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i’ve generally found in my 35 years on this planet is that the man who says this, often doesn’t care enough about the woman he is with in the first place. go get you hair did, get your nails done, get a hot new outfit or something and throw him some indicators and see if he gets fired up for you still. i thought this was wonderful, but i would find out the catch.. because i feel that if you aren’t getting what you truly want then it’s not right and there are infinite options out there. the latest thing that happened is where he wanted to kiss a chick that just had a kid and she’s 17 and he’s 20 so what the hell. in the meantime, i’m glad to have you around dude. so naturally i went with my threat and i did leave him , however , now this is where it gets bad . guy who doesn’t know what a relationship is can write something like that. best bud where his friend who has a gf & supposedly is really in love was telling my bf that its hard being good and that his professor is hot n coming onto him and that if she was a real stunner it would be hard to resist. free love, without trying to control and possess the other is so much lighter, freer, happier than this modern concept of airtight relationships, where the other person has zero room to breathe. after dating alot, i think the advice “be yourself” is the best ever. maybe she has a personality that just seems more flirtatious than others. everyone here, i live my life the way i want to, and my partner is someone who shares that view, we’re just two people who feel happier choosing monogamy (monogamy with someone who wasn’t free or joyful would suck serious arse). men, i am not talking about randy boys, are picky and the ladies know, that they have better keep men interest otherwise men will kill the relationship and hunt for another equally hot babe. but i am annoyed because he is going to vegas with his boy and told me its his boy’s cousins wedding which i know is true and planned it when we had broken up so i can’t say shit. i have no updates so far but if you’d let me know how to get one, i’d appreciate it so much. he’s smart he’s ambitious, and we come from similar backgrounds. i don’t consider myself unnattractive, but i know i need to stop with this jealousy and comparison. your girlfriend is a huge flirt and seems to constantly chat up other guys, leaving you feeling less than adequate, you’re not alone. i am still feeling such loss and i shouldn’t be cause he was displaying such bad behaviour but i know deep down this is not about me. i have caught him flirting with other girls online and this is the third time he did it. once tested if he was shopping for women while out with him. also i would appear as a ‘slut’ talking like this with others whilst seeing my boyfriend.. many will keep a lesser attractive girlfriend to do shit for them while they playboy around, much like many women women will have a steady “boyfriend” or husband who she isnt really attracted to and cruely leads on denying his sexual needs for her own gain, while banging d-bags behind his back. however, because of things i read i just don’t know if i can trust him. i have a great woman right now and i have friends who tell me i’m crazy for some of the women i turn down. but, if he’s giving her a ride…wow he has energy to shower…but won’t when he’s going to be around anyone else. say, “i don’t like that you talk to exes and see them, nor that you lie to me about it. so she will do whatever she want and maintain deniability, and still be confident that you will be a good dog and follow her around on a leash. the deal with me however is that it’s not that he seeks flirtation out, but that the guys flirt with him and even make obvious comments of attraction. i’m not saying i was right to check, but what i found was unacceptable and i didn’t expect to find anything at all! but he wants to be friends (texting and calling everyday) until we’re both ready to date so he can win me back and date again. when you meet the right one, you will know and it will be so unreal you almost want to doubt yourself. i confronted him about what i saw and he cried and asked for my forgiveness and i told him that i’ll put my last energies on working on this. i wish he’d see my ass and react the way he did when we first got together and the way he reacts when he sees these pics on ig that he tags his boys on. which has lead him to do what i deem as destructive behaviour.. so if a guy shows any signs of that, other dudes will destroy his reputation by publicly telling other dudes he’s a fag, he’s “pussy whipped”, shit like that. i feel like he wanna have his cake and eat it too which he says he is not (lies) i clearly let him know if that’s what you want, you wanna go have sex with other people or whatever you wanna do then we shouldn’t be together because i’m not gonna be here at home and you out there doing god knows what. it takes a few things: knowing what you want being one of them and then accepting nothing less. she acted angry with me because i went through her shit and tried to act like i was the crazy one. have been reading articles online about this topic and am always interested in hearing a mans perspective. otherwise, just cook for them and eat on your own.. they only work if you’re willing to walk away. that can only happen if you drop the insecurities (taking things personally). at the same time, was it fair for him to lie to me about things he said he wouldn’t do? your flirtatious ex-girlfriend also needed to have sex with the men she flirted with to fill that feeling of inadequacy and undesirability that she feels, would you have been as tolerant? that’s a pretty massive claim… you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl. and now, a little over a year into the relationship you’re disappointed that he’s still the same guy… and you want to change him. as long as you’re experiencing that joy, freedom and power to create the life you desire and its you making the decisions, does it really matter what you pick? he has suggested couples therapy to help deal with our issues. he’s told me that the reason he fell in love with me was because i wasn’t like other guys and that i trusted him and didn’t doubt his devotion, which i pride myself on being most times. does he provide for them an opportunity for a better future? or are you going to tell me he has issues and should see a shrink? a week, i’d get nothing but calls and “i’m sorry” voicemails and “i miss you” texts. as long as it’s harmless flirting, it can actually be healthy for both of you to feel comfortable enough in your relationship to be able to innocently flirt just a bit. no, what i was looking for that was answered with this article was the second part where you talked about changing people, insecurities, and personalities. we moved in together to a different house and a fresh start. he obviously values you enough to apologize and you should focus on that positive aspect and move forward. i’m thinking to myself why is he even on a dating site if you already in a relationship? sometimes when past events outweigh everything, going separate ways is an opportunity for a new beginning for both parties, a clean slate with a new partner that does not have a troubled past. im dating a guy who is much younger than me woman keeps posting pictures of him on social media saying that they are with him so i confront him about it cause i was really upset so he said hes not with them they jus like posting pics of him so i then said well you need to control what people post cause its affecting me he then said he cant control what these girls post on there profile. are two ways to look at things:What is your partner doing wrong? after two yrs of trying to understand him and cut him some slack, i just knew it wasnt what i wanted. while most people jump to an obvious advice with the virtual dating bibles in their head, you read into the relationship better and leave us feeling positive about life and people. if you said that to me i’d begin planning my exit right away, too much risk nowadays sleeping around. i have seen him a few times since and it has been pretty good minus a few minor blips..cough) i mean to show his boys he’s not a “pussy whipped bitch” jusy because he has a steady girl now.. i think that is like a playground for adults and it doesnt bother me as much. that’s not his fault and it’s not your fault. they never sent me nude pics lol but i would never act on it, or even compliment or “play around” in certain ways, because i respect my relationship and my boyfriend. you would not give a misbehaving 5 year old an ice cream cone every time the child acts poorly would you? i believe the reason he can’t come to you to talk about it is because of this insecurity that he doesn’t want you to know about. there is a man out there who will not flirt and if he does it would never be your fault ever!” i dunno, i really dislike “tactics” and “gameplay” but i think as long as the end result works, i think it’s ok. it wasn’t like he had actual relations with this woman. will this just happen a few years down the line when i let my guard down? never agree to have sex with just him, never make him a priority during that time. you tlel them how you feel as nice as u can and they ate stone cold or try to find an exit. if he would be, he wouldn’t have the guts to approach another woman. it was devastating when i found out this was what he was about. that is normal, but all of the sudden she wants to show off all the splits she can do and flinging her head with her hair going everywhere. we went to a party together and he was tecting another female in the same party. yet ofcooooourse ( this is a bit silly ) i see him commenting girls pictures with hearts and telling them how beautiful they are and asking for their numbers, kiks. i do it in front of her the same as i would when she’s not there. it’s like you’re echoing what my boyfriend is saying to explain his behavior. could feel trapped and unhappy in the relationship but just doesn’t know how to end things. so, you leave a man who flirts, and the next guy will flirt as well probably. at the end of the day he is not my bf anymore but it was 4 years i shared my life with him and its only been a month since he broke up. the puzzle is that, i sent him all types of porn style pictures all the time, never said no, and was creative every time. why would he be having these sexy, flirtatious conversations with these other women? i obviously was happy for her, and helped her get over her nerves at starting a new job. i can bet every woman in here whose man flirts with many other women, always seem to blow cold suddenly or seem to put them on fixed dates or start claiming they too busy by the 4 month of the relationships or suddenly by then they know all of new women or “friends”with their x again. choose to view “feeling sorry” for yourself as negative and taking action for yourself as positive. i know he is insecure, he won’t ever show it, but i know sometimes when he would be drunk it came out, he gets so jealous any man even dares to look at me, he wouldn’t let me wear clothes that are too sexy or made a comment about it, i caught him checking my messages a lot of times and he would give a go about things he doesn’t like which could be something like ‘why did you sent that person a sad face’, and he mention when he was drunk i didn’t say ‘i love you’ to him enough and he didn’t felt loved and desired by me. i’m currently planning to cutting off my guy from my life, meaning not even be his friend. they usually do what they want and if what they choose to do is make poor choices, how can you see them ever really making the right choice… most of them won’t until they have been dumped enough times to change their ways.. you can’t really “threaten” this though, if you’re not prepared to go through with it. they want to string you along while weighing their options.. then, maybe you’re not satisfying his sexual needs quite as much as he desires. however, the curve ball is that a similar situation occurred 2 months ago but in the other way around. always accusing me of being a whore, tells me he regrets ever hooking up with me cause i am ugly ( not true so by the way. sad that it was easier to walk out and start over with someone knew than stay and try to face his disturbing behaviour. so, this is where picking and choosing your battles comes into play. despite being a extra confident, sucessful and charming, deep down he was fragile and insecure.’t rush but you must respect yourself and don’t get caught up in arguments. but hell you got to look out for your own health fuck that, don’t be afraid to establish some healthy boundaries. at parties you attend together, does she see you trot out that special variety of charm you reserve for young women? can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture… and maybe learn something valuable about your guy in the process (maybe some need that he still needs met). are not teenager either, i am nearly 25, he is nearly 29, we have been together for 5 years, with one year break in between. inviting girls to events that he hasn’t asked me to go to. news: the humble gif was declared a deadly weapon in an odd court case.. it’s in no way saying ‘don’t be intimate’ and i think you really hit on why she might be reading it that way. can’t just ignore what happened, because if he continues talking like this to them and arranging meet ups with his sexy work colleagues, something worse will possibly happen! basically everyone on earth thinks of their behavior as “the normal stuff i normally do because i’m normal” and the noticeable behavior of anyone else as “that weird thing that weird people do because they’re weird. no, rip the bandage off and get single long enough to reflect and heal and find yourself. was one thing you said that didn’t make sense. do i agree with you that their behavior is “wrong”? don’t “provide him with a reason/an answer” by asking him with an assumption of why, ie. had told me that she would get jealous of he dated someone or brought someone home…a friend would not get jealous over that. of those dudes that i’m referring to are really shitty dudes. it is to break you free a bit emotionally from the situation. but i don’t need him to say i love you to me so many times (i know it sound silly, but he needs that). so now ive told him since he has set the standard for our relationship, i will also be calling men by pet names and handing out my numbers. so i guess we both will be cheating on each other, and still stay together until one of us finds a better mate. you’re accusing me of being biased and ignorant… and the first sentence of your comment is: “this article proves men don’t know s*** about relationships”. i packed my bags and was ready to walk out on him that very day but he pulled me back on bended begging me to stay. my perspective is, if people aren’t doing shady shit, then there wouldn’t be a need to spy on them.. as long as they don’t actually physically cheat, i think it’s ok. ofcourse he doesn’t know i looked through his things recently and that’s y i don’t trust him the way i would like to. she suffers from low self-esteem, she’ll more than likely flirt just to make herself feel better about herself. you confront them, you’ll develop your inner confidence and strength to a point where you simply don’t care any about other guys anymore, rather than spending your life running from your insecurities. i think you’re advice is great because i am getting a man’s perspective on relationships which is what i want… to understand the way men are so i can stop being so judgemental and insecure when a gorgeous 10 walks in the room and my bf looks at her and i start to imagine what he is thinking.. trust me, there are times when women show friendly interest and then when men make a move she doesn’t want him any more. this is where i have really put thought into what i consider acceptable or not. my goal is to push these women to understand that it’s not about the past or present or what they are doing “right” or “wrong”.. and how can i know if he really does care and have him be honest with me? a sure fire recipe to fuck things up if you’re hoping this will develop into a meaningful, long-term relationship. to answer what you asked above directly (which was, “it seems the only option is to stay and accept it or leave – is that the point your making? or that they desire to feel connected to a woman. you're ready to become the kind of man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then i have a gift to start you on that journey. if you’re coming to find the answers to questions answered by a man, you’re probably going to get the same un bias opinion by a man. like i trust him but i gotta keep my eye open type of ish., this article just ruined the good image that i’ve built of you in my mind as an “authentic” alternative to pua. i know it’s wrong but i look through his texts which i need to stop because i think it’s making me paranoid because i’m tryna figure out who his female friends are. there’s a certain way to go about it, you obviously don’t demand a person not go out do what they’re gonna do because people are going to do what they want. much like a man going to a strip club, but not kissing touching or sleeping with the strippers, and instead returning home to his woman, turbocharged and ready to give her good loving, or a group of women going to watch “magic mike” and having some drinks in the club, but then going home to their loving spouse, i feel that it’s not harmful for men and women to talk and flirt with men and women, as long as they are faithful. i don’t want to get in too much because i’ll just run my mouth lol but i feel that since he is an older guy about to hit his 30’s that he will grow up idk i need some advice about this (greatly appreciated! i will walk through fire, paint my face blue and ride into battlefield fighting for what william wallace did like in brave heart ( william wallace started his crusades because the english had a law that new married couples back then must bed an english law forcement on the wedding night before starting their new lives as a couple.. not because you are not the right choice, but, essentially, he might be wanting to consider if he’s truly ready to become “off the market”. so i started going back looking into what he was doing. i asked him why he lies so much nd why he doesnt take me seriously..he’s always playing around with all the women at work teasing them commenting makin me look like a damn fool…i’m at my witts end. i asked if i can throw away the condoms and he said yea. gave out his phone number so they could text and meet up but told me it was all innocent! i am also flirty and oftentimes slutty with him in bedroom.” the scum of the earth too often are the ones women end up dating because those guys more often have the balls to ask you all out and/or y’all just find it more challenging to try and convert “bad boys” into husbands. he has showed signs of being insecure in the past, like checking out other women in front of me which i had addressed and he seemed to stop for a while, so i put up with it and trusted. a lot of times, this is due to their inability to break up with you. if he’s honest and says he cares about you but he’d like to spice it up a little or something, maybe he wants you to initiate a bit. i only know some of his homeboys and like 1 female friend he knows other than his cuz girlfriend. i just feel that if a man has female friends then it should be boundaries. i know guys like nude pictures, fine, i give him. women are aren’t extremely accepting of our direct ways and feel more comfortable having sexual conversations than just “hey girl, lemme hit that” many women also have heard direct sexual propositions so many times that they may find it more interesting to see different approaches. it don’t matter how beautiful a girl is or how great she is in bed a man will never truly be satisfied by one woman no matter how great she meets his needs. try to remember what you did when you first met to attract him. i recently went to use the ipad and noticed he started up conversations with 5 women. plain and simple, women too often feel complain of being bored with compliant men..The converse is you love him and care about him but hes not the right guy because your “core values” differ. if what you are seeking is safety and security before you can feel intimate with someone, then this article may just piss you off or seem like a bunch of selfish, bullshit.*sometimes* he wants you to “initiate” too and flirt with him a bit before he takes the lead. only verbally and maybe sly looks, never geting physically though. aren’t always right and wrong answers but what you feel is best for you. i dont kniw though i mean i pretty much want sex more, sometimes he is tired and i start to freak out like y is he tired but not tired to jerk off when im not there., this article proves men don’t know s*** about relationships. don’t have a problem with that side of things. this is a very immature attitude and i feel sorry for anyone who buys into his products. i would have looked at her actions as meaning something personal about me, felt bad and then demanded that she not do what made her feel alive because it made me feel bad about myself. i’ve always told him how this makes me feel, he explained they’re just my friends. 3) she asked my boyfriend and i to kiss in front of her at one point (weird) then i see his hand on her lower back at one point, and caught him looking at her. i talked to him many times about this problem but he gives me straight lies every time. relationships never work on lies, lack of respect, and lack of trust. he’s definitely flirting with her, but i’m just confused because she’s flirting back.”, i talk about what she could to proactively improve the situation…. hmm wow an eye opener, so friends tell their friends they love them. at first, i thought nothing of it, and was just happy she enjoyed work. obviously, this is not a healthy way to react to anything ever, but could this change? so, bashing the dude doesn’t give them confidence, it’s “negative” and not helpful. if i was going to hold her accountable for her insecurities, then it was time to address my own. i guess i had always hoped he loved me enough to change that because he knows i would be hurt by him being that way but unfortunately that’s not the way it worked. it has been four times now and he is still texting her. however much i loved him, i can’t spend my life fixing his problems. he is 7 years older than me (i’m 20 yo and he is 27 yo). the problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away… and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything.

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personally, i love being in a monogamous relationship because my partner is like my best friend, it’s amazing, but it’s an extension of the joy i already have in life. he is committed and we are together all the time. plus, it’s poisoning the relationship by making him so weak in my eyes. point in all this is that if you believe that you’re meeting all his needs, you will be blind to areas where the relationship needs to grow. don’t look for men who “make you happy”, look to make yourself happy. after a week i thought heck i’d look into it and founds hundreds of conversations with other women in a very sexual nature even after we were in a relationship and i got angry and broke up with him., other relationships of theirs dissolved without drama, strain or heartbreak… once the conflict ended, it was as if the two people realized that, without conflict, there was nothing there for them anymore and they moved on. relationships between a man and a women is not as strong any more and all faithfulness is out the window. to the wise- never let a man have you until he has paid his dues and proved to you that he is worthy. i were an insecure jealous boyfriend type, i would have flipped out. couldn’t tell you for certain without knowing that dude specifically. i called and he told me he was waiting for who will call first and then even said that he went to sleep at a female friend house the night we spoke because he was bored and the house always make him miss me. i know it is silly and some would say it is just online stuff not a real life or something, but i wasn’t trying to become a virtual star the people who wrote these comments were real and sometimes it is so good to hear a good word about yourself, which makes you feel loved and good about yourself. look at it, to cure your neediness, we are told to date multiple ladies, dating multiple ladies happens to exposed the bane of relationships–insecurity. so since i learned this, i no longer have srx before 90 days and i don’t committed or even consider love, until almost a year. it’s just that sometimes my insecurities get the best of me and i see these other guys as a threat when all my boyfriend does is “like” their comments about a photo of his on facebook, and he doesn’t even reciprocate!-i will admit emails seem kinda wierd for dudes to me, but whatever, who am i to judge. i will pay attention to actions than words because words so sweet was what this a*hole gave me and dreams were what he sold to me.. we don’t do as much ‘exciting’ stuff as we used to. the world would be a much happier place without the male tendency to think that we men are magical pussy psychics who can see directly into a woman’s mind. is one thing that i don’t think you’ll have to worry about. she used to send him nude pictures, and questionale emails and texts. if you really liked the girl to start with (and if you don’t, why are you dating her? and yet, you’ve been demonstrating to him that you’re ok with it. a nuetral one so im posting it here out of desperation. it has always bothered me that when men see a hot woman the first thing they think of is sex, i understand it, but hate it when it is my man. our social media/internet is killing so many relationships when you mix it with insecure/lonely/unhappy people. you love, trust and give your partner your best but when they do things that do not “fly” with you, you have to reject them for it and if it is a “zero tolerance” type of action they have done then you have to have a zero tolerance standpoint and end it pronto…because if you don’t respect yourself, why is someone else going to? if she focuses all her attention on me and it does not end up in marriage, i will feel guilty. there wasnt really any aggressive effort from him to have me back other than rants of why i did it to us.! my boyfriend flirts with women on social media and chats with a woman on whatsapp. now, that’s not the reason i want to leave. this morning i found my charger and i went to facebook and i was stilll loged on to his. confront him/keep pressuring (you’ve tried it sounds but not working… once should be enough to outline “boundaries”/”expectations”) 3. me with “him” is unfair to myself, or any new prospect, but life’s not always fair so you’re fine, i’m not offended. a man sits there and ask a barmaid about her sex life and what she does in th e bedroom is that flirting? know seeing your girlfriend make googly eyes at the waiter might make you want to throw a brick through the window, but just relax a little! it’s sad though because per our last talk, we were already planning to get married next year. the way many guys often attempt to accomplish this is by holding back what they really want, hiding their own “neediness” behind false personas, pick up strategies, or just simply trying to appear in control. said than done, i know, but try to recognize your new partners as a fresh start and a chance to have fun. you let him do whatever he wants & still have his way with you, that’s your choice. said nothing is wrong except i go mental over little things like that and are a jealous type. not all men (actually most men) out there know how to approach and talk to a woman naturally.) all kidding aside…this really pissed me off to the point where i called her and she said i meant no disrespect we’re just friends. i tell them to stop and they don’t, that tells me she doesn’t take me seriously and why do i want to spend my life with someone who is dishonest, cheating, and doesn’t respect me. the man i am with showed recently that he can flirt with someone and even take it a step further invite her to cook for her. like eric said that was him calling my bluff the first time. i know that whenever he goes to the club he dances with other girls “sometimes” which i talk to him about it; i don’t mind if he is dancing with other girls because if i’m in the club with my girls and the vibe is right i’ll dance with other guys too “sometimes” but there is a way to dancing with other people but knowing him its probably a different story because he loves big ass and big tits (which my ass ain’t that big nor i have big ass tits lol)., but i am going to try to be less worried about that nonsense and focus more on me and changing for the better not only for me but to see if by giving him that trust, he betters himself with me as well. because if you get your head out of your arse for a second you’d realise, what if she likes one of the other men more than you? is a “want their cake and eat it too” scenario. he’s flirting with other women if it’s just to keep his game good for you and because he likes a little challenge, “just to see if he’s still got it”, or something like that, then tell him, ok, but tll him you have a zero tolerance for cheating so if he does, it’s over. 6 months in i find a text message of him asking another girl if she would ever have sex with him. have had some issues a lot of times where i try and leave the room when i feel angered or upset by him and he won’t let me leave, he will stand in the door way, pull me forcefully back, lie on top of me for as long as it takes me to promise i will not leave the room to get away from him. he had ask for his space but doesn’t want to break up. im not saying that we should provide our own validation and be responsible for our own confidence, because that is important, but im also being a realist in saying that we gauge our desirability on how people respond to us, so from time to time we test our effectiveness our on other people, we flirt, if the flirting is reciprocated we are still desirable…its not as simple as i described, but generally this is the idea in most cases…we are social creatures and its almost impossible to not flirt with the opposite sex. we are in the living room at her house visting my sister.: i’m shy around guys and everything i say in my head doesn’t come out of my mouth right and it makes me sound stupid or weird. he follows all these “model” pages that post ass ass and more ass. constantly doing this so she kicks him and he’s like did you just kick me and she’s like i didn’t try kick your balls :/ i’m like what? i was once in a relationship that i felt more trapped than growing with the partnership. there is nothing wrong with men being this way because it is their nature. you wouldn’t want to risk losing somebody you’re connecting with – at least not if you’re a real man who’s honest about his feelings. i called that true love and will selflessly give what ever it takes to see this man smile every day. he tells me that i don’t trust him cause of his phone and that i might see something that i don’t like and take it out of context etc. my fear was getting hurt, and i cannot stand being lied to.’d say that’s really needy, unless dude is really young, if a woman said that that quick on me, i’d slow her down real quick and tell her that’s too much too fast 4sho. you are going to get what the f*** you want and get what you deserve and if that guy’s not giving it to you, then, you’ve got some decisions to make possibly. hearing the person u love say that marriage must be the cruelest punishment to man. it is like saying, well even though we have chosen to commit to each other, when it comes to your dark and scary places that get poked and prodded by the behaviors that i use to avoid my dark and scary places, you go take care of that while i choose someone who will share in the joy of my avoidant behaviors”. i mean i am hot and sexy, and i am one of the luck women who get better with age, so this 18 year old had nothing on me.. in order to build a deep connection with someone, they can’t have a deep connection with another person. he very clearly says: “i’m not saying you allow your wife to date your neighbor. also us men, our friends roast us for listening to women. i always appreciate when someone presents a question in a thoughtful way like you did. i stopped blaming myself for not being enough and am now looking at it from a perspective of what it does for him and why he does it, without factoring the part about why he does it when he has me, why he’s okay with hurting me like this, why doesn’t he care enough… etc.’ve had close to 10 women who i was very close to sleeping with because these women were layin on the seductiveness but stopped myself because i knew they had husbands and/or fiances/boyfriends and it sickens me how many women and men ***ing cheat. i told him he was selfish and explained all the reasons it couldn’t work.? and find ways of carrying on carrying on without ‘me’ knowing ? you wish step on and bring out the worst in women, in a selfish attempt to feel better about yourself. however, i find that monogamous (did i say that right? title of this blog should rather be changed to the better “4 reason of why you should encourage your little sister to date more man”. when it’s always on the back of my mind? i’ve been physically and emotionally cheated on in the past, and i told him that it truly hurt me and truly effected me in a very negative way (trust issues, that i even go to therapy to work on currently) i made it very clear that if he broke my trust he would be kicked to the curb. i got bored with an ex who would just lay nude on the bed and say something like “just do what you want to me”. once he got me back it was back to the same ol’ shit. i talked to him multiple times in the past 10 months. think more experienced daters learn their tastes and screen more for what they want and are less “awed” by the potential mate. and i have extremely strong feelings for him too and it’s hard to let go when he’s reminding me why i fell for him in the first place.. women like man would love to flirt , talk dirty show up late but for some reason if we do this is a crime and if we are unhappy with our partner flirting it is us who have failed him in some way.! although the break up was a helluva ride (typical scenarios. here’s why your girlfriend might be flirting with other guys so much. that said, i know we as humans it’s only natural to be attracted to the opposite sex, hell i think plenty of men are sexy and attractive. all they care about is getting laid, and busting a nut. like how he’s so decisive, but i hate when he gets so obsessive over things…. i mean hey, she is my niece and i love her, but i know when someone is flirting with my man. immediately after i told him, he was begging and pleading. he became distant, wasn’t interested in me physically and every time i tried to show him i still found him attractive and wanted to be with him he brushed me off…. my bf has issues too, but i know that i have issues of my own that have affected the relationship. saying he knew he messed up and he’s going to change, he wants to marry me, have kids etc etc the whole nine yards. i drop women like 3rd period french if they lie to me about something like this. it’s all fun and good times until someone starts dripping foreign mucus from their pee-hole. i told my bf that i hung out with the dude, but i had forgot to tell him about us kissing in his car and all the other few things we did. the reasons why girls go gaga for guys with glasses. think it’s a great turn on when a man is able to be a man and can take charge and make decisions. not what you want to hear, but this guy doesn’t sound like he’s ready to settle down. i actually find them unapproachable and feel that the rejection from an asian man would be the most serious sort of rejection. though it’s really annoying and makes you mad, she probably has her reasons. now this all sounded good reasonable, but still i have my doubts. same way if someone wants to sleep with many then its alright for him too? i tried to resist the urge to peak but the little voice in my head provoked me until i found myself in his dms (for anyone that doesn’t know that is direct message). in yr 2 he gave me his password info to email to handle some business for him. my biggest insecurity is not “am i as good as him? friendly person etc etc etc etc” what should i do? you cannot make people do something they do not want to and you cannot make them change if they do not want to or are not ready to. jealousy sounds like this: “johnny have sparkly toy i want so i take johnny’s juice box.: that broken trust is really the deal breaker, and b: that behavior will never change and it is not, in any way, nor it should be, acceptable to anyone. can stop them to seek the thrill they desire in this short life. most people know how it feels to want a relationship to work and care about someone and not wanting to lose that but you should trust your gut, your heart and your mind all three and a new start may be in order. although if you talk to him about it (but be delicate) he may open up, which could result in a stronger bond. i am ok with him texting other women but he refuses to sexy text me. if she sees that it’s not doing anything to you, she’ll lighten up and stop the annoying flirtatious behavior. i just need some advice on this so i can have a clear head about everything. he is still flirting with other girls on a date site but he didn’t put his real profile there, so he made a fake account but still i could recognize that it was him. he was askin her if they could ever have a chance as a couple and she said maybe. it all boiled down to the conclusion that he does not have any feelings for these women. i guess i feel left out of this in his life. i’ve slept with a decent amount of women, close to 40, but never cheated. isn’t a problem, it is human nature, but it can be a weakness used against you by the wrong people to manipulate you. i frequently get mistaken for latina as i’m tall and have an hourglass figure, and i don’t think they would be attracted to that in particular. so we go over to his friends house and his ex girlfriends daughter was there she lives with him. if you love your man you would never let him be ridiculed that way and be that sucker dude who his wife cheats on him. he gets things done, and he never sugar coats anything. of course, all emotions can be blown out of proportion, however one should not exclude the emotion all together… besides, women were blessed with intuition for a reason. i’m not telling you you are right or wrong. but i have an issue with giving out your number to other people at the clubs which i know he has done that. but i just feel he needs to see what kind of impact such behavior has on a partner. there were no other messages and this was from a month ago. “do anything illegal to them” hatred, but “choose that this person no longer exists” hatred. i don’t want my woman to date/fuck other man. we don’t speak for 2 months but when we did we had sex multiple times. it will just make her like you less, which jeopardises your chance of ever developing something meaningful wirh her.), goes insane when i go out with other people saying im hurting him and im cheating on him and thats why he doesnt trust me just sick stuff like that. confronted him about it, in the past i did mention i didn’t like his friends being flirty with him online, but he said i was just paranoid and jealous of him having such a bond with them, but when i saw this i just kinda went crazy and said we are over. but i don’t hate him at all, what i said was that i hate that he emails and flirts with female coworkers. consider the fact that, in iraq, dudes hold hands, but never, ever talk about each other’s wives. tested me and broke me down instead of just being plain honest and tell me we can’t work out. i don’t know why its so hard for a man to let a female friend know they have a girlfriend unless there is something more going on but i could be wrong but it would make me comfortable to know they know he is not single. ex girlfriends ogo of mine would go apeshit though because i had skype on my phone and knew i used to skype my ex girl who lived in florida 900 miles away, even though i just got nutritional information from her. i get it… we are human but y be in a relationship if u can’t resist temptation..but he’s addicted to porn and pics of famous women . news: how emails can reveal whether your partner is keeping a dirty secret. its a relationship and he can’t let bitches come between you guys. i’ve caught him before and he know’s i’ll find out yet he keeps on doing it.. what should i do, should i break up with him or should i wait until i find out he is actually physically cheating on me?? no sex for 1 month but still calls and texts daily!, if you’re seeing a girl and worried that she’s going to date other guys unless you put a ring on it, stop worrying. i guess with our relationship, he does care, i go to meet his best friends, i hang out with them all the time, right now he does live with me and we are working on making the best of it. as eric suggested with his ex, flirting can often be about abundance… a natural joy in connecting with someone in a special way. do i believe that one person can ever be capable of meeting all of your needs. he had texted that it was “too bad” she chose the other guy at the bar. if she asks where the relationship is going after 2 months of dating she’s ‘needy and pushing the guy to make a decision’. anyway he said he was asking me to ask her, so that if she did he could show me he only wanted me not anyone else. then, she began snapchatting him, and finally i just discovered they’d been talking on the phone for long periods of time. i’ve been dating my boyfriend on and off for about 4 years. i’ll be roasted by many women for this comment, as it is often perceived as “blaming women” but, many women won’t date and sleep with men who are “doormats” and “pushovers” to use their own words. to accomplish this you need to have two things, respect and emotional investment. i caught my man asking for pics, telling his friends how hot they were, asking them to lunch, etc. i mean my boyfriend isn’t a “sexy conversation with other women” type, but he does impulsively flirt with the majority of women. so yesterday was my final straw, i could no longer be a barking dog with no bite and continue to make empty threats to him. you choose option 2, however, you must not allow any 2nd chances. am sorry but this is just a load of tosh. believe me, women think a lot of good “nice guys” are the way they are because they are “weak pushovers”. the one day, 3 hours passed with him flirting with other women, sitting across from me like he don’t know me, and even refusing to walk out with me.“he flirts with his female friends because i’ve read texts and emails and ii hate it! said that if i stared at another man that way in front of him, he’d be bothered and that he better darn well have the respect to not to that in front of me ever again. it’s a big help to me that your coaching taught me how to understand thoroughly the reason behind before getting disappointed towards my boyfriend’s manly behavior. are we supposed to overlook the way their actions hurt us, (by hitting on other girls), for the sake of understanding them? 😉 i am not with anyone right now but i have been in this situation before … ! i told him that i’m going to respect your decision and give you your space. you can’t “make” anyone do anything they don’t want to do. he makes it very clear he’s in a serious relationship but that still doesn’t stop these women from throwing themselves at him. even if the girlfriend is smoking hot and the flirt is not..but when my ex continued doing the nagging and stuff…i felt so unhappy and soon people around me became distant as well coz i was shunning them away due to my ex’s constant reprimanding. i’m like why is a female giving you condoms which he tells me i know how people is and blah blah blah. dated a girl who acted a lot like the way you’re describing. this kind of rang alarm bells, but hey, they’re friends and she’s allowed to talk to other guys..what can i say men are always saying part and leaving part unsaid,he claims he loves me and that here is where his peace and love lies but he is not convincing at all,i have to wait half of an hour to get a reply from him via text message,what’s app,etc…but o know that he is there. i don’t have evidence but let’s face it… the world we live in is full of temptation and a lot of times u think u know someone and don’t. i been with my fiance for 2 years now everything has been going great i noticed that on his phone on wordfued he’s asking a female for any type of picture of her. a girl who you know is dating other guys is a fertile breeding ground for insecure thoughts to pop into your head that just don’t exist if you’re in an exclusive relationship:“am i as good as him? as a man, when u see these hot models & huge perfect butts, does it make u want that instead of your girl or do u compare and see ur girl as less than that? i don’t know how my insecurities are gonna be until then but so far, i’m relaxed.

