim to bad nigerian guys abroad. please naija men should have some accountability for once, the woman must do xyz and b to keep them, aren't you all men. it is not about nigerian men or igbo men, it is about the individual- his belief, his upbringing, his friends, his life experiences, his job, his business, his person..because i know that child bearing tops the list of qualities every nigerian man seeks in a woman he wants to marry, unless your man didn't grow up in nigeria.@ashley, unfortunately, most nigerians in south africa aren't the true-representative of nigerians. even if the african man in question has three or four phds, and has lived in the us forever, look deeper than his superficial educational qualities. once the woman is married, the man’s true colors start to come out. isn't fair and that's why as a nigerian, we all must stand for the truth and start making a difference, and start making people understand that we aren't as bad as they see us.

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