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and left him there to see if he would break his neck to look at her or talk to her like he would normally do.. ask yourself why do you want to continue in a relationship that just doesn’t sound functional. just ask him why he feels the need to flirt? its true i guess its normal cuz women do the same. either i accept this man is the way he is, or don’t be with him. …today he said at work “me him and another chick (coworker) should go out to eat. it’s clear she is not the root of my issue, i’m just not sure where to go with this think that i am a psychology practitioner added to the fatal blow. i truly believe every human is completely capable of this. coach guys also and you’d be amazed… when i tell guys that they need to do certain things or take responsibility for certain things, some of the guys fight me and say, “what? while he moved here to be with me he has not let his other place go and has not moved here except clothes and job. so, anyway, i had never checked his facebook or violated his privacy in any way until 2 weeks ago. it’s the biggest relationship trap possible since it blinds us to understanding them and floods our mind with negative emotions. here are 10 reasons why she seems so interested in every person that walks her way., to say that i’m unsure about things and where i stand would be an understatement.. he was going to leave me for another woman but she turned him down. i don’t know if there was a convo after that or not, but nothing in the inbox. i shouldn’t feel that way because at least i am doing it as a sacrifice to better my life by going to school and working towards my career, but i am hard on myself and i am impatient as hell. but for most people, there is no reason to flirt with someone other than your partner/spouse if you are in a committed happy relationship – unless you want that relationship to end. is just me giving some examples of things i’ve seen in my life that some people might relate to… others might not be able to relate. my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a year now. like i said i have never caught him cheating and not to sound like a naive dumb girl but i know he loves me yet i don’t feel secure. if she’s seeking attention, affection, and flirtation elsewhere, then she might not be satisfied in her current situation. the dude banging the married chick will look at her like trash and her husband as a sorry ass dude. we live in the same house with his mom’s! dudes do things to frustrate their woman intentionally to show her his dominance. we never had any huge arguments (we have silly arguments but it’s nothing extreme) or even fight, but at times i get “lowkey” suspicious. multi dating maybe it would be good to ask some questions of yourself. honestly, thank you, you’ve just opened my eyes on the issue…. spoken from a pua with a life with single mom and having a girl of his dreams. you want to be in a relationship where you both feel free to share openly. is also a flirt and he wanted to kiss girls like 4 or 5 times that i’ve seen on texts i was pissed and i did leave him but we got back together…thing is he never made plans to go see the girls but he was always flirty over the phone and it real feels shit. they are looking to decide what to do next in their lives moving forward, etc. hope this helps and even if not i hope it gives you some perspective to work with. i didn’t realize in order to do that, i would have to completely sacrifice my own needs and my boudaries.” start the conversation by saying, “hey, listen, i don’t want to accuse you of anything, but could we talk about the way you tend to interact with dudes? i’ve already based my concerns and he tells me that there is nothing to worry about. i don’t want to be the psycho chick looking through his things but how do u find out otherwise?.but he keeps over stepping his boundaries and i get sad and fustrated. (started with the checking out other women, then flirting with them in front of me, then secretly messaging them) he agreed to go to therapy and “will do anything” to fix this, but can people really change? he has texted other women and received phone calls which he wouldn’t answer in front of me saying it was other women. he is not out there looking for “sex” (lies) there isn’t another female that he is interested in (lies) he’s like don’t worry we good. that would make anyone lose respect for their partner, and question some of their intentions. you chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out. i am not only attractive, but also intelligent and caring. we broke up for about 3 months twice and i know for sure he slept with a lot of women because he said it to his boy on an email. i’m younger than him, he is 28 and i’m 21. i have tried to be ok with it and try to understand that men’s mind works a certain way. eric, i am unable to write to you in separate post., it is totally possible he doesn’t give a shit about you, but unless you have some real evidence, look at his actions, not words & as for insecurities. when he told me this problem he had with me i started saying it more, like i personally don’t crave for such thing, i feel appreciated when i receive flowers, daily calls, long night talks, cuddles, spend more time with him (we live 3 hours away from each other), when he tells me i am pretty or is there for me when i’m upset. he says he doesn’t feel this is his home because i have threatened to kick him out. all i ask him is to tell me the truth and just be honest don’t lie to me cause he lie for the simplest of shit. the hardest lesson of all to learn is, “life is not always fair”., taking a boyfriend’s flirting and cheating personally is wrong. most crucial element is “know what you want”, have some items that are absolute nos, boundaries, and be willing to accept some differences to get the things you do want but respect yourself by rejecting anyone that falls into the no category, then stick to your guns.. however, two people who are attracted to one another, have chemistry, love each other, both care and want it to work will always find a way to make things work with a give and take. if you’re also seeing other people, it won’t matter if she can’t see you because you’ll have other things to occupy your time with. after this breakup he made me promises about keeping me happy etc etc.’s worth it to encourage a girl to see other men just to confront the feelings of possessiveness and jealousy that come up. partly because i was terrified of losing her, but also because i wanted to see just how it would play out. if you would have called her out on it and told her that it was a dealbreajer, would you then also be a narcissist focusing only on yourself and your feelings at her expense? my boyfriend just last night told me he misses being promiscuous. there are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good. if you want the relationship to move forward, find deeper areas where you can reach him and inspire him. um hell yes i’ll get mad but it’s more from the fact he doesn’t want me to know than what he’s saying. i’ve never really had the need to be affirmed in anything. you feel they’re innocent pics, then it’s probably no big deal, just us dudes showing off our popularity. it all depends on the morals of that person, i mean really, if you love someone, why betray them? second time, we were driving up the road (within a mile of home still as we lived together) and he openly stared at a woman’s rear who was walking up the sidewalk. safe, comfortable relationships have the most potential to get boring and stale very quickly and fizzle out before you can work out if there’s any real potential. get happy then go for what feels right for you, and simply allow others to do the same. it seems as if cheaters are too selfish and unable to suppress their desire to sleep with other people. however…if he’s not into her…why the constant need to keep communication. we talked so much about infidelity (which his ex did to him), i am invested and we are talking of a future, house, moving to the same town, etc…we spend every 2nd weekend together, i love his son, sex is awesome…. sometimes just the fear of more abuse (flirting/cheating/etc. he wouldn’t do it online where i could see it, he would not respond to them in public, but i knew there is a reason they feel comfortable to speak to him like that.!I broke up with my gf a month ago or so because i was not comfortable with the relationship anymore. as far as i know, she hasn’t even told him she has a boyfriend, although i could be wrong about that. i know what i need to do i just need a little more strength and will power. a lady will avoid holding a conversation with a man when he is with his woman unless it’s business. because yes i’m someone who checks her mans phone which i know i’m not suppose to do. i started to get closer to go “zero tolerance” for a while, but then you’re dumping women *a lot* because they like to be flirtaceous.. and how can i know if he really does care and have him be honest with me? if he was cheating, why would he stay for over a year if he doesn’t care, nor is committed to me. what you’re saying is selfish, trying to fix your own insecurities, by playing with the emotions and insecurities of a woman.“after everything we’ve been through am i being crazy for feeling like he doesn’t love me and disrespects me. and i dumped him because he was pressuring me to go back on my ideal of no kids. i told him i could handle a lot of life challenges, but that personally for me, infidelity of any sort was unacceptable. is my personal perspective and i hope even if there are people who disagree that it is either helpful in some way or you find your path in this great world we have.-yes, friends of 20 years or more are just as likely to talk trash. yes i do trust him and i know he loves me he says that he will never hurt me. – ironic that my last comment wasn’t posted by the moderator..sure i admit i have had mistakes but all of it? unless we agree to be exclusive & comitted (to each other, not an institution.. if you specifically are pulling this from my advices, while i don’t like invalidating others’ ideas, i do feel there may be a disconnect between the message i am intending to send to the women i have responded to and your above statements. agree with because i am in the same situation except for the statement which said “you chose him” no i did not choose this man flirting and sexting other women. at first i was very understanding since i felt that my ex was doing me a favor of telling me what’s good for me (and of course i was eager to please my ex as well) but eventually, i became too self conscious and too negative. these people have to learn the hard way that others’ lives aren’t their playground and some people only learn the hard way.’m not trying to lead your answer one way or another, but if you had to choose a yes or no here, which would it be? but the chats with other women bug the crap out of me. may seem narcissistic, but people do it all the time. we were not okay for a while now and i felt like something is going on, he is always on his phone, but text me only once a day, he has all these women messaging him online flirting who he calls his friends. i honestly must say that this relationship and break up has been the hardest thing i have been through my entire life. not in a mean way… just a natural, effortless, unconcerned way of letting go. i am not one of many words and when we fight i don”t day much. is decent logic at work here—attempting to inspire positive behavioral change by expressing negative insecurity is probably not one’s best bet. all of his emotional needs are met by you, so it can’t be that he enjoys the ego boost of feeling desired by a woman…. let’s say that you were satisfying his every need. or just read the title and assume you knew what it was about? have learned a bit about how my words can sometimes be misconstrued as blameful, i am not saying shit is your fault. that’s not to insinuate anyone else’s situation here isn’t serious, it’s just to say i would recommend professional assistance where available..If he sees me sad he will get mad because he usually understands why i’m sad and his reaction is usually explosive. ive never been to vegas but it has such bad rep so i dont know what to expect… but im thinking the worst. i work, have a good job, go to school, going for my masters as a physician assistant; however, i still have about 3 years to finish and live with my parents. yes, i do love him a lot i just feel he does invalidate my feelings & is selfish, however, he thinks i’m selfish & i am in the wrong. he didnt know that my phone was about to die and he didnt log out on time. some girls like to see that their man cares about them. (to me) is about meeting needs first and then getting what we want., essentially, your man *might* just be saying shit like that to (impress his friends. so every time he walks by her she’s playfully fighting with him, swears at him and giggles. because 5 men have used me and lied to me and got me in drama with women from flirting and cheating. so i totally get this, and it has opened my eyes as to what my boyfriend is actually doing (he’s flirting with girls over facebook but never meeting) and has been doing so for the duration, which is almost two years. 2)she kisses him on the cheek at some point during the evening. i’d skip the computer to sit down to a grand meal. the other side of the coin showed me that letting the girls you’re dating see other guys was not only ok, but actually had a lot of benefits. just use men as toys, or let men buy you things, thats all they are good for. i have been on and off in a relationship for over a year. thank you for a raw, unromantic, non sugar coated answer. her to see other guys gives you the space to see other girls. i asked why i can’t go i just want to go for the ride, like all of a sudden i can’t go on a ride with my own man anymore smh. than experiencing honesty as confronting, its about being honest because doing so is one the most independent ways to feel connected and freely expressive with others (especially if those other people also value honesty). but i have to figure out if he is worth it or not. i really don’t think it has anything to do with us or our sex life, atleast i doubt and hope im right. article has clearly awoken some deeply held limitations in your unconscious and if you take the opportunity to open up, rather than close down, you could learn a lot about yourself and grow through this. told me she felt like i was playing games with her and backed away further. teach women that sex is all we care about because we get burned by cheating women who don’t value monogamous men. and made sure he’d be able to see it. turns out he is still texting her and not only that but chatting up other girls on tinder as well. relationships are give and take and only work if both sides contribute equally. after 4 years of knowing him, sometimes i start thinking that maybe he doesn’t see me as hot as he used to because of the fact that he’s had me for so long… and the spark is not as strong. i met a woman with 3 kids last night who is getting a divorce from a 13 year marriage she said was with the only man shed ever been with and he was cheating with 4 women. i once tracked the time to show him how much he flirts with other women and disses me now. a part of me wants to be with him but i know we will never get along because his flirting nature is not something i want to have to worry or think about. i’m talking about is being able to exit the conflict-style of relating to others and enter the mindset of “partnership building”. most people will say all girls do this and it’s normal because i care but to him its a deal breaker especially because i haven’t brought him to my house to meet my parents for personal reasons. you tell me you want space you go out and you aint home yet no uh!’t look me in the face when talking about her. after you get burned alot of times, you start to feel that all women are that way. however, complaints are common and this is what so many men refer to as “nagging”. they both work on a computer all day so they write to each other. if you confront him, just lay out the facts and try to let him do the talking. i give him everything that he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally, but still he flirts with other girls and has sexy conversations with them. things didn’t work out in a first place, because on exact same reasons, he flirted a lot with his other workmate, i was paranoid, he said she is just overly friendly and he doesn’t look at her in this way, she is just a friend, we broke up and eventually he slept with her, send her flowers, hang up and wanted her to be his girlfriend. he told me then we should just be friends with benefits and i said fine but also told him if he sleeps around we should stop he agreed. order to get her to stop this, just ignore her flirting and don’t get angry. if it was the colour thing well he broadcasted to everyone who didnt even need to know and still does. flirting as in saying “nice pic” or “you look good” or snapchatting girls. one way they can do this is by making them jealous. i agree the minute the boundaries of honest flirting is crossed, then that becomes a problem. i dare say my figure is much better than the girls who sent him all the pictures. must-see related posts:Ask a guy: my boyfriend is stressed and pulling away…. i’m not trying to tell you what to do, but if you’ve broken up on more than one occasion, this relationship sounds unhealthy and not good. until…a woman that i had really grown to care for admitted that she was insecure. in many cases, the void that people feel is caused by a feeling of separateness – a feeling that we don’t belong and aren’t acceptable. i have a lot of opinions on what you have said but, what i’ve decided to do is, refer you back to my previous messages about just getting some breathing room in this thing and reflect on what you want and stuff. for me personally it’s not worth my time if i don’t care enough to be 100% exclusive. and if all else fails, talk to her *calmly* about it. if you confront him, just lay out the facts and try to let him do the talking. i didn’t ask who he was talking to last night but he said it was one of his guy friends. i guess i take quite a traditional view in that i want to find somebody to share my life with – a partner in crime so to speak who shares everything. he just told me freedom to hang out with his boys them which i told him i let you do that anyways but i think it’s more to it. of course, the next day, nobody remembers because they were drinking. stop wasting your time and do let the door nob hit his asss! everyone has a past and they are entitled to it. because you choose not to act upon it does not make it okay.’m not saying that from a standpoint like his behavior (or any behavior) is inherently bad or unacceptable. i don’t know what to make of that, i know he loves me, but how can i just leave him when i don’t know for sure. we were both planning a future together hence the reason why i was doing so much. etiquette: 13 faux pas that make you look like an asshole. all this because i think so, but i also do it extra for him to feel a little better. the explicit conversation he had with the other girl bothers me the most though. i have found several occasions where there is much inappropriate conversation as well as a date and propersistions for meeting. i wish times were different & people were less willing to screw around 🙁. and this is the one he decided to settle with? they look at their partner’s behaviors and take them personally as meaning something about them. it’s a fact of life, love, politics etc and your post is not too long.. i treat my boyfriend good, when he gets sick i am right next to him taking care of him so he can feel better, when he is not having a good day at work he calls me i am right there for him so i can make his day better, i cook for him i also have dinner ready for him when gets out work, and i also wash his clothes, i give him love and support and our sex life is great. he’s been on more dates than you can shake a lengthy bar tab at, and he’s here to help the average guy step his dating game up a notch — or several. just happened to find this site and was so happy to read eric’s comments!“some of the advice given on the site is spot on (that being said, thanks). can i ask her to stop flirting with other guys or will she just see me as a controlling psycho? then just ask yourself if you feel, overall, this is what you want? 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Ask a Guy: My Boyfriend Flirts With Other Women

i don’t know why i did it, i guess we were going to move in together and i thought i better know if something’s up now i guess? at this point i just ask god to guide me and put me where he wants me to be and to give me strength to understand the things i do not. ive never cheated on a woman in my life and have dated alot. your article is 100% red pill (you advocate non-exclusivity which is the same as the red pill’s concept of “spinning more plates”). its just not fair for us women to have to deal with a person who has a void they cant seem to fill. if he asks for a reason, you can tell him that’s why. he doesn’t see it as a big deal, and i’m not ok with being lied to. i just want to know what i can do from my side to save the relationship as i know it can work. if not then it doesn’t say much for your feelings towards one another to begin with. seems to be a number of limiting beliefs in your reply which underly your response. posts like these make me so angry at the world and angry and new age thinkers with their retarded articles! it’s just weird or lines can be crossed at times., personally, i agree with most of your points from a logical perspective…. started becoming irrational, aggressive and i couldn’t do anything right.’s just been my experience, and just how i feel about these things. we have been dating for 3 years now, we have a lot of different interests and we have to totally different personalities. i always feel if i had my own place and felt a little more independant i would be more confident. not to be vulgar but i watch certain vids for the visual and it doesnt mean im into that specific thing. i do not understand why everyone is saying, ooohh, how helpful and so on. with women is not predicated on commitment (not saying this is not valuable and important), just that experiencing meaningful connection with women (or anyone) is predicated on the ability and willingness to be open and vulnerable, to risk it all. either u accept the person how they are or you walk away and find someone who has the same beliefs and values you do. i say accept it, i’m talking about getting out of the cycle of conflict with the person you’re in a relationship with so that you can have an opportunity to have a good, happy, healthy relationship. because i’d never want to hang out with this chick, nor would i trust him to be alone with her…considered he slept with her in the same. he said that he wants to be very serious with me and i’m going to meet his family soon. men are appreciative of this article because it enforces the negative behavior publically, therefore… it must be right. two weeks after our break up he comes to me very upset saying he has cancer obviously i am feeling bad and i took him back but i just can’t forgive him . i need to be stronger and actually do these things. he apparently always makes fun of little puns she makes, and she began posting puns as captions on instagram where she would get into little “play fights” with him there (he would say things along the lines of “omg, i cant stand your puns” and she would play along and they’d go back and forth for a while). i am so confused as if maybe than there are no other problems he has with me, but he doesn’t love me anymore, but why then he would not just break up with me, or now that i broke up with him and he still wants me back? my suggestion for those in a relationship like that is, it’s noble to love and support the other person unconditionally, but always know your limits. wouldn’t it be better for all of us to keep our own “baggage” in check instead of expecting our partner to “see the big picture” when we’re basically sabotaging the relationship we say we want? to screen new partners up front, before you commit more and more. so out of respect for my boyfriend, i just cut contact with these friends. thereafter, i used his phone, and there was a text from another woman. thank you for sharing that it is not ok to do.. do not allow yourself to become significantly more invested with someone. don’t have all the answers and nobody is always right. none of it is possible if the respect is not there. [read: is flirting cheating when you’re in a relationship? have to become the kind of guy who can bring himself happiness, excitement and fulfillment independently of her.” the scum of the earth too often are the ones women end up dating because those guys more often have the balls to ask you all out and/or y’all just find it more challenging to try and convert “bad boys” into husbands. now, throughout the two years there’s been a lot of what i called “inappropriate ” behavior with his female friends. when you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore. i am incredibly hurt and confronted him immediately about it. go for a radiator, someone who brings out the best in you and has your best interests at heart. when i am ready and meet the man i think can complete me, i will still take my time to let him be the man and do right by me before i trust him with my heart again. feel sorry for you that you think anybody would need to do this. after some other things that happened in between for the past couple of months i feel unhappy and sad whenever i see smth. i hope you all find strength to leave the jerks, like me. part about whether you and he are a good match is for you to decide, not any of your friends or the internet. why write online if you can’t handle debate or criticism? you’re not giving us quality sex, we’ll find it, and there’s other women who will. some reason, my website has been extra-aggressive on moderating comments, so some of the time i end up having to push them through manually… i don’t know what’s setting off the trigger for moderation, but i’m sure it has something to do with anti-spam measures i’ve put in place (you’d be amazed at the number of idiots who attempt to post about paying a witch doctor to cast a voodoo love spell… but i digress…). you must better understand and accept that he flirts with everyone. you for your feedback, it’s great to get a mans perspective on things. my jaw dropped, my mind started going a thousand miles per hour..The relationship broke down after that and i ended up seeing someone who i had a thing with during that period… i found out after then end of the relationship that my ex had cheated on me. it doesn’t mean i prefer how they relate to me, but it does mean that i accept it… and i accept it because it’s the only effective thing i can do… for my sanity and for my ability to communicate with them (if i need to).. i don’t think that type of behaviour should be tolerated. twice i broke it off for him over this disrespect. although i did not physically catch him have sex with them, i told him what my boundaries were and when he did it again i broke it off. we were planning on moving in together and he had outwardly told me he had cold feet. this means you go out, flirt and play, make out, muck around, and not even think twice about getting in trouble. look to reduce your “need” of anyone else for your life to be great. i love him too much to say no and he has been caring and sweet to me as always. ladies do what i’m planning to do, get rid of them guys who break necks to look at other women’s bodies, always talking about other women or chasing them. which is why a lot of women are so appreciative of this article, which instead of addressing the issue of the lack of respect given by the man, sets the adjustments needing to made by the women, i. also, im about 10 years younger than he is which i thought was a plus for him. that’s a sign that you’re dating someone who ignores your comfort in favor of the instant gratification of giving some other dude a boner. i’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost 3years now. it’s that if you have any point of commonality with an ideology, you must, therefore, be in complete alignment with them. she told me he was “weird” and not to worry (this was unprompted, i didn’t ever voice concern about him, which made me more suspicious). i asked maybe he is unaware how he feels, he just said ‘omg, can you stop this’. personally i feel you should have ended it on the first breakup, and that is not intended to blame you for any of this, that’s not the case, i just want to highlight that moving forward in future relationships, something that is “breakup worthy” is usually crossing your boundaries and that is where you should learn from this on your end (the only part within your control) to recognize in the future to end things at that point having a zero tolerance for this. unfortunately, a high percentage of people will do whatever they can get away with and essentially say (blame) you allowed it. hed lie about who he was with, where he was, wat he was doing. i was scared, so i bottled up the hurt and let it hurt me instead. i hope you are right that he is just trying to not look like a pussy in front of his boy., and that she doesn’t have to choose to give him everything he wants nor accept that he’s disrespecting her. at first things were great and i was happy, he is a very dominate man. she would even send him nude photos of herself ( whore! if he wants someone of your value he cannot treat you that way. either you love and commit or you don’t love and are just fuck buddies. it seems to be saying: “exclusivity” is needed for intimacy to flourish and grow. sounds like a lot of this you already know, so i’m not looking to convince what you already know, i’m just re-enforcing that. is not fare to claim that a women is false by believing she is from forfilling her partners needs. i need some advice about my relationship with my boyfriend , we have been dating for over 18 months and are both divorced with children from previous marriages . as time has moved on his habits of cell phone calls, text and social media etc increased. a guy: boyfriend caught me snooping, can i regain his trust? if he is open and honest with me about what he is struggling with or not getting from this relationship i will work to try and understand. in doing so i noticed some social media and dating site conversations with other women. yes i do find things that made me second guess and have negative thoughts but at i don’t want to assume. which he didnt tell me till today , which hes never done before , or so he says. he left this morning on a trip to vegas for thebweekend with some of his boys. anyway, we run an online business together so we still kept in contact on a daily basis, and still saw each other on a regular basis. he couldn’t even call or text me to inform me of the decision he made. by the way, i can’t imagine anyone with a similar personality to me who would agree to this bullshit. in fact, that’s usually the farthest thing from our minds.. she didn’t see that she was in control also of the fate of the relationship and take action to prevent it from failing. that they might indicate a void our guys need to fill… insecurities… blah blah.. it sounds to me like you care but maybe hes not right. and i flat out asked him, do you like her, want to be with her? encourage your partner to connect with people in healthy ways and watch the joy it brings both of you!? i think i’ve got the answer, but just need confirmation. whatever it takes to want to puke when you think of this person and wish you could have someone burn the memories out of your soul into oblivion. when he went back to his state, it wasn’t even less than a week he pays for her ticket to fly over to see him.. he says it’s because she is insecure and he only says stuff to her to make her feel confident. a bunch of dudes will be coming in to see you and that guy might say, “man, i better lock it up before she meets a new guy! sum it up: his actions mean nothing about you as a person.“i constantly feel like he hides things because im too “dramatic” or jealous over e erything. anyway we broke up and everyday day he would ring my phone at least twice a day, sometimes roughly 40 times a day and after 2 months he continued and never answered until he started sending me emails, i did reply, probably very silly of me i know. do feel you should find a few solid woman friends. it’s definitely one of the mistakes that i used to make: being needy. and the space he claimed he needed for business was actually to spend a week with each one. have to hurry to meet people and no time to proofread this, so i ask you: ignore any grammar or poorly formatted writing as this is quick reply sorry [not sorry! i truly feel for her because i had a boyfriend who flirted and asked other women to kick it with him all the time. even though, i could mostly care less now, certain things still piss me off about how she treated me and i’m not sure i’ll ever forgive her truly in my heart. 2nd option, losing you, may be the only way he will learn as he will no longer flirt with the other women so confidentally without having you as his “fallback” comfort zone. i understood it’s just his way to get some attention and validation. if she were truly 100 percent happy, she wouldn’t feel the need to turn to other guys to meet her needs. and, in the back of my head, i could feel his insecurities. had been her entire life and knew that she needed to address this to be free. i guess my question to u guys is just because these r his videos of choice does it mean something? my advice to men, don’t lie to women and act like you love them, just honest tell them that your a man whore and just want to have meaningless sex only and not form a relationship. i wont give up on her, but i will simply meet her halfway. a relationship is a trade between two people, the women has sex on offer, and needs a mans commitment. its one thing if your dating a person who is just friendly and talks to anyone, but also keeps his attention on you. come the recurring theme in your posts is you (the woman) is doing something wrong. so talk to him about it with an open mind and it can only help…. is just a valid point for the perspective of women to consider and it does not excuse mens’ lack of responsibility. another thing to is that one day he told me he was going out with his family to go eat and i asked his mom and she said that was not true then another day he told me he had to go to his grandpas house because his grandpa was not feeling good and ask my boyfriends mom if her dad was okay and she yes and i also asked her if my boyfriend went with them to her dads house and she said no that he went out that night. i feel bad about it but i don’t want to lose my boyfriend. if you feel it with him then it is your life. however, reading this article has made me approach the situation and look at it more realistically and maturely.“it may seem narcissistic, but people do it all the time. my problem is i tend to make my bf my priority because he is the one i am closest to rather than family and friends and i love him tremendously. think you summed it all up with: “i do not understand why everyone is saying, ooohh, how helpful and so on. it does work out good how do you know if you like one person more and want to spend more time? they were genetically designed this way so that they could procreate and make babies. and men just wanting to have their cake and eat it too? i know people go through tough times in relationships, but in the first year, this is a lot to go through to want to move forward. in dating, i know what i want always now and if a woman isn’t giving it to me then she is likely not a good match for me and i do a lot of screening prior to entering a relationship so i know i have weeded out a lot of red flag/unwanted childish behavior up front. i feel like he thinks because he apologized about the flirting that i shoudn’t bring anything about it up again. try to focus on some other things besides “the relationship”. she could be the one and you’re worried about her “neediness”? honestly, i’ve never understood why girlfriends do this, but it is a reality.. many, many dudes will say shit to other guys to protect their rep, not appear soft or gay, etc. , or is his way of feeling desired , accepted and fulfilled even though nothing happens between them . that said, people are very complicated and what happens to them and how they respond is like a chemical reaction. response: “you’re the one with the problem even though he’s disrespecting you. she’s always watching him i’m serious it’s weird… anyways let me know what you guys think…. after a week i talked to the people around me and they said he obviously wanted to show me for a reason and i agreed and got back with him. through all of it though, i don’t want to believe him, but he’s been nothing but kind and sweet to me. if you’re serious about somebody you don’t want them to date anybody else, i don’t care what gender you are. reasons why you must encourage girls you’re dating to see other guys leigh (logun) relationships 77 comments.. once women f— over dudes enough times, men “wisen up”. far as women goes who cheat on their good men, well i think really low of these women. discovered few days ago that my boyfriend has been flirting with a woman online. have our reasons, and almost none of them have to do with actually wanting to be with someone else. there are so many ways to hurt other peoples’ feelings, it’s ridiculous. has a very flirty personality, i don’t always have a prob with that. but **i** wasn’t the one who chose that guy (that guy who’s not putting in the effort)… she chose him… she’s the one who wants to make it work and at the moment, it isn’t… so in lieu of giving inane, sloppy dating advice like “he’s not that into you” or “leave him!. some dudes have this “im a balla i should have all the women in the world” complex and some are just straight up liars and are never gonna commit to nothing nor be honest. when i confronted him he admitted to everything and said he was ashamed and embarrassed which is why e deactivated account in first place. devious test from you would be to embrace it and “play” like you think it’s hot and elude to a threesome. are not wrong though, you are just too far invested versus him… i have to go but i hope my words or someone elses here are helpful in some way. yes intimacy was the highlight for us but still im sure he can get it somewhere else. , if they want to ride from cock to cock that is their business . you i will take this into consideration and do some deep thinking since he old me about his space i’m just gonna do my own thing and go out more with some friends of mines i also decided to switch my hours to night because like i stated before we live in the same house and i’m working on getting my own place hopefully by the end of the year. a man behaves like that, he defin­itely likes you. i tried but there was just too much suffering and struggling. have different perspectives and i’m of the opinion that jealousy is healthy in relationships, as long as not acted upon. im mad because he isnt fully being honest about it. yes, of course, in a relationship it’s expected that the guy needs to show up and put in effort. i’m a very independent person and as long as my woman doesn’t cross or allow another man to cross those lines, i’m cool with it, but if she does, she’s going to be replaced, fast. he said he does, but then he would go right back to kying to ne again. the only way to become more secure is to face and overcome some of your fears and to build self confidence. she was not there when he could barely pay his rent because he lost his father and job at the same time. please read my response above for a back up history of how i broke up with my unserious flirtatious man. has few friends…joins facebook, adds a lot of old high friends…lots of girls…. so please ans me and i would be glad to hear back from you on this relationship issue that i am going through. maybe im just making myself crazy & stressing more than i should. without feeling that they’re compromising too much too often., so he pins you down and tries to suffocate you and rape you, but hes kind and caring? part to my comment above: how they’d love to bang these gitlrls. especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want. how do i learn to trust him, if i decide to continue? stating, “i respect your honesty, i want you to be honest with me always and i’m also being honest that i don’t like you giving attention to other women over me” makes it known. i could not have given him any more than i did, emotionally, physically, financially, etc. i’m hoping i read that right, now i’m starting to doubt myself! i feel like he’s using me and his family right now because he can’t work and he’s in school. don’t know what to do because i want to give him what he wants. i grew up believing in that the prince and the princess are committed to each other for the rest of there lives: soul mind body and eyes looking only at that one other who completes them.

The Importance Of Flirting With Others When You're In A Relationship

some men cheat because they need self-validation or an ego-boost from women, do you want his pride to take him that far? i accepted him back and we never really harshed out the issue because he lied that he was doing his friend a favor. the problem is where people are not direct and honest about it. only 7 pieces of clothing you need to update this spring. flirting with your friends indicates a deep lack of respect for you, she knows that she can disrespect you and get away with it because you are too weak to do anything about it. i purpose spoke to a woman who i knew was his over all type, i then walked away from her.’re making a whole lot of assumptions in your question…. but it was alot of chemisty going on that night. then one day i find out hes talking to one of his sisters friends behind my back and he was going on escorts site. if she gets a little defensive, that’s not ideal, but it’s understandable. additionally, any future relationships, you should not allow to get to this point and skip the ultimatums. if i want a ride i can go in my car or another time smh. i also didn’t want him to think i wanted to or was trying to change him, another big reason he told me resulted in failed relationships. but problems won’t sort theirselves out if you don’t talk with each other and sort them out. and why does he feel like he is doing nothing wrong. after a year or 2 in a relation, they start their shit…. it known that you do not like something, like you did, and allow him to decide how to act upon those. this blog will end up getting your gf confused and leaving you due to heartbreaks you’d be inducing and the emotional roller coaster she’d be going through. can i start over again and give my heart to another after someone i trusted let me down and dissapointed me? i noticed he watches a lot of “milf” videos and i can’t help but to wonder like ok does he like older women?’s say she can detach, lean back, and say “huh, my boyfriend is over there flirting wtih x / ignoring me at this party so he can talk to y / doing his bit for a gaggle of gals because it makes him feel good. basically always try to help or do anything for him. i feel like there are more things we can do to confront and deal with these insecurities. he rang me phone tons of times and i got my best friends boyfriend to answer the phone to him telling him i don’t want to talk to him and my boyfriend started telling him i have erratic mood swings and telling him about me being abused in my childhood, my friends had no idea. be aware that if he chooses to respect that then he is making sacrifices for you and many women view that as weakness in men. when you enter a relationship it is not i will be loyal to you until i feel like sexeting another guy? i know on that occasion he actually never went but because the girl was unavailable. i called him the next day and told him if he didnt want me there is no need for him taking me though the emotional roller coaster. that i’m only afraid that it will lead to talking etc. i want to make it clear that, i’m not looking to be dismissive of what you said by saying this, but what i want to comment on is that, all of those events/actions are frozen in history and will never change. then it becomes easier to ignore and reject those things that are counterproductive to your goals. just because an average lady is on the loose and available does not mean men have to pull. we broke up in b/w 2 years for about 4 months b/c i found out he’d been flirting with some girls. i guess i am just trying to decipher if he really is cheating or if he is just a dumbass and actually believes that his responses are innocent. to some women, jealousy means that you care enough about them to get upset by the sight or thought of them with someone else. if you allow your feelings to cause you to negotiate what you’re willing to put up with…he’ll take a mile when given an inch. but a relationship with a mentally immature man who put his needs before yours is extremely painful. he was doing everything from arranging meetings with women (and men), watching and downloading gay porn online, hooking up with old gfs, sending graphic pics of his body and receiving from others. for me, kissing, fondling, sex, and any type of sex act are cheating. dated a girl who acted a lot like the way you’re describing. do you think i am just too sensitive and need to look at things in a different perspective? many aren’t ready to do that because they don’t have the confidence. she’s seeing other guys, it means she’ll be far less needy and demanding. you feel it’s really him playing you based on some legit scandalous pics, then start dating new dudes and find one with enough balls to break up with you if he wants to see other women. i find it as an excuse of trying to come up with a different approach to being polygamous indirectly. i have been dating my boyfriend for a year, and two weeks ago i caught him flirting and then asking a girl to “see a movie sometime” in a facebook message in a way that really seemed like a date. the follow up question is, ok, just because you love a guy does that mean he is the right guy for you? i’ve helped a gf or 2 raise a few kids. i believe he was trying to get rid of me, so he hook up with her. am with this guy for six years we also have a child together,he cheated on me before and he is always flirting with other girls but when he flirts with them he ask for nude pictures and he even told commented on one of the girl he cheated with picture saying “you leave me out of words i am astonished”. i know, because i have changed myself for others before.. or at least not with someone you cannot trust/live with.) relationships can be extremely fun and exciting, and like prashant said a couple of comments before, it’s all about personal conviction. let’s take a completely different side of this… because i know there are women reading this thinking, “why should a woman do anything for this flirtatious disrespectful pig of a man? you are attempting to change society in such a way, that women will need to change themselves to fit in. said it’s cos he’s scared to lose me. he is def a busy man and goes out of his way to please me…. problem is that the pathway they use to achieve their desires is self-defeating. they look at their partner’s behaviors and take them personally as meaning something about them.’m just going to pause a moment to let the irony sink in for everyone…..meaning they are all cheaters and liars, no matter who they are, or even if they go to church.. well as far as i have know out of hardly spent time toghethr in entire 6 months that he is honest and not a very flashy guy. it seems as though i cannot get away from this type of guy, or is it that all guys do this? omg i wonder if this woman is smart enough to know she just completely embarrassed herself…what an idiot. you might see a bigger picture – a picture of what he really needs. i am 23 he is 43 , we get along great as friends and lovers , however , he has always been unable to keep away from other women online , i used to find nudes sent to him all the time in his email ..every year he seems to mature but it’s always something.. i’m not stupid i know why he got her number so that he text her (obviously) and to flirt with her. i have suspicions of so much, log into his accounts and find all kinds of behaviour that was so unsettling. it just be that he is not ready to be tied down? from last 3-4 months he gave less time to me. i do not want to go all crazy on him, but i feel like it considering all my past hurts. you’re 43, you’ll probably be a little more like “f*ck man, this world is f*cked up i just need to enjoy myself” however that is. he made promises that he never intended to keep, he lied. who cares about monogamy and it’s benefits will most definitely come up with better approaches than what we’re reading here! me, guys go through these same scenarios with dishonest women too.’d be back to changing women like an escort changes dicks!, i know nothing here about his past, nor do i want to explore either of your pasts. where the line is crossed (for me) is when it moves from talk to actions. i never had any problem with any of that as i never felt threatened. unfortunately, though, dealing with this is issue is actually going to require some emotional intelligence on your part. focus a bit more on yourself away from him & when you are with him, look for the feelings you had in the beginning. if he’s just a player out for sex & not willing to change, you are not going to change him by staying with him and giving him your best. your free copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. he is doing that shit and says he wouldn’t tell you if he cheated because he doesn’t want to lose you, that tells me he wants to have his cake and eat it too. when you’re out at dinner together, are you making little quips at your hot waitress? you bash the seduction community yet 100% of what you teach and advocate is right out of the seduction playbook. but then idea of open relationship won’t even cross his mind, taken he is so jealous about other men even talking to me. me, guys go through these same scenarios with dishonest women too. he had a traumatic child hood of losing his mother at a young age and having horrible step moms. if you thought that, i understand and respect your opinion. flirting was not about me, was not about him trying to cheat on me or anything about me for that matter. if you don’t like it, talk to him about it and ask him to respect you because it’s about respect and respecting your partner, i..The problem i have is that he is a natural flirt. ever since he admitted he flirted…like 3 weeks ago, i been asking questions to clarify the situation here and there (like 3 times ives asked at most this past weeks). to him he doesn’t see himself flirting, it just comes natural, and the weird part is nothing seems to come from these girls, this is the only one that i have doubts on.! (that was a night i was unable to visit him due to a family commitment) he was at his hometown and went out to a social event without me. but in the world of causal playing, it can be beneficial. if you want to live your life like that fine – but most people want deep relationships not the superficial crap you’re advocating here, thereby contradicting your entire purpose of existence as a coach. was well into our relationship, in the process of moving in together, and i asked him, “are you involved in any way with any other women? you make it sound like guys have to do all the work and the woman doesn’t have to do anything! you’ll notice i said “if i have to have someone in my life,” which implies that if i don’t have to have them in my life, i will most likely allow them to fade away from my life as quickly as possible. i’ve asked him 2 times if he want to be single sometime last year and sometime this year he said no. if you meet your own needs, you can just focus on what you want. world is in big need of change with the way people approach love and relationships. i didn’t say anything to her about it, but it made me realize that she always gets along great with other guys when we’re out socially together? although not completely ready to date, i am trying to open myself up to a little bit of flirting..but, i just found out that some of his co workers are also going that same weekend including female coworkers who i do not like or trust because they used to call and text him all the time and i have never met them. i guess it’s because they’re not scheming on how to wrassle a relationship out of me, or get money from me. by that i mean i was friends with a girl, and i was talking to her simply as friends. don’t like telling people to always give up on relationships, but all things aside, are you in love, do you feel loved and are you getting what you want? as a soon to be 47 year old woman, two years out of my 25 year relationship with my ex husband (divorced), and with my experiences with him over the years, i have to agree with most of what eric says in this article. suddenly i noticed every woman in the places new him, he’s making me wait long time while chatting it up with them. sucks you should have to be such a hardass and can’t just be happy and live your life but these ass clowns just don’t get it. he obviously knows it’s disrespectful because he’s hiding it. in this world, as humans, we are to learn to control our insecurities, both men and women, and develop together. his phone was filled with conversations with women being more than inappropriate as he called them “my love” and named one “sexy russian”. however, i personally don’t have an issue with a little “light” flirting to introduce some jealousy in the relationships and keep them interesting. training a woman is easy and very effective, as long as you set boundaries when the relationship starts, and enforce them she will remain loyal. he had disable his fb account shortly after i came back. since him working there he’s gotten one chicks phone number (while we was broken up) and he brought another chick he liked some clothes and shoes (while we were together)…now i’m not innocent i flirt sometimes too much and go to far (no sex) but my boyfriend is so thirsty when it comes to other women always seeking approval and acceptance. hahaha and im like ok, does he have a thing for women a bit older? i told him that i don’t understand how i’m always under you cause we never go out like that. no guy or girl likes their partner flirting with others. the response i got was from “i am just being.. i asked him to spend a day or 2 with me so that we will have the time as he is going out of city and we dont when is the next time we would meet and he tells me taht he has to look fr the job and other stuff has to be sorted , but my point is jus obe or 2 day wouldnt hamper everything coz after i dont knw when i would see him. mention advising them to “stand up for herself” or “take control of the situation”. i can’t continue like this, it makes me not to trust him and hurts me, taken i would never do this behind his back and i was ready to try and give him everything he needs, if he tells me what he needs that i haven’t given him yet. also, she had better not try to make me jealous intentionally, that’s head games and i’ll tell her not to do it again or if i see it again, i’m going to start looking for her replacement, no extra chances. overly flirtatious girlfriend can cause quite a few problems in a relationship. bare with me as i am posting these from my cellphone. so many before you, and so many after you have and will be where you stand now. any time i praise him he doesnt believe me or thinks of it as i have to tell him that. my boyfriend and i have been on and off for almost 4 yrs and along the way i have been very clingy and needy because i figure that i have not had a very self fulfilling life. she described alex as a funny coworker who was 4 years older. for an european i did learn a lot while reading your articles. i still feel he shouldn’t be flirting with other women and being so immature with his friends sending pictures of women’s asses etc. distinguish what is “want” and what is “need” and if those are being met by him and if you are being reasonable and fair to him and yourself. i was in the same class and everything happened just right in front of me.” are often for me anyway associated with a cringing feeling in the upper chest, especially when i really like someone. i think i will both love her and hate her forever. he says he needs the ego boost and is addicted to the attention. it’s so funny you mentioned working at hooters because i used to work there (not anymore), thats where i met him lol. i moved out for about a month back in august, because we needed to “take a break, and he needed to learn to appreciate me”. now, after many times of finding out his flirtations, i decided i really need get some space for us. this is what seduction community teaches us, ‘how to outfox the hedge fund guys or mr look so good with moves that make the hearts of hot women beat relentless until they link hand with you. you can try techniques and tactics that are suggested to attempt to draw out your partners true feelings. are young so you have plenty of time to date. he starts to stay out late, going to meetings when i find out there are none, opens a facebook and multiple email accounts and my insecurities are at a high level. if this is the ultimate choice, it needs to be swift, short and final.? i could never talk to him about it, because it would scare him even more and make things worse. if i had known, i will never have agreed to a relationship. also, we need to look at whether our partner meets our *needs*. so we go to a party, and 1) we’re all dancing together, and she felt offended, and had to stop my “boyfriend” from “touching her thigh”. the only way some people learn is the hard way and that is through heart break., next time they fight, they don’t just see what’s happening… they see all their previous conflicts coming up to the surface… they see an enemy, an adversary and a wrongdoer. even if these same women logically conclude that the best way to kill romance and intimacy is to try and cage it in a ‘relationship’ or – gawd fuhbid, marriage – they still furrow their brows because the feeling of wanting a man exclusively is so strong. some women get really insecure about how they feel about their bodies and things, they don’t “feel” attractive and are gauging some of it off how much their man initiates sex without considering if they could also try a few things.. he is going out of town and returns on jun 16 and aftrwhich he plans to pack n leave frm the city where we live .…i picked up his phone ( he shared his password once) and i saw a message he obviously did not erase to a lady he obviously knew and was talking to at a bar. touch you heart and tell me that you havent spoken to any other guy other than him , even if it is with out any intention? entirely agree, iris, and women who advise men they are dating to see other women are not something i have ever encountered. it makes me feel as if he might compare me and that i’m not as hot as they are. speaking of jokes, this guys commitment level is a question mark. of the advice given on the site is spot on (that being said, thanks). 100%, read my take on this article a couple of comments below. even though i know for a fact that she still checked her ex bf’s facebook to see who he was talking to. we planned to get married this year but just 2months back he started to have an affair with his colleague.. what he told me last night what basically the missing puzzle piece i needed to help me figure out why he was lying about talking to other women, or checking out other women in front of me, or even flirtng with other women right in front of me too, or why he doesnt want to have sex with me anymore. things every man is looking for in a relation­ship. relationships poison relating, with marriage being the death knell of it for 99% of couples.. people who i think searched and dated alot, knew what they wanted, looked til they found it and never let go. just attempt to emotionally detach a bit and find any way possible to get some space. my advice, if your a woman don’t trust any man because they incapable of any emotional feelings and never truly happy with one woman. for me, it means being freely vulnerable, open, and expressive in the face of insecurity. he is a man of action, and that is one of the things that i love about him. how do i encourage him to be flirtatious with me in texts or why might he not want to do this with me? do you think i am just too sensitive and need to look at things in a different perspective? wasnt sure what he was doing or trying to prove or if he just wanted my reaction . i’m standing right behind him…he had a ton of pics of the marrfriend and what i guessed are ex’s of his. one part of your response to my comment was about me hating him., there are some approaches to people that work better than other approaches (and get you better results)…. relationship is push/pull, give/take, etc, and if it’s not a good balance, someone is not winning. why did he not choose me when all he knew i wanted was for him to change? it’s about learning about ourselves and what we are and are not ok with and then sticking to those and rejecting people who do not respect those boundaries.: if you wish to behave like this, if you need to behave like this, how about you disclose this information during the early dating stage, before people become emotionally and spiritually (and often financially) invested? finally one day i caught him to flirt with diffrent diffrent girl to meet me and all stuffs . i admit i dont trust him the way i used to, im the kind of person that doesnt trust people off the batt and when i do, i do it blindly, i trusted him blindly, i have never thought he would ever give me a reason to think he would be capable of cheating, but after he admitted to flirting only because i confronted him, now i do not have the same trust. there were times that she’d flirt with other guys, but i understood that she was a girl who came alive when she had an audience. they were both going back n forth talking about how. love this because i am on the other side of the equation. before he overrode my window down button with his driver side. suggesting that you have to fuck many women to do that is exactly what the seduction community puts forward!


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i relaize i was just saying it but never did. because if he was, then he will truly continue the changes even if he is to find another woman to end up with it. are making getting/holding on to the girl responsible for avoiding their feelings of loneliness. but presumably after 2-3 months of seeing each other and having sex (dating wise and not just on his couch) it says the guy wants to go out and screw around himself so he’s alleviating any responsibility by letting you know it’s ok for you to do so. enough so that my best friend tells me i can be sugar coated sometimes. not only does that feel immasculating as a man, but many women agree that men who defer to women are not attractive to women.-if you love him, he loves you, you can both tell youre right for each other and “it just works” then invalidate your own feelings. is, a person’s qualities are formed in the overall ecosystem of their entire life… everything they’ve experienced and everything they’re made of contributes to the way they are…. however, if someone cares, they’ll change for the one they love, right? i couldn’t agree more with what you have said. ex now has a steady gf and i know he is still involved in the same bad behaviour as before. well the incident happened about 2 weeks ago, he was hanging out with his friends, one who is a known cheater of his girlfriend, and his was this guy his girlfriend and another old friend, they all know eachother from highschool., i think you should decide what you want to do on your own but if it were me, i would simply tell him you are breaking up with him..I am not unlike these dudes, and it is hard to dedicate yourself to just one woman and keep your flirtiness with your actual partner… the monogamy is often a boring killer but flirting outside is like “practice” and keeping your skills sharp for your lover. i may be a little jealous and insecure, with things that have happened in our relationship, and rightfully so. get away from this man before he kills you in a crimeof passion. he knew right away i would not date a guy like that. ran your comment as is — i know you’ve contributed a bunch and i’m glad to have you here helping out. after the final break up, i had no contact with him at all. i often feel like i wish that he “sweated” me like he does these gorgeous models. i feel that is his insecurity of feeling unwanted and i would be fine witht he validation seeking if we were having sex. best advice for you: the answer is to choose to hate this person. roll by and pretty soon i was in a very unhappy marriage. later, things aren’t the same when the focus is on “the relationship”. if we go out its like to the movies, at a club if there is a party to go, or if his cousin and his gf want to do something together other than that he always checking some homeboy and i know homeboy/s have females around them. but it’s not something that i was ever use to dealing with, and i know that is my problem and something i will have to learn to let go if i want us to work.. but you can try “letting him come to you”, however, it is unfortunate i feel, that a lot of relationship behaviors have to be established at the get go. i encourage her not to put her eggs in one basket. the way to make this easy is, always know what you want, tell your partner “i want this” and if they deliver be happy and if they don’t or can’t then be ok with that as long as they meet your needs.…my boyfriend of six years started working at my job and i specifically asked him to steer clear of chicks there so there would be drama. i started snooping on him and analyzing every single email and im messages to these women to figure out what was going on. better up front and don’t let scum run your life. i think he isnt telling me because he knows i will be pissed and insecure that those girls r also going the same weekend. nobody should “guilt you”, but if you do care about him then he is just bein honest…. we have had our fights, but what relationship hasn’t. you start a new one, look to keep a balance of investment. if a person wants to sleep with only one woman in a period then by your logic it’s alright. i don’t know how to deal with this and that’s mostly because i feel so weak emotionally. i think if you need self-assurance, you shouldn’t hurt someone’s feelings in the process. however he’s never come to me and asked me personally. i’m confident in myself now, accept my flaws and embrace my strengths and don’t care about anyone who doesn’t also care about me. but…learning he lied about the married friend…well that got me. you want a woman to keep seeing other males (players, womanisers, man stealers) who could potentially take your woman for a ride, follow this post! i didn’t disclose what prompted me to this discesion. is there anything specific you don’t agree with or are you just generally not an agreeable person? essentially, “turning a blind eye” and just going with, “he is with me so thats all that matters to me”. we have a long history together, i forgot to mention that prior to this 2 year relationship we were together for 4 years in high school. jealousy, is a natural emotion to give women a hint, that something is wrong. now he is not willing to tell me this and he rather just ignores everything and pretend we are happy. then pointed out his twitter account to him, was honest that it irked me., i recommend a period of up to 3 months per year you dated of possibly staying single.. kind of a if he loves me he won’t want to share me. but he wants to change and make things better, he has just begun counselling and is going to go on anger management courses and depression courses. can stop trying to persuade others, people are very different.. maybe it will work, maybe not but i dont care, it feels good & if she leaves, ill find another. but if you keep labels and arbitrary rules out of it, you still strive to seduce one another, to inspire and elevate one another and make your lover shine. am moving on slowly and have been with an amazing new bf for a year. don’t be upset if he wants “guy time” too. late on the band wagon here, but i thought i’d give my opinion. if you are in a relationship and want to bang other people, just tell your partner and see if they’re on the same page as you.'s what you should do if your girlfriend is flirting with other guys. so it bothers him even more that i’ve looked through his things when hes brought me around all his fam and friends and i have the nerve to do that when hes never been to my house.. another thing to is that when we go out to eat or go to the store he checks out girls and later on i find out he adds those exact girls on facebook and instagram., shed some light on what you think it happening here…btw, while writing this message, he just called to say his divorce will be final in 2 days and expressed how nice of a weekend we had together…oh my, i don’t want to ruin what might be my future husband…help me…plz…., men do have issues, but i will not give up. yes, i can see how that feels like blame, but it’s often not. ultimately, you gotta decide what you want completely and be firm on it regardless. agree with what eric said, another take i have because i have dated the serial flirter many times, i realized it was less about me and what i was giving to him and more about what he was lacking within himself.: if you ain’t gettin what you want, end that shit and offer no explanation. however, when you lie about it and it comes to haunt youm. my boyfriend of almost 7 years, who had never before been in a dating site ( i know, i was in dating sites before i was with him) subscribed to one and started flirting with women in it. if she asks where the relationship is going after 2 months of dating she’s ‘needy and pushing the guy to make a decision’. anyways is this kid flirting with my boyfriend and he’s allowing it to happen?’m in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now and going and as of yesterday he told me that he wants some space (i am living with him in his mom’s house). anyway after i fell to the ground in hearing him say that he saw what his actions did to me i fell apart in his arms he held me all night apologizing and crying with me. you must better understand and accept that he flirts with everyone.. i feel, until they are truly ready to become “an adult” and give up “the lifestyle” to have a better life. she may have just met him and they started dating, so to say she knew what kind of man he was when she first started to date him could be inaccurate. i’m pretty sure he’s using flirting as a tool to make his esteem better., but you shouldn’t change who you are for someone else. just say “no, i can’t”, make the decision final and cut the cord. stay single ladies, if your in a relationship don’t let yourself develop feelings for the man. now a days women or man in a relationship is not looking like a super buffed out (man)or doubled dd slut(women) then the couple should find the desired stimulation by porn videos. it true that once men fall inlove other girls cant turn him on again ? quizprivacy policyterms of useftc disclosure statementsites we lovecontact usask a guy (dating tips / relationship advice for women): frequently asked questions., i did read the article and i find it deplorable.. three months ago i told him how i felt about him lying to me and that i am tired of him not keeping his promises and he blames me for our relationship not being a good relationship when he is the one making mistakes and told him that i was leaving him because i was upset and sad from what did to me and he got pissed off and told me not to leave because he loves so much and it would hurt him see me leave him so i stayed…i don’t flirt with guys and i don’t even talk to my guy friends because he gets pissed off. each time he said he would stop and that he loved me and wanted our relationship to work. i never hurt or betrayed or gave him reason to think this so why would he unleash all this hurt into my life and still claim he loves me when it suits him. i mean she’s fifteen, and i doubt she poses as a legitimate threat to your relationship.” it is a tactic for a guy to learn how to be less needy and dependent on getting women in his life in order to feel connected. i feel, “playing hard to get” is ok, i think “playing impossible to get” is annoying and “games” arren’t real love, they usually end up in one or two people getting hurt and losing. biggest fear currently is not to have another failed relationship. u think as a man that he would still say those things to not look like a pussy even though he has been friends with this dude for like 20 years? also highly recommend to people getting out of relationships to spend up to 6 months single when possible to develop or redevelop a sense of independence before dating again. send us a text at work and say, “wait ’til you get home” and then don’t respond to any inquiries, but rock our world when we get home. i don’t hate anyone, thats a strong and ugly word.…well im a hot girl devoted and loyal, and i cant drink for health reasons. which never have before so it has affected me too, i feel bad for having those sides now but i’m working on my trust for him and he has his instagram buddies. way, you can weed out the ones who don’t want to deal with that bull****. once we as men truly allow ourselves to feel confident, often we feel invincible and we do need strong women to keep us honest. i presume that you’re not, like, telling her friends that you’ve never been to japan, but you would like to visit japanties. my friends are telling me to leave him, and i’m not sure what to do..why does he still lie to me about not flirting with girls? so i plan a vegas trip the same holiday weekend, lord knows i needed a getaway. had an ex where i did most of the work to keep our relationship going. am not like model type of girl but i keep working out and maintain a good shape. i treat my longtime boyfriend of 7 years awesome, in all areas . say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. dated a woman who spoke less english and it’s amazing what can be communicated without words. however, this is often a result of people settling for mediocrity in core values to capitalize on certain strengths. i’m gay and i tend to go in and out of this nagging feeling of insecurity when i “notice” (more like creep on) even the slightest signs of flirtation between my boyfriend and others. the fact that he is attractive to other women means you have a guy that is in demand. i think the only problem is that we keep allowing it to happen. personally, i feel this relationship should have ended a long time ago and that does not mean you don’t care about each other it just means that this relationship doesn’t work for you both.. but try to get a little space, think about it. your free ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here:Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!. personally, i feel, where i am in my life now, that if he’s unsure, then it’s not right.) and since i had limited wifi there, i figured it could wait. we must all understand that men and women are two different creatures who think differently and i think by me understanding better the way men think, it will help me have a successful relationship with myself, and with my partner; if not my current one, my future one. in my eyes lying creates much more drama than being honest, and more importantly it eats away at trust. my goal is to debunk the negative side that it is to blame a woman but to instead attempt to empower women that they should not reward this behavior. know he loves me because he told me first and he is a genuine person, but i hate feeling like i’m sharing him. you have “allowed” yourself to be dependent on him and it is not healthy. however i wouldn’t be too much up in arms, he doesn’t seem to be reciprocating and it seems obvious that he’s bugged by it too.! i was devastated as i truly felt secure in our relationship. my relationship experience, partners will do things we want them to, we *need* them to and things we *don’t* want them to. i’m asking because the comments you’ve made relate very little to the actual article itself and more seemed to be focussed on assumptions you’ve made about the content. i mean he says i make him lie about this situation. like you said — you give your opinion, i give mine… i’m good with that. may still not learn (blaming you instead of taking responsibility for his actions).. the other day i found a piece of paper in his pants with a girls phone number and asked him calmly what is this and he said that she is just a friend and that the reason why he got her phone number was because she was a cool person and has cool curly hair.. well then at least he knows how i feel about it and then it will be my choice whether to deal with it or not… again :/. he looks like a perfect bonde hair blue eyed cyborg but he is russian. a guy: does my boyfriend really mean what he says? i know, what a scared and insecure boy is behind all this womanizer mask. they always see each other as on the same time and, when in conflict, they approach the conversation with compassion and never lose sight of their partnership. same lady he told me “we are just friends” is the one he chose to live the rest of his life with and all she did was rack up his international call bills. as i soon found out, the lifeguards where she works are extremely cliquey, and she soon made many friends (which is a good thing! but he’s constantly texting females from his work place. you mean mine, but if you don’t… i honestly don’t give a shit. he either never cared about you or thought he did but after getting closer changed his mind but doesnt want to lose you. i also found some condoms in the back of his car from moving it before i head out. he hadn’t been in a serious relationship for a long time, and was not use to being responsible for his actions. i go tru his inbox and i start going tru their messeges from 2 weeks ago. i’m going to confront him today, and kind of show him why these are the things that make me not trust him at all. mention those examples and the concept of what reality two people share in a relationship in order to set up this next point:I’ve said it time and time again that 95% of relationship success is about selection. just this week he liked a girls picture, a girl that is one of many girls he flirted with, he makes me feel like he still flirting. will try to give a brief synopsis of my experience…i married a divorced man who cheated on his ex-wife and had a reputation of being a bit of a womanizer. dogs don’t have class, are less resourceful and therefore keep the open policy, an admission of ‘ i do not have what it takes. but i care alot about this other dude as well, and i think i am falling in love with him but its hard, to handle this. you can’t have that power if you react without consideration… you can only have it if you can accept what’s actually happening. you know what’s the difference between pua and natural? he finally came home round mins to 9 i haven’t spoken with him not am i going to ask him anything. you want to actually work things out with this guy, you’ll need to find a way to draw his interest back and find the chemistry you once had. turned out to be a long post after all, but it boils down to one point: in relationship, it always involves you as part of the equation.. my issue with my boyfriend is that he flirts with his friends (females) also with random females on facebook. men  act out in whatever way they act out, you’ll find  what i just described at the heart of the matter: a deep feeling of separateness, insignificance and undesirability. funny thing is he texted me the entire time, not once did i initiate contact. a new reply though because i did not see “reply” as an option any more from your last comment. at time of flirtation and cheating (going out w other woman) he said he was fearful of commitment and went on an all raging eff up virtual road trip. this doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want you in general, it just might mean that she wants to get her flirt on and you’re just not flirty enough for her. the worst thing i ever did was allow it to linger. this guy doesn’t meet your needs nor your wants then examine the relationship and decide if it is right for you. i have trusted him fully in what he has told me because it wasn’t pretty and i have decided to continue our relationship which i believe is and will be stronger than ever. i knew the comments and stuff bothered him but he always came up for me. why should i burden her with this responsibility, which, ultimately she is doomed to fulfill because only i am responsible for how i feel and how i engage my world? my goal is communicate to the women particularly, that it is not about “blame”. course, if you really want to see why i write why she needs to take action is in this article here, entitle: “ask a guy: why is it always the girl’s fault? my question to men is will it always b this way?. just because he wants attention from women doesn’t make it okay to have those conversations. so me being probing i continued to look into the emails weekly. here’s the thing he is a big time joker so i know he trust to be the funny guy hence the last thing he said however i am paranoid bow and think what if i don’t even know this man. you want to test the waters, flirt with him a little. you are going to remain participating in the relationship, then yes, the only sane option is to internally accept what the other person is doing… without taking it personally, without reacting to it, without counterattacking.’m going to try to look at just the facts. well this sent me over the edge and i shut down, stopped communicating with him, and told him we needed a break! key here is that a connection with another person does not detract from your relationship, if it comes from a safe, genuine place. i do fear being alone but even if i stay with him i will be alobe because i can’t feel comfortable with his chick friendships. he really made me out to be this paranoid insecure woman., basically it would be really great to get a mans opinion on my relationship please. on the third time i caught him texting her i was caught between whether to stay and work it out or to respect myself enough to leave. but if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.? i really don’t think so… find a nice man who is happy just to be with you and does not need other women’s approval . he felt he could flirt and say whatever yet it was ok to him because he wasn’t acting out on it. but i also agree that the reason behind why our partner acted in that way should be addressed as well. of now our relationship is going great and don’t think he’s done this for a while now. they want connection yet they hold back, be shady, and fake what is going on for them so they can get the girl, or hold on to the girl. i think imma have another conversation on what he really wants and if he wants to be in a relationship cause i don’t get it.… one… two… three… five years into the relationship… they wonder where all the passion went. why would i need to date other people if i want to be with someone ? how do u let her share her vagina with other dudes? he is going out of town without me in a few months & im worried & sad that he might betray me.

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while, i can see why this happens, because i’ve been there. the world will kick your ass, and they will not care..but i know it’s his ex…when we’re together he always makes me smile and laugh, and things seem well. sometimes, he wants you to rip his clothes off or unzip his pants after a hard day at work and give him something to get his mind off stressful sh! everyone always says that this is just human nature and it’s how guys are. why because men enjoy sleeping around it makes them feel like men. my boyfriend was outside with his friend and she goes outside right away as soon as i go inside but she came back in asking me where did they go. i really like you and would love a relationship, but full disclosure: i will always flirt, text, possibly meet, send and receive sexy talk and pictures with other women. would like to post to this forum and have eric reply but i know that it is probably hard to get a response due to the volume of questions. for some you might have to adjust a little, for others they will do the same. when my marriage was shaky, even i opened a facebook account and got a boost talking to ex bfs and displaying attractive pics. please give me some advices of what i should do. being a gal who is guilty of some innocent flirting in front of my boyfriend from time to time, i know why we ladies do it. he was so quick to hand out his mobile numbers and they had a major flirting session.. why was he out so late if he had to go to work the next day?, as a man, and also as an experienced dater as well as a casual observer, one of the things we do to show our dominance is to not allow women to boss us around..why would he tell them that,if never been with them? am a strong person, and you’re right i should look at the action and not the words. at first i thought he was gay but he obviously is not. we have had a lot of issues in the past and he hates my insecuritties. there’s a total lack of trust, and i’ve become this really insecure person. my whole body is telling me leave this house before he comes back. we eventually “make the change” and stop complying with women’s demands [ie. the subject of his girl friends is literally the only thing we argue about, and i know it’s petty and like you said i shouldn’t give a shit., people can change if they want to and they’re motivated to…. one day…he stupidly leaves pics open on his computer…i walk into the room…and see them. we argued and argued about this, to no compromise or conclusion.. were careful and if one didn’t have any interest then the other wouldn’t do anything. he finally gets back on his feet and walks away just like that? he would always say this break was just temporary because in the end he knew we would be together. neediness and your insecurities can be done by working on yourself. based on what i read, past history does not sound like he has been ready to do so. i checked her phone and later her facebook and sure enough, she was. always say, if you want to be great, then be great and great people will find you and want to be around you. i know what you mean because nowadays a lot of women out there are money hungry trash with no morals. if i’m not exlcusive with a woman, i assume at minimum that she could be dating other men and just focus on enjoying what time i spend with her and continue meeting and seeing other women until i either want to be exclusive or she does.. he needs to flirt with other women to feel validated but its all talk. of dudes(and women too sometimes) want “harems”, where they have multiple partners with sex on tap. have to decide for yourself what is important for you. things i felt were going great between us and this just threw me waaay off. you may go 20 years without seeing that guy and still feel the same, but it is possible you can (i prefer to use my advice above) stamp this person’s pathetic existence out of your soul. x broke up with me a month ago and im still in that painful stage as i still love him and im feeling the pain more than ever. cant live my life in a relationship with a woman who doesnt truly care about me. my son thinks my boyfriend is his father but we had a bad incident in february where we had a row and he wouldn’t let me leave the room and forced me down and i was suffocating, he got off of me quickly and apologised, he was in a very strange mood he wasn’t kind to my son (didn’t physically hurt him) but my boyfriend said things like ‘i am going to tell your son about his dad” “i am going to message the child’s father and give him your home address” then he pulled off my trousers and tried to forcibly unwantedly touch me down there, i had to kick him in the face 3 times to get him off of me, he rang his own mother for me to talk to for help, his mum was shocked and helped me. makes me wonder, should i have hung in there a little longer. final belief isn’t so much related to your thoughts about the article, but more about your understanding of our philosophy. honestly when i’ve seen the pics on ig that he likes and tags his friends it makes me feel like shit. a guy always knows a woman’s real limit is measured by how much she’s willing to tolerate. always gave him the benefit of the doubt because i knew his past, and i absolutely wanted a future with him. lately though i have contemplating about leaving him because of his flirtacious nature with other girls. i literally try to discuss this issue and it gets dismissed. he said he would cut those people out of his life, an prove to me that this is what he wanted. same advice i give men who date women who don’t meet their standards,values, etc. have him time to see what this is doing to our relation and he told me he blocked everyone he was talking to. i have read so many articles lately and this one gave me the most articulate insight into common male behaviour. listen to yourself and how you feel about this because if it makes you unhappy and you go down the road of understanding (or try to), you will never understand. only thing i wouldn’t agree with is the impossibility of having a quality relationship with loads of people at the same time, let’s face it time isn’t infinite and you can’t possibly be attentive or needy to see all those people at the same time? then, confessed he had an “addiction” and wanted to stop. [read: 12 things men do that make women insecure in relationships]. i know that i (and most people who are psychologically mature) would feel very wrong doing it. it’s just that fun banter she’s looking for, there’s no need to worry. even though i had dated this man 32 years ago i feel a little uneasy . you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void. this advice is no better than the machiavellian red pill bullshit floating around on the internet. so, he will get pissed that you are “spying” on him. yet it hadn’t been too much of a problem as far as i can tell. but if they were super into you they’d be crushed by you saying this kind of stuff. too bad i didn’t come across this 2 years ago., i wouldn’t confront him unless you’re ready to dump him. i don’t know how to react and talk to him. and the biggest problem of all is that he is the type of dude that feels like no one needs to question him and the moment i ask where he’s going and with who, he automatically turns into dick mode and ignores me becasue he says he is tired of me being insecure. last night i did something bad and i looked through his phone. but i am starting to learn and see even from the advice countmackula had given me before. later on he admitted to saying things like that to get me out of my mood swing. he wont comply with your demand or else he will be allowing you to “be the boss” and call the shots. some man advice… my boyfriends friend (girl) has really disrespected me and our relationship.. its normal though for women to “bitch and nag” men. i was axtually ok with my man’s flirting behavior as long as i knew it was harmelss and meant nothing until a year after he completely went out of line. and i asked why he would do that after our fight. i tried to talk with hus parents as his father works in same office, but they are not ready to help me as he is their only son and that they are scare of him. don’t base that decision on what he says or does or your life will be dictated by someone else and not yourself. i’m not interested in having any more enemies… so if i have to have someone in my life who i’m in conflict with, i do my best to relate to them as a partner and never as an enemy. you can’t hate someone that deeply without having really loved them and been hurt.. if these other dudes sense weakness, many of them will attempt to steal his girlfriend which is not what he wants either. he told me “this behavior has been a part of him for a long time after his long time girlfriend broke his heart”. think he is going to do what he wants regardless. have a question, i seening him off and on, helping out with his life , n he’s the best sex ever, but i am married n 2 kids are high school, but any ways , i kind in love with this guy i seening, my husband’s n i been together 20 yrs n marriage 15 yrs, things not going right, i dont want hurt the kids , what should i do.. it’s just not worth it and there are plenty “of age”, ie “legal”, women. he lied, i agree it is better to have honesty. we all have our faults and reading this opened my eyes to maybe what the real issue was. if you believe you are seriously being reasonable, then you may want to reevaluate your relationship. it forces you to confront your insecurities rather than running from them. he flirts with his female friends because i’ve read texts and emails and ii hate it!’ve been wanting to leave my boyfriend for over a year. neediness is one of the biggest relationships killers, this is a huge plus. he said he never thought he would have a women like me and constantly tells me he loves me. the get-go, you chose him… but secretly you hoped and believed that he would change for you. he steps over the line, he’s a dog and end it immediately. i thought i would be emotionally strong enough to heal his self-esteem. “so, if i am suppised to be responsible for my insecurities, and filling up my empty hole by myself, why should the flirters get to continue filling up each others holes of insecurity? and simple, if a man feels the need to get his attentions from another women, other than his significant other, physically or emotionally he probably should not be in a relationship. oh my trust oh my trust where have you gone ? love this article, because just now, i found my 3 yr boy friend was chatting and flirting with other girls on his phone and one of then sent him pictures of her private parts. he apologized (he never apologizes) and said the things he said were wrong, he didn’t want us to break up, and he admits that old habits die hard lol but that’s all it was he was just bs’n with his friend. he has to be selfish and give himself these things before he can give to anyone else. way, you’re young and really need to capitalize on that while you’re in your 20’s and have energy every day unless you were gonna stay with this guy until the end and you’d be taken care of by him still somehow, i think at his age he should be able to understand “you gotta do what you gotta do”.!) then you wouldn’t want her to date other men. he cannot make you feel “guilty” if you don’t allow him to. from my perspective prostitution is what most wives and girlfriends partake in without realizing. now i am already an insecure sometimes needy girlfriend and i have been trying to change for myself because i hate being naurotic. doesn’t care who thinks what or how his wife feels. sounds like you may have a genuine “player” on your hands., decide what you want and dont and screen, up front, dudes for what you feel you want. then after i read it i realize it not my fault but his own. it’s 8 something in the morning and his ass is not home yet? this means that he was changing for me and for being there for so long. if anyone has done that i haven’t seen the comment – i guess “swingers” do. but he keeps saying no and she continuously bugs him. was more bothered he couldn’t tell me the truth about the past. much of these behaviors can be screened out prior to investing into longer term relationships but many do not do that up front. just, please, don’t assume you know what’s going in your girlfriend’s mind. if you’re more open about your feelings, she’ll probably flirt less. noticed something that kind of pissed me off the other week. some women actually flirt with other guys just to see their boyfriends get angry and frustrated. is where validation and invalidation of feelings comes in i believe. i would love a mans opinion on how to move forward with this?! lady i hope you find a man who will only looking at you for the rest of his life. loves to drink alot, and he makes moves on ugly, fat, alcoholic bitches, all the time. i have questions that i feel need answer to close the issue and move forward but he cant seem to answer them without getting bothered. everything is normal and our relationship is great, apart from this issue. so, women get no second chances on “deal breaker” scenarios. i tell them to stop and they don’t, that tells me she doesn’t take me seriously and why do i want to spend my life with someone who is dishonest, cheating, and doesn’t respect me. i may be a little insecure about myself because i do check his phone often which i need to stop cause if i trust him i shouldn’t have to worry about anything which he has told me before. i was out at a party with my girlfriend (we’ve been together about 6 months) and at some point i noticed her talking to another guy i didn’t know and they looked like they were really enjoying themselves.. in the beginning, two people are excited and their focus is on their partner. i mean, all of his sexual needs are completely met by you, right? i have leaned ladies, is once man flirts with other women, he is already cheating in his mind, and eventually he will cheat. everyone thinks i am a bitch because i am cold to him in his condition , but should i have to be nice and defeated just because he got sick? i love to flirt by nature and when i was in other relationships i got punished a lot for my flirting behavior and obviously those relationships didn’t worked. when you’ve dated a bunch, you have experienced variety and if you’re looking for a person you’re interested in buy also want good sex, you learn to screen for stuff. i think it’s fair that you are hurt and untrusting and your guy needs to allow you your questioning his every word. she also was married, with two kids, and lives two states away and i’ve always known i’d never date her. *you’re* not interested in sex with us, tell us straight up to start looking for another woman to get it from, men hate wasting their time., carefully watch how your girlfriend reacts when you gently mention that you’re confused about how she behaves with men. if you are really romantic and you want something special rather than just playing around and she is going out and also fucking others, it’s just hell. don’t come away with the impression that if this “disrespectful friend” was gone, you’d have a picture-perfect boyfriend…. essentially, i would advise you to consider what is the best for your children. content advises men get women they are dating to date other men. if he asks for a reason, you can tell him that’s why. i personally have this situation with a dude, and i realized all dudes flirt. try to steer women to look at actions over words because many women get jealous over us men communicating with other women but i personally feel as long as we choose not to act upon it, it is ok.) men will do and say virtually anything to avoid sounding weak, gay, or like a “pussy”. my girlfriends laugh because i keep saying i need to find one for myself.. everything was an excuse to have a go at me. therefore, i will be dating and meeting many women and i expect nothing less of women. i dnt get what i did wrong and why doesnt he leave me alone if im such a whore. and drama wastes so much time and mental energy with no reward and a high cost. what it is saying is, there is something you can choose to do moving forward to prevent similar scenarios: screen better and keep your investment level closer. but a guy knows when a woman isn’t going anywhere. another friend of his who didn’t care for me ( and the feeling was mutual) i felt would always try to sabotage our relationship. your statement was that she chose this man, so she knew what type of person he was to begin with. it’s not special or emotionally significant its simply about getting rid of the urge and busting a nut. my area has a lot of asian men, but i don’t think they would be interested in me so i never approach them. is an irony here on which any guy can contend. that girl was and still is strictly a friend, i never even slept with that girl. to him , rather than assuming things , believe me , life would be much harder if you start talking simple things in a hard way. i ask this because after 20 years of marriage to a man who was verbally and mentally abusive i am new to the dating scene . know that nobody is perfect, so keep your lists limited to a handful of “i really want these” & “these behaviors are an automatic no thanks”. it only took him 6 mths from our first breakup and 3 mths from final break up for him to grow up? how can u let ur girl go sleep with other men u twisted sick fuck! personally i feel like entering into a ‘relationship’ – particularly an exclusive one – is the best way to kill ‘relating’. thank you so much, this helped my very rough day. when you first met him, you were smitten but did you even really care too much about the competition? so the other day – and i am not saying it’s a good behavior of mine – i looked at his phone and found there are so many women he talks in such a sexy flirting way. choose “a” all day because im a straight up man. maybe your girlfriend doesn’t think she’s flirting whatsoever. you make it too complex, it’s often more difficult for us to want to deal with and we will not feel your love. i looked at his old messages and found he was heavily and inappropriately flirting with 6 different women from his hs days during a 3 week period of time we were apart a year and a half ago. boyfriend of 3 years tells me that i don’t need to know all of his friends.?” and she replied “thank bajebus that i never got married or knocked up” and he replied “i’ll get you pregnant”. he already thinks i’ve been this way so long that ill never change. am a 22 year old women dating a 27 year old man. the beauty of it is, the only quality item on earth you can own without breaking bank is a quality woman. say, “i don’t like that you talk to exes and see them, nor that you lie to me about it.. many beat women and all sorts of shit, but this is the “nice guy” argument that too many (socially attractive) girls “reward” these assholes with sex. btw isn’t it just his own insecurities in the first place that make him seek flirtatious conversations with women in the first place as a form of self-validation or ego-boost? the guy/girl is a known cheater, that’s a huge “red flag”. force yourself to give him the trust he’s looking for. having an audience was reward in it of itself for her. the fact that he doesn’t understand himself and can’t even begin to deal with the emotions that drive him to behave like this, makes my understanding him pretty useless as well., i never really thought that i was the confident one in this relationship until this point. she might just think that her actions are friendly and not realize that they’re coming off to you like she’s looking for a new man. my problem with this is she may have not known anything about this man when she started dating him.

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’s nothing wrong with talking to him about it and sharing your feelings… i would recommend saying it in a calm matter of fact way (so the message actually gets across instead of an emotional attack that he’ll reflexively go on the defensive against)…. but yet once outside asked me to sleep with him who i declined. understandably, i didn’t handle things like that very well. she was really hurt about that because she was really into me but she was not giving me space to live my life. you are now free to do just one thing: take each other for granted.. it is now very difficult to allow a woman close with trust and things. [read: 10 steps to reignite the lost spark in a relationship]. the real issue emerged when we started going to a gym class a year ago which was taught by a very hot trainer. it just sucks dude, i am at a point where i know i prob shouldn’t continue to try and make this work because i don’t trust him, even though i have no proof he has ever cheated, but its his personality with other women that scares me… like what if the opportunity arises with a super hot model looking chick… would he take it? like we both talk about marriage and kids and all that and i do think that he is “the one”. i told him it bothered me and he got bothered that it bothered me that much. yesterday i just ended my two year relationship with my boyfriend with whom i live with. a have been thinking about it, most, and i men most, women i know want a monogamus relationship ones you start fucking, it actually sucks when you she leaves you to be with some guy that accepts monogamy despite she is not happy with him anyway, has happended to me several times. she dances and then i get up and dance and had to show this young chick how its done.? because they have a context and understanding of each other and social dynamics that is beyond simple thoughtless reactions… maybe they’re in sales or politics, and so in their worldview it can be fun just to get someone fired up without any need, desire or intent for it to go anyway… it can be innocent, like my girlfriend dancing with a gay guy or a group of friends looking a some smutty online video to laugh about it.“… i’m just there b/c i choose to stay but not cuz he wants me to be? honestly the last thing i want to do in a relationship is feel like i have to check up on my man, and see who’s offering him pussy, just so i can feel secure with our relationship because he turned it down! dating multiple people at the same time is distracting and a bad move – and anybody who is really, totally into you wouldn’t want you to date other women, and wouldn’t want to date other men. i just don’t know if something like this ever changes, is it me being “crazy, insecure and over reacting”? he also save her under his phone as a dude name. and even if he didn’t act out on his words, i still felt let down, and confused.. that’s not what people focus on in the beginning, i don’t feel, i feel they focus on their partner. i’ve just walked away from my 5 years relationship as i realized that his flirty ways went as far as arranging meetings with other girls behind my back. so i just want to know what happens when you let it linger because that’s what i’m doing. they’ll love your blog, besides they sleep around and you can even get 3 somes without any issues. however, if you want to stay with him, you need to let him know your expectations and be understanding of his. when you do as leigh suggests, it has the effect of preempting any ideas of exclusivity or ownership or possessiveness.” there were a few other flirtatious conversations with other girls whom he had recently met and told me about as well. does this apply if he is snapchatting his penis and dming instagram girls for attention? rejecting sexual advances from women is about the hardest thing we have to do as men and so if you have a man who rejects other women for you, you must value and respect that he chooses you and not penalize him for it, reward him for it.. i later met some great women and ive found one that is really good. not saying you are wrong to feel how you do, you’re not. on the dude it may also be beating around the bush unless he is screening for your tastes in the bedroom. oh wait because if she does she’s ‘starting drama and no guy likes that’? know that i am part to be blame because i accepted that from the first place because i am always forgiving him because he always says that he will stop doing what he does to hurt me but in actually waiting for him to change is like waiting for rain when it comes to drought hopeless and disappointing. of their relationships transmuted into much deeper, much happier, much more meaningful relationships. i respect that he drives you to achieve and that is great however, ultimately you will need to do that yourself as will he need to make those changes in his life, for himself. some guys feel alone often, desire connection, and imagine that being liked or wanted by another person is the outcome they need to feel connected. i also recently find out that he is talking to some new people “females” to be exact. all i can think is that if i didn’t catch him, would he have hung out with this person? should i just not say anything and wait to see if he will say something or what should i do? you wrote some things about him that are sticking points, dealbreakers, red flags etc, which many people dont like because its “negative” but i just think it’s “realistic”. he would have taken her to his house where there are framed pics of us that i gave him, cards displayed that obviously mean something to him…trinkets/gifts sitting on the dresser…i don’t know if i should just ignore this or confront him. i said i can try to forgive him, that we need to work things out and wanted to know what he need from me, but he is not proving those answers!” being an intelligent human being involves transcending this, and considering whether other people might feel like you’re being a jackass. a man has commitment on offer and need sex from the woman. i read your reply every time i start to pity myself. obstacle many guys face is an unwillingness to be vulnerable. i love him and after my pain i saw this from the perspective that he needs help. that’s why “invalidation” hurts, because, it’s other people saying, at a lower level, “your feelings don’t matter”. deep down i want to say yes, he does want the same kind of relationship that i would like to work torward. i let him go out with his homeboys i have no problem with that all i ask from him is to let me know who he is going out with and where he is going., the best policy is to reward positive behavior and not crack down, but ignore the crappy behavior. i do consider myself hot, i’m in shape and have my hispanic curves and consider myself to be pretty and sexy. however, she soon began texting him much more frequently and just as friends. i asked him so many more times if he misses something else, what else could i do to him, never said anything else! it needy or whatever i don’t care about your opinion lol! i would keep trying to find ways to make it work. well, if you read the individual entries, as i do prior to responding, 3 separate times on 3 separate days to reduce potential for my personal life to interfere and be able to fully concentrate on tailoring a specific response to each woman that i feel might be useful for her, then you’d see that many of these women have already taken stands and in many of their cases, the only option left for them to “take control” of the situation is to leave the guy and move on. my bf even made a comment saying hes going to get super fit and cheat then he wrote nahhhhh, maybe a little.’ll elaborate a bit here, but i wrote an article too that i think will clear things up. i tell him how attractive he is, beautiful, hard working and sexually desire him. i didn’t take it personal as it’s just who he is. i’ve come around to the idea of it after a long hard struggle with myself (im an insane insecure girlfriend type must admit).‘my boyfriend flirts with every other woman and i think i’ve done everything in my power to give him what he wants? i have a daughter to raise and if this were her……. seems like everyone is justifying being directed in a relationship. anyone think maybe this guy who flirts online just has mommy issues? and if you’re not serious about them… why even bother to continue dating them? it sometime feels as if it just a thing i am used to and recently we started to fight a lot. i love him too, i just don’t know how to understand what he needs and give it to him without allowing him to cross lines that i am not okay with. if your partner dont care enought o respect you, he dont really love you. since him and i talked, i’m learning to see things differently, and work on myself more than anything. like us on facebook twitter pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life. ok, that’s harsh, obviously you do, but what you think about you, is always more important than what *anyone* else thinks about you. the guy i’m seeing almost wrecked my car staring at other women’s butts, right in front of me, while we were driving someone home. i learned to accept people as they are (no matter how close or far they are from me), it really opened up a whole new experience of life to me. as time went on the arguments increased, one time he insisted i message my old best friend(a girl) if she fancied him and i got really cross and said no. we have so much fun togehter and get along like i never have with anyone. i don’t know whether or not to let him be back in my life. his cousin of his text me that they went out last night i’m like ok that’s kool i’m just gonna focus on myself and just do what i got to do to get out of this situation. i know us woman can sometimes put a lot of emotion into things and let it get the best of us. i wrote my original post, he initiated a conversation with me when he got home from work. of what “friends” and family think… try to ignore any negative feedback, kill them with kindness and go get what you want. that hurt me more… i asked why doesnt he love me, why myst he do that and all i gotten was a laugh in the face. same as when you feel down and someone smiled at you and said you are beautiful – it would brighten up your day. any “reason” you give is a chance for “rebuttle” for “manipulation”. i did not respond right away because, first, i hate typing on my phone and wanted to wait until the weekend to sit on a laptop. could write you a novel right now on your man’s behavior and analyze the hell out of it. he said he broke my heart and wants to rebuild our trust..but i think since i’ve been dating him i don’t feel pretty at all or enough anymore.. for a convicted felon who bangs anything with a pulse. some of these women i confirmed he has never met before yet they are so in love with him and singing their undying love for him. bad, i think i meant that answer for the post above this one. think you writing “i give him everything” is the key. i looked again, and there were so many it made me physically ill. it was a fatal blow on my part since i really consider myself a headstrong and outgoing person. you could be missing out on forming great relationships with women who simply aren’t as traditional and conservative and close-minded as you. i found a particularly interesting conversation of him with a girl where he claimed we fought all the time, had nothing in common, and that he was stuck with me because i was pregnant (5 months at this time) i was devestated to say the least! if i was all up on him i would be around him with 24/7 not giving him any breathing space and i’m not all up in his crack cause i let him do shit. and isn’t this sort of need, the need to boost your own ego, what causes a lot of men to cheat in the first place? what you do next will have power and effectiveness from that place, so long as you continue to stay conscious and not get sucked into conflict. just want to make sure if it is ok to accept this kind of situation. he stated it meant nothing and it was just conversation. guys, i am just curious if it is normal for my boyfriend to watch porn videos a lot.“its hard to walk away because we have been through so much and our previous breakups were devastating to me. yes, early, mostly from the interaction between their mothers and fathers. he might “miss you when you’re gone” but if you ever take this person back, then he will not learn. as far as i can tell, flirting is just “interacting with someone in a way that’s semi-demi-sort-of-suggestive. i’ve been married 4 almst 4 years i’ve read my husband sexual chats with other woman he doesn’t meet up with them but he speaks bad about me wit these woman i’ve tried giving into him 4 every thing he does we have 2 kids and yest he puts his sex chats with other woman 1st before he even takes note of the kids he can never look after the kids 4 even a minute he is even on many sexual site i don’t know what to do anymore but wen ever i see his on these sites i would get so upset with him nd can’t help to confront him it’s really sickening coz y would he want to be with me nd stil fantasize about other women. i’m going tl take your advice im backing off a little & hitting the gym to let him miss me & come around on his own. and its like his word doesnt mean much these days. your girlfriend is really flirting with another guy in front of you, you should probably take a deep breath, relax, then dump a truckload of poop on the guy’s lawn in the middle of the night and set it on fire. better yet, find out where he works, and complain to his boss that he won’t give your vibrator back. but it is so in an effort to release many guys from this sheer dependence that makes it very difficult for them to simply be able to “…focus on one person at a time and give that person nothing less than their full attention if they want a happy, fulfilling relationship and to find love. can happen (im not saying it is this case) is that a person can become codependent and because of this, theyll justify anything because they care. does not sound to me like the man you are talking about gives a hoot about you. i’m saying, regardless of what he’s saying or doing, you have to do what’s right and healthy for you… even if it’s rejecting this relationship. as horrible as it sounds, the truth is that some women use this tactic to try to get you to leave them.. if you still act like this girl and you’re an adult. focusing on her, her options, her feelings, and looking to help her recognize that she must take control of her own life to live the life she wants to and if he isn’t a catalyst to her achieving what she wants out of life then she is investing time and emotion in a man who isn’t getting her message. i know he has an obsession with huge breasts, blondes, blue eyes, pale skin. decide that if he doesn’t make the steps towards being a real leader in your family, you will not reward him with a silver platter. my boyfriend refuses to move forward in our relationship and he says the reason is that he doesn’t trust me because i have lied in the past about looking through his personal things. you can’t change the other person, but you can change how you react to them, view them, respond to them, etc. sometimes, guys want to see some new underwear or have you jump in the shower with us or we come home and you’re wearing just an apron in the kitchen or something..Itll be ok, you’re only 21, a lot of shit has happened in my life since 21, you’ll find your strength.” the behaviors never stopped and finally it reached a point where the trainer started to reciprocate his “friendliness” and he welcomed that. the real questions started arising once she started texting him. also, some draw their “confidence” from their partner and often dont even know it, which is why they have none when they are single, instead of generating confidence internally, and will lean on their current partner for confidence while slutting,i mean, reaping the benefits of the confidence their partner provides to meet new partners that they would not have otherwise possibly had access to. luck to those of you out there trying to give men like this a chance. you’re “blaming” him for how you feel based on his actions. i’ve found out that he’s been texting/calling to other females on his phone but is talking to one particular female. my point here is that you lose your power of choice if you instantly react to another person’s behavior… whereas if you have space around how you experience them… if you can be calm, at peace and unaffected… then you have huge choice in how you respond and thus, huge power to change and improve your situation. the more two people fight, the deeper their grievances entrench themselves in each person’s mind… and the negative emotional energy of the conflict, over time, starts to become a lens they see the other person through.. i need your help to get this guy back to me and let him assure me that he is with me . you admin dudua you hit the nail right on the head! not many people are up to the challenge of risking it all for the sake of being upfront and honest.. i understand it… he comes to my bed at the end of the day. do this all the time, but it doesn’t make it right or sane., for him to stop the stuff you don’t want him to do is to defer to a woman. community sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of man that makes women go weak at the knees. to her” to “i don’t care about her as she is superficial, but i think she is hot and i am attracted to her. what kind of authentic, deep relationship can you have when your girlfriend is having sex with other guys? so i like this guy alot and he likes me alot as well, we hooked up a few times, nothing sexual… but we have come to care for each other. you better leave him alone for a week or two and see if he comes back if he disagrees to respect you. i struggled with some jealousy and insecurity cause he was a bit of a flirty type, but i didn’t see much of it since this was all pre-cell phone and internet days. before you go off and accuse your girlfriend of anything, do consider the possibility that she thinks being flirtatious is ok because you’ve shown her that it’s ok. meet some new men and use this experience to screen out men who are not looking for the same thing you are with the same core values. ahead 15 years or so…he now has a cellphone which is glued to him (i mean, who needs to take it to the bathroom? i have just read this article and found it very informative and it actually made a lot of sense to me to why people would do that, also i related it to myself a lot, when i was single a lot of times i’d feel unloved or depressed i’d have go on facebook for example and upload a nice picture of myself, i’d receive a lot of comments girls/boys that would kind of boosted my confidence. people are not perfect i accept that but i am still with that same man 5years later porn free, christian couple, broken people fighting for each other. a submeaning, and something many “read into” is that by focusing on “her” that i’m “blaming” her.-is he actually acting on these impulses, or just talkin trash. are free to choose to sleep with multiple partners, one partner or none at all.“i don’t want this to be exclusive…” was the last thing i wanted to hear.” nevertheless, you’re a real grown-up big boy, and i believe that you can let your jealousy go and really take a look at what’s going on. it makes a guy “feel like a man” when his woman does things like this. but it’s that we can enjoy each other’s company when it suits both of us.. i never understood this until i was hurt by a woman, but i have made conscious efforts to not allow past experience “penalize” new women. she can a) be such a badass girlfriend that he doesn’t even consider other women, b) ultimatum him nonstop that she’ll walk. is very caring, kind, helpful, makes me laugh and he is very generous most of the time, we seem to fit really well together and have so much in common. conclusion is that he wants me to drink and i cant. i believes that he still wants to be with me and still loves me. the worst thing i ever did was allow it to linger. i just really do want to become the kind of woman any man would want. i was like hmm swallowed it and we kept talking but it bothered me. he also said i concentrate to much on the past we need to start fresh and look forward to our bright future cos will be so happy in the end, but we didn’t get there yet.’s not being needy to ask to be informed about the potential of sexual exclusivity, it’s called being health conscious. it’s at this point that either people should be honest about what they want going forward, you either want to continue this “casually” with no intention of getting serious so you can have your cake and then some, or you wanna kick it monogamously..I dont know where to post my question and i really would like a guy to answer it. he said this after i told him i was separated after 15 year marriage. not listening] because we lost too many women that way. my observation is that once these people learned to accept others, they became much happier and their social situations became much happier. but we were having a child together and i told myself people make mistakes. it could very well be a subconcious need for affirmation, perhaps on both parts. last night he got on his fb on my phone to check his “inbox” .? am i over thinking (which is what he likes saying i do a lot) and maybe i should just drop it?.A side effect of all this for him was that he couldn’t ‘perform’ in the bedroom. he said he stopped and i believed him and began to trust him again, unfortunately i discovered he had not stopped at all and had been lying to me but i was prepared to just accept it as him being him.. if you look at an average 60 year old couple who has been married 30 years, the woman nags and bitches at the man constantly., this is probably the best advice anyone has given ex broke up with me, blaming me for everything. article makes total sense and all of those reasons are perfectly good reasons for engaging in open relationships. i cried , screamed, sat him down and talked to him… basically anything i coyld possibly do to make him see how much it hurt me to see that stuff. i ended it with my bf and it just made me think of what a stupid reason and we got back together i didn’t know his personality type was like this and now i am just trying to understand him better and create a place of unconditional love. i now harbor hatred for a few women, one in particular. men are all cheaters by nature, nature designed them to want to stick their manhood in anything that walks including fat, skinny, other men and yes animals. this varies from post to post because women on her post very specific and intimate details that vary and “generalizing” all advices and grouping them together as one simple advice “theme” just doesn’t work. this is advice for emotionally unavailable, insecure dickheads and i honestly feel sorry for anybody who treats a woman this way. you set your own threshold of tolerance in this life. if your not ready to lay it all on the line for the person your with, willing to rip your heart out of your chest for them then you have your answer, that person is clearly not ” the one “. no guy or girl likes their partner flirting with others.

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i have been in relationship for 10years, last year we moved in his parents place as he got job in his hometown. of all flirting in front of your woman is disrespectful.“he already thinks i’ve been this way so long that ill never change. if i think about it, even if one finds a woman that will be more into open relationships, and if that relationship grows to its full potencial, i still i do not think monogamy is the way to go then, granted, you have been toghether (not exclusively) for a long time and the love still there and is well…existent (unlike with most married couples) but still, even then i dont think monogamy would be possitive. now he’s desperate and doing his best for getting back together, but i can’t close my eyes on how his inner void destroyed our relationship day after day. a slutty woman will willing except a flirt from a man, while his woman stand by. he not only just flirted with her but also went out of his way to impress her, to an extent that everyone else, including the trainer, thought he may be interested in her.. and i hope we are just going through same phase … let me know whr r u . the reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss. however, you didn’t talk as much about you and ultimately, it’s your life. – thank you for the very calm, even-handed comment and question. people get to a “comfort zone” and they will stay there the rest of their life instead of pursuing what they really want. it hurt me so bad the first year i was with my bf and he told me that he looks up porn a fews times since we had been together(that year) and that he tries to find porn videos where the women looks like me…it tore my heart out, this man that i believed to be the only man i wanted to be with the rest of my life is looking at other naked women! women want men to more like them and try to change a man but this is a mistake because a leopard don’t change its spots and men don’t like it when women try to change them. i know posting it in the questions forum while probably give me many responses from women telling me “walk away, or get out of the relationship” which is not what i want to hear, atleast not from another woman..he doesn’t even stay up that late with me, he even complained about being awake at 11 pm talking to me but right after he got of the phone supposedly going to sleep he would go on facebook until 3 in a morning and i ask him why he would stay up late being on facebook? he said he never met with any of them and he never flirted with the intentions to cheat on me, physically nor emotionally. how come you never advise the girl to stand up for herself or to take control of the situation? your free 159 page brain transplant if you're ready to become the kind of man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then i have a gift to start you on that journey. a lot of women who feel the need to flirt with other people even when they’re committed to someone have some insecurity issues. i finally confronted him about, expressing how disrespectful i felt he was being. it also sounds like you value honesty, like real, to the core honesty. hes mentaly still a child and his choices are his choices alone. reason and the whole “call me when you dont have a boy” was just so that she would feel comfortable talking to him without feeling guilty about her feelings for him. this was the one person i didn’t want to have to deal with in our relationship anymore. and like my mother always told me, all men are cut with the same scissors. however, this thing is one sided and you need to tip the scales a bit in your favor. it all got too much for me and i broke up with him, however he would not stop bombarding my phone with calls and texts saying he loves me. yes, very, for multiple reasons that my boyfriend’s aware of. face similar challenges, because we have women that we find attractive but do not share our core values and goals and we have to also learn (unfortunately often through trial and error of poor and failed relationships) that not every person we are are attracted to physically is a good match for us. however, my girlfriend felt uncomfortable with the two of us talking, so at her request i burned that bridge and stopped talking to the other girl (it hurt to do, since she was a very good friend). your blend of sass, sensibility, psychology, and hard-knocks experience is brilliant (and very helpful). do you see this guy as the father of your children? even til this day i love him and i miss him more than anything. i havent told him anything because he will flip it on me and tell me i am stalking these girls and being psycho (bc their page is private & i have an old fake page and had added them before which he knows about and was very upset and thought it was childish and insecure) so i cant tell him i still log in there from time to time.-i dont like lying and cheating but a large % of this world seems to lie first to cya and then try to justify it later.. what sort of compliments does a guy want to hear? what is happening now is that our relationship is falling apart and it really breaks my heart. are we not strong enough to go into a connection with out a back up? he will do it either by pushes you away for a while so he can sample some women or out right cheat and tell u they are friends. so the million dollar question is: what do you want? also he refuses to move forward and commit because he says i’ve lied in the past which i have but never anything terrible, only about looking through his things because i know he would fight with me ans was trying to avoid it. i then wanted to help him and possibly save our marriage. if you don’t confront your differences with your partner honestly — if you either lash out randomly, or act like you’re cool with stuff you’re not cool with — then your relationship will slowly turn into a mass of resentful unsexy garbage. be nice if you could elaborate more on how to address our: “what the f**k are you doing?” and if he is honest, he’ll have to admit that it is not the most efficient (or humanizing) way to experience connection with women he’s attracted to or just people in general.”, especially after 8+ hours of his boss telling him what to do, the last thing he wants is to leave work and hear someone else tell him what to do. the day he actually told me i was making empty threats was when it dawned on me that i really have to put my walk into action. however, she began talking about him more and more and i began to feel little doubts. it’s like this…when i think of why i don’t like when my boyfriend is flirting with other woman, it is because i feel when he says things to me that confirm my desirability, the words become meaningless when you hear him saying them to other women whether it be sexy talk or something deeper. one of the guys trying with one of the girls, other has a gf so he always brings her around. since our fight i’ve felt jealous, suspicious and insecure. my ex has exemplified a case of codependency and scheming manipulations that, at that time, i was too blind, deaf and mute to take in. if he’s expecting you to be undrstanding and trusting, then you expect the same but you give it to him.. just because i’m suggesting that you be diplomatic, it doesn’t mean you should be a pushover. he starts lying about her…giving her rides to and from school. i noticed he called one of them wifey, he asked that one girl to “kick it” when he found out she lived literately down the street. this last time he inquired to a female to sleep with her, she declined stating she didn’t want to jeopardize her relationship because she is happy. i have trust issues as well… i just want to know why men are the way they are when it comes bro got women so that maybe i can learn to be in a healthy relationship even if it means the next one. but of course it isn’t quite easy when ur madly in love with that person. understand men r men but what bothered meud wu the most was an email with. but yesterday he messages some girl on facebook who he is well aware that i hate (she never did like me) i see it by chance and he instantly deletes it. never thought i would have to type something like this into my search bar- having never been cheated on or broken up with in the past, i’ve always been confident that my baby would stand up for me and proudly wear me on his chest like he always has after all the shit we went through.‘my boyfriend flirts with every other woman and i think i’ve done everything in my power to give him what he wants? an issue i have is that with tolerance, i have a hard time determining what my “limits” are as i’ve never explicitly talked about them, and i tend to be a very accepting and forgiving person. i’m just a small town gal fighting my way. finally last week he broke down and apologized for all his stupid ways and applaud me for doing everything. the main reason i do, is because i believed men spend so much time trying to supers their emotions for the one they with, by asking for space that they already have. what upsets me is when men make false promises and pretend like they really care about you, love and act like they are committed to you. i know it is all up to me and my actions. your free copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. if you truly think you can’t do better, you’ve fooled yourself into believing a straight up lie. slept with his friends wife when he lived with them. that said, i’m not sure we really heard how one can inspire change in a better, more constructive way.. i think he was going out to hang out with other girls.. he says instead y dont we live in n be ourselves . for example, if i love oral sex and ask you if you like it and you said, “eww gross, i hate it”, then i would be pursuing a woman that doesn’t like to perform an act i desire. i love sex and nothing feels better, but i’m attracted to women also for style, intellect, kindness, femininity, personality, amongst other things and while sex is important, i disregard many women because they don’t have these other areas. reading your post has allowed me to realize that this is not personal at all, that my boyfriend is an attractive man, and that i need to maintain the confidence and personality that he fell in love with. while i agree that men are trying to fill a void and there actions are a result of underlying feelings, needs, etc. could recall him saying that he wants nothing to do with her because she is stupid etc. part that stuck out to me was the part where you said you knew what kind of guy he was from the get go. in his teens he had a very made case of acne and shut himself out from the world in shame of his skin. what do i need to do to give him the attention he needs to not do those things ? this is the case, then the next question is: if someone feels that exclusivity is needed before intimacy can grow, then what is that person really looking for in their intimate relationships with women?.My issue now though is that my current partner is a glamour photographer.… you can’t bank a person or a particular quality of that person changing as a make-or-break factor.? because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. connection in relationships is not achieved when both people are in sole possession of the other, but when both can bask in pure appreciation of the other. bit he will texts these girls (he doesn’t know i know he does this). talk a little smack, look for chemistry with a guy that you feel meets your wants and respects your boundaries. i knew he was this type of guy before we got together. is that the society you wish to create, and leave behind. there are men better who won’t do that to you. i want to say i’ve had my final straw with his boundaries with female friends. mate, if you don’t understand the content here, you might want to look beyond the ‘what’ and look at the ‘why’. 🙂 reply me i have left my fb and gmail id fr u … maybe i can be of any help to u and i would love to do that …. my opinion, if you wait for right circumstances to commit you will never be able to. now, maybe it is innocent, maybe it is just lunch. and they are like a bunch of people, always together with their special bonds; my boyfriend, two other guys and three other girls. i don’t need to know all of his friends and what not. how do i know if he really is just trash talking or if he will act on it?’s really hard to forgive people, but how else can we help one another in a relationship? he tells me that i need to find some friends and go out. that kind of violence and disrespect should never be tolerated. tinder tips you can not ignore if you ever want a date. and you don’t have to put up with it. i agree about seeing the big picture and not taking things personally, but when we have this kind of inner void, how can we actually be in a fulfilling relationship? i checked her phone and later her facebook and sure enough, she was.. and ive had 4 women i began sleeping with who later informed me of some boyfriend and ended it with her. he has a cousin which is a bad influence because his cousin is a big time cheater and my boyfriend goes out with him to the clubs or just hang out. we aren’t friends on facebook due to previous fights about this issue. but i do have very close friends and once in a while i might say ‘i love u and appreciate you as a friend’ but not for years on a weekly basis sending them reminders, they wouldn’t get me and though i was trying on with them. because i’m not really one to put up with poor behavior. bit of insecurity can secure your relationship, no insecurity at all can make your relationship insecurity and exposured to the public for manipulation. is, any relationship can deteriorate… when both partners aren’t in it to win it. before you get too upset about it, think about these possible reasons she flirts with other guys, and what you may be able to do to curb her flirting. again, it keeps my “game” good, if you will, and keeps me “grounded”. i read a text that he sent, and it read ” are you divorced yet? which a lot of people tell me i am but i just need to feel that way myself. he did tell everything honestly to me, but the thing is, he promises me to change to be a better one and going to stop doing it. i know he thinks his trying to fix the situation although he hasn’t done much, his just being his old self, but liking a pic of a girl he flirted with is a dumb move. i chased him like i always do, but he won’t budge. community sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of man that makes women go weak at the knees. the next morning he left vegas and we met up to talk, looked in my eyes and told me enough was enough he was done with that life and all of this being away opened his eyes to what he really wanted. consider the fact that in certain parts of utah, making strong eye contact with a girl you met in church would be tantamount to sending her a dick pic. i’m perfectly happy with my girlfriend now and i wouldn’t cheat on her. you can have all the rules you want etc but if you are unable to enforce them or do not, nobody will take your rules seriously. it just sucks that i do not want to continue to look through his things but how do i know the truth of who he talks to and if he still flirts inappropriately with other women? you love that he feels like “a challenge” like many women have been quoted. if he’s just talking and not acting on it, then he is turning down pussy for you. he swore for an entire argument that i was crazy, he hadn’t talked to her, blah blah…the only way he confessed is because i showed him the phone bill, and emails (i really didn’t want to stoop that low). i decided that i had enough and left, which was very devastating to him. men show their true colors within a few dates either you accept it or say “next! we have had sex 1 time in 8 months and i love him dearly. i literally sat in a coffee shop today that was full of beautiful asian men and just blushed into my book haha. our partners should be held accountable for their actions and if they messed up, they should make it right. Here are 10 reasons why she seems so interested in every person that walks her way. he makes me feel guilty and responsible for him not wanting to settle but at the same time i feel he uses thar excuse because he just isn’t ready. i really like him but on the other hand i can’t pretend that everything is ok for me cause it’s not. but now even as our daughter is 3 months old i cant help but not trust him, and im not as attracted to him as i use to be. i’m not sure if he is still flirting with her but i know he is talking to her, something i asked him not to do and something he agreed he wouldn’t do. told him that if i did catch him flirting too much, that i would want to break up again. one for me is complicated alot , i have been with my partner for 5yrs now . that i should need to qualify myself, but studying dating and relationships has been a huge interest of mine for a long time. she would light up a room and sexuality radiated from her effortlessly.. they had a child and he met up with another girl. people say just trust or get out but people truly in love know its not that easy especially nowadays. he says he still cares about me and dont want to hurt me anymore. often look for commonalities, but dating yourself would possibly be boring, but someone very different can be very interesting and fun… exciting even. i’ll get out and you can ask her to get in and be your girlfriend. i strongly agree that best relationship isn’t just always getting things what we want and we expect, from constantly reading your relationship coaching i have learned that successful relationship needs an everlasting understanding of the unfavorable things we didn’t ever expect that they do happen in real as the love between partners going deeper.. he said it was because his ex was cheating on him and kept accusing him of doing stuff so he thought why not…. think that was my que to walk but because i stayed, he continued..Yeah still no need to do it under our nose. however, i didn’t confront him, because he explained to me that it was the reason why a lot of his relationships didn’t work: girls were jealous and complained about his interactions with other girls. so for the first 2 months we dated and he never once flirted with other women, always gave me a lot of attention, was a total prince charming. generally, i think, a good rule for relationships is “assume you aren’t dating some sort of crazy sociopath, but remember that it’s not an impossibility.’m not talking creepy antisocial nerds, i’m just talking about self respecting men who take care of their health, don’t break laws, and would never cheat on his girlfriend. again, i can’t stress this enough, i’m not saying this is somehow an inherently bad or not-bad behavior… it’s just a behavior… and it’s a behavior you’re having a reaction to. hard to be present and appreciative if you are busy trying to maintain appearances. your girlfriend infuriating you by flirting with every passing guy? see me and my ex, we really love each other but we constantly bump heads because we share different beliefs when it comes to flirting. i’d end it with her if i was truly unhappy and she wasn’t meeting my needs, as that one guy wrote. there is a certain level of codependency, but they respect each other so it works. the feeling associated with these insecurities:“what if she likes him more? ok so for 2 years he was good because i said if i saw it again i was gone , but over christmas i had messages from girls like ‘oh you’re his gf , he never mentioned you’ he was speaking extremely sexual with them and it has destroyed me . encourage women i date to date other men for one reason only. i know he does because of the history on his tablet. i opted for single for a bit and my life was better, since i had time to reflect on what i wanted. so you might have read all of that and thought “she’s in the right, he just seems like an extremely controlling/jealous person”.-set some boundaries; major nonos, reject those who do not respect your boundaries..he’s like i’m known for snooping around his phone even though he hasn’t got me yet but he says i don’t trust him over his phone. note…he has ms…and doesn’t take care of himself…showering, brushing hos teeth. she accepts it, but it still feels disrespectful; she accepts it, but it still puts her in awkward situations, or can cause embarrassment, or tension with other women. have to have loved in order to hate, i think. the hard part is that i know because i’ve looked through his phone & emails. so, men will also intentionally ignore what their woman says to show dominance and “be a man”. people “feel” this approach as “too nice” and expect alpha dudes/women to be controlling., it’s another thing entirely if she turns on you. allow there to be space around your interactions and intelligence, clarity and wisdom will effortlessly become available to you. and even if i chose to stay, it isn’t up to me because he left me, i didn’t leave him. boyfriend and i have been dating for little over a year and so far things have been okay. like your words vincent, and i follow leigh and osho a lot hahahaha, is more, since i meet the ai philosphies, all the world of osho have real meaning to me… thanks leigh for present me osho and the others oriental spiritual masters 😀. usually, a man should say directly what he wants and if he tells you that then he means it.. some people never learn and some people do learn, but only “the hard way”. my fear is there is a deep rooted issue relating me to a comfort like his mom or a companion. like how he’s so sweet with kids, but he’s kind of a pushover in the relationship…. don’t forget to respect yourself by not allowing someone to treat you in a manner you feel is inappropriate and don’t rush into exclusivity until you’ve had a chance to feel someone out a bit. i don’t want to lose him but i am afraid that is becoming my only option. u try to find ways to change, to accept it to understand it. agree that it may be your own insecurities that are making you feel like it’s your fault he flirts with other women and i agree that you should try to understand him more. that exciting, new time in the relationship is over and now you’re both comfortable and used to each other, look for new ways to get back some of the excitement that has gone missing.

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women want a safer world, they have to stop giving sex to thugs, murderers, rapists, etc. i understand now not to blame myself or blow up something that was most likely nothing compared to what we have. he told her he liked her even befor me and she liked him too. then they shame, punish or guilt their partner into stopping that behavior. i mean, he had an entire twitter where he hit on girls! response: “you’re the one with the problem even though he’s disrespecting you. i realized i still have trust, self-esteem and rationalization issues i have to work on alone to determine if we can move forward our relationship. i’m almost positive he has not met up with this girl. so, i have a boyfriend and we are in a long distance relationship and its been a ex wanted me back and vice versa but i opted to put a stop to the cycle). you have to choose what is acceptable to you and what is unacceptable and if him doing this isn’t ok to you, then you have to decide that. is ok, with a decent human being but if you have a dishonest mate, youre being walked all over. we fought about this and did not talk for a month. a guy: how do i get my boyfriend to be more romantic? these women aren’t coming here for “analysis” they are coming here for “advice” and help. if someone is into you, telling them to date others is a slap in the face and very wrong. i am willing for both of us to put in effort, and if he chooses not to do those things anymore out of respect for me great, if he does continue to do it.. if you women notice, this is how a “child” acts. i guess men will always be men where ever they are 😉. enough, this is exactly what i was looking for in the first place. he gets irritated when i try to sexy text him yet he is having these kind of conversations with other woman. i have to say that is probably my biggest issue and it reflects on my relationship. read the original response to this question and i must admit it infuriated me. we’ve never had any major problems aside from a casual argument over something stupid, we makeup and it’s good again. they should be held accountable considering we are our choices. i know about his past and how he was cheated on by girls he really loved and hasn’t had anything lasting since that. maybe, at the end of it, she starts behaving more modestly. he denied being on facebook but i am not stupid i know why he was awake being on facebook so late and lying to me that he was going to sleep. if they want a man who handles business, makes good money, is in shape, confident, selective, appreciates a woman, etc. included in these messages were personal details about our relationship. is right anyway… we don’t own anyone… but do we really need that kind of constant reminder? i have been in a relationship with a guy i met at work and now he says he doesn’t find me as the same person i was , which is true i kinda get over possessive at times, and yes he did have genuine plans with me in the beginning and now he quit the company and moving to a different place or altogether to a different country of which i and he is not sure yet, for a better opportunity. i tried for a day to figure out how to bring it up because to confront him would mean to admit i had indulged my childish side. to find out that was never the case, he’s lied to my face about talking to her still.. and it is possible this guy is not the right one for you. maybe the fact that you’re so against it is the exact reason you need to do it. it seems as though you feel like you give and you give, but he’s not giving you what you want or need. so it can’t be that he desires sex with them…. i dont think so it wld b my bf … as i have met him at work n i know he wouldn’t that . i will do my best to understand him and not take it personally. i rather him do that than cheat thats for sure. saying if he continued to do the same things, i could walk away for good but he wanted one chance to prove himself. you want to date around remain single and rather go for escorts, prostitutes, strippers etc. because before he told me he wanted his “freedom” and i’m like freedom to do what? i know a lot of girls *myself included* who really are just trying to be polite, but for whatever reason, it comes across as flirting instead. i even had guy friends that i had known for years, that would make it known they were attracted to me. he says it’s nice to talk to other girls and it’s nice to have someone other than me to talk to, but i’m not okay with the flirting or the secrets. make it clear to him, verbally, that you don’t like it and ask him why he feels he *needs* to do it. today i asked him if he has ever met with any of them, how he flirted, how far did he go with the flirting…. “feeling sorry for yourself” happens, but it’s best to recognize when you are doing this and try to minimize it because, when the going gets tough the tough gets going… sometimes, this world is survival of the fittest and there are people out there making moves while others are sitting in a corner feeling sorry for themselves. my biggest hurt was not the fact that he still kept in contact with these friends, but that he lied to me. i mean, if that were my actual advice — that you should seek immediate comeuppance, maybe even in the form of a punch to the face., he didn’t take it very well… he accused me of cheating, which i thought was funny because i thought he was..i became too distant to even care about the manipulations–i just stopped caring. i understand i may not be filling all his needs but he needs to express that to me as much as i need to express my feelings of hurt from what he has done. he is doing that shit and says he wouldn’t tell you if he cheated because he doesn’t want to lose you, that tells me he wants to have his cake and eat it too.“what i want to know is how can i get him to want to commit and to be honest with me?.Most men would likely be satisfied with one attractive woman who didnt cause him extra stress and drama but its hard to find. im hurting at the thought of him being over there n all the things ppl say about vegas. in my opinion if you’re truly in love, the thought of them with anyone else is unbearable. in order to get me to stay he texted her saying that he couldn’t talk to her anymore and that he had a girlfriend this whole time. firstly weve been friends all our lives and he never once was like this he was my best friend up until all of this. it seems the only option is to stay and accept it or leave? the reason i talk like this because i don’t know them and i just state the facts i see – they are being flirty with my boyfriend which is disrespectful to me., sometimes when i talk about this stuff, someone thinks i’m saying that a person (male or female, depending on the audience) *deserves* bad treatment in the relationship and should just take it and deal with it. i know he loves me because he never want to break up, and he really wants to make me comfortable by being open to each other. i used to think that the women needed to get over their insecurities, steadfast that i was doing absolutely nothing wrong and they needed to get over it and let me have fun since i was not planning to be unfaithful. i don’t know how to confront him because he left me before for that reason. i should not have to cater to him nor should he to me. he asked me several times to message her asking if she liked him and it made me feel low, i got very angry and hung the phone up on him in the end.. (not a very confident person and somewhat overweight) he was always commenting on how attractive these skinny girls were. Here's how to react if you think she's flirting too much..i just feel like he think he can do better. unfortunately theres all kinds of dirtbags out here including both men and women. from a multi-minded perspective it’s stupid to encourage your gf to date other guys when she is already dating you as it’s crucial for one to pamper their relationship from its very early stages. i have been stressing to the point of not eating over my boyfriend’s flirtatious nature. don’t let her bullshit or shame you, its your way or the highway. think about an ex bf you used to be in love with and no longer care about. we are not the cure for someone else’s void..i confronted him about it and he said he was just hanging out with friends just “talking”. i know in that his friend circle one girl slept with a guy and now she has a boyfriend, but that guy is still trying on with her, he told this to me himself! this point in my life, personally, i am only interested in having partners in my life. i start to think that maybe he really has some feelings for these girls and it wasn’t just a confidence boost but he does love them and finds them attractive, but why he is with me than, or what if he likes multiple relationships? you yourself probably even think it’s fun to flirt with other people, even if you have a girlfriend. it is stupidity to ask and hope for loyalties in this age and time. prefer to skip focus on blamegames and go right for the constructive. he’s younger than me and was diagnosed with ms not long after we started living together. if she’s not getting what she needs from you in terms of flirting, she’s going to look elsewhere to get it. i wear lingerie, i seduce him, i always look hot for him lol. he also telling me that i’m always depending on him i’m like what the hell i’m always depending on you for? anyway after a month of first being in a relationship he freely gave me his fb password, i was a little surprised and i never asked for it. they will wrongly believe that being promiscuous is the correct path. we asked women to reveal the behaviors they consider unfaithful. has a great talk about this on youtube where he basically says if you really love somebody, you give them total freedom. the idea that one’s neighbour should be thankful for every freedom forced on him is absurd; and when the neighbour in question is a neighbouress, self-evidently absurd. complaining about it isn’t anything but nails on a chalk board. men and women often want to please their partners which is fine when you have a partner that reciprocates, but if their partners are not reciprocating nor respecting them then i’m trying to get the message to them that, in this world, and this society, in the time we live in, especially with unparalleled equality for women compared to the entire history of our species, women in the dating world have choice..But, what i feel would be best is for you to also work to be decisive, make a decision about this for yourself and then go with that decision. i questioned him about his space cause i wanted to know what his intentions are. just pull her aside one day and tell her tell that what she’s doing isn’t cute or funny, and that she should focus on nabbing guys who are single and her own age. but here is the thing, i am in school everyday and my boyfriend goes to school with me (not guy 1) but he is the sweetest guy around. who is constantly thinking ” what is he up to now? my opinion, you are right to be upset, but as long as the dude isn’t “acting” upon these flirts i think it’s ok and if he truly cares about you, he won’t pursue them. i pity you, as you were a victim of someone who changed society long ago to what it is now, and are too immature and blind to see reality. he used his age old excuse of ” they’re just my friends and thats how we get along” which i know to be true because he loves shock value in a lot of things that he says and does. people can study words to know the right ones to use with you. later on, in the following weeks, i told her everything about my intentions after the break up because i didn’t want to give her a false hope about me coming back. i ask him is he want space to go out and have sex with females because i just found some condoms in your car so whats up with that. i’m having a situation in which my fiancé has sent inappropriate messages to three of my female friends telling them not to tell me because i’ll get mad. i feel like he doesn’t realize he has something great. it will make him forget about his problem and put his focus back on the girl. forget that noise your man is not as great as thought suck it up or move on… i have a great man i plan to marry this summer but he is a flirt and i find myself hating him for it….“realising these insecurities and having them hit you in the face every time you see her means you have to confront them and deal with them, rather than running from them. you feel you’re not going to want to work things out, all of those advices still would be a good plan. my boyfriend can talk to all the girls he wants yet when i talk to one guy as a friend he goes crazy and starts yelling and punching walls and he calls me a whore what should i do? so anyways we stayed at his friends all day and we were watching tv she was sitting on the other couch every time he walks by her she kicks her feet up in front of him. i want to move forward but i want closure regarding this situation…he told me today after asking him a question regarding the flirting n he said “i am so annoyed you keep bringing this up again and again, im trying to move forward” he continued by saying “i rather watch football and study then talk about this issue”. takes two to tango, so don’t assume you’re doing all you can and it’s all on him. i am in a relationship and i don’t need that attention, but i am jealous and feeling bad about my boyfriend doing this to other girls. learn to treat your relationships from a “i respect myself” standpoint. should i tolerate his little habit because i still love him and because maybe all guys r pretty much no better, or should i let him go. but that always leads me to think, what if she had accepted, he would’ve gone. hate to say it, but that still doesn’t prove she’s doing anything wrong.. but thats just me and i dont allow myself to succumb to the temptation like so many. one way to reduce this is to make sure she’s feeling confident. he tried to cbver up his lies with more lies. she is like it’s okay, but i am always feeling bad about this. i know of her as the clingy crying and whining one who wouldn’t let go. i feel like a fool, i also feel like i wasted three years of my lie with someone whos not taking me seriously. you’re better than that, even if you don’t know it yet. i think about 20% of divorce issues are due to facebook, so you have a market to help! in this world and this time, respect from others comes from respecting ourselves and part of that is recognizing that people will often treat us the way we *allow* them to.. i feel great but every now and then like today when i come to this kind of site and read what you all are going through, i fall back to this hopeless, bitter girl who is trying to be strong but really despises men and don’t want to ever fall in love or let anyone have my heart again.!So i was dating this guy, we both attend a pretty too notch university. if you hunt like this, the ladies you get are worth their weight in gold, they too do not take nonsense. a lot for comforting me in my calm way of seeing things that happened. i couldn’t agree with you more when you say:“always look to reduce your “need” of anyone else for your life to be great. also, if he keeps doing it, make it known that it is upsetting you, talking about it always helps, but make sure not to attack him with accusations or this may result in a fight. i’ve told him that i notice he has been moving funny with his phone lately and questions me why i wanna see his phone when i ask for it. so, she uses flirting as a way to get you upset enough to leave her. is this just a mans human nature and im overreacting and stressing?? so why the fuck is it acceptable for us as women’ to stand by and watch our dawg boyfriends flirt with other women. i’m confident in myself now, accept my flaws and embrace my strengths and don’t care about anyone who doesn’t also care about me. he would keep in contact with his old “friends with benefits” and chatted with them on a regular basis via text and facebook. we haven’t been connecting as much as before so he said maybe he flirted because of that. then they shame, punish or guilt their partner into stopping that behavior. i also recently check his phone and i found out her name cause she invite him to google hangout and that she works in the same business as me but in another location. up for ourfree newsletterand get a free chapterof our book,"he's notthat complicated". yes, i chose him despite it all cause he told me all about his past and wanted to become a better person through his bad experience. i really don’t know how they are when i’m not around…. what matters is, it is your life, and life is choice. tell him if he keeps seeing you he needs to know that unless you’re exclusive, you’ll be seeing other men too, but if you want him to commit, you damn well better be ready yourself. one of the most biased and ignorant articles i’ve ever read. he doesn’t have any insecurities and didn’t message the girls to boost his ego, but he doesn’t know why he did it. have some self-respect — have more respect for yourself than she has for you — and dump her immediately. i broke up with him, i snooped again and noticed he did not even wait a week before going back to the past women and start contacting them away. the real reason is, either they listened to their mom and sister(s) like me, they listened to their girlfriends and learned from them, like me, etc. i’m guessing it’s ‘the capacity to be alone’ one but it’s still worth the watch. we have a great relationship, i am not missing anything and if he asked me to stop doing it, i would, but a part of me will die with it, and most likely our relationship won’t be the same. you go to new relationships, this is not a constructive question. could go on and on, but just wanted to give an idea of what sort of flirting is that, it wasn’t sent to just one woman, they for a few different ones, he told me before he loves them as his friends, they are so close like family sort of thing. i hope he does come around & that one day i can stop worrying about other girls. him, it will hurt more if you wait for him to do it to you. oh wait because if she does she’s ‘starting drama and no guy likes that’?. done a shoot with her and is talking to her a lot. do not rush into a “rebound relationship” until you have remained single for a bit and gained “independence”. sometimes i wanna hit up the girls number and find out what’s going on between them and if they know he has a gf but that’s drama and i don’t like drama. first ever relationship lasted 9 years, i married the guy but he had a lot of insecurities, depression and mood swings. or if she tells you to stop being such a little bitch. then, decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with the results. they have an attitude like the other person is an object to tweak and twist and change as they see fit… almost as if they’re entitled to that other person measuring up to exactly how they want them to be and that they’re morally justified to punish them if they don’t measure up. if he says he’s not ready, then that may be, but i will say, i know plenty of people take others for granted and sometimes, the only way other people will learn is by feeling the loss. again, hypocritical at it’s worst, only a stupid dick can write something like this. i find it hurtful and disrespectful that my man is flirting with girls the way he does but he sees it differently. the only saving grace i can give him is that it seemed like it was an occurrence that happened within a time frame of a month or two and did not happen before that. conversations with women he long time ago met on badoo and started talking too now. i have found facebook messages and texts of him giving his phone number away as soon as he is even introduced to a girl. i wonder if he is right for me or not, i just know i love him very much & not having trust equals relationship destruction. course, since the pictures and chats are ongoing, ( he even took nude picture on my bed and sent it to other girl), my worry is that he will meet those girls one day( he used to tell me he is not interested in meeting any girls he met online, and those girls he met online) and really cheat on me. only thing you have to “do” in that case is bring consciousness into the interactions with the other person. maybe he’s looking for some sort of “evidence” that by “going all in”, so to speak, that he’s making the right choice. also got jealous of a girl who posted on my facebook occasionally who i went to college with. i wouldn’t see that as a sign of weakness though?. i would’ve been parking lot bound” “hahahaha”… i couldn’t believe he’d say that.. i told him to respect me and to stop flirting but of course he has not stopped. we broke up and ten years later we reconnect and right back together. this is where women need to “pick and choose” their battles with what they will push a man to comply with and men need to also “pick and choose” their battles with what they will push their woman to comply with. i did during my tough relationship a year ago and it helped me personally tremendously. what i want to know is how can i get him to want to commit and to be honest with me? i recently looked through his emails which he is unaware of and saw a bunch of back n forth emails with his buddies sending pictures of women’s asses and commenting how hot they are, etc. so… loving him as much as i do i wanted to believe it. they will only learn via experience and ultimatums are never going to work unless someone physically fears you or they are withheld by a court of law… and personally, i don’t feel physical danger nor courts of law should be involved in love affairs. started hitting on men, went out on a date or two. 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by any means do i want to have him by his balls either, there’s nothing more unattractive than that. she might not even realize she’s being such a flirt! but there’s a serious chance that you, yourself have an urge to charm attractive women, just as your girlfriend has an urge to charm attractive men. if the person you’re “dating” is also dating 5 or 6 other people, their attention isn’t focused 100% on forming s relationship with you.. that as simple as it is ladies… does this person. one time sorry is not enough if he truly recognizes what he did to you emotionally and to you relationship l. there are too many to cover here, but here are the 4 top reasons why you must encourage the girls you’re dating to see other guys:1. sounds like you’ve got a good situation and there are many women who subject themselves to emotional and physical abuse still so if he isn’t abusive, you have a better man than alot of women. i do question him though so maybe he is tired of me from asking him alot of questions because he says that i want to always be in his business. can’t control what he does or keeps tabs on him 24/7 nor do i want to. i was never in his league he was threatened and knew exactly what he was doing. women often have trouble with men because they are designed to be nurturing and caring which is the opposite traits of the common man. i read this article and texted him today asking to what did i didn’t provide that he needed to go out there and message all these people in this way, i said you need to be honest with me and work things out if there is a problem whilst if you figure i can’t give you what you need, you should let me go, as i am ready to work on the relationship, but what you are doing is very unfair on me and hurts me’. but he apologized and said he’s not going to do it again and i took his word for it. second, i wanted to read your message, wait a few days, reread it, and then again for a third time with some space between to get a feel or vibe of your message.. so i respect that but if he doesn’t know how good he has it with you and doesn’t value that then you’re wasting time and you’re plenty young enough to easily find more boyfriends. they are based of off gross generalizations about what the seduction community is. i can’t have another relationship continue for years only to end up unhappy again with someone with secrets. out of a mistake that i already forgive him, i was pregnant wth him once and he insisted me to have a termination. ex who recently broke up with me, we would have problems over the same issues. sometimes, it makes me feel kind of sketchy, and i wanted to know what you think about it. based on the story above i don’t feel so, but it’s impossible to know and he may just have an appetite for women that he does not have under control. she and he would be laughing about it on the way home from the party and it would be totally forgotten the next he’ll say hes having beers with friends but wont tell me his female coworkers are there too which i’ve had suspicions about in the past. you very much for the post because i believe he is type of guy with a void inside that wants to fill in with other girls’ attention. the fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous. we compliment each other, we laugh all the time, he is my best friend, and we are opposites but somehow work. men hunts for shoal of ladies and do the romantic maths, narrow them to at least three and go for the kill..Learn to generate strength from learning from your experience, generate your own happiness without needing others to generate it (but don’t alienate yourself from society to do so, or you’re missing out on opportunities to meet new people and live a fulfilling life), & learn to build confidence from within by putting yourself in challenging situations outside of your comfort zones and via friendship. it was all on his phone, things he wrote were like ‘hello, just a reminder that i love you loads and loads xxxxx’, ‘miss you so bloody much my sexy dirty northern monkey’, ‘yea went to the party but rather been with you, love u so much’, ‘why you didn’t reply to my message where i said i love you’, ‘missing you my gorgeous happy little hippie’, ‘my heart is breaking not being with you in this festival’ and on my birthday he dropped a car at one branch, as he works in car rental company and i saw a message sent to a girl from that branch just a kiss, then another one an hour later ‘thank you for that beautiful xxx’, she replied ur welcome we should meet up sometime and he replies ‘yes we def should we been planning this forever’. flirting is fun and exciting, and if she’s doing a lot of it, then she must not be feeling like she’s getting those things from you. he was getting texts and i wanted to see who it was. life lasting friendships and look for men who fit into your reality, keeping in mind, opposites attract and commonalities will give like goals and values to build upon. he gave himself this new set of boundaries and rules, not me. i’d never been in that situation before and it was going to be interesting. news: here's how much extra sleep you'd get by going to bed on time. he wouldn’t want me to do it to him. have been with my boyfriend for over a year and  I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls. he pushes me to do well, pushes me to study my theory for driving and encourages me to do well., i think you should decide what you want to do on your own but if it were me, i would simply tell him you are breaking up with him. this summer she started working a new summer job as a lifeguard at the local pool. so i ask is it a man or a female he said female. she then began dancing in front of my boyfriend to a video on tv. honestly i’m happy because he is the first guy to ever treat me right really and he has done a lot for me.. a couple of close girlfriends to share some interests with if you don’t already have them.? because those guys don’t value women for anything but vagina. if that’s you, then you’ll have to decide, i cannot tell you. i think people have to do some letting go to know who’s willing to go back then stay for keeps. i am a good hearted, professional, financially independent woman who is attractive and gave him the best sex of his life…ladies, hear me, your man’s behaviour is not about you! high percentage of dudes, especially complete assholes, view “falling in love” as “weak” and “for women”. i have a son, who is very young but not a baby and he has been a great guy around him and taught him well.” it’s too easy then for him to say, “yeah, that’s totally the reason baby. the response i think hits on what is most “provocative” about this advice (and remember it is only one way of going about relationships). fastest way to kill any potential relationship is to take all the tension out of it. “why do you flirt, is it just to keep your game good?“he makes me feel guilty and responsible for him not wanting to settle but at the same time i feel he uses thar excuse because he just isn’t ready. i saw his words as a sign of disrespect and was uncomfortable with the way he joked around with his girlfriends, and the occasion when one of them would send him nude pictures of herself.. thats selfish thinking (not saying “you are wrong” to feel how you do. sometimes i do confront him and sometimes i don’t. i myself have had a whole year of counselling and that finished, so i don’t massively need it anymore, i am a lot stronger. no they don’t but neither do i want this to lead to cheating nor do i feel enough or respected by him and our relation in these situations. the fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why… you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it. i dated a guy who claimed he was looking for the one, not trying to sleep around and done chase women. my dear, if he does not care enough about you to take your feelings into consideration, you are wasting your time. ive contacted them and they told me he tried to get with them. is a case simply of, are you getting what you want and also, it seems you are more “invested” in this relationship. for the record-he never stared at another woman like that in front of me ever again after the window fiasco. important thing is, recognize, you can feel that way about others. however any man who thinks he’s having a meaningful relationship with a woman who is also dating multiple other guys needs his head examined. doing this, you’re not only giving your relationship a chance to grow to its full potential, but you’re also forcing you to confront and overcome your insecurities and move towards your true potential. we had a big blow up where he of course tried the methods…lie…oh she isn’t falling for it?.if she isn’t 18, that’s 25 to life in a federal pen. i wasn’t going to put myself through his nonsense anymore. it helps to understand the issues but it doesn’t help to find execuses for the other person to treat you without respect.. first, i still think you should spend some time in the gym. i recently went to a party with my boyfriend (been together about 1 +year / has a history of horrible cheating w/ past girlfriends, and is always accusing me of cheating) and my newly single cousin– she’s attractive / kinda a hoe too, but hides it well. if you do, plan some girl time once a week. don’t look for men who “make you happy”, look to make yourself happy. but he could tell something was wrong and when he asked i told him. this is quite annoying because women get disappointed when they find out the men were lying and were just using those lies to get laid. i did neglect him emotionally around the time of the incident. all he gotta do is text me to let me know he is ok so i don’t worry myself. instead of wanting to understand them more, we want to make our self-inflicted (ego-inflicted) pain go away. this is why by dropping him, you’re teaching him something: that it is unacceptable to treat you this way and he loses when he behaves this way. i guess it is my fault they dont choose to try new things, i dont know. we have this type of relationship that we can basically talk about anything such as ex’s, women, cheating, you name it and we be casual or cool about it(sometimes i think like a dude). makes me feel very happy when things are going rather well. how did i allow such a thing to happen to me.: hey, if a guy was flirting with a girl how would the conversation go? i really need some advice on this asap before my mind starts to explode! a *little* separation with him and see how he handles it.. he comes home every night no numbers in his phone. two months after the final break up, he got engaged to one of the women he was flirting with., this post helped me to understand that most people seek out affirmation. but why does this make me feel this bad to have to seek this blog and ask for advice? once it has grounded perfectly then set boundaries and encourage her to have fun but not with other horny horses around. this guy straight up acts like a 5 year old and you should not reward him any longer.’t it be better for both of you to find people who are a better fit for your personality?, if this is important to you, and you want to talk to your girlfriend about it, don’t start the conversation by saying, “i’m tired of your flirtatious bs, act like a lady or it’s over. he recently deactivated his fb account and told me his password. we love to be together, but also we love doing our own thing, that doesn’t have to be doing other people.!As i read your comments, it seems you have very strong ideas about what a meaningful relationship/love is. from my side i showed him that it bothers me whenever he goes out alone or visits his friends, something that he doesn’t like at all. the texts are incoming often, notifications are turned off and he needs to then retreat to the basement rec room for hours while i remain upstairs in my office completing my work. question is, does a or b even matter if you have a boyfriend who *really* doesn’t care about you? always say, if you want to be great, then be great and great people will find you and want to be around you. i’d spent all my time up until that point in exclusive, monogamous relationships and thought that was the way to go. trying to share her food with him basically telling him taste this. personally think people should focus on one person at a time and give that person nothing less than their full attention if they want a happy, fulfilling relationship and to find love. however i broke up with him because that shit is backstabbing. maybe you’ve never seen him and satan in the same room at the same time before, therefore, maybe it’s beezlebub himself. some chick showed interest in him and he told me he went to see her a few times. and he didnt, he actually acted aggregated and called my named loudly. some people are so entrenched in their need for conflict that they’re not ready to have a relationship without that quality (unless of course they want something from that person… then they are able to suppress that hunger for conflict in favor of their hunger for whatever else they want to get from the other person). last weekend he said he was going out to his guy friends house when he actually went out to meet one of these girls. the audience here likes your feedback and i’m always glad to see when you’ve posted a comment. there should be really no inappropriate touching, and zero tolerance on kissing, sex, and sexual acts. you give them personal space and don’t demand they divulge everything to you. guess in the end you are right, encouraging women to date other men, is about confronting jeopardizing losing your dependence on her to be the solution to your feelings of being alone. it really makes me upset and worry much about our relationship. so, if possible it is better to always improve if possible, accept your weaknesses if not possible and embrace your strengths. at first, it was for simple things, such as her seeing if anyone could cover her shift. choosing this over a monogamous approach seems like you’re just trading certain problems and risks for other ones. i just ask because i care and i do love him. i know he loved me, but he grew to love his carefree life more. that means, you dump this guy, he hurts, he learns “from experience” that the next time he has something that good, he needs to embrace it, because he might never find it again. what my original misgivings, it turned out to be a smart decision. some people will push and push and push to see what they can get away with and you shouldn’t have to spend your life micromanaging another adult when there are almost infinite options in partners out there to choose from. it’s interesting and entertaining to strike up a conversation with a stranger and get some chemistry whirling around. i’ve thought he was kidding when he said how wonderful he was but hes just vompketely full of himself. you gotta become iron inside to the point that you aren’t phased by others. or are you willing to talk to him about it and walk away (like the author said) if he doesn’t respect you. i know snooping is wrong but i want to believe he is not a pig but then i read this and i see how he flirts wittgenstein his coworkers and its driving me nuts. some people grew up in loving households that were great at handling conflict… but the majority of people need to learn how to handle conflict effectively.“how can i turn things around to make him want to commit and not view me as needy and that he “has me”. seriously, for me, a stairmaster and some headphones with hard ass rap music, heavy metal and some stuff i really liked worked wonders for stress relief and it got me exercising which tremendously affects libido and i do really feel now a healthy body and healthy mind go together. idk i think that i’m tripping but i do have an issue with these other women but i’m not the jealous type really like i said before i do trust him. but if you want her to stop it, kick up your flirting game and make her see that she doesn’t need to get that entertainment elsewhere—it’s right there in front of her. if he doesn’t want to hear about it anymore then before you are ready for closure then i believe that’s all the answer you need. and there has been other times where his “flirting” has bothered me, but recently there was an incident that makes me think that he is a cheater. the other hand, he might share his perspective and it might broaden yours… you never know. what my problem is, is that i don’t want to believe he has any desire to change, especially not for me, but everything he’s doing has been showing he wants to. and he said “i just wanted to find out why they where liking all of my pictures” yeah that reason was bulllshit to me and even if it’s his truth i feel bad for him for acting like that. this guy is flirting and cheating and she is kidding herself if she thinks otherwise! except for some things… he’s my first boyfriend, he has had many relations before me but never a serious one like this, never one that lasted more than 8 months. women always have to play the fixer upper or we lose. if he wasn’t confident, maybe he needed time for himself to get to that point.’m having a hard time accepting my bf being a flirt.. go to the gym, put an ipod in your ears with your best music and do a stairmaster for 30 minutes a few times a week and just reflect. he manages to blame me for everything and not take any fault in all other issues we have had. when she defies you punish her with withdrawal of all attention and privilege and give it to someone else, if she pleases you reward her with positive reinforcement and attention. he told me that he needs “constant affirmation that he’s okay.… do you think, when you ask yourself really honestly, that he wants the kind of relationship that you want? are young so you have plenty of time to date. he has had ups and downs in his life and i wonder where these girls were. may just find that you are stronger than you may or may not feel you are already. man would be able to take her away from you with her in that conditions. you seem to be afraid of your insecurities, and on the contrary to what you claim to say, your the one who is running away from your insecurities. to let a girl know you like her: without really telling her. because he wouldn’t like it if i get a guy’s phone number just because he is funny and has cute eyes. it is long distance and we see each other every three months for about two weeks at a time. essentially none, the only difference is that one behaves knowingly and the other one has his methods taught from an early age.. seems to me more a way to make the other one jealous and understand that he is in control… that he can leave at anytime and at the end she is totally replacable….. he ‘did stuff’ with her but they didn’t have sex. bottom line is i am in a relationship and my boyfriend constantly is exchanging pics through email or tagging friends and “liking” pics on instagram of models in sexy outfits and in thongs and of nice asses. it’s possible, if he truly sucks ass, that the only way he, and many other men and women in the world, will learn to respect and appreciate what they have when they have something good, is to lose it. he told her he would have picked her over me if he knew b4 we started datein …. her “problem” with the advice (and perhaps for others who would disagree), is that it seems to be saying: do not be intimate. like i said i expected something completely different after all of the things he told me to get back with me. it’s a sad thought, but it could be the reason your girlfriend flirts with other guys. find a partner i know that i can find mine and i bit willing to settle yet for a flirt! i’ve leaned to never belive in a guy the first 3 to 6 months dating him. if you just gonna to pick up some stuff and come back why can’t i go? that these women need to either accept that these men are not “changeable” and if they want to stay with him, then she’ll need to accept that he’s a cheater, he’s dishonest, that he’s a flirt, he doesn’t care about her, etc. if she has even the smallest amount of self respect, she’ll clean herself up. ugh i probably sound soo crazy but i want to know if that the kind of women he likes…… anyone have opinions? maybe, but first:I don’t have kids, but feel if i did i would put them first. you mean mine because i like challenges… just kidding, honestly, i still don’t give a shit. that type of reaction is not healthy and always escalates.’s a tough one… there’s so much more to that than just a yes or no. what i don’t like is posts advising men why they should get the girl they’re dating to see other men. i’d give you a shout out if you ever started your own thing. totally do not give a rats ass if my girlfriend flirts with other guys for fun, i think it’s totally insecure to “get emotional” about a little flirting, as long as it’s tasteful [ie. would you rather drive ten minis or an x class? that is why i talk about what the woman can do to improve her situation… blaming the man for not doing something doesn’t accomplish anything. i also went as far as contacting psychic about the situation. from a man’s perspective, does this constant checking out of other girls change how he sees me? he ask for his space imma give him that idk how to operate because we both live in the same house and i don’t have any other place to go i’m working on getting my own place. also he doesn’t let whoever female friends he’s talking to know that he has a girlfriend like should i be worried? men with broken families, with no dads are supposed to do then? women you date to date other men is not a tactic for “getting a girl to be less needy. i can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner. a lot of my insecurity comes from the fact that i have seen how he flirts with other girls while he has been with me and i do not like it… yet he feels he isn’t doing anything wrong as long as he doesn’t bang another chick..

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the first one, to me, is incredibly limiting and has the potential to cause a lot of problems (including jealousy, loneliness, and frustration) in your life. any who he continued with other women online regularly and it did eat at my insecurities but i was doing my best to strengthen myself to not let it bother me..i told him that to stop checking out girls because that is being disrespectful to me and few weeks ago he added a girl on instagram; the girl he added was a girl he kept staring when we went to go out to eat at a restaurant and i of course i got upset and told him to unfollow her and he did unfollow her. i know it is who he is and i don’t want to change it..The bottom lines are:-do you love your boyfriend and want to be with him. she acted angry with me because i went through her shit and tried to act like i was the crazy one. he has assured to me that he will not cross the boundary, but i m slightly insecure. i told him to try to help me understand why he is doing this.. he swears i cheated on him, doesnt make sense to me bc how is he going to swear that i cheated on him if hes the one having these urges? i thought my world was caving until i gave into desperate measures to find out how to deal with this because i do love this boy too much to flush everything down the drain. my main question, do you think he can really change the abusive behaviour or is it all for show? it is men stuff to be a, one woman’s man. i have been nothing but amazing to this person, and he, like the rest of the people in this thread has checked out other women in front of me, is a big flirt, and is now basically trying to hang out with women behind my back. think the dude is lucky to have a woman like you. on my way back home i had a lot of time to think, so i broke it off with him for good… or so i thought. it is getting difficult for me to see him go away and with he recent behavior of being in a pulled away state ( no calls , no talks , no meet ups 🙁 hardly says could say taht he misses me or loves me ) it kills me when he just ridicules about anything regarding our relationship or in a fun way he says i have gf maybe i will go n stuff like that … and moreover now he says i do not want to get married as dt s just not the ultimatum , he says what if we end up in divorce i cant think of something like . however, if you ignore what this guy says, and think about your own opinion of you, if you still think you have some areas that you want to improve about yourself and will also add strength in the relationship, work on your confidence by becoming more independent. you said that, somewhere, an alpha male is just someone who has complete conviction in what he is doing then it can be a person who has belief in monogamous relationship. i didn’t feel special about anything he said to me because someone elsewhere got comments about how pretty they were. idk i’m going to stop questioning him all the time cause i guess he feels some type of way about me asking him questions. a dating coach, i can tell you that people get the most stuck when they look at other people’s behavior as meaning something about them personally. recently i had caught him multiple times flirting and texting a girl he met on tinder. but it sure as hell is better than finding a “loose” woman who will agree to be non-exclusive, because no normal woman would agree to it. i mentioned in my original post, him and i have history together, but that’s not why i want it to work. what happened to faithful men one guy loving one girl end of story type deal! when you truly feel you’re ready to date again, learn a few things from this relationship… one about investment. i knew he would commit to me and never leave. because these are all methods to stay detached from you emotionally so they can easily lead you and avoid being hurt themselves, if u decide to treat them the same. i’m single alot because of it, but i really don’t feel i should have to change for another person. it sounds like you have other shit plan that i don’t know of. to guys and girls like this we live in a world that is completely messed up, we dont care about each other, relationships between people are superficial….. his texts went on for hours (i wouldn’t answer his calls, and mind you he was still in vegas with these friends) after reading all of his texts that he was going to prove his change to me, i told him i would have to really think about it and i wasn’t going to give him an answer at that moment. i hadn’t thought of it this way, and your reply has changed the way i look at things. i would recommend is to find 2 or 3, strong confident women friends. he’s also insecure and began flirting with girls online to boost his confidence. many men are fearful of showing these emotions because society portrays men as emotionally strong, whereas women are suppose to be the ones who are emotionally weak. i left everything and even fought with my parents for him, but now he wants me to go home. he loved the thrill of being wanted and knowing he still got it. im not self conscious or anything in that department whatsoever, im just curious. like he has this whole secret life i don’t know about at work. confusing…… in front of our family and friends he expresses how much he loves me and how great everything is. don’t think i have to talk you into that one…. man’s most powerful weapon in a relationship is his willingness to walk away from the relationship. if you must, use some jealousy to wake his arse up. attempt to take most of what i say literally here and not to read into it too much., i didn’t get a chance to read your comment, but i know you put time and effort into it to help the reader, so i’m sure i’d be good with it. see how he acts, because i know plenty of men who just want to bang women and don’t make that clear, they lie about it to keep a girl on the hook while they play the field knowing that’s what the stereotype is of men, that’s a guy who’s done that so many times, that’s all he knows, and like that one guy said, you’re not going to change someone and maintain a healthy emotional connection, trust me, i’ve tried, you just push them away.” if you both are “dating” and it’s clear you’re both shopping around, then ok. so as you can imagine, i’ve been tested a lot in this relationship. i mean he can’t feel super good when lying and doing things behind my back. i’m upset and want to ask him why he feels the need to do this but he doesn’t know i seen it on his phone what should i do?, when i say “accept”, i don’t mean in the sense of being a doormat… where a person (male or female) would be expected to endure poor treatment from a partner like it’s their role to just “take it”. what is the purpose of having/finding meaningful relationship/love for you?. how should i talk to him about this i find it inappropriate also while she was bugging him to rub her foot he’s like yeah it’s not happening and she says what i rubbed your back and i’m like what? just the other day he pretended to not know me well on a date or walk out with me but tried to get me to hold him in bed., then she needs to also bring those values to the table. is possible he “doesn’t know” what he wants and if you split then he will realize he misses what you had… but that’s super lame to me and if that’s true then he hasn’t learned to know what he wants and is an indecisive person at this point in his life, in my opinion. need to look inside yourself and decide “is this the life i want? here is why they email… from work, so that his boys girl doesnt read it. i’ve never chased a man or desperately wanted one. two days after i got here i went to get on the computer and his twitter page was pulled up.. the main thing i hate when he flirts with other females is that he tells them that he still has feelings for them but he is telling this to his supposedly friends., he let a side of him show that i’ve never seen. the best you can do is inform her sternly that she can be “friendly” to your friends if she wants but if she does, it will be the last time she does it as your gf, that includes her little online attention whore games. letting go of conflict allowed me to see people far more clearly and, as a result, i have made far better choices in who i allow to be around me in my life. from the field…so, i shared this article on my facebook. i believe that a married woman who sleeps around has no respect for herself and thats the lowest of the low. i didn’t want to trigger my mistrust so i didn’t even attempt to snoop through his phone. boyfriend is one year younger than me, we have been datin for 3 months buts it feels longer.. he’s invalidating your feelings maybe, but i’m no expert. not just in the relationship, but in their own life. for example, i’m his first girlfriend, when he knows something bothers me, he talks about it, when my friends give him advice (since he doesn’t always know how to act in some situations) he listens. i talked to him about not sure why i am feeling insecure lately to see what he would say. he says he felt guilty about what he was doing and could not have sex with me because of it. what if instead of waiting until i feel secure in the relationship before i let out the real me, i let out the real me all the time in all my relationships? i beg, cried and asked for another chance but nothing work out. my problem is that i feel like he lies to me about things to avoid drama., we really can’t make people understand us or even themselves especially when you fancy yourself as in love. message was very inspiring to me since i am in a similar situation.’ve never really looked at my boyfriend’s social networking pages intently until i found a whole twitter where he was hitting on hot girls. i needed emotional stimulation and communication when it had become absent in my marriage. flirty thing is ok to me as long as people aren’t acting on it. if someone is crossing that line in flirting, they should break up with their partner because it isn’t fair to their partner who could be finding someone else. fear that this guy is the one true love of their life. initially in the beginning or the “talking phase” he and i both would be weighing out other potential people so that’s reasonably understood. i’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now. hope you soon begin again to see how many potential partners there are in this world and that nothing will ever be like this relationship, it will be different… however, different can be new, fresh, exciting and sometimes, losing someone you thought you couldn’t live without before opens the path for someone you really will want to keep around. it is not a healthy way he is doing it either. anyway, where i am going with this comment is that i wanted to know if i can post a question here, explaining my entire situation, if you wouldn’t mind answering., i did decide that we needed a break to look over things. your man talks to other women, that just means you have an attractive, sexy, fun type guy.’s still room for the possibility that while she accepts it, she doesn’t like it, right? i’m asian and i’ve dated non-asian women several times. this is a delicate balance and men also have a responsibility to pick and choose battles. i think as much as women need to have confirmation of their desirability by the way other men interact or respond to them, men need this too. she is much younger than me and knew he was not faithful, yet she hung in there and got my man. but when i tried to ask my boyfriend to invite me to their hangouts he refused as i talk not nice about them, why would he invited me. women will tell their men he can go to a strip club, they’ll even go with him if he likes that, but they tell him he better come back home to her. the one thing that can be said for eric’s post is this: know your boundaries and enforce them. was honestly the best explanation i could have asked for. this is so they can depart the relationships with no problem after they are done having all the sex they want from you. “having a talk” with him about it, just shows him you’re jealous if he’s not doing anything about it so, that’s for your to decide. i strongly disbelieve that he would ever do something with another woman but i feel an emotional cheating that it’s good for anyone of us. all desire freedom and joy and that can take the form of different things depending on what gives us that emotion, and that is the same with women and relationships. is just my opinion, i hope it helps or if not offers you perspective before making your own decision.. but many will just view these women as unstable and keep looking while others will refuse to allow women to “own them” ever and will seek out to just “bang” women. he tried to make up with me and we spoke today he agreed he should not spoke to them in this way, all the kisses and loving stuff was not necessary. know that he is into porn as am i and i have no issues with this . i’ve just dated a lot and look to share my own perspectives.: it’s so hard to focus when these thoughts are going through your mind that your forced to become the kind of man who can accept that these thoughts are going through his head and that he will choose to do what he wants regardless. been angry before at women who rejected me but in many cases im better off and stronger because of it. the conversationo on how to stop being nervous around beautiful womentoti on what women want in bed: how to fuck a woman properlyluciddreamer on how to deal with insecurity in 4 stepsandrew r oberdorfer on 4 reasons why you must encourage girls you’re dating to see other guysmadison on 4 reasons why you must encourage girls you’re dating to see other guys. i confronted him and he basically told me im a drama queen and he cant have such drama in his life. i think your guy is normal & she is just trying to make you jealous to split you two up (potentially) by trying to get you to react, blow up on your bf and potentially sabotage your relationship. away a bit and let him show you his commitment level. i drop women like 3rd period french if they lie to me about something like this. i asked why he will tell me such a thing after a wonderful moment and he said he does it all the time to see if he still have this control where he can turn a female down and he was really excited telling me this like i am supposed to be proud of him. understood that the flirting wasn’t about him wanting to actively go out and have sex with other women. people have voids inside them and they forever try to fill them – with having other people desire them, with sex, with power, with money, etc. i was thinking about this exactly topic since a while. i say all of this from experiencing this with my own relationship. used to get angry when men would check me out, yet he did it to other women twice! a single minded perspective it’s smart to encourage your gf to date other guys. he’s like no nothing to do with that he just want to clear his mind. the fact that i found his phone with nudes from his “friends”, exes etc. lol i am not open to this way of thinking unless i don’t really like the guy. is very insecure, something his past relationships have done to him, but i’m trying to bring him back up. they do it because they can, and since you won’t leave them for that, they will keep doing it..Because women have a lot of options of men to date, we all do really. i was continuously reprimanded by my ex to do this, wear that and avoid doing that. best i can tell you is, to decide what you want and what is most important. yashita , i am 31 i was also on a ldr with same named girl , i was accused and left away with a same reason, i knew her from past eight years. i broke up with him the first time because he was flirting with some women and making some of them believe he was pursuing a friendly relationship with them knowing fully well these women want more. after the second month he started going to the spots alone, and taking me there only after he was there alone. in many cases, their choice should be to get space and in some of the cases to move on and look for men that fit better. would i still feel the need to seek exclusivity, that is, to make this one and only person responsible for my sense of security? if his flirting really bothers you or you find it disrespectful… maybe he isn’t a great choice for you to select.. tells me he loves me more than anything etc… i know he want’s me to compliment him. he came after me and promised never to hurt me. i don’t know if i should live on with that, or if guys are often searching new nudity in nature. everything that is hidden will eventually be brought into the open, and every secret will be brought to light. ive never been the kind of girlfriend to just flirt around and hand out my number. he used to say ‘i was busy’ i know he is hardworking. in addition, my boyfriend was the type that played the field, even when we met which is why i was so absolutely reluctant to agree to being in a relationship with him. i’m not the jealous type but i’m a female so i know what goes down when your talking to another woman’s man that you didn’t even know their in a relationship or married. it could be interpreted as sexual by someone, but the reality is probably just based in fun, nobody is actually getting turned on. cannot express to you how unbelievably thankful i am that you wrote this. basically you dont always know what kind of guy your dealing with, some put up fronts and walls. my baby’s father was an abusive relationship, so his biological father doesn’t get to see him due to social services. there are good people in this world who are trying to make a difference. i went over and joined the conversation and it kind of calmed down. i know it’s hard but you have to leave. they had done this before just not while him and i were together.. every day and there are some people who have a truly shitty life. upon yourself (no, not saying anything is your fault) and decide what is most important to you and screen based on your criteria. out what she’s missing and give it to her! we are together in person right now and this is still going on so i don’t think this is a case of needing something sexual as he is acting normal with me. you have done it before, you can do it again and again and again so no rash manner, no insecurity that you lack class, parental love that you have to keep dogs like relationships to be the man. not all men cheat there is a small number that don’t that have some have self control and respect for their woman but all of them fantasize about sleeping around and would do it if they knew they could get away with it. [read: how to break up with your girlfriend like a man]. one even told me he wanted to be with her ltr. and i’m not against casual dating – provided both parties know what they’re getting into. but, we’ll find someone to be totally down for us, and not take the bait!, i like that he’s smart and funny, but i hate how he plays video games…. and she put her foot out in front of him kept bugging him to rub her foot? he never introduced me to her either, also because of the same reasons. he admitted that he has complex and he needs to flirt with others. we all have different perspectives, experiences and are at different points in our lives so many will have experiences that others have not yet or never will experience. i mean i think its normal because most people do. i can kill a guy for sleeping with my beloved one. this the only way to deal with my insecurities or build confidence?.that you have to just accept and not take personally, but if he ignores you at parties to talk to other girls, thats a whole other story. if i allow her to fuck other men, i don’t care about her, sorry, it’s the only way that works. flirting might be her only tool to get that extra attention she wants from all the surrounding guys. i talked to him briefly about it but passed it off since there was no major concern to address. basically, freedom doesn’t necessarily come in the form of open relationships, its as simple as “whatever makes you happy”.-accept your past as best you can so you can do your best to give new partners a fair chance. i just wish more people who feel the need to explore the dating world would remain single while they shop around because it is more honest with less consequences. i realized he didnt have interest in me anymore wen he started to add naked girls on his ig and random chicks on his fb. it just sucks to have to go through this, i know! at the end of the day, encouraging a girl you like to date others won’t make her less needy. ladies are not complete idiots as some of us will have others believe. i am constantly on his facebook and every comment ate at me. didn’t answer her because i didn’t know lol anyways she’s giggling saying i’m not going to wear this today i don’t know why i put it on. , how would you feel if he would accuse you with the same. “oh you’re not allowed to watch porn cuz your wife runs the show”. suddenly we are not exclusive, in love and a couple.) internet is popular as is his need to watch easily accessible porn on a regular basis and masturbate while i am at home in another part of the house. i know he does love me but the intensity has gne down now which is bothering me like hell coz yes there maybe other attraction which i am insecure about 🙁 please i love him crazy now … i have fear of loosing him which i do not want … please help me with the something that would give me clarity over the situation and give me strngth to work things out . he’s like my car and i’m like i don’t know anything about cars because my car looks like it needs an oil change and alignment smh i think he full of shit. i can tell he desires “to be seen and desired” and this has been a problem for us. day that someone wakes up and is in a relationship with someone, they are choosing to be there. in parts of life it’s worked as he has a job now.

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ex who i recently broke up with was exactly like that..These women take the good guys so much for granted that they cheat on him, lie to him. i ask him how long he wants his space and he says until he doesn’t want anymore space cause i’m trying to figure out how long is it going to take. more constructively, you have basically 2 hard choices:-stay with him & just ignore his flirting allowing it as long as he doesn’t physically meet up with these women and actually cheat. me shift your attention to the fact that you chose this guy. don’t believe that flirting is necessarily a consequence of lack. deservingness only comes up as an issue when people are looking at relationship as two individual people trying to “get theirs” and not be taken advantage of.’s what you want to avoid is being an “option” for someone, “in a relationship. again, sorry for breaking up the messages but its hard to type here from my phone. i do wonder though, that after setting the boundary with your guy ,wont he just go underground with his flirting and sexy talk ? and it’s also normal, if that’s happening, that you haven’t noticed.. i am aware that this is “felt” as “blame” by me on women for mens’ actions, but that is not my goal. a while back i found out that he was on a dating site and i confronted him about it. confronting him about it and asking, how come such a great girlfriend as i am is not enough for him, is useless. he and i hooked up and he was so open about his desire for a modern woman like myself. seeing that i’m a very attractive bombshell built woman that attract a lot of guys, he always doted on mr around guys and while out. of course it looks like attention seeking, because i actually was attention seeking, in a good way, to feel better about myself and my insecurities. i saw your post before but i just returned from two awesome weeks in italy with my amazing girlfriend (now fiancee!-act based on that and stick to your guns even though that may feel that you are being mean or selfish. how come you never advise the girl to stand up for herself or to take control of the situation? what we do know is that he is really, really good at dating.. that if a woman agrees to date someone who’s also dating other people, she’s ‘not normal’ or loose. great if you’re looking for a casual friends with benefits situation. just you could show us these point of view so explosive, crazy and true… i send you a big huges to all the guys here.. you guys have different values when it comes to flirtation. start exercising, even if it’s a little, get a little bit more space from him, meet up with some girlfriends or make a few new ones or take up a hobby. the idea of it is rooted in conflict-thinking and fear-based thinking., if you keep giving ultimatums he’ll just keep ignoring, hiding it and maybe cheat more., um if a guy i was seeing came to me and advised me to go out and see other guys i would take it as a huge red flag. don’t “chose” a person for a partner because they were flirting with other people.. this is the first article on a very painful issue that has helped me see things from a different perspective. he even asked if i wanted to grab something to eat (i declined). these people have to learn the hard way that others’ lives aren’t their playground and some people only learn the hard way. which means taking a look at your own behavior first. i’m starting to get nervous that there’s more going on between them than just “friends/coworkers”. are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well. i’ll give him his time of need imma just try to stay away from him from time to time maybe i’ll just plan to go in a cruise or something i need a breather lol but thank you for advice i’ve been shedding tears because it hurts you know but i know you gotta let people go but in this case we live together so imma just have to make some changes. there are girls out there who seem to try to get attention from every walking thing with a penis. and men get tired of the same partner, sometimes only one is willing to “spice it up”. only way it will work out is if you both want it to. perhaps, if it helps you can decide to nickname this person that used to mean something and no longer means anything. he claimed his went with family members when we talked about his night. might just be the type of girl who always wants to be the center of attention. your comment has been more helpful to me than this article. he said that he wants to have family with me and build everything together., there are two sides to look at:Lets start with #2, you. if she’s apologetic and agrees to talk about how to make it better, that’s amazing. he was no longer going to talk to this friend anymore. i had to break it off after many empty threats to walk.’ve noticed this shift in people i’ve worked with too… there are many people (men and women), who i’ve observed making the transition from relating to others through fear/conflict into relating to others through nonreactive acceptance.. he was talking to his “best friend ” who is a girl. for the tangent, but anyways, in defense for your boyfriend. your girlfriend infuriating you by flirting with every passing guy? you’re not very verbal about how much you care about her, she might be flirting to see just how much you actually do care. ive been friends with this guy all my life and well in the cirlces he moves inter racial dating is taboo. ‘you’re an idiot, leave him’ yes he does the radiate a room ‘love me’ thing. although i still have questions that leave me with doubts?“it’s not that there’s anything wrong with you, it’s just that i don’t want to get into a relationship. try to find if he is really flirting ( romantic) versus if he is trying socialize , if he is just talking to some other person doesnot mean that he is dumping you and he is not in love with you . he has told me that i have an “ace up my sleeve” and to not tell his new gf what i know of him…i am trying to cope with all my hurt…. my main question, do you think he can really change the abusive behaviour or is it all for show? mentioned that we should not take those flirtatious behaviors personal and avoid reacting on them, right? however, i disagree in that you i don’t think you should just accept it and move on. his space which he tells me is to talk to whomever he wants to talk to without me questioning him male/female and to hang out with his boys (which i allow him to do anyways). this statement is not intended to mean that anything in the previous relationship in particularly was your fault. encouraging girls you’re dating to see other guys and seeing other girls yourself, you’ll keep the tension, desire, and passion in the relationship long enough to see if this person is really worth committing to. you chose him… and if you want to continue on with him, your best bet is to continually move towards understanding him more and more. am not hundred percent sure i want to marry a or b. people tend to think your behavior is “needy”, “invasive”, “crazy”, “psycho”. your time and do not rush into something just because you feel lonely. he used to stare at every attactive woman that walked by and made comments and he was excessively flirtatious with other women. she is being flirted with by coworker, instead of telling him she’s not interested she’s flirting back and getting closer to him. think that i have a friend who is part of the polyamory community in sydney and i can tell you that there are plenty of women who don’t want a monogamous relationship. the crazy thing is that i am a hot girl (not being conceited), yet i feel insecure because since we’ve been together for a while, i could walk by him in a tjong and it’s not even a big deal anymore. might sound ridiculous to some, but there are many women who wouldn’t be bothered by this at all. sometimes i feel lucky to have him in lots of ways. boyfriend admitted he was flirting with other girls on fb, girls from his old hs., based on what you’ve told us, you seem to have found a loser. if they are on the same page then great, you two can be place holders for each other. found out last night that my bf (been together for about 8 1/2 months) has been texting two girls he used to hook up with. it’s something that wouldn’t even really need to be addressed. if we move to a town he has contact with someone, what a shame. he apologized and begged me to forgive him and basically we have been in limbo ever since., basically, in order to be the interesting cool dudes alot of women (but not all, obviously) want, dudes have to withstand a lot of ridicule from other really got me pissed off that he lied about his grandpa being sick that night when he was actually hanging out with someone so late at night. you want that guy but you want him to yourself, it sounds.. its hard to walk away because we have been through so much and our previous breakups were devastating to me. it sounds like ignoring how you feel is the equivalent of releasing your partner of any and all responsibility for their actions. told me that the reason he’s doing it is because he also wants to feel desired and get some optical entertainment. they shouldn’t be surprised when no man wants to wife up a banged out slore.’re a woman, y’all have just about infinite dating options.’ve spoken with many women about this and the overwhelming majority of them feel that if a man sees other women or doesn’t commit to one woman, it’s some somehow not a full, complete, or real love.. also, i’ve “experimented” with drawing out feelings from women before and it’s not a good idea.. it is a good, positive thing for both and in some ways, by finding new lives and partners away from an unfortunate relationship can actually be something you both do that is actually good for one another and therefor, indirectly caring for one another by proactively giving each other a fresh start. with all this being said i really need to hear different points of views. next step was to figure out if i can deal with it hopefully he will change since i also found out that he was cutting them off slowly. question – i will respond to this as concisely as i can, but my response has a few layers so please read the entire thing before drawing any conclusions…. it is not uncommon for attraction to fade amongst partners. but truth is either u truly accept it, or you’re always going to lie to yourself promising change and continue to fight with him about it because you’re never going to be okay with it. before we used to go out often, he took me along with him sometimes when he meets his peoples. then he got very close with a girl who lived in the same town as him and was skyping her on cam and phoning her etc. not normalnormal, society has set the standard, that it is okay to look at porn and that it is normal. all i will say is, it’s natural to flirt, i think. know plenty of wives who have pussywhipped husbands and don’t dump him or cheat on him because she knows what she wants and he complies. am a year into it with a guy who moved 3 hours from his home town to be with me. i’ve learned not to point it out to him anymore as i understand this is something i need to work on myself, seeing as how i cannot control other people’s actions whatsoever. the horrible and difficult thing is that he actually did go out with one of the women! guy i love (he also loves me) is a “flirt”. i left him a text on both his phones saying that “i notice that you didn’t get home yet you never be out this late so i’m just worried and hope your ok or if he is on his way” i also text him that i’m not trying to bother him cause prior from him telling me he want space but i told him this is ridiculous cause he tell me he going out to do one thing and i hope he is not doing something that he shouldn’t be doing i love him and bye. how come you never sham the guy for his wrong behavior and just blame the woman? he promised me that he is working on it and he will change. feel this instinctively and will usually try to put up a front, claiming that they won’t stand for his bad behavior and making empty threats.’m not suggesting you allow your wife to date your best friend but in the world of casual playing, it can be very beneficial. more often i see the complaints about the communication but i feel this one hits close to home from a relationship i had many years ago and partners ago. strategy will only work with certain situations and still could make you lose good people that are potentially worth committing to. but the road to a good relationship is paved with awkward conversations. have an attitude where they pick a boyfriend or girlfriend and believe they can pick and choose that person’s qualities a la carte…. i think its childish and opposite of what i want. – there’s a running theme in your comments… you don’t like it when i say that something falls on the woman’s shoulders..and lots of people told me i can do better and i’m better looking than those girls. esp when i talk to any other male, young or old. don’t assume she’s flirting if she’s just always nice to the people she meets. so back to our first break in august, come to find out he planned a trip to vegas with these two girls that i mentioned and yup even shared a room. so before he mention about space everything was fine until he got a phone call to pick up some stuff so i asked him if i can go along for the ride he said no. all he tells me is that he cant make any choice or dissision. article works for women readers because a majority of women who are reading this stuff are struggling with creating and enforcing boundaries they create (as per the article).. i always think dudes are lucky to have a woman that actually wants to be with him and it blows my mind every time… however, i don’t want to speculate on what else some random dude i don’t know is doing when you’re not around, i think you have to really decide if what you currently have is really what you want. i love this man and he has been a major part of my life so it’s hard to just walk away still loving him. only 7 pieces of clothing you need to update this spring. just ended it with my man the second time because of this. going to the gym is huge if possible or some sort of regulat exercise. don’t know how much of it is cultural conditioning and how much is in the nature of woman, but i’ve also met women who shun these kinds of norms, albeit they’re a refreshing minority. i don’t want to talk to our family or friends about it and i’m at a loss. please advise me if i’m the crazy one for feeling slighted and mad wanted to end the relationship. that’s a good sign that she knows exactly what she’s doing — that she knows she’s making you jealous, and she doesn’t care. author is ultimately suggesting that you have to fuck many women to get rid of your neediness and insecurities, instead of focusing on one. unless your man is a total asshole (& i’m not saying he is or isn’t because i don’t know him) chances are he’s legit and not doing anything shady with a 15 year old. i work and go to school and have a bright future ahead but i long for a man to commit to me and have a home and eventlly have kids. if you are “devastated” by losing him, you are “attached”. he says we are good and i am the only one worried about us, he is not. main questions would be:Are you in love with him and if so, enough to move past the lying. i agree with everything you said, it’s actually taking action that is the hardest part. the single life – you’ll never have a healthy, happy long term love following this strategy. if she gets mean — if she tells you that she laughs at other guys’ jokes because they’re funnier than you are. they have no idea how much it affects the very core of a woman! he was saying that it was too bad she was with this other guy and he was inviting her to his place for the night as they could have the place to themselves! and as you said in this article, we tend to love how we want to be loved, so the love i showed him was by these things that i crave for; time, presents, cuddles, long talks, always was there for him and supported him. if he truly sucks, you will become “the one that got away” if he never finds better, but perhaps will learn a hard lesson he needs to learn. he does when he is sober but he still demands to know where i am and with who. i told him he can look through my phone cause i have nothing to hide but he’s like he doesn’t want to cause that’s invading my privacy and he doesn’t want to picture anything in his head if he see’s something the wrong way like he doesn’t want to have thoughts in his head. animals are this way to, so in a sense men are more like animals than women. meet some new men and use this experience to screen out men who are not looking for the same thing you are with the same core values. if she really loved me, she would’ve wanted to see me in person.’s definitely a different way of doing things and one that the majority of the world struggle with at this point in time. rather than feeling like it’s necessary that they spend a set amount of time with their girlfriend? cause i called him out and he knew to talk to her would make it obviouse. they usually do what they want and if what they choose to do is make poor choices, how can you see them ever really making the right choice… most of them won’t until they have been dumped enough times to change their ways., you will need to consider and prepare yourself mentally, for your children, if the final result will be that you will leave him. he’ll be able to understand you more and more as your relationship continues as well. all types of questions keep brewing in my head two years of dealing with bs and looking out for a man who did not have nothing when i met him. you don’t have to make immediate changes like divorce or separation. she is counting on the fact that you value her above yourself, and as long as she is more important to you than you are to yourself she is confident that you won’t exercise your power to walk away from the relationship. after all, i’m sure she doesn’t want to be licking some other girls bodily fluids off your body and so will be do the right thing. i feel like it won’t because it seems like a gradual process. only that i seem to have a gut feeling that he is accessing sex chat rooms and i am unsure about why he feels the need to do this as we have an amazing sex life and pretty much anything goes … i don’t know how to approach this with him i’m upset and confused as to what to say or do .’s the deal – you’re asking me this question because you do not find his behavior acceptable. he was chatting many girls before but never met them in real life. you have to accept that he is that way & learn to not let it bother you & focus on what you get out of the relationship and just “be happy” about that.” not like one morning he just went out and started having sexy flirtations with other women all of a sudden and you were shocked”. the pain and humiliation of looking like a fool is very real and hard to move on from but my bf has accepted accountability and has delelted his fb permanently because he said our relationship was worth more. the children that she bears from these other men–would you have been willing to raise them and be their stepdad? regards to your previous marriage, accept it as the past and any related feelings as “baggage” or wounds as they say but do your best to not judge your new partner on your past partners’ issues. i don’t expect for him to go out and cheat on me if that’s the case let me know what’s up cause i’m just not gonna sit around and you want to have your cake and eat it too smh. we even run a business together, and together we are capable of doing anything! all the other scenarios he has never called them baby or babe or beautiful or sexy nothing like that at all, it usually just sarcastic jokes and then they ask him to hang out and he says no. i also told him that i know he’s gonna have female friends but he should be comfortable in talking to them in front of me.. but you cannot make them feel something they don’t and you will need to accept the results if you try that, so i don’t necessarily advise it. i’m like i want it now, and i want this and i want to be like that. it’s really something that bothers you, it would be best to let him know that and he’ll act accordingly. not because my boyfriend was jealous ( because he is not the jealous type whatsoever) but because i didn’t want to make him feel awkward in anyway. i especially recommend trying someone very different from yourself and your ex. cook him food if he sits down with you and your children for dinner. i was semi ok with until i found out he had invited one of them out to lunch (but never actually went). and we would be back in the same old and i would honestly change my ticket and fly back home (over the atlantic) and feel so frustrated and sad. but he mention he needed something else, so i started saying it now every time we talk, thinking i provided him with what is missing. i ended up moving to his state to further our relationship. i had an ex of 7 years who during the course of that time, had two occasions where he ogled a woman right in front of me (which isn’t even anywhere near the flirty/sexy issue being talked about here). there are other issues too, but thats a whole other topic. what if you somehow behave like a disgruntled dental receptionist with her attractive friends, but she giggles happily at every dumb random dude’s dumb random joke? you’ll have more freedom to do what you want, when you want, and be able to see her when you want to, rather than when she calls.. i’m a liitle shocked after reading what all you have written. instead of getting sucked into conflict, allow yourself to lean back and quietly observe. i know i’m being completely 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many men, who “flirt” in a relationship have a false “comfort” because they have a girl to fall back on… many lose all of it because it was a false “confidence” and alot of women only want a man with a woman because, i think they are stupid…if he cheats with you, he’ll cheat on you. he is the one that flirted and im the one trying really hard to trust him and yet it seems things should be on his terms and i should be moving on at the same pace he is., i’ve learned the hard way from women dumping me that, listening to women and doing what they want gets me dumped. i told him that it was okay if he flirted with others.. he loves me telling him stories and giving him a massage and most of the time that is what he wants in bed. i don’t think it’s the right way to fill those voids so i suggested him to talk to someone to see what’s wrong and how it can be helped. don’t know specifically which advices you are targeting with your post but i wanted to offer some perspective on that. eventually i got to the point where i told him that i can deal with the problems in our relationship, just not the lies. men have complied with demands like this over the years only to have their women lose respect and leave them [actual respect: via action, not some verbal b. started talking again after 7 mths and talked through all the issues. over 25,000 subcribersdownload your free copy of seduction community sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox. he responded we are just friends and we are not in a relationship. well im not sure he just comes across hot girls cuz everytime i look, its always milf vids lol. he was so embarrassed, terrified to lose me, and terrified of rejection from her. reality this kind of things cause serious hiccups in relationships.. we decided to try an ‘open’ relationship on the condition that we didn’t do anything under the others nose. it sucks and i choer i couldnt allow that and moved forward. so i let her know that i’m fine if she wants to date other guy. it will definitely decrease her flirting with other people and can even strengthen your relationship. like eric also said, it is better to try to understand the situation. was empathetic and understanding, but my self esteem took a crushing blow. the woman will try to gain the mans commitment without providing him with sex in return. it’s to completely take her off the negative aspects of a perhaps less than desirable boyfriend that isn’t in the relationship with her and to try to get her to recognize that if she wants a higher quality man in her life, she needs to look for him.. then back in april of last year my boyfriend was going out to hang out with his friends but i did not know exactly what friends and he did not have a phone back then so i didn’t know what he was doing or who he was hanging out with, so late what i mean late is that he would go out from 8 pm and go back home until 5 am. if he doesn’t change, well, then you have your answer and you can decide if you want to continue participating in the relationship. they will never be “fixed” because they aren’t “broken” they just “occurred” and you (and he) will need to “accept” that and decide for yourselves what impact those events have on you moving forward. everytime that i ask him lets go out somewhere he always have some excuse and doesn’t want to go (sometimes), but when his cousin or one of his friends tell him about something he jumps and goes (sometimes) but mostly he would go out with them more than me. now i am still in a healthy interracial relationship though it’s ldr but going stronger as time goes by. it is social conditioning completely, and ones you show her all the advantages of an open relationship (i am convinced it is totally superior to monogamy in almost every way) she would send monogamy to hell fereva, but most of the time they just do not agree and leave, the ones that comeback, only do it ones in a while for revange sex against their boyfriends when the relationship is not good anymore, and i feel that is a very destructive behavior, but the few times i tell them that they tell me to go fuck my self. sure, it wast about “me”, but, i was the one who got nailed by the inadvertent shrapnel.’m an attractive white woman and i think asian men are gorgeous.. not too much or its wierding up (sabotaging) your relationship to test him.. while i’m not going to comment on your man’s flirting other than to say, to me i don’t think it’s bad to flirt in relationships and if your partner isn’t jealous then they don’t really care so *to me* it’s not a bad idea to flirt a little and see if they get jealous to “test” them sometimes, so for me personally, when i do it i’m looking to keep my girlfriend honest and respectful, and i don’t mind if she makes me jealous nor would i think less of you for trying to make him jealous. when you decide that it’s time to put an end to it, move on and don’t look back. i can’t let this go forever, because it is all progressing into something not good i think. i constantly feel like he hides things because im too “dramatic” or jealous over e erything. in some ways it’s like you knew us and answered my questions. one thing for sure i tell him constantly i ain’t stupid i don’t have jackass across my forehead lol so he better watch himself…. you think me a woman who is always around and always ready to work on my weakness in the relationship should keep believing him or keeping hurting? is also an alcoholic but has quit alcohol for nearly 3 weeks now and he also has a gambling addiction. funny enough, the more you do what told in this article, the more she will want to be exclusive with you. from it being human nature for men to be men, and us woman having to be more understanding not to bruise their ego or be too harsh with how we feel. i know inside that all this is true but in the heat of the moment my emotions seem to have more control. i did get back with him and he stopped talking to her. a man could sleep with a countless number of women and care about none of them, he just uses their bodies. how can i get better at talking to guys, any advice would be nice. a few years of this and not every feeling satisfied in the women he meets or the quality of relationships he has in his life, a guy can find himself asking (if he is lucky): “how is holding back, hiding, and faking working for me? but no i don’t have that big and fake, perfect round ass that he admires and i feel insecure over this. been dating a guy 4 months now he swore after 2 weeks he would marry me. feel bad about keepin this a secert from them, there is only one other person who knows about this and thats my bestfriend. most women (porn stars excluded lol) view sex as a beautiful act, as a bonding of two people, as a way to show their love for a man. i recently found that he was having multiple online chats and messages and photos with women very explicitly and sexual. my point was that somehow this article answered all of my questions in one go, and assuming i understand this (and a couple other articles i read) correctly, it’s generally a good idea not to over analyze things that men do and give them space to come and go as they please, at least regarding friends and things like that. maybe he doesn’t know where/how he wants to ask you. course, everyone *chooses* to either stay or not to stay in a relationship. clearly the man has overstepped the boundaries because she is not happy or else she wouldn’t be asking. this flirting with girl friends is something that i personally don’t like and i have also tried to understand it and look at it from a man’s perspective. it’s all very weird to me and i don’t know what to do now. message:Okay, so my girlfriend and i have been going out for ~4 months now and we’re already having issues. instead, you’re focusing on how you feel about it and that you don’t like it. well i didnt say too much when he told me he was hanging out with her but a couple days later i found texts from her to him that read “i’m sorry, you were turning me on so much, i just have a boyfriend blah blah blah” my boyfriend sent back “its okay boo, just call me when you don’t have a boy” and then she started to stammer in her texts and was like ” oh nvm ill just shut up” and my boyfriend wrote” no no its okay the feeling is mutual” and now as far as i know they havn’t talked since. thank god i dodged a lifelong headache in my life by walking away and not fearing that i will lose him. cause your right even though he is 29 i would expect to get his shit together because he turning 30 next year ., you should consider some of what that one guy mentioned above, not so muh that you’re doing thingswrong, but if you know he’s just flirting and does not cheat. now i am not even sure what he does with his close girl friends when he meets them either? even though i know for a fact that she still checked her ex bf’s facebook to see who he was talking to. i just kind of feel like i’m sharing him? become a strong independent woman that other women look up to and men drool lining up to be with you and you will have a world of suitors to replace this chump-change with. him what you want and if he doesn’t give it to you then you have very hard decisions to make. not what you want to hear, but this guy doesn’t sound like he’s ready to settle down. people will test you to see how much you’ll let them get away with and if you just allow it, they keep going. how come you never sham the guy for his wrong behavior and just blame the woman? you have to genuinely be willing to end it, if you are not serious she will sense it..but, it is still a fact that you are jealous.. that his freedom is talking and having sex with other women. i understand that when compared to most people, i’m extremely young, but i still want advice on how to keep this relationship going and how to solve the issues we’re experiencing.. however, i have seen a message from him telling her that it’s more than just photo’s he really likes her etc. second one is more of a moral judgement but still limiting, nonetheless.. if u happen to be in hyd maybe we can chat up sometime … i hope things get better with u . what kind of advice would you give in regards to, how to not let what has already happened affect the future. this is a good article and it is clear that all women must experience various relationships before marrying,.’m going to make one statement about all the sentences you wrote prior to your questions and then i’ll move to the questions. do not understand why anyone would put up with their significant other flirting with or having sexy conversations with another woman..he thinks because he can move forward then i should to just like him. this issue is not in the article and it ought to be. i could have said something to them but i rather suggested meeting them and giving them a chance to change my opinion, but he basically hides me from his friends and he tells them stuff like i am very insecure, crazy and have unreasonable jealousy for them!. many of good men i know, their women are very disrespectful of these guys and lie and cheat behind his back and uses him for resources… i been there.’t even look on your computer to see what he is doing and saying. it wasn’t long before i did though, and all that i had feared had again returned. im trying to point out here that flirting in general is harmless…it gets problematic if the flirting becomes inappropriate, for example, if hes not just talking about sex in general with someone else, but he is talking about having sex with the person who isnt his girlfriend, or if he is suggesting they meet up, those are all unacceptable acts, because it becomes less about validation of desirability (an innate need in all of us) and more about conquest and lack of respect for their partner…an intent to cheat is completely different than flirting…this is just my very simplistic interpretation of the flirting topic. i know he has friends as girls but i’m talking about those women that he meet at the club etc.’re right, there was never any action behind his words that i know of. why is it when a man is fooling around he picks a problem so that when you find out about what he’s doing he says that it’s because you are always nagging that’s because that’s a possible reason for them to state because no man likes a nagging woman. is possible to be attracted to someone but not love them. think it is always good to attempt to see other peoples’ perspective, when you have time to, however, you have needs, food, water, sleep, exercise, shelter, transportation, income as does your son and those you need to prioritize over dating. he told me because i confronted him about a comment he made on a girls wall. society that this toxic “advice” of yours would create will mislead all young and developing women, damaging the development of both men and women in regards to learning to control their insecurities. also this particular friend i’ve hung out with her before and she recently bought a house with her boyfriend. what i don’t understand is why he can’t come to me and tell me that he feels insecure about his appearance. anyways she’s prouncing around for awhile in front of us while we are watching tv which is annoying me. the puzzle is, as i beg your advice on this point, what more could i do to fill on that void? i believe that if he didn’t want to be with me because “he lost some interest” he would be the first person to leave, he is not the type to stick around just because. what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. sometimes, in life, you try to empathize with someone’s screwed-up behavior, and all you end up with is a deeper understanding of how screwed-up it is. i’m ok with him hangout out with other female friends of his, but why would he lie to me about it? major difference between great, loving couples and toxic couples is that the great, loving couples never see each other as an enemy/adversary/wrongdoer. some of this makes sense to me, i get it: my bf is a heavy flirter/sexter etc and it’s really an ego rush for him, he gets something out of it that he lacks internally. also he went out last night yesterday to pick up stuff (weed) which he told me that he would be back. he enjoys the exchange words of love and actually amuses him how so many women fall for it. women i’ve met who embrace this kind of way of life have gone on to become some of my best friends in the world. i made the mistake of spying on his facebook so i was reading everything as he was writing it all. if you don’t want an exclusive relationship than just look for sex buddies or one night stands. i have been going through this for so long with my ex because i did not want to let him go for nothing in the world. the record, i’ve yet to meet the perfect person with no issues. there are actually good guys out there with no intention of laying 1000s of women, but just want to learn how to approach and attract one. he won’t marry me…but claims he’s in love with me…i just need to figure out what’s in this guy’s head…. you want a committed relationship, this might not be the right guy for you. it was mother day and he was shopping for a woman on our date. i think it’s fair to trust, because i too want to flirt with women, but i think of it as “practicing” and keeping my skills sharp for my woman.. for me marriage is imp and staying wid a person for sometime i cant think of walking out of that relation would do anything to work it out any. my actual bf understand that i love flirting and he actually encourage me to do it bc he gets excited when he sees me doing my “thing”. it’s really called is “honest” & “unselfish”; but many women abuse these guys. than wanting him to change, the better path is to move towards understanding each other better. he mention that he stop letting me go out with him places long time because he feels i’m all up on him. just remember positive re enforcement is always better than punishment and if you are judgemental of his actions, he is going to feel less likely to share himself with you openly, because men do what reduces headaches often and if he finds it annoying he’ll close those details off from you so he doesn’t have to hear the third degree. i would never disrespect my bf nor flirt around with dudes because i don’t need that attention and i want a family already, i don’t have time for bs., we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…. however, after a month of working, she started talking more and more about her coworker, alex. except he’s the plant a kiss to top it off kind of guy. my biggest insecurity is “i don´t want to put my mouth in places where another guy put his cock and cum a few hours ago…” hahahahaha. how can i turn things around to make him want to commit and not view me as needy and that he “has me”. i’m not that worried but a woman just needs to know something. that’s the difference between us and the seduction community and that’s the difference between the guys who really make it and those who fail. you meet a guy and early on, he tells you, “i don’t want a relationship” or something, unless you want a no strings attached f-buddy, tell him that’s not what you want. im anxious n restless and unable to stop stressing n wondering whats going to happen over there. sometimes your girlfriend might just be trying to be friendly. this comes from his own insecurity; this is his issue and is not about me; this man i chose, this man i love…well, he has a need to be flirtatious. he didn’t mean to hurt me or leave me. it was because he didn’t feel good enough about himself even just for himself. dating nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. we are involved in our own lives and work, he decided 5 years into the marriage he didn’t want kids (which was my dream), we make time for each other as much as we can and still have a very active sex life. its called self respect and you must respect yourself if you want others to. i’ll remember this if i’m feeling low in the future.’ve been your avid reader for 2 years now and i find your articles very helpful for those people willing to learn how to manage well a relationship. we had great connection in every way and i know he loved me deeply. sucks you should have to be such a hardass and can’t just be happy and live your life but these ass clowns just don’t get it. i’d like to believe that we’ve built something special together and worth fighting for. we broke up in the past because of this type of stuff, and when getting back together he promised me it was all going to end. i ask him about the condoms which he told me his cousin friend give it to him and i’m like who friend which he told me i never met them. is provocative about this article is that it “calls out” the general, taken for granted “norm” that seems to be that when two people decide to be exclusive then they work towards intimacy. i guess i need to really focus on building my confidence and my independance and stop looking for external things to be happy with myself. whenever he needs me i was there to talk and make him laugh. if all of us get the heads out of our asses and start to think about life rather than money, work and sex this planet has a chance to become a better place.! no excuse no one likes cheaters shouldn’t even be talking to other women. i knew it was an addiction/low self-esteem/unhappiness…something…we went to just a few marriage therapy sessions and he just decided he couldn’t be the man i needed him to be. so, they are really disappointed when they find out that the man they choose to be with only used them to bust a nut. well i confronted him and he didnt really get upset he just say he doesn’t know why any of that was said and that it was probably just to make you not feel bad, and then further explained when i questioned him that he doesn’t know why she was turned on by him, he really didn’t ask, and that he barely even looked at her blah blah, and i asked him about the “feeling is mutual” part and he said that he took it as the feeling is mutual that neither of us were offended for w. by flirting with other people, they’re being reassured that they’re attractive enough for someone to pay attention to them. it hurts bc i spent three years with someone who can just throw me away and blame me for everything. i thought he liked having a younger woman like me? shows no interest in me and flirt with my friend in front of me then when he’s not around flirts with me. then, i have been happy and working out more and watching my diet and making healthy choices. become the type of woman that any man, including your man, would want. anyways we leave and go back next thing you know she wearing a very short little dress before that she was wearing a tee and shorts. everything we’ve been through am i being crazy for feeling like he doesn’t love me and disrespects me and i’m just there b/c i choose to stay but not cuz he wants me to be? never allow someone to treat you like a backburner fallback. women are the gatekeepers of sex, men are the gatekeepers of commitment. understand what you’re asking here and i would say that if she really doesn’t like it, it might be worth her asking if it’s worth it to be with this guy. the book is coming out soon… getting the final things in place to sell it has been a long process, but we’re very close. i did talked to him about it why the heck are you flirting with these girls and he said to let stress out. these insecurities and having them hit you in the face every time you see her means you have to confront them and deal with them, rather than running from them. chances of meeting people on the same page and staying on the same page with them with this kind of strategy will likely burn one or the other in the end. it’s time the woman realized that there’s nothing right and wrong. he was a great person (and still is to this day) and life was really good for many years. i feel it is a “human” natural emotion and not to be denied. i always ask him questions like for instance i ask him if he cheat on me of he would tell me and he said no because he doesn’t want to lose me. the material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by a new mode, inc. come the recurring theme in your posts is you (the woman) is doing something wrong. i will say is, i’m offering you my perspective, yet, the decision is yours ultimately, as i’m sure you are aware. or maybe, after you talk about it, you realize it isn’t such a big deal. for him, it’s that he’s not attractive enough. because people like that have a neverending supply of “reasons” (read: excuses and/or lies) to keep you strung along if you give them explanations. a man will try to gain sex from a woman without committing to her. was very angry at him after that and didn’t talk to him, i eventually answered the phone after a few days and he told me he found my childhood interesting and that i deserved it. i just hope he doeant secretly desire older women when this whole time ive been feeling like “yea im making him feel good cuz hes older ans has a hot young woman” oh well. have been with my boyfriend for over a year and  i do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls. a guy: how do i stop fighting with my boyfriend? maybe talkin’ some trash but not grinding her a$$ on a dudes shlong on a dancefloor, that’s slutty] & as long as she doesn’t get carried away and makes it clear to him she’s *not available* and comes back to me, ok. you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? something is up and i’ll be dam to be a fool i just need to get my shits together and move the hell out. friends and family are essential in a ‘whole’ life, and there are many ways of connecting with the various people. her to see other guys and explore all the delights the world has to offer. also, to add some more sting to it, this is a girl whom he had met at an event and described to me as “stupid hipster girl